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Choices & Chances with Tesa Arcilla
Life is a series of choices, and I believe the quality of the life we live is only as good as the choices we make — big and small. My name is Tesa Arcilla, a former foreign correspondent and news presenter. In 'Choices & Chances', my goal is to explore life's choices, dig into how others have gone about making their decisions, and turn nuggets of wisdom from others' stories, as well as lessons from my own experiences, into ideas you can use. If you'd like to be inspired by others' stories, subscribe, join the mailing list and be part of the community.
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Choices & Chances with Tesa Arcilla
The Most Important Negotiation? Who You Are Vs. Who You Choose to Be - Ep21
The most powerful negotiations aren’t always between nations. Sometimes, they’re between who the world expects you to be and who you decide to become.
Boris Toucas spent years negotiating high-stakes policies as a French diplomat, shaping decisions that impacted nations. But then, he took a different kind of risk—one that had nothing to do with international relations and everything to do with personal reinvention.
In this episode, we explore:
✅ What diplomacy and art have in common—and why mastering influence isn’t just for politicians.
(If you’re in business, leadership, or any high-stakes field, the ability to navigate conversations and shape perception is your greatest asset.)
✅ How to reinvent yourself when you feel stuck—before the world validates you.
(What if the thing holding you back isn’t a lack of ability, but waiting for permission to take the leap?)
✅ Why uncertainty isn’t a barrier—it’s the reality successful people learn to navigate.
(Whether you’re switching careers, stepping into leadership, or launching something new, waiting for certainty will keep you stuck. Here’s how to move forward anyway.)
✅ The identity trap: Why people box themselves in—and how to break free.
(Do you feel like you’re only ‘allowed’ to be one thing? Boris proves you can step into a new chapter without losing the credibility or expertise you’ve built.)
If you’ve ever felt like you’re meant for more but aren’t sure how to break through, this conversation will challenge you to rethink the rules.
🎙️ Listen now and start negotiating the next chapter of your life—on your terms.
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