Edwards Babyshower: Part 1

Blair and Khalia unpack their emotional baby shower weekend, preparing for a new home and baby, choosing a name, and diving into real conversations about relationships, age dynamics, and the truth behind red-pill culture.

Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:00

How old do you think they they would think I am? Not off of me talking, because I think I'd ruin how old I was if I talked.

SPEAKER_00 0:06

It's given like 26-27. Damn.

SPEAKER_02 0:10

Really ages me when I have my hair straight.

SPEAKER_00 0:12

Yeah, but when you have your hair curly, it's given like 26-27. I'm just kidding. Babe. I'm kidding. Okay, to know when you have your hair curly. You're so adorable. So cute. Give it like 22, 23.

SPEAKER_02 0:39

Nice. Or they could dupe some people in that show.

SPEAKER_00 0:42

Why do you want to dupe them?

SPEAKER_02 0:43

I don't know. It seems fun.

SPEAKER_00 0:45

What's the equivalent of because you can have catfishing, hat fishing.

SPEAKER_02 0:50

What's hat fishing? When you when you're bald?

SPEAKER_00 0:52

Yeah, and guys just constantly wear hats.

SPEAKER_02 0:54

Oh yeah, cover their bald heads. Got it.

SPEAKER_00 0:56

Um but what is it when someone try uh like misrepresents their age?

SPEAKER_02 1:04

Age fishing.

SPEAKER_00 1:07

Age fishing. That sounds kind of PDF file.

SPEAKER_02 1:11

Um I don't know. What is it called?

SPEAKER_00 1:15

Fraud.

SPEAKER_02 1:17

You tried to do what I did last time, which was say divorce because it was true.

SPEAKER_00 1:23

Maybe.

SPEAKER_02 1:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:24

When we get into this house, you ain't gonna find me.

SPEAKER_02 1:30

I've already inserted a tracker into your body.

SPEAKER_00 1:35

That's what you put inside me last night. That's actually wild. We are not into that.

SPEAKER_02 1:41

Imagine I like just put a tracker on you. Like, like right in your foot.

SPEAKER_00 1:46

Well, it kind of like leads into um what we talked about previously in our marriage our marriage relationship. Remember when we were like, how do you feel about sending your location?

SPEAKER_02 1:57

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 1:58

Actually, I didn't ask you about this, but on my way to the baby shower, you shared your location.

SPEAKER_02 2:02

Yeah, just for an hour. So you could find me.

SPEAKER_00 2:05

Why just an hour? You trying to hide something?

SPEAKER_02 2:08

Well, I mean, you can always know where I am. I'm I'm always in like one of five places, if you had to guess, if I'm in the city.

SPEAKER_00 2:16

So if you're not in one of those five places, I should think the worst.

SPEAKER_02 2:20

No. Then then I'm at home.

SPEAKER_00 2:24

Your home is four out of the five places that I think you'd be.

SPEAKER_02 2:29

One out of the five places. The number one spot.

SPEAKER_00 2:31

No, four. You're either in the living room, you're either in the bedroom, you're either in the bathroom, or you're either at the table.

SPEAKER_02 2:40

Yeah. Yeah. I don't know. I just think that like sharing location is first of all, I want to surprise you, you know. I like if I want to pop up about you at work and catch you in the act. No, I'm just kidding. If I want if I want to pop up on you at work and just like come say hi and we can go to Earth Cafe, I don't always want to announce myself, you know? Um, and when people have people's location, they check it. It's also like watching like a Sims game, you know? Like, why are you tracking what I'm doing? I'm grown. We don't need to track each other. But if I want to go to the grocery store and get you some of your favorite kind of snack, I mean like, babe, why are you at Sprouts? Like, I don't want you to do that.

SPEAKER_00 3:17

I would never do that.

SPEAKER_02 3:18

Well, we don't have each other's locations. So what would you use it for if you had it?

SPEAKER_00 3:24

If I had your location 24 hours of the day, what would I check it for? There's no reason to check it.

SPEAKER_02 3:32

You'd never check it.

SPEAKER_00 3:33

No, why would I check it out?

SPEAKER_02 3:35

Have you ever wanted to check my location? No. Even if you didn't hear from me for a while.

SPEAKER_00 3:40

Actually, there have been times where you just refuse to talk to me for 24 hours and I'm like, That's a fucking lie. You're like Amber. You just go cold turkey on me.

SPEAKER_02 3:52

Anyway. And I'm like, baby, where are you? You're like, oh, I'm so sorry, my love. I'm at work because I got stuck doing some shit.

SPEAKER_00 3:59

Always working. Damn.

SPEAKER_02 4:02

It's okay. My leave is coming up soon.

SPEAKER_00 4:04

Damn.

SPEAKER_02 4:04

You'll have me at home 24-7. Then you'll be like, when are you going back to work?

SPEAKER_00 4:09

That is work being a mother.

SPEAKER_02 4:11

Being a trad wife.

SPEAKER_00 4:13

Do you think you can handle the trad wife life?

