Equilibrium Echoes

Why We Overapologize

Alyssa Decker Season 3 Episode 13

In this episode, Alyssa dives into the messy middle of apologies—why we overdo them, when they’re not really helping, and how old conditioning can make us think saying "sorry" is the same as being kind. (Spoiler: it’s not.)

She unpacks how manipulative or performative apologies can actually erode real accountability and leave us tangled in guilt loops we don’t belong in. Instead, she offers honest, empowering ways to communicate with clarity and self-trust—without constantly shrinking yourself to keep the peace.

You’ll walk away with practical tools to stop the reflexive “sorrys” and start speaking in a way that honors both your truth and your boundaries.


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