Parenting Our Parents: Are You Prepared?

Summary

In this episode of Parent Coaches Unleashed, Jessica Anger and Carrie Wiesenfeld explore the complex and often emotional journey of "parenting your parents," focusing on the caregiving responsibilities that arise as our parents age. They share personal experiences and insights into navigating these challenges, emphasizing the importance of open communication about future care plans. The conversation highlights the profound impact illnesses like Alzheimer’s can have on family dynamics and the grieving process that accompanies caring for a parent with such conditions. The hosts discuss how planning for aging parents is essential yet often difficult to initiate, and they stress the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care while facing tough decisions about independence, safety, and overall care. The episode underscores that these conversations should start early and be ongoing, helping to ensure a smoother transition for both parents and adult children. Ultimately, Jessica and Carrie emphasize that addressing these issues openly, compassionately, and proactively fosters better understanding and stronger support during this challenging phase of life.

Questions for Our Aging Parents

1. Health & Medical Care

• Are there any ongoing health issues we should know about?

• Who are your main doctors or specialists?

• Where do you keep your medical records and list of medications?

• Do you have a living will or advance healthcare directive?

• Who would you like to make medical decisions for you if you can’t?

• Are there treatments you’d prefer to avoid or receive?

• Do you have supplemental health insurance or Medicare coverage?

2. Living Arrangements & Daily Life

• Would you like to stay in your current home or move somewhere smaller or more social?

• Is your home safe and comfortable for you now (stairs, lighting, bathroom)?

• Would you consider having help with chores, meals, or transportation if needed?

• What would make daily life easier or more enjoyable for you?

3. Finances /Legal Planning

• Do you have a financial plan or someone who helps manage it?

• Where do you keep important documents (bank info, insurance, investments)?

• Do you have a will or trust in place?

• Who is your financial power of attorney?

• Do you have life or long-term care insurance?

• Would you like help reviewing or organizing finances?

4. End-of-Life 

• Have you thought about what kind of funeral or memorial you’d like?

• Do you have burial or cremation preferences?

• Are there songs, readings, or traditions you’d want included?

• Who would you like to be notified when the time comes?

5. Emotional Well-being & Legacy

• What brings you the most joy these days?

• Are there family stories or memories you’d like to share or record?

• What does a ‘good day’ look like for you now?

• Are there hobbies or interests you’d like to revisit or try?

6. Support Network & Communication

• Who do you rely on most for companionship or help?

• Are there friends or neighbors we should stay in touch with for you?

• How can we best support you without overstepping?

• How would you like us

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