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#50 – DARVO Explained: How to Stop Letting People Walk All Over You

Corporate Christie

Corporate Christie
#50 – DARVO Explained: How to Stop Letting People Walk All Over You
Jun 08, 2025
Christie Hoffman

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If you’ve ever tried to tell someone they hurt your feelings, but they made you feel like you were the bad guy—you're not Crazy. You were DARVO'd.

This episode is part education, part memoir, and part spiritual boundary bootcamp. I made it because I don’t want you to waste another year trying to get toxic people to understand you.

I break down:

  • What DARVO is (deny, attack, reverse victim and offender)
  • How emotionally immature people use it to flip the script
  • Why you, the empathetic, conflict-avoidant, peacekeeper, are often the perfect target
  • What healthy responses to feedback actually sound like
  • How DARVO showed up in my own life — in work, family, and friendships
  • Why I chose to go no contact with people who do it
  • How to recognize this dynamic in friendships and work
  • Scripts you can use to stay grounded when DARVO starts to unfold
  • Why “nobody’s allowed to tell you your feelings are wrong or bad” is now my life’s measuring stick
  • And why this is a non-negotiable skill if you want to live life as the main character, not a background character in someone else’s chaos

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