Is Being Yourself Enough?

In this episode, I discuss the importance of embracing your passions and the challenges of doing nothing in a busy world. I reflect on my personal journey of deconditioning from the belief that worth is tied to productivity and titles. Through my experiences, I emphasize the significance of being present and authentic, rather than constantly striving to prove myself. This conversation encourages listeners to recognize their value and to prioritize self-acceptance over societal expectations.

Topics discussed:

• Embracing Passions: The importance of acknowledging and following your passions to lead a fulfilling life.
• The Challenge of Doing Nothing: I share a personal experience of spending time in Maui doing nothing, which was a difficult but necessary lesson in breaking away from the societal conditioning of constant busyness.
• Deconditioning from Hard Work: A discussion on the societal pressure to prove your worth through hard work and titles, and the realization that self-worth is not tied to productivity.
• Matrix of Destiny and Self-Discovery: Insights into how the Matrix of Destiny and other systems like astrology and human design have helped me understand deeper aspects of myself

This episode was produced by Six-Two Studio

Mariama Roberts is an Energy Healer, Psychic Guide, and Lifestyle Mentor with over 15 years of experience in the corporate and non-profit world. She helps high-achieving women rise above the grind, find deeper meaning, and live into their most fulfilling life possible. Through energy healing, coaching and private mentorship, Mariama places focus on healthy activations that welcome more balance and joy.

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Transcript

Mariama (00:02.158) You deserve to have the life that you desire. Your passions are a part of you for a reason. And when you don't follow your passions or listen to your call, things can get rough. You don't have to take some massive intimidating leap. One small step each day leads to lasting change. So let's get started by accepting our passions are here in the first place, because this is Life Activated. I'm your host and guide, Mariama, here to help you recenter life on your passions and purpose.

so you can feel good inside because you deserve it.

Mariama (00:42.19) I went to Maui in January, fully prepared to hit the beach, go on long ass walks, visit with dear family friends, and I ended up literally doing nothing. And it was one of the most excruciating things I think I've ever done. And I shared about this

in my update podcast episode that I sent out while I was on Maui during that timeframe. Because doing nothing has been one of the biggest lessons and one of the hardest things I think ever. We have lived in this world, I have lived in this world, if you're listening to this podcast, you have lived in this world where you've probably been in some sort of

corporate world. And honestly, it doesn't even matter if you've been in corporate or not. If you've been in the world working, you have probably been conditioned that being, air quoting here, busy is good. That being busy and productive for the sake of just doing makes you somewhat more valuable or better.

a true contributor to the world. And I had some serious judgment about myself around doing nothing. And it's exactly though what I honestly needed. It's exactly what my heart needed. It's exactly what my soul needed to allow myself to decompress from what I think is enough. What I think means

I am a good worthwhile human because I have been trying to prove myself for decades, proving my worth by overworking, proving my worth by getting more credentials, certifications, proving my worth by making sure I had a very long to-do list.

Mariama (03:10.488) But what does that do? It keeps you disconnected from yourself. It keeps you disconnected from, and when I say yourself, I really mean disconnected from feeling, true feelings and emotions. It gives you a sense of meaning and purpose because it's attached to something. I mean, my God, hello. How many times do you ask someone how they are?

and then say, what do you do? Who are you? And your worth and value is placed on a title. I mean, my God, I remember I had an employee years ago, years and years ago, her fixation was on her title. And she wasn't gonna stop until she got this particular title. But what did that title mean? Does it mean Jack? Does it mean anything about

who you are at your core, your soul. And I think this thriving for the title is just as much of a conditioning as it is thriving to prove yourself by doing. Because when you get a title, you're just proving that you've done so much to deserve that title. When you are doing and being out in the world,

You're just proving that I'm worthy of, don't even freaking know what, Other people's approval. And the reality is, again, our essence, us being who we are, me being who I am, is enough. This is the thing that I'm learning and that I have learned through this time of doing nothing. And when I say doing nothing, I mean...

I sat in my studio apartment and water colored a lot. It's definitely been a piece of healing. It's also been a new realization of how energy messages want to be channeled through me. But it started off as being a healing process, a way for me to move through emotion, through journaling, through, and I guess I should take a step back. I was water coloring.

Mariama (05:33.802) as a process for journaling. That then led to, you know, all this other expressions of watercoloring and channeling of energy through this art form, say. Anyway, I was doing a lot of watercoloring. I was resting and sleeping. And yes, I did go to the beach.

