Women in Life Transitions: Reset Your Body, Mind, and Soul After 50

Women in Life Transitions: Reset Your Body, Mind, and Soul After 50

Luxury real estate broker, 7x national ballroom champion, spiritual director, and Miss Senior America—CT titleholder Robin Kencel joins Melissa Gragg to unpack practical ways women can reset mind, body, and spirit—especially through divorce and life transitions. 

Learn centering prayer in 10 minutes, the “three graces” nightly practice, how to spot disordered attachments, and a gentle path to forgiveness (including forgiving yourself).

What you’ll learn

• How to start centering prayer in 10 minutes a day
• The “three graces” bedtime ritual that rewires your focus
• Why removing harmful people and then forgiving frees energy
• How to treat upheaval as information, not identity
• Simple ways to find your voice again: tiny reps, new routines
• A week-one reset plan for women in divorce or transition
• What spiritual direction is and how to try it

Quick takeaways

• Purpose lives where what you’re good at + what you love + what serves others meet.
• You can’t change much, but you can change yourself—via micro steps.
• Disordered attachments (even to “good” things) block your love/flow.
• Divorce is a forced reset—use it to design a life you actually want.
• Your 10-year-old self didn’t vanish—she’s just covered like grass under snow.

Q1: What is centering prayer and how do I start?
Centering prayer is a silent, 10-minute daily practice of consenting to God’s presence—no agenda, no analysis. Sit comfortably, choose a simple “sacred word” (e.g., peace), and when thoughts arise, gently return to the word. Consistency matters more than duration.

Q2: What are “three graces” and why do they help?
Each night, name three grace-filled moments from your day (a kind driver, a pink sunset, an unexpected laugh). This shifts attention from rumination to gratitude, improving sleep and emotional resilience over time.

Q3: How can I find purpose after divorce at 50+?
Map the purpose trifecta: list (a) what you’re good at, (b) what you love, and (c) who it serves. Where they overlap is your next move. Start with one micro-action this week that touches all three.

Q4: What does “disordered attachment” mean?
It’s over-attachment to something—even a “good” thing—that pulls you away from love/flow (or your relationship with God). Signs: compulsive checking, anxiety if you can’t do it, neglecting health or relationships. The fix is gentle rebalancing, not self-shaming.

Q5: How do I set boundaries with harmful people?
Name the behavior, state the boundary, and define the consequence—briefly and calmly. Example: “No yelling. If it starts, I’ll leave the call.” Follow through once; consistency builds safety. Then begin the work of forgiveness to release the emotional hook.

Q6: Why does forgiveness matter if I’m already done with them?
Because your nervous system isn’t done. Forgiveness doesn’t excuse harm; it releases the energy you spend reliving it. Pair boundaries (external protection) with forgiveness (internal freedom).

Q8: How do I “find my voice” after a power-imbalanced relationship?
Practice in low-stakes rooms: improv, community classes, or small groups. Aim for one rep per day where you ask, decline, or express a preference. Reps build confidence faster than reflection alone.

Connect with Robin:

https://robinkencel.com/

Connect with Melissa:

https://www.valuationmediation.com/

Connect with The Divorce Allies:

https://www.thedivorceallies.com/