Who's In Your Ear?

In this episode of 'How Y'all Healing', host Spry Lee Scott reflects on the importance of community support and constructive criticism in personal growth. He shares insights from a recent conversation with his son about receiving feedback and emphasizes the need for honest relationships that foster growth. The episode serves as a reminder to surround ourselves with people who care enough to provide constructive criticism and to be open to receiving it.

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Transcript

Spry Lee Scott (00:06)
Hello, and welcome to How Y'all Healing, a series of conversations with healers, leaders, and organizations about their healing journey and the importance of health and wellness for black and brown people. We talk to guests about the work that they are doing to heal our communities and find out what's in their personal self-care package. I am your host, Spreilly Scott, and this is How Y'all Healing.

What's up, everybody? Yes, like the intro said, I am your host, Spry Lee Scott, and this is another episode of How Y'all Healing. y'all seem to like the hand clap,

I should say, my Invisible Studio audience. So we gonna keep it. If y'all like it, I love it, thank y'all again for joining us or joining me, because I'm the only one in this studio and we'll get into that. This is actually not an official episode,

a lot of y'all have listened to the first episode or the first interview and the second interview, but there's actually another episode, a short episode where it's just me, so if you haven't listened, please go back and listen to that.

This is the bonus episode and we're gonna talk about that. But before we get into all of that, I just wanna say thank y'all. I really want to give a thank you to everyone who has supported the podcast. Within the first week of the podcast, we reached over 100 followers on our Instagram page and then we also reached over 100 downloads of the actual podcast.

And it's been soaring. It's just been going up and up ever since. And I am truly grateful for the love that you all are showing me and us, because I feel like how y'all healing is a team effort, So I'm really, I'm really, we're really appreciative of the love that y'all have been showing. so thank you for the feedback. Thank you for the reviews and

Thank you for sharing the podcast. Thank you for just letting me know that y'all are listening. And I get to see the stats, y'all. So it's not just in like in New York, where I'm from, or in Atlanta, where my people are.

everywhere is all over, not only the United States, but we got some people in Europe and in Africa that's listening to us. So if y'all got family out there, please send it out there, because they get to listen too,

So before we get into the episode, a little bit of housekeeping. first of all, if you are joining us for the first time, I wanna say thank you. Thank you for joining us here and welcome to the How Y'all Healing family. And I say welcome to the family because I know y'all gonna be back. please get comfortable, relax, and come with an open mind. And

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also turn on your notifications because that will let you know when a new episode is coming up. so I said to you guys that this

episode is no interviews, it's just spry. And what prompted me to do this episode is a friend of mine reaching out to me this week.

and his question was, did you receive a word today? And when he did, that day I was at my son's track meet. We went to the track meet and

After that, we came home and kind of just veg it out, because these track meets start really early, for a weekend. when he said that, when he asked, did I receive a word today, I was like, a word?

and y'all know black folks, when somebody say, did you receive a word? On a Sunday, you know they ask it if you went to church. But that's not what he was asking. He was just asking, what was my message from God, from the universe, from our spirit guides, our ancestors? And growing up in church, I've always felt that

I did not have to be in church to receive a word, right? I would often say the same word that I can receive sitting in a pew on a Sunday morning, I can receive in the club at 3 a.m. I'm not here for debates. That's how I feel. Because...

Do you really need Wi-Fi or a good signal to hear from God? So that question just prompted me, well, what was my word today? And all I could think about was that we were just at the track meet. as I started thinking about it, I thought about a conversation that I had with my son at the track meet.

we're in cross country season now and he was a part of a race where he came in second place. And I think that deserves a round of applause. Shout out to Bryce. And he did come in second place. However, knowing his potential in parents, y'all know, teachers, y'all know.

Knowing and understanding his potential, I knew that he could have made first place. But he kind of held back. And in having that conversation...

with him, just about how he could have improved or some of the things that he could have done differently, he started getting annoyed.

And he was like, well, why do we have to talk about this? And what we explained to him is that you have to be open to critique from people who care. And...

who love you and who support you because essentially what we're doing is helping you to become a better version of yourself. And I get it, sometimes we don't want to hear it, However, it's important to have that feedback from people who are around you. And that was my word.

When I thought about it, that was the word. And it wasn't just to my son, because as we minister to others, we minister to ourselves, right?

I just think about.

the people that I have in my life that are close to me. Now this is not an open book y'all. Do not get in my DMs trying to send me unsolicited advice. That's not what I'm saying. Or that's not what I'm asking for. But what I am saying is that it is really important to have people who are not just yes men around you. There are some things that's happening.

in the news, which I'm not gonna get into, but could possibly have been subsided or prevented had.

people been surrounded by or open to, I should say, constructive criticism from those who love them.

and

In order to become better versions of ourselves, I think that is important that we have those people who pour into us. it's good to have like-minded people around us. But do you really want people who have everything in common?

Because if you have everything in common, then where is the space to grow? Where is the opportunity to learn new things and have new experiences and to be stretched outside of your comfort zone?

So the word is to surround yourself with.

people who love you enough to tell you the truth. And let me go back, because this is also not.

an open invitation to those folks who just want to keep it real. Because sometimes when people keep it real,

they're not giving it to you in a way that you're able to receive it. And I think that's the other part of it, not only should we be able to surround ourselves with people who love and care enough about us to give us this constructive criticism,

but we should also be willing enough to give the people that we love and care about that same constructive criticism, but making sure it's presented in a way where they are able, not just open, but able to receive it.

and just doing it out of love.

And that's my message.

So.

Hopefully that resonates with someone. It definitely resonates with me.

I will be back to do some more episodes like this in between episodes or in between the interviews that we have with our guests. please let me know, speaking of constructive criticism, please let me know if y'all wanna hear more episodes like this, if you wanna hear more from me.

It's not gonna be as long as the other episodes, but I just wanna come in and kinda like check in with y'all to let y'all know how I'm

And so I thank you all for joining me on another episode of How Y'all Healing.

And as always, I wanna remind you to choose joy, lead with love, and find your peace. I am your host, Spry Lee Scott, and this is how y'all healing.