From Validation to Power: My Journey of Embodiment

In the final episode of season 7, I take you behind the scenes of my journey from feeling unseen on a metaphysical cruise to stepping fully into my power as a healer and speaker. I share how recognizing my worth transformed my approach to work, and how shedding the need to prove myself opened the floodgates of opportunity and authentic connection. True confidence is an inside job—and embodying your gifts is the key to magnetic success.

Topics discussed:

• The pivotal moment on a healing cruise that shifted my self-perception
• How to identify and eliminate the "proving" mentality with simple mindset shifts
• Trusting your unique gifts instead of chasing external validation
• Practical tips to embody confidence and attract clients organically
• Why the journey of deconditioning is the missing piece in most entrepreneurs' success stories

This episode was produced by Six-Two Studio

Mariama Roberts is an Energy Healer, Psychic Guide, and Lifestyle Mentor with over 15 years of experience in the corporate and non-profit world. She helps high-achieving women rise above the grind, find deeper meaning, and live into their most fulfilling life possible. Through energy healing, coaching and private mentorship, Mariama places focus on healthy activations that welcome more balance and joy.

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Transcript

Mariama (00:02.158) You deserve to have the life that you desire. Your passions are a part of you for a reason. And when you don't follow your passions or listen to your call, things can get rough. You don't have to take some massive intimidating leap. One small step each day leads to lasting change. So let's get started by accepting our passions are here in the first place, because this is Life Activated. I'm your host and guide, Mariama, here to help you recenter life on your passions and purpose.

so you can feel good inside because you deserve it.

Mariama (00:42.67) Have you ever felt like you're in this position where you are trying to always convince people about your work or you're using force or freaking bending over backwards to share your value? This is, I think, not only something that I'm asking you as a potential entrepreneur, business owner.

But even as someone who might be in the corporate world, or honestly, even if you're not in the corporate world, like, I think there's so many places in our lives where we are constantly trying to prove ourselves. And this is something that I used to do in my business for a very long time. And I believe the shift for me started in

December of, I wanna say it was 2024, because I'm in a time warp. I don't know if you're in the same time warp I'm in, but I'm in a freaking time warp. And I can't believe that we're already in 2026. So this happened December of 2024. And I was on this cruise called Spirit Heart Cruise. If you've been around here, you've heard, you know that I...

was a presenter on this cruise that is essentially a metaphysical conference on a big old cruise ship. And this was the first time that I was with seasoned healers in a position where I was also one of the presenters, facilitators, and my gifts were genuinely

seen and valued. And that's, I believe, when things really started to shift for me. So, give me a little bit of story on this trip. know, I'm one of the healers presenting. I have basically one workshop that I'm actually facilitating. And then we're, you know, we're having dinners with everyone. We have a lot of free time. It's, again,

Mariama (03:06.914) Think conference, if you've been to a conference, there's lots of talks, lots of speakers, lots of breakout, lots of opportunities to connect. And I had my session, was, I think it was the first session of the morning on the very first day, which was like, by the way, hell of early, I think it was 8 a.m. And yes, I did say hello. Yes, I grew up in California.

And it's not just like a Valley thing, by the way, it is also just a California thing. Anyway, getting into the story. So I'm presenting, I go to this room and I didn't realize how many of the other healers would actually be in my session, but the room was filled with people who had been doing this work for 15, 20 plus years.

It was their life. Some of these people have written books, you know. They have very big communities, followings, whatever you want to call it. And when I say following, I don't want it to be like, guru cult-like. It's not that. It's just, you know, they have fans. They have people that are activated and want to work with them. Anyway, in this room was also medical professionals.

and I do my workshop. It's a workshop I've done before and I actually need to think about if I want to bring this back in the future, but it's called Envisioning and the whole purpose is getting you connected back to your vision, your purpose from a soul level, not from what other people think it's supposed to be. And then practically helping you, you know, not only tap into that, I do energy healing for the whole group and then

The practical component comes from you identifying, again, what are the boundaries that need to put in place? What are the... Actually, you can literally do this right now without obviously the visualization part that I would take you through the energy healing, but you could simply sit and envision and connect to what is it that you desire from your soul level, not from what other people say it's supposed to be.