SPEAKER_02 4:16

Um I'm not sure. Some people are very adamant that they would be very bored if they had to stay at home the whole time with their kids, which I can understand. I think if you have one, maybe it might be boring, but I don't know. I I've never tried it, so how would I know what I would like? You know?

SPEAKER_00 4:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 4:32

But I don't know if I could just be at home 24-7.

SPEAKER_00 4:35

I mean, you are kind of a homebody.

SPEAKER_02 4:38

I do love to be at home. Yeah. I do love to be at home.

SPEAKER_00 4:41

Imagine being at home with your baby.

SPEAKER_02 4:43

Just like blabbing all day long.

SPEAKER_00 4:46

Eating bonbons?

SPEAKER_02 4:48

Bonbons? I don't know. What is that?

SPEAKER_00 4:50

I have I think it's like some kind of like dessert or like I feel like Americans are always saying it, but I don't know what that means. Same. Yeah, I think I saw it in an episode of Fresh Prince or something.

SPEAKER_02 4:59

Bonbons. I really I think I want s'mores.

SPEAKER_00 5:03

I can use some s'mores, man.

SPEAKER_02 5:04

It's my first craving of my pregnancy.

SPEAKER_00 5:07

The first craving. You're you've been craving tangerines and oranges and all. I I think if I could if I could deduce if you had any kind of I I wouldn't call it a craving though.

SPEAKER_02 5:18

I just get in like different phases. So I did I am going through a tangerine phase right now.

SPEAKER_00 5:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 5:24

What other phases have I had?

SPEAKER_00 5:27

Well, I remember when you're like, yeah, I just really want sushi, and I'm like, I don't think you can have sushi, sorry. But I'd be seeing a couple plates in there.

SPEAKER_02 5:35

Yep, I do have sushi every now and again. Because you want to know what? What I've learned is a lot of what they tell you you can't do in pregnancy is a is a lot of like if you went to the extreme and you had it every day, all the time, 24-7, like if you're a regular human and you weren't pregnant, like you would also be sick, you know, or like you could run the risk of things.

SPEAKER_00 5:58

Yeah, too much of anything is not a good thing.

SPEAKER_02 6:00

Yeah, but if you think about like the world, people that live in a place that only has fish available and sushi, what do you think they're doing? The women are not gonna reproduce. It just is like silly to think if you start thinking about those things. Oh, you can't have tuna. What if I lived, what if it was 1876 and I lived on the coast of a river and all I had access to was tuna and I was pregnant, I would eat tuna.

SPEAKER_01 6:24

Right.

SPEAKER_02 6:24

You know, so it's just I I think to your point earlier, it's like everything in moderation. I don't eat sushi every single day. When I want sushi, I have sushi. The body tells you what it needs to house the baby. I firmly believe in this.

SPEAKER_00 6:38

Maybe I'm holistic, I don't know, but and now your baby telling you it needs s'mores.

SPEAKER_02 6:43

Yeah. It needs s'mores.

SPEAKER_00 6:46

Smile on your face, your eyes started to light up. We're gonna get you some s'mores, baby.

SPEAKER_02 6:51

Every time the baby wears that s'mores onesie, I'm gonna make some s'mores as well. It's so cute.

SPEAKER_00 6:58

Do you know what? I forgot to mention something to you. Or I should say to you. Welcome back to another episode of the Open Marriage Podcast. I am your host, Blair Edwards. This is the beautiful, incomparable Khalia Edwards, and then we got Baby Edwards over there. And this is the Open Marriage Podcast. We talk all things marriage, dating, all of the uh what's it called? Encoutrements?

SPEAKER_02 7:21

Accoutrements.

SPEAKER_00 7:22

Accoutrements.

SPEAKER_02 7:23

You like that word?

SPEAKER_00 7:24

I like it. It's a genetical now. A little disclaimer: we are not in an open marriage. However, the dialogue around marriage is opening up. So please sit back, listen, get your food ready, and uh listen to this beautiful episode.

SPEAKER_02 7:40

That was perfect.

SPEAKER_00 7:42

Yeah, it can always use a little bit more.

SPEAKER_02 7:44

One day you'll just say thank you, baby.

SPEAKER_00 7:46

Now that oh, oh wait, thank you, baby. Appreciate it.

SPEAKER_02 7:49

Yeah, absolutely. Uh hey.

SPEAKER_00 7:52

Hello, sweetheart.

SPEAKER_02 7:53

What's up?

SPEAKER_00 7:54

Do you know what? Uh we are coming off of a high.

SPEAKER_02 7:58

We sure are.

SPEAKER_00 7:59

And when I say hi, I'm talking weed. I I feel dazed and confused. Ganja. Okay. None of us take part of the reefer. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 8:11

Speak for yourself.

SPEAKER_00 8:14

Okay. Um we are recovering because we just had our baby shower.

SPEAKER_02 8:21

Yeah, we had our first baby shower.

SPEAKER_00 8:23

Yeah, baby shower part one.