But I didn't go to the beach as much as you would think. And I didn't mention that in January. I wrapped up with one of my long-term clients who was my last client for a while. And I didn't have any clients. Again, it brought me back to this place of, my gosh, who am I without all of this stuff? And is being myself

just me in my own being, in my own essence enough. And something else that I want to talk about that kind of brought this to me and helped me understand some of the programming that I have been.

Again, I keep saying the word deconditioning, but this is some of the programming I've been deconditioning from. And you're going to hear me talk about this a lot, but Matrix of Destiny has been something that has illuminated so much for me and has helped me understand parts of myself that I did not know existed before. And then you know me, you know I'm into many making systems, you know I'm into astrology, you know I'm into human design. I really...

think Enneagram is great. And here I am now learning even more nuanced layers about myself. And this is what Matrix of Destiny has done for me. And one of those things that I learned about myself was this programming that I have around hard work. And it isn't that funny. Why is it in being and doing nothing, why was it so hard? It was because I've been programmed to work hard.

Mariama (07:48.908) I have in my Matrix of Destiny chart, in a particular part of my chart, 10 energy. And 10 energy is called luck, fortuna. And it's basically where it sits in my chart essentially means, this is gonna sound really crazy, I can't believe I'm gonna tell you this, but essentially means like, I'm a personality hire.

I'm saying this and I'm laughing so hard. My presence alone can transform situations. And that means that I don't need to work hard or overwork to prove my worth. And I just want to say this because most of the people listening to this podcast are women. The reality is, unfortunately, we are conditioned

that we have to work hard to prove ourselves. We have to work harder to be acknowledged. And here I am, literally in this position, January, technically really January through March, where I'm literally doing nothing. I'm not working. I am not being out in the world. I am sitting and

being in my own essence and understanding, starting to understand that I also am not meant to overwork is how I want to say it. I'm just not meant to overwork. You may have this in your chart. We may one day talk about this. If we do, I will share with you where it is. If you're interested, let me know because, you know, I'm geeking out over

Destiny, I'm now doing Matrix of Destiny reading. So if you wanna know about your 10, or if you have 10 in your chart or where it is and if this is you, definitely reach out, let's talk about it. But it is something that is hard to wrap my brain around and to feel even comfortable saying, because I know hearing that and hearing me say this might trigger some people, but.

Mariama (10:09.42) It's also a fact and you may also have this in your chart. anyway, I'm going to stop talking about that. What has helped me realize and where I really want to get to is it's this realization that for me, my worth is not tied to output. My worth is not tied to having to prove myself or overdo myself. And, you know, as all of this was sort of unfolding and I was starting to, I guess,

I want to say like connect the dots to this. I started to think about this cruise. I did a cruise called Spirit Heart Cruise last December. It was a, it's essentially a metaphysical conference on a ship. It was amazing. I was one of the presenters and speakers. I had a workshop there and I had a couple of days where I wasn't feeling well and I had to stay back.

and stay in my room and rest. And I finally made it to dinner after a couple of days. Literally, I was told by most of the people there how I was missed. And I was missed because my energy wasn't present. Literally, people were telling me, where were you? You were gone for so long. And we just missed your energy. We missed being around you. And

That was this confirmation to me as I, know, again, as I sat here and reflected about this 10 energy in my life. That's exactly where it showed up and where it was really clear for me to see that sort of, it's about my energy and my essence. It's not about me having to prove. It's just about me being myself and allowing myself to, I want to say be the realest version of me. And hey, I know that.

realist version isn't quite the way that some people would like to hear that being said. You you could say the most authentic version of yourself. Being truly who I am, essentially, without giving two shits, and just being in a space with people, realizing that that is what people were missing was my presence, my essence.

Mariama (12:34.392) So anyway, I'm talking a lot about this. Hopefully it's starting to land or hopefully it's landing. But I think one of the biggest takeaways that I have from this and that I hope that you take from this is that the most radical thing that you can do for yourself is to stop performing and to start simply being. Being

the fullest version of yourself without feeling like you have to prove yourself, feeling like you have to prove your worth, feeling like you have to do to be valuable because it's just not the case. It's just not true. You being you is enough. Me being me is enough.

Mariama (13:40.334) And for the high achiever who is exhausted from trying to earn their place at every single freaking table, what if your presence alone is the gift? You being who you are as you are is the gift. This is something we can talk about during my free illumination call. You can find the link in the show notes. Book yours today. I'll talk to you soon.