Mariama (05:35.37) Once you do that, you want to identify what are the boundaries that are getting in the, excuse me, what are the boundaries that you need to create? Who needs to know? What boundaries do you need to put in place for people to give you the space and time to do whatever it is that you need? And then identifying, what is the one first logical step, not the first illogical step. And I say this because typically,

We decide we want to do something really awesome and big. And then guess what we do? We decide we want to run the freaking marathon and that we're going to run 26 miles the next day. Well, it doesn't even start there. That's not actually where it's going to make us successful. We're going to run that race and fail. It actually starts with us deciding to say, oh, shoot, I want to run a race. I haven't run in a million years. I might just need to start stretching. So every day, I'm going to stretch a little bit.

and then you work your way into it. So basically that's mini workshop live right here on the podcast. It's identifying that first step so that you can be successful. So I take everyone to this workshop and the feedback that I got was pretty overwhelming. Honestly, I was hearing from these other healers not only how great the workshop was, but how powerful I am.

It wasn't just in that workshop. was throughout this entire cruise where I was getting messages from other healers and other sessions about my power, about what I am here to do. And, you know, I was even in situations, I think I mentioned this in another episode where, you know, when I wasn't in the room, people would tell me how they missed me and they missed my energy. And

That was this moment for me where I thought, holy crap, I might actually be, I'm thinking how I wanna say this, I might actually have more to offer than I realize. And that it's time for me to embody and shift who I see myself to be. It's time for me to actually

Mariama (08:01.89) begin to own the fact that I have these gifts and I don't have to prove that I have these gifts. I don't have to go out and bang on doors in some weird way to say, I've got something to support you. I can do this for you. I just need to begin to see in myself that I...

and believe and embody again. So when I think about embodying this, it's how can I feel it in my cells? How can I see myself in the mirror and realize I don't have to do anything other than witness and be witness to myself being who I am? Anyway, it's really this element of owning how far I've come, not feeling like I have to, again, get another certification to

prove anything or to validate myself by, and sometimes I'm not gonna lie, I still struggle with this sometimes, depends on who I'm talking to, to say, I've been in corporate for over 20 years. I always say 15 plus years, but let's be real, it's like 20 years. I've been in corporate for 20 years and now I'm doing this other thing. Or I've always been a psychic and I didn't know it, but now I'm doing this other thing, you know? So no more proving is where I am with this.

I'd be lying if I didn't say it's still a journey, right? But it's getting easier for me to do that. And it's getting easier for me to not ruffle. I'm gonna say this differently. Not care about whose feathers I might ruffle. And just knowing that I'm fucking good at what I do. And then, you know, this embodiment piece, I feel like it keeps showing up. Or ways that things have changed for me keep showing up. So I went on a retreat.

last June with one of my best friends and we went to Italy. And I was also able to facilitate an energy healing session for the attendees. And honestly, I had some mind drum because the group of people who were there, I'd say like 50 % of the people were spiritual into

Mariama (10:22.926) tarot, into energy healing, astrology, human design, all of that. And I'd say the other 50 % were like, what is human design? We hear about astrology, but what? We're doing a, because we did like a full moon circle while we were there. And most of the people hadn't had any kind of energy healing. So I honestly, I literally, I'm not kidding you, I thought no one was going to show up to my session.

I thought I'll be lucky if my best friend shows up and if the retreat hosts show up and maybe one or two people trickle in. And it was another experience where I had to trust that I was able to not only hold the space, but that with my gifts, I could help create.

opening and transformation. And for me, what's something that happened that I think is kind of interesting too is when I do energy healing for a group, typically I am getting a message for the entire group, sharing that message, and then we go into our energy healing process. This time, I got messages for a couple of specific people.

So I had to identify who those people were during the energy healing session and, you know, of course ask for permission to share the messages with those people individually, which I did. And again, the response was profound. People shared about their experience and some people shared about their transformation.

because they were curious and open and because I was also curious and open and I wasn't trying to convince. I didn't have to try to convince. I just had to show up trusting that I am capable and good at what I do and those who are there to receive will receive. I didn't have to go around and say to each individual person, are you going to come?