SPEAKER_02 8:25

Viva Las Vegas vibes. And yeah, that was um, it was a great time. It was a whirlwind for sure.

SPEAKER_00 8:32

Yeah. It I did have a couple moments where I was having an out-of-body experience. Really? Yes.

SPEAKER_02 8:38

Like in the actual party?

SPEAKER_00 8:39

Yes, for sure.

SPEAKER_02 8:41

Yeah. I was a little bit levitational for sure.

SPEAKER_00 8:44

What is this dissociation that we're having? What do you think it could be attributed to? Because for me, it's the aspect of um, I've been in Vegas 10 plus years living a little bit of a bachelor's lifestyle. You keep on saying 80, you're gonna have to let that go.

SPEAKER_02 9:01

No, guys.

SPEAKER_00 9:02

All right. But there's a reality of wait, I'm having a child? I have the most amazing wife partner, and we're about to see like this new chapter. What is happening? I'm just looking around. With insert Mr. Krab's meme where he's like, it's just a lot of like what's going on. That's how I felt during the party, but also grounded at the same time. Grounded enough that I I could be present. But if I was gonna have a little too much time to myself, I would just end up crying. It was really overwhelming for me. But um, how was it for you?

SPEAKER_02 9:37

I think it was great. I got to have my best friends in town, both from different states, uh, and my parents came. And yeah, just like it's it was really cool because obviously I am not from here and haven't been here that long. And so the amount of people that I know or the friends that I have are is a very like small group compared to who you know in a town and who you invited. And so I think for me it was just like really great to see your community come and support um you also the both of us, but show up for you. Um, because I'm like the art is a very like different experience, you know, and everyone has different schedules and you guys have rehearsal, but the fact that people showed up um and I think everyone really had an enjoyable time was awesome. And just like the graciousness of um Liz who hosted our baby shower.

SPEAKER_00 10:28

Shout out to Liz, jeez Louise. That was my first time, me and her, and she literally opened up her doors. Yeah, of her home.

SPEAKER_02 10:37

Yeah, yeah, wild. Yeah, so just like a lot of um like gratit like my heart filled with a lot of gratitude for the weekend.

SPEAKER_00 10:44

Yeah, yeah. Do you remember um do you remember when I was on tour and I we were in Miami and I think we were sitting down at this restaurant and we were kind of future planning a little bit, and because I knew that I was gonna be going back to Vegas at some point, and you were like, Okay, realistically, how long do you think you're gonna be in Vegas? Yeah, and I said looking like maybe two, three years, and you said, Okay, I'm gonna go out for this promotion so that I can um come to Vegas and we can actually start building a life together. I was like, okay, this is this is when we're starting getting real. This is serious, it's starting to get real, right?

SPEAKER_02 11:24

Um You could have also been like, bitch, you're not coming with me.

SPEAKER_00 11:26

No, no, no, no, no, no. Like I I guess I could have, but I I was living in uh a stasis and trying to keep things the same, and as like a form of protection, yeah. But you rarely like you really jump started my life because I was damn near flatlined, like just living the same life, same day, every day is like Groundhog's Day, right? Um so uh we were like planning out the logistics of it, but I will say once you finally you got that job promotion, and when you were in Vegas, I was seeing you work 24-7. Like I'm talking, you would you would clock into work, and then even when you come home, you're still working.

SPEAKER_02 12:08

And I was like, Oh, this is Mind you, Blair wasn't even at the house, so how he knows this because he insult cameras to watch me.

SPEAKER_00 12:15

No, I it's because when I was home with you and you were still working, I said, This is actually kind of frightening, but it that carried on for like maybe a year or two, just constantly seeing you what you're putting in the hours, but and then when I would come home, I wouldn't see you go outside, you just kind of be on the couch. You're like, Hey, I'm just kind of chilling and I'm relaxing. I I was saying, damn, she's sacrificing so much for me, and she ain't even getting outside. How's she gonna meet people? Yeah, well, yeah, it was too hot, but also at the same time, you know, when am I gonna have the time to make friends? Yeah, yeah, I mean, when I'm gonna have time to find community, so that was that was kind of um it was kind of worrying to me. But then being at the baby shower and then looking at yes, a majority of the people, I guess, I guess you can say, um, being in Vegas, I have more attachment to the people that are here, but it was really great to see your people there too. And that was the first time that I I I could really see that we built this life together. I of course we were planning out the logistics, but then it was like the emotional, the spiritual, the communal side of it that I'm like, look at all these people that are here for us. I I I I would never have been able to imagine that. I'm so grateful to see that. Yeah, that's not getting kind of emotional right now. Yeah, I can cry.

SPEAKER_02 13:39

I mean, I I was boohooing in the bed on the baby shower night, just tears streaming down my face.

