The Courage to Defy: From Dissolution to Discovery

I share my personal journey of transformation and the unexpected turns that led me to embrace change. From leaving a corporate career to navigating a divorce, I discuss the importance of trusting your inner guidance and the power of gratitude in times of uncertainty. Let’s explore how letting go of the familiar can lead to the most magical chapters of our lives.

Topics discussed:

• The journey from corporate life to personal transformation.
• Navigating divorce and selling our home.
• The significance of trusting your inner guidance.
• The emotional connection and gratitude towards a home.
• Embracing change.

Find Carla Geraghty: 

email - Carla@ValleyHousetoHome.com

Website: www.valleyhousetohome.com

This episode was produced by Six-Two Studio

Mariama Roberts is an Energy Healer, Psychic Guide, and Lifestyle Mentor with over 15 years of experience in the corporate and non-profit world. She helps high-achieving women rise above the grind, find deeper meaning, and live into their most fulfilling life possible. Through energy healing, coaching and private mentorship, Mariama places focus on healthy activations that welcome more balance and joy.

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Transcript

Mariama (00:02.158) You deserve to have the life that you desire. Your passions are a part of you for a reason. And when you don't follow your passions or listen to your call, things can get rough. You don't have to take some massive intimidating leap. One small step each day leads to lasting change. So let's get started by accepting our passions are here in the first place, because this is Life Activated. I'm your host and guide, Mariama, here to help you recenter life on your passions and purpose, so you can feel good inside, because you deserve it.

Mariama (00:44.248) Okay, I finally got it together. my gosh. I'm looking at my notes for this episode, realizing how long ago I actually put this together. And the fact of the matter is that it has been so long. And it's all really an interesting journey that I have truly been

through on a portal that I thought I was coming out of and realized that I guess I wasn't out of it. And here we are. Last August, and honestly, it's not last August, because last August just passed. The August before that, the August of 2024, the life I thought I was going to have was over. I was 53.

I was expecting that my business was going to finally start to take off. I had just left corporate, you know? And I had a pretty big international trip planned for myself. And if I'm being really, truly honest, I was expecting my life would have been the same as it was for the years prior to that. And it was completely different.

As you know, when I just mentioned, I wasn't in corporate anymore and I was in the process of selling our home so that we could, we being my previous husband and I could get divorced. Something that I never had anticipated would happen in my life. And I didn't know what was coming next.

you know, the decision to sell the house and to get divorced from the outside looking in to what I would say would be quote unquote sensible people is that my previous husband and I seemed to be fine. We seemed to be like a couple that other people would want to be. We had been together for at that point, 15 years.

Mariama (03:10.666) And most people didn't necessarily understand why we were getting divorced, why we were selling our house, what really happened, why. I think what I want to say is that we never know what's happening behind closed doors. We never know why people stay together or

why people end up moving apart. know, the outside looking in could look like a comfortable dink couple. That's like one of those couples basically for tax purposes without children. Dual income, no kids. We look like one of those happy couples.

It required me to trust my own inner knowing to do something completely different that doesn't make logical sense from that outside looking in to end a long-term steady marriage. And I want to be clear, nothing was quote unquote wrong. I didn't have an abusive

relationship. I didn't have a relationship where I was being overly neglected. I'd say there was probably some mutual neglect on both of our parts in terms of how we waited way too long to

communicate with each other about what wasn't working, where we were not fulfilled or happy. And we had become friends and roommates and not a married couple that are not just friends, but lovers and could see the same future for each other. We weren't expanding and growing together anymore.

Mariama (05:26.87) And so while on the outside we look like this great happy duo that people might aspire to be like or have marriages like, it wasn't that way. So again, I had to do something that didn't make sense to other people. I had to trust that inner guidance that said,

Even though you don't know what's on the other side, it's time to leap. It's time to step out. It's time to make a change. And no, it doesn't make logical sense to sell your home. That's been so good to you. But it was time. And, you know, I don't know that I ever shared this on the podcast. can't remember if I did. So if you've heard this before, you're going to hear it again.

But John and I did do things differently. Because we had no children, because we were splitting in an amicable way, we decided to sell our home first and then do all the other stuff, which was processing for divorce. When we were getting ready to sell, our house was in an

the house is still in one of the best neighborhoods in the town we lived in. And it was a very desirable neighborhood and homes were selling for higher than they had ever sold for, even though the market was still kind of tight, to be honest, after the pandemic, you know how there was that sort of dip. And our house was one of the only house models that was set up the way it was, which meant that

our primary suit was on the first floor. Not that you need to know any of this, but it kind of just setting this up, setting up the picture. Our house was exceptionally desirable and ready for sale. So we put the house up on the market and we had this whole great plan with our amazing realtor. If you are in Washington and you happen to be in like the, I'm going to say,

Mariama (07:49.418) Snoqualmie Valley area, I highly recommend our realtor, which I will put her information in the notes because I'm not kidding you, you will have the best amazing service ever. Now, I digress. Truly. But I'm not kidding you, like staging everything, it's kind of wild. And the attention to detail and the care is also wild. Anyway, okay, back to the story.