Mariama (12:49.518) I have all these years of experience and I can really help you. I didn't have do any of that. I just had to be embodied. I keep using that word and it's a word that I feel like also gets overused, but I just had to be within myself, confident and comfortable with who I am. So this is funny. I want to tell you about this other situation that I think will help drive it home or at least help.

drive it home for me. I've been watching one of my favorite generators talk about this lately, also this non convincing thing, and generator and human design, I should say. If you've been around here, you know that I talk about Matrix of Destiny and human design quite a bit. So anyway, one of my favorites, her name is Rachel Lieberman, and she has a business called Pure Generators.

And lately she has been talking about business essentially and her lessons and the experiences from her deconditioning experiment. And, so I know, before I tell you that, I have to tell you though, one year, I actually, I don't even remember what year it was. Rachel's book came out, she wrote a book and it's called A Modern Guide to Human Design, by the way, if you're interested.

It's a really good book. She wrote a book and I'm a fan of hers. So of course I decided she's, at the time I was living in Washington, she lives in Portland. And I thought I'm go to her book signing when she announced it. And I literally decided in a day to go. I drove down like three hours for that day. I got there.

so early. It was ridiculous. I got there way before they were even like setting up for the book signing. And also my other little geek out human design person was there. So I was like human design fan girl. Vanessa Henry was there also. She was the moderator for the chat with Rachel. It was amazing. If you

Mariama (15:11.594) are ever like, I really wanna go see someone that I love or that I really admire in person, like just do it. I just wanna tell you, just do it. It's worth it. I met a new friend just by going and sitting in the crowd. Anyway, Rachel's been talking about this a lot and talking about in the deconditioning process and in the business that she doesn't have to prove herself to anyone.

and that she doesn't have to prove her business to anyone. And what it is and what this deconditioned state is, is just showing up, doing what excites you and what lights you up, and trusting that, and it's not even trusting, I'm gonna say this differently. If you are living in your design as a generator in business, you don't have to prove, you just have to talk about what lights you up.

And the people that are meant for you are gonna freaking show up. And the people that aren't meant for you are gonna be repelled by you. And this is really where I feel like I am right now in my business. I'm not here to, I just keep seeing this image, a tap dance, a special show to get people to want to work with me or to see or understand my value.

I'm just not available for convincing people anymore. And I have to be reminded, do things that I tell my own clients to do, which is show yourself proof that what you do is great. And I have proof of that. have clients that have been in positions where they were stuck and finally they write their book and it gets published by their dream publisher.

They literally actually decide they want to close their business and go back into corporate. But then they identify like the job that brings them life and the work that brings them life. have clients where I have helped them transform and heal from death of family members and being able to feel connected to those people and move on from that. I just

Mariama (17:37.486) have to continue to go back to that proof, know, clients who are overthinking, who are now not overthinking, who are trusting themselves, who are feeling confident and safe in their own bodies. I have to remind myself and see the same proof that reminds me, that tells me, I don't even want to say reminds me, that tells me I no longer need to tap dance to prove and also

when I tap dance to try to prove myself, no one's coming around anyway. So how can I be me, trust in myself, and trust that people who match my, I'm gonna say level, and when I say that, mean energetic level, value, who see me.

who value this type of work are gonna be the people who come into my world, right? And I do feel like this is not only my permission slip, but your permission slip to allow yourself to shift, to change, to evolve into being that person who actually can see your own value, your own worth.

Because as soon as I have started to do that, and as I am continuing to do this, I see the type of people who want to work with me change. I see the impact of my work actually, I think, changing to be even stronger and better. I feel like I am magnetizing all the right people toward me and repelling

those who aren't meant for me anyway. And that's a really good thing, you know? I think it's sometimes, yeah, looking back, right? Looking back at the old self. For me, it's looking back at my old self and then saying like, wow, look how far, one, how far I've come, but also realizing that, I don't wanna say this.

Mariama (20:04.142) I think it's realizing that in trying to be improve, I was actually losing parts of myself. And those parts of myself are the parts of myself that are actually necessary to do the work that I do.

Mariama (20:32.546) If you're like me and you are done explaining why your work matters, because I actually honestly know that what you do matters. And you want to work with people who not only get what you do, get it, but who see you and get you. I can help you make that shift. I want to invite you to book a free 30 minute illumination call. It's the next best step in determining how we work together. You can find that link in my show notes.