SPEAKER_00 13:45

Yeah. I mean, I'm feeling it right now. Nice, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 13:52

It was it was awesome. But it was really, it was really, really cool to spend time with like my best friend who came from New York too, because I don't get it's funny because I didn't even realize until my mom said it in the car, but every time I see her, it's like she'll come visit my like to her parents' house or her mom, her mom's house, and it's in Orange County. And if I happen to be there, I maybe can see her for like an hour because where they were like trading, like I'm flying in, she's flying out, vice versa. This is the first time I think I've spent a whole day with her since middle school, maybe high school, maybe, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:25

Um shout shout out to her for being able to. I mean, just flying like multiple flights, going to it's like basically not sleeping, but being able to be there for you. Yeah, she's a real one.

SPEAKER_02 14:38

And back to the farm right after. Um like she flew back and then was on the farm right away. She's always yeah, so just that was really great to be able to spend time.

SPEAKER_00 14:48

Yeah. Um, I don't know how specific we can get about the baby shower, but um it first of first and foremost, I we're gonna have to upload some pictures in there. After this, I'm gonna go to the to the um no, I still have the pictures on my camera, it's not gonna get developed for a while.

SPEAKER_02 15:06

Um I know, I really want them.

SPEAKER_00 15:08

It's fine. But uh maybe we can include some footage in in this podcast. But first and foremost, we was we was in the middle of nowhere. It it was it was dope driving up all those mountains. I legit was like, I hope my Honda Civic can get up these hills.

SPEAKER_02 15:25

Was it was it drying the was it pushing?

SPEAKER_00 15:27

It okay. First and foremost, do you know what it's like being in a rich arse neighborhood in a in a beat up Honda Civic and people just waving at you? Just being nice, but I think you people everyone was waving.

SPEAKER_02 15:38

Oh, good. I didn't know what it would be.

SPEAKER_00 15:41

I felt like a brokeie. I'm like, please don't look at me.

SPEAKER_02 15:43

Like, welcome to our luxurious city. Right. I'm like, we can maybe give you one of our cards. We have eight.

SPEAKER_00 15:48

I think they have enough to spare. Okay, I did see a couple G Wagons. G Wagon, G Wagon. Anyway, um, but yeah, when we finally got there, I saw the because the house was beautiful. Like, god damn. Where are we? People living like this, and then do you know why I really love to buy is like all of the people that came through, they're like, Yeah, you know what? Honestly, I'm just manifesting. I'm just like, I'm just just thinking to myself, I'm just coming to my own home. I would make jokes and say, Yeah, you know these houses are being built around here. Actually, we moved in next, we're moving in next week. They're just playing the finish in chutches. Chuchish.

SPEAKER_02 16:24

Chuchish.

SPEAKER_00 16:25

Playing to finish in chutis. On our home. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 16:29

Yeah, it was. I mean, yeah, she's a gorgeous home, and um I I've been one time before that, but I definitely was lost in my GPS. I'm like, someone help me with a map. I'm that illiterate.

SPEAKER_00 16:43

Yeah, if it you know you're in a rich area where they have it their own separate cell phone towers because no one was getting through. Like, I I tried to I thank gosh she had Wi-Fi because my Oh, yeah, you but you never have service.

SPEAKER_02 16:57

Your career is not good. I have perfect service.

SPEAKER_00 17:00

You did? Yeah. I am jealous of the family. I have service everywhere. I might have to switch.

SPEAKER_02 17:04

I'm trying to tell you.

SPEAKER_00 17:05

It's just uh the perks. The perks. Maybe we can start a family plan because we have a family plan.

SPEAKER_02 17:14

I will say though, our house is filled with stuff. It feels like we're an influencing household. Should I should I do well? No, we don't need to pan over our houses like look it's crazy, but there is a lot of stuff in here, which is boxes to the left of them, boxes to the right of them, Valley and Thunder. What is that?

SPEAKER_00 17:34

I guess I'm doing a fresh prints uh medley today.

SPEAKER_02 17:37

Oh, okay. Never saw that episode. Uh yeah, but so grateful because uh it does definitely feel a bit weird and like it's sooner rather than later.

SPEAKER_01 17:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 17:48

Um, but yeah, super grateful. And I feel like you keep getting more and more packages every single day. I'm like, okay, you got another package going downstairs. But I will say, anyone who's pregnant or thinking about getting pregnant, Babylist has been the easiest for me to use. I I mean, obviously, I haven't made another registry before, but the fact people can go on there, send it directly to your house, they don't have to like do all the extras and like wrap it. It just is a lot easier. Um, and just environmentally efficient, I guess, you know.

SPEAKER_00 18:20

You are so from California. Why? Just environmentally efficient, unholistic beige mom. Yes, it is very efficient, and we have all these boxes, and we're gonna be packing up these boxes soon because we got the house.

SPEAKER_02 18:38

We're moving.

SPEAKER_00 18:39

You forgot to mention that. Enjoy the setup while you still can. Because it ain't gonna be like this on the show.

SPEAKER_02 18:45

Oh, a different setup. Uh, but oh, it will be really great. We're excited. Blair's excited to have more space, as we said last podcast. I will still find him. I will always find him. Always.

