Dove's Inner B.E.A.U.T.Y. Podcast
Join us as we delve into the complexities of our emotional worlds with Demetria Nickens, a certified mental health first aid instructor and trauma recovery coach. In this episode, Demetria shares her insights from her platform, Dove's Inner Beauty, which challenges conventional beauty standards and advocates for genuine well-being. We discuss the life-changing impact of mental health first aid, trauma recovery, and suicide prevention.
Off-air, Demetria embraces life's simple joys, reflecting her deep commitment to maintaining balance. She opens up about balancing a rigorous career with cherished family moments, offering listeners a personal look at managing wellness amidst daily pressures. Tune in to discover not only Demetria's professional expertise but also her personal strategies for fostering inner beauty and work-life harmony. This episode is more than a dialogue—it's an invitation to promote mental health and uncover the beauty that lies within us all.
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Dove's Inner B.E.A.U.T.Y. Podcast
Unpacking the Locus of Control: Insights on Mindset and Empowerment with Demetria Nickens
What Is A Locus Of Control?
Could your mindset be the key to unlocking a more empowered life? Join us on the Dove's Inner B.E.A.U.T.Y. Podcast as we welcome Demetria Nickens, a seasoned mental health first aid instructor and trauma recovery coach, to dissect the concept of locus of control. Demetria brings her two decades of expertise to the table, helping you understand whether your outlook on life is driven by external forces or by your own actions. This episode offers invaluable insights into how your sense of control—or lack thereof—can shape your emotional well-being and overall mindset.
In our conversation, we delve into the practical aspects of identifying what you can control and what you cannot. Demetria shares actionable advice on how to navigate the delicate balance between external circumstances and internal decision-making, empowering you to cultivate a more balanced and fulfilling life. Tune in to learn about the nuanced differences between an external and internal locus of control, and how understanding these terms can help you better manage your reactions and take charge of your emotional health. This is an essential listen for anyone looking to enhance their mental health awareness and foster a more resilient outlook.
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Welcome to the Dove's Inner Beauty Podcast, where we foster emotional awareness, one individual at a time. Leading the way is Demetria Nickens, a certified mental health first aid instructor and trauma recovery coach with over two decades of experience in fostering emotional awareness in others by engaging their mental health.
Speaker 2:Ever wondered what is a locus of control and how it affects your life? Join us for an enlightening interview with a top mental health expert who will break it down for us. Okay, Welcome back everyone. This is Garfield Bowen, co-host, slash producer, back in the studio with Demetrius Nickens. Demetrius Demetria, how are you?
Speaker 3:doing today. I'm doing well. I'm doing well.
Speaker 2:So, Demetria, what is a locus of control?
Speaker 3:Well, locus of control is either external or internal. When you think about locus of control, you want to think about how you view the world really. So if you have an external locus of control, then you feel like a lot of things are outside of your circle of control. It's it's the weather you have no control over. It's the things that happen to you are fate. It's the universe. It's all the things that are outside of you. Right, that is that they're just. It's everything outside of you is that's how things control your life. It's everything that's outside of you, not necessarily things that are inside of you. So when you have an external locus of control, they say that maybe you have a more fixed mindset of things. Right that you know. You, you believe that it's not up to you. Right, it's up to things that are external, and so you feel like you really don't feel like you have a good sense of control over your life. However, the alternative to that is the internal locus of control, where you take this power, control over your life. You know you have the ability to make change. You control the things that are within your scope of control. When they say you have an internal locus of control, you have a more opened growth mindset, they say. And so when you think about an internal locus of control, there are more things that you feel like are in your control. You know you have. You feel like, ok, I'm in control of my life, I have control of my destiny, I have control of the things that happen to me. It is the decisions that I make that can help and move my future along. And you know there will be people that say that one or the other is bad or good. At the end of the day, I don't like to. I don't like to assign bad or good. At the end of the day, I don't like to. I don't like to assign bad or good to those types of things. I think it's important for people to understand what they feel like is in their control versus what they feel like is out of control. So, even if you have an external locus of control, you can still decide the things that are in your control right. Even if that those things are in a smaller circle, you can still make those decisions about what those things are. And if you have the internal locus of control, well, there are things that are outside of your control right. There are things that are just outside of our control, and so people just need to make that list for themselves and determine which one is bigger, right, and then they'll know which control they have, which which locus of control they have, based on which one is bigger. If it's external, you got a lot more things in that external circle. If it's internal, you got a lot more things in that internal circle. And so for me, it's really just figuring, helping people figure out.
Speaker 3:Well, what is it Right? What do you? What do you feel like is in your control, and then versus what's not. And then let's work through that. Are those things realistic? Does that make sense? And really pull what I like to call pull the thread, if you've heard me talk at all. Right, pull the thread on that. Let's think through that and talk more about it and get to a real understanding of why you feel that way.
Speaker 2:All right, I'm going to put you on the spot here a little bit. Not that I have a better understanding of what's still grasping it here. I got you, if one could shift our locus of control, would we be able to unlock some kind of hidden powers like staying calm in traffic?
Speaker 3:Maybe right? No, absolutely. I honestly believe that sometimes, when people realize the things that are in their control versus the things that they feel like are, it does have a mind shift on how you see the world. Right, your perspective changes and when your perspective changes, your attitude changes towards things. And so, yeah, absolutely I think that you can shift your perspective, you can shift that locus of control and you absolutely have a shift on how you move around in the world. Absolutely.
Speaker 2:And you know, just with the word control, I'm sure people listening here who have kids when they hear control they're like you know, you know, can I, can I use this on some of this stuff, on my kids to? Maybe?
Speaker 3:get them to eat vegetables without battle.
Speaker 3:Yeah, good luck with that right you know, you know with kids, you know their minds are different, right, and so you know they're, they're definitely not thinking on the level that we different right, and so you know they're definitely not thinking on the level that we think right, and so absolutely, you're going to have a different struggle if you're trying to do this with kids than you would with someone older who has that mental capacity to think in those ways. So with kids, you got to understand patience right. It's a totally different level that you got to understand patience right. It's a totally different level. You have to understand patience.
Speaker 2:That's another topic.
Speaker 3:Right, it's a whole other topic.
Speaker 2:Listen, this is some good stuff. Love it. You have a wonderful rest of the day. We'll see you in the next episode.
Speaker 3:Thank you, thank you episode, thank you.
Speaker 1:Thank you for tuning into the Dove's Inner Beauty podcast, where we foster emotional awareness, one individual at a time. For a complimentary consultation, visit dovesinnerbeautycom or reach out to us via email at innerbeauty at dovesinnerbeautycom.