We had a plan to put the house on the market, have those big four days, and we expected to have quite a few offers. And literally, barely anyone showed up to our open houses on the weekend that we put the house up for sale. And it was in the prime season of putting the house up for the market, on the market, by the way. And no one really showed up. And we didn't have any offers. And we were a little bit surprised. And one day,

I literally thought, my gosh, I've forgotten to talk to the house. I have forgotten to tell the house we were moving on and to thank, I think it's a her, to thank her for everything that she did and to let her know it was time to open up the home for a new family, a new whoever was going to move there.

And I know this sounds so wild and if you've ever watched or seen or know about the Marie Kondo technique, I'm not really a fan of the way she has you organized, to be honest, but you will see if you ever watch the show that she speaks to a house before she starts to clean it, before she prepares it for whatever she's preparing it for. It's the same thing.

our houses, everything is energy, everything has some sense of a soul and an essence. And what I realized was that I hadn't spoken to this home that I'm getting emotional about right now that had done so much for us, that had held us and that had kept us safe and helped us to create new memories and where we welcomed our

Mariama (10:05.838) first puppy after our other dog had died four years prior, where we had great friends, where I started my business. This home held us in even some challenging times. And it was time to ensure that she knew what was happening. And so literally, I didn't tell this to anyone. I didn't tell my ex-husband. I like to say previous husband over ex-husband. I don't know why.

It just feels a little bit nicer. It doesn't mean he's gone and dead. It just means he is the previous husband in my life. Anyway, I had this conversation with the house. I did not tell anyone. I didn't tell our realtor. I didn't tell John. I just sat with it and I thanked her and I told her how grateful I was for her. And I did tell her it's time to open up to the new owners.

And I'm not kidding you, we had our next open house probably two weeks, three weeks after I had the conversation with the house. And at this point, we had moved into the part of the year where honestly, house sales sort of start to slow down because, you know, typically families with children are wanting to purchase homes before.

you know, the school season and there's kind of this interesting window. So we really were outside of that window and I wasn't sure what was going to happen, but I felt confident that after I had this conversation with the house, things would change. And sure enough, I am not kidding you. The house, the next open house was like, I think it was only two hours, if I can recall. was only two hours. We had so many people visiting.

There were people who came to see the house after the open house was over. There were people who called the next day to revisit the house. I think we had two days, you so we did the open house on the morning on a Sunday. And that Monday and Tuesday, we had more people coming to visit who had seen the house that Sunday that the open house existed or happened, existed, happened. And I'm not kidding you, we got

Mariama (12:33.74) an insane offer. It was an offer where we had earnest money being given to us. We had an offer that was all cash. It was literally insane. And it went from being in the prime of the selling season, where we got zero offers, to just outside of that season, where not only did we have tons of visitors in a shorter window of time,

hours versus days, and we get this insane kind of all cash offer. And they were ready to go, ready to close as soon as we were ready to close. It was wild, and it happened. I just want to share this with you because, again, I think so often we forget what our homes are for us and how they support us. It doesn't matter if you own it, it doesn't matter if it's an apartment, but don't forget what it does for you.

Don't forget the energy that it shares and how it wants to love you. All right, anyway. Where I want to go with this and how I want to end the conversation today is that sometimes we have to remember and understand that even while things may appear to be in destruction or release or

what one of my favorite teachers have shared in conversation around like a tower moment. While this may have felt like a tower moment in my life, the reality is it was a rebirth. It was the beginning of a creation. And in letting go of relationship, of a home,

of a life that you may have known to be true or that I may have known to be true if you're going through this, even though it may seem nonsensical, even though it may not feel like the wisest path to sell your home and not knowing where you're going to go, to get divorced and not knowing the path forward, it could be

Mariama (15:02.038) the best decision of your life. It could be the wisest path forward. It could be the next unfolding of your most magical time. How long that time will be? Nobody knows. It could be a magical month. It might be a magical year, maybe decade or lifetime. But it's that trusting of yourself.

in these times that don't make sense to allow for the release and to remember to have gratitude for all the things that held you on the journey and supported you in the process.

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