SPEAKER_00 18:58

That tracker that's underneath my right skin.

SPEAKER_02 19:01

It's in your skin, yeah. It's underneath your skin. I dissolved it this morning. But we yeah, it's gonna be awesome. We move technically next week.

SPEAKER_00 19:09

There's just not enough time in the world.

SPEAKER_02 19:11

That's how it happens. Life starts moving real quick, and just wait till this baby comes out. But I will say, we do have a few weeks of time. I mean, we'll have a a good amount of time for us to get things out and into the new space without having to feel like we have to rush to get there within one day's time. So that's nice, and it'll give us like the time to like order things to the new house and get rid of things here, but we gotta start making a list of like what we're selling, what we're getting rid of, what's coming, so on and so forth.

SPEAKER_00 19:38

Baby, you knew you married a hoarder. I'm taking everything with me, ain't nothing being sold. A hoarder. I ain't gonna sell you no dreams. I am the same man you met from the first day you met me.

SPEAKER_02 19:48

Definitely not a hoarder. What are you what's the new room in the house that you're most excited to decorate?

SPEAKER_00 19:56

I'm gonna lie and say the nursery room. No, not the nursery. Um the living room.

SPEAKER_02 20:04

Which one?

SPEAKER_00 20:05

You see what I'm talking about? Where are we moving in a nice? Um the one with the dining, the kitchen, all of that. I feel like that there's so much space, but there's so much opportunity to really be intentional about what it's going to be like. Everything else I think is gonna fall into place. Uh, Kalia has an impeccable sense of taste. Look at her, she's beautiful. Go on, beige mother. Beige mother, yes. Um, but I also do want the place to kind of have a little bit of a perfect balance between you and I. Industrial and like I want to say like natural earthy homey kind of vibes.

SPEAKER_02 20:50

What does industrial mean?

SPEAKER_00 20:51

Just think Seattle, New York, Metropolitan, Loft, Exposed Air Vents. We don't have exposed air vents or anything like that, but I want that vibe. Okay. I want there to be like I'm in the city in my own home. I know you're gonna have a couple plants around here. I think we'll get more sunlight in there. So let's hope.

SPEAKER_02 21:12

The fiddles aren't really doing too well.

SPEAKER_00 21:14

We're gonna have a nice little greenhouse. Oh, I forgot. We're taking the fiddles with us, huh?

SPEAKER_02 21:18

Yeah. I mean, that one probably needs to go in the trash in the bedroom, but just not really doing anything. Yeah, you know.

SPEAKER_00 21:26

Either way, um, I'm I'm excited for that living room, the living room space. I want that space to feel like it's um it's a great start to not necessarily the day, but the entrance of like the the story of our home. I want it to feel I guess more communal in a sense. Mind you, I'm not planning on having a lot of people over, but I would like that space to represent.

SPEAKER_02 21:53

Probably we'll have more people over than we have before in the past.

SPEAKER_00 21:55

But it's gonna be much more appropriate, you know. I I think this space has has been great. But I think I think the living room is gonna be great for greater. Greater for people. What about you? What are you looking forward to decorating?

SPEAKER_02 22:09

The bottom.

SPEAKER_00 22:10

The den?

SPEAKER_02 22:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 22:12

Cause I love the couch. I love a couch. And I want a big cozy couch that we can just like nestle in. You know? I think that's gonna be really good. But yeah, I'm excited for the nursery too. But not like a I'm not doing we're not gonna go crazy with the nursery. It's just like I'm excited to get the dresser together and the changing table and like have everything ready so that whenever this baby tri tries to come out, there's a space um for us to change them because they're not sleeping in that room by themselves.

SPEAKER_00 22:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 22:39

They'll be with us.

SPEAKER_00 22:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 22:40

That's not.

SPEAKER_00 22:41

Yeah, uh nursery, that's gonna be fine. I think the the second place, of course, other than a den, we're gonna have probably do podcasts in a den. I think that would be appropriate. What do you think?

SPEAKER_02 22:52

I think the den will be probably the best place to do it.

SPEAKER_00 22:54

Um, but then also you'll finally have like an office space that you want to do. Yes, that'll be great. I could do my self tapes or my editing and whatnot. It's gonna be great. This is we're leveling up here. It's gonna be great. Um, I feel like we kind of did a segue over to like our new house and whatnot. Is there anything else that you wanted to say about the baby shower?

SPEAKER_02 23:18

No, because I would cry.

SPEAKER_00 23:20

I think it's okay. It's okay. You didn't cry. Alright, well, I'll say a quick thing before we completely depart from that. Oh, it just actually hit me. Wow. Wow. Blink it away, blanket away, blanket away. Get that type back up there. Um thank you. Damn, damn.

SPEAKER_02 23:50

Okay, I can't look at you, but yeah, I that is you good call. We do need to say thank you. Um seriously, there's no other words to say besides that we're grateful. And that we're really, really thankful.

