Slow Down The Big Decisions

The choices that change your life rarely feel calm in the moment. They feel heavy, uncomfortable, and urgent, which is exactly why we’re tempted to rush the very decisions we can’t undo. I’m Aaron Havens, and this short Growth Instigators Hotline message is a reminder that speed can be a trap, not a strength, especially when the stakes are high. 

We talk about the hidden motive behind “just deciding” and “trusting my gut” when a big commitment is on the table. A lot of the time, that push to move fast isn’t courage or clarity, it’s impatience and the desire to stop feeling the weight of the decision. And when you move too quickly, you don’t necessarily lose intelligence, you lose visibility. The warning signs are often there, but urgency makes them easy to miss. 

You’ll also hear a practical decision-making framework you can use today: go fast on small, reversible choices, but slow down on irreversible decisions by buying time on purpose. Even an hour or a single night can help the truth catch up, reduce emotional pressure, and improve judgment. I also bring in Warren Buffett’s rule about saying no to almost everything as a simple permission slip to pause. 

If you’re facing a career change, relationship decision, business commitment, or any high-stakes choice, press play and then answer one question: where is the hurry coming from, you or the situation? If you found this helpful, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s rushing a big decision, and leave a review so more people can find the show.

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Transcript

Welcome And Message Setup

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You're listening to the Growth Instigators Hotline. I'm Aaron Havens, and this is message 612.

Why We Rush Irreversible Choices

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The decisions you can't undo are the exact ones you're most tempted to rush. You'd think it'd be the opposite. You'd think the bigger the stakes, the slower we would go. But it doesn't work that way. When something's heavy, sitting with it feels uncomfortable. So we hurry. Just to make the discomfort stop. We call it trusting our gut or just deciding. Or believing in myself and putting myself a priority. But a lot of the time we're not being decisive. We're being impatient. We rush the big one to get relief from the weight of it. And that's how good people make the one choice they'd give anything to have back. Not because they were dumb, not because the warning signs weren't there. They usually were. They just moved too fast to see them. Speed hid the truth that was sitting right in front of them. The decisions you can't undo are the exact ones you're most tempted to

Buffett’s No Rule And Pressure

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rush. Warren Buffett has a rule. He says the difference between successful people and everyone else is they say no to almost everything. Part of what he's really saying is slow down. You don't have to decide right now. Most of the pressure you feel to hurry is coming from inside you, not from the actual situation.

Fast For Small Things Slow For Big

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So here's the move. And it's simple. On the small stuff, the reversible stuff, go fast. Who cares? But on the decisions you can't take back, buy yourself a night. Buy yourself an hour. Give the truth a chance to catch up with you before you move. Because clarity almost never comes at full speed. It comes when you slow down enough to actually see. The decisions you can't undo are the exact ones you're most tempted to rush.

The Question And How To Get Help

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So here's your question today. Is there a big decision sitting in front of you right now that you've been rushing? Not because you have to, but because sitting with it feels hard? Woohoo! And if you want to hand thinking through one of those before you move, that's what I do. I'm a growth coach. Visit me at growthinstigators.com and let's chat. Until next time, keep instigating growth in all you do.