SPEAKER_00 24:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 24:04

My eyes are full of tears.

unknown 24:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 24:07

I might know and put the video out. No.

SPEAKER_02 24:13

Mascara, I can't myself, uh.

SPEAKER_00 24:15

I'm so sorry, baby.

SPEAKER_02 24:16

I love you.

SPEAKER_00 24:17

I love you very much.

SPEAKER_02 24:18

And we are so grateful, truly. Um, this is not fake tears. I can't I can't cry on command. This is not me crying on command. Uh, but we are really grateful just for the amount of love and care outside of the gifts, like those are just like icing on the cake, but it's just the fact that people showed up and they like want to support us, which is we appreciate it so much.

SPEAKER_00 24:39

Yeah, you know. I I didn't realize um I'm not gonna be like trauma dumping on the podcast or anything like that, but trauma. That's funny.

SPEAKER_01 24:49

Trauma.

SPEAKER_00 24:50

I I will say that I'm still making sense out of what it means to have community, what it means to have family relationships, um, that baby shower, that it was a really like it was a really vulnerable state uh for me to be in, um to even be able to open to have to ask for help or to ask for support, however you want to frame it. Um but the fact that people went out of their way, some people took Ubers to travel, even when they don't catch the planes. Damn, please keep it together, Blair. To just say, hey, we love you and we support you, that does not go unnoticed. I don't want you to ever think that I take that for granted. And the one thing that I want everyone to know is I would love for you to give me the opportunity to show up for you the same way that you show up for us. So please know hear me and hear me well. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. We love you truly.

SPEAKER_02 25:58

We do.

SPEAKER_00 25:58

And um maybe we're gonna have to run that back. Not like uh not another baby shower, but like a little I don't know, housewarming or birthday or something like that.

SPEAKER_02 26:08

Something that's fun, some celebratory moment. Yeah, that'll be great. Yeah, you'll be the after the baby's born, you'll be the next one to have a birthday.

SPEAKER_00 26:14

Oh, snap. To think last last year was my last birthday without being a day. Oh, what's that gonna be like? Can you imagine what it's gonna be like five, ten years from now?

SPEAKER_02 26:26

Like, happy birthday, Dad! We made you a card.

SPEAKER_00 26:28

I'd be like, oh what is this?

SPEAKER_02 26:35

What is this drawing?

SPEAKER_00 26:36

Yeah, is it a helicopter?

SPEAKER_02 26:38

No, it's a dinosaur. Oh, oh do you know what?

SPEAKER_00 26:41

Yeah, it's the most beautiful dinosaur I've ever seen. Yeah, so funny. Yeah, it's gonna be great. But yeah, um, okay, enough tears. Let it go. Thank you. We love you. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Um, all right, so what else what else can we talk about? What else should we what else should we talk about? I don't even have the timer, so I don't even know how long we've been talking.

SPEAKER_02 27:03

Neither, but I will say we made an announcement at the shower about the name of the baby. The little s I saw a little thing like that. Uh, and so it's been really cool for us, because we haven't had the name, I mean we've had names picked out this entire time, but we didn't decide until sometime last week.

SPEAKER_00 27:30

I don't think we decided, but the baby decided a long time ago.

SPEAKER_02 27:34

Well, the baby did, but we didn't confirm we were on the same page out loud until last week, I think. And so now that we've announced it, um Blair's been ref Blair and I have been referring to the baby as their new name. Uh, and I wonder if that will be evident when they're born that they like can respond to their name since we've been calling them their name for the past. Well, we'll talk to them for the next two months in the womb.

SPEAKER_00 28:00

No, it's funny, as you were saying that I'm looking at you like, are you gonna say our baby's name on on Wax? No.

SPEAKER_02 28:07

Unfortunately, for those of you that listen to our podcast, uh, I mean, a lot of you I think are our friends anyway, so you probably already know the name. Uh, but if anyone's listening to this podcast and you don't know the name, you'll find out the name when I when I deliver this baby. Um, we're not posting our kid on the internet. I mean, we will, but the face will be covered, and we will post uh a little post of feet or hands or something with the name.

SPEAKER_00 28:31

How do you feel about um posting pictures of you being in the hospital? Are you like, absolutely not? I think you look flawless.

SPEAKER_02 28:41

I don't mind it. I don't mind. I mean, not when I'm in late, like not when I'm pushing the baby out, but yeah, like when we first get there, I'm like, yeah, sure, you can take a picture of me. That's fine.

SPEAKER_01 28:53

Just shake it. I gave birth.

SPEAKER_02 28:57

Yeah, yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_00 28:59

Do you like it?

SPEAKER_02 29:00

Imagine you're like, she made it, guys, and I'm like looking haggard and like just tossed over the side of the boat. You want to have a podcast episode in the hospital? Can you imagine the nurses coming in every seven seconds? Like, do you want to be on the podcast? Perfect.

SPEAKER_00 29:11

She's like, she did great, she did really good. She was a real trooper.

SPEAKER_02 29:15

Trooper.

SPEAKER_00 29:17

I don't know. I imagine they say something like that.

SPEAKER_02 29:20

Uh so yeah, that that was really exciting, and I feel really great about the name. What about you?

SPEAKER_00 29:24

I feel fantastic. It's because everyone has the same reaction also. Um, like when I was selling um Crystal Nils uh Jamique, and I was going through the names. I mean, they they all love the names, but Jimmy was like, Oh, yeah, I like that name. I like I was like, okay, everyone does, everyone does. I'm like, okay, so that's confirmation. Yeah. So maybe you gotta change the other two names. Who knows?

SPEAKER_02 29:46

Why they're not as cool?

SPEAKER_00 29:48

I I guess so. We gotta go back to the drawing board.

SPEAKER_02 29:50

Well, I think if we didn't have the name that we pick like the name that we're picking for the first one, if we didn't have that name incorporated with the group names, it probably wouldn't people be like, oh, those are all really nice names, which is like what everyone says about most kids' names, you know. Uh but we picked the names because we like the names. And I think we've all have great names picked out.

SPEAKER_00 30:07

I mean, Kalia is a fantastic name.

SPEAKER_02 30:09

So is Blair.

SPEAKER_00 30:10

Shout out. Mashallah.

SPEAKER_02 30:13

But if we named our daughter Blair.

SPEAKER_00 30:15

To be honest, I'm kind of into it. I'm still open to well, is that is that narcissistic to name your child after you?

SPEAKER_02 30:24

No, because they're a girl. I think if it's a boy, it's a little bit more odd, in my opinion.

SPEAKER_00 30:28

So we have to wait for a girl. Okay. I'm I'm for that. Okay, at least you know at least one of our child's impossible names.

SPEAKER_02 30:37

Yeah, but we that's not actually written down the list. So that's a extra credit name.

SPEAKER_00 30:42

I imagine. That'd be really interesting.

SPEAKER_02 30:44

Yeah, I do like it. I've always but that was what you always said. You said if we had a third born and she happened to be a girl, we would name her Blair. So I guess that still stands. We'll find out.

SPEAKER_00 30:54

Imagine getting off to number three. Jeez, Louise. But that's why we'll allow it.

SPEAKER_02 31:00

You'll feel you'll feel really, really confident by that point.

SPEAKER_00 31:02

Yeah, my third kid.

SPEAKER_02 31:04

Yeah, yeah, we're gonna need this stuff. Get rid of it. Where are your siblings' hand-me-downs?

SPEAKER_00 31:10

Honestly, the the things that we've gotten so far will be in such great condition. I don't think that it would even feel like a hand-me-down.

SPEAKER_02 31:19

No. Well, when we just all you really need once you've gotten the um you'll people will want to buy you some new stuff. I just come to the territory, but all you need is diapers and wipes and creams and nipple creams.

SPEAKER_00 31:37

I saw that nipple cream. I was like, I can't wait to use that.

SPEAKER_02 31:40

Who are you using it on whatever? You're creepy. You're crazy, do you know that? Uh, but yeah, I overall it was a great weekend. I'm so happy we took today off. We're recording this on a day after because we normally would record on a Sunday. My parents were here, we had a slow-ish day, and then today I've just been like slept for eight and a half hours, trying to take care of some logistics. It's basically like that time now to really like plan out the rest of the next two weeks. And then we got baby shower in California, our shoot, and then and then we're in the due date month. Yeah. Basically.

SPEAKER_00 32:27

That's gonna be wild. So hope you're ready.

SPEAKER_02 32:32

Buckle up.

SPEAKER_00 32:34

I'm ready. I'm ready.

SPEAKER_02 32:37

Alright. Hard pivot.

SPEAKER_00 32:40

Go ahead.

SPEAKER_02 32:43

Age of attraction.

SPEAKER_00 32:44

Okay, have you been watching more episodes?

SPEAKER_02 32:46

And I watched the one episode. Okay, so here's a fun fact. When so my parents came in on Friday night. My best friend flew in from New York on Saturday morning. So I needed to wash, dry, and straighten my hair between Saturday night at 11 p.m. and Saturday morning. Friday night at 11 p.m. and then Saturday morning at like 7:30. So what I did was wash my hair, blow-dried it, and then I straightened my hair in the bed in the middle of the night as Blair was watching TV. Now, this is so unsafe. Do not try this at home. But basically, what I did was I set up a little station, so I had the straightening straightening iron on my bedside table, and then I just was watching TV, smoking Blair out. He went to bed, so I guess he didn't care. But I watched the full episode, I think, um, of when you when you had put on and I then you had fallen asleep.

SPEAKER_00 33:40

Okay. What episode are we on technically?

SPEAKER_02 33:44

I think three.

SPEAKER_00 33:45

Okay. Three episode rule. Is it worth watching more or you're like, I'm kind of cool with this? It's good. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 33:52

It's not good, but it's it's addicting.

SPEAKER_00 33:56

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 33:56

Because it's such a I like to get we like to guess how old everyone is.

SPEAKER_00 34:01

I just want to go on record right now and say that I've guessed correctly everybody's ages right off the rip.

SPEAKER_02 34:08

Did you guess how Asian ladies age correctly?

SPEAKER_00 34:11

I said she had to be at least at least 50-something.

SPEAKER_02 34:15

She's not though.

SPEAKER_00 34:16

How old is she?

SPEAKER_02 34:17

48.

SPEAKER_00 34:19

4850. That's that's pretty much the same. And that's not because she looks old. I just get a vibe. I get a sense of vibe from these people.

SPEAKER_02 34:27

Also, here's the other thing. I think we talked about it last time, but like when everyone has these extreme makeovers and surgeries, they you people that are young don't look like even if your skin is pulled taut, but you're old, we can tell.

SPEAKER_00 34:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 34:42

You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_00 34:42

No, for sure.

SPEAKER_02 34:43

Because the neck tells and the hands tell.

SPEAKER_00 34:46

The neck, the neck. Neck don't lie like a motu. Did he really say that? No.

SPEAKER_02 34:53

Yeah, I'm like, why are you saying neck?

SPEAKER_00 34:55

But the neck don't lie either.

SPEAKER_02 34:56

It doesn't lie. The neck and the hands are the dead giveaway.

SPEAKER_00 34:59

Um, yeah, I'm I I'm not ageist, you know what I mean? But I can tell when someone's older. I think when people get, I think maybe also no, I have to be careful my words. I'm on a podcast. When people get work done, I personally believe if they're young and they get work done, or if they're older and they get work done, you get to an age of convergence, and their age is like 30. Everyone looks 30 years, like 30 years old. They don't pass their age within reason.

SPEAKER_02 35:33

They're like 35.

SPEAKER_00 35:35

30, 35. Yeah. Yeah. I think that's appropriate. Yeah. But with some of these people, I'm like, I look at them, I'm like, 47, look at them, 23. And then they reveal their ages. I'm like, sure, I knew that. And this is why it's a it's a universal rule, and we know this because your friend was saying, wow, all the black people look great. It shows time and time again. Black don't crack and chocolate don't chip. Every single time I tell that to people, they're like chocolate don't chip.

SPEAKER_02 36:04

Where did you get that one from?

SPEAKER_00 36:05

I got it from a makeup stylist that um I I did a I did a modeling job with. So um thank you. Appreciate you. You just put us on. Yeah, I never heard that. Every single time I say that, I'm like, don't worry, go ahead, keep it. That's yours. That's all of ours.

SPEAKER_02 36:18

Yeah, I've never heard that one before until he started saying it. And I'm like, of course, my husband has some extra shit that's added to the back of something.

SPEAKER_00 36:25

I'm extra. Read all about it. Um, yeah, like for example, that one guy, Derek, I'm like, that guy's old. He's like 40 something. I could tell.

SPEAKER_02 36:36

He's 43.

SPEAKER_00 36:36

You know, because they they great skin regime and all that kind of stuff.

SPEAKER_02 36:41

Yeah, he has great skin.

SPEAKER_00 36:42

But if you shave and then use the electric floor, I'm like, you don't see anything coming through. I'm like, nah, that that man old.

SPEAKER_02 36:48

He doesn't want his gray hairs coming out.

SPEAKER_00 36:49

Hell no.

SPEAKER_02 36:51

Yeah, he looks great.

SPEAKER_00 36:52

But what's what's the old boy's name? Jorge?

SPEAKER_02 36:54

Jorge.

SPEAKER_00 36:54

He he has a little bit of jive talk to him, so I could tell that he was Jive talk? You know, just like kind of listen here, Jack. Just a little bit. Just a little bit. I was like, everyone's like, oh my god, he looks great for his age. I'm like, yeah, he looked his age.

SPEAKER_02 37:13

He acts his age. He doesn't look 60, he acts like he's 60.

SPEAKER_00 37:20

Because he is 60.

SPEAKER_02 37:21

Right. But what I'm saying is, like, before we knew his age, he acted that he acted old. You could tell he was older. Obviously, he has like a little bit of a salt and pepper look going on in his hair. A little bit. Okay, you don't come for Jorge.

SPEAKER_00 37:34

No, I'm just saying, like he looks great for his age.

SPEAKER_02 37:38

He looks great. I don't I didn't think that he'd be 60, but I thought he would be mid to late 50s. So it's tracks.

SPEAKER_00 37:47

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I thought he looked 60. You know when you got salt and pepper eyebrows. You know what I mean? Like, I can tell.

SPEAKER_02 37:54

Some people just have salt and pepper earlier than others.

SPEAKER_00 37:57

I know.

SPEAKER_02 37:57

They're not old.

SPEAKER_00 37:58

It's it doesn't mean that they're old, but I'm saying like it's the jive talk mix with that. Hey, man. No, I'm well, he wasn't doing all of that.

SPEAKER_02 38:07

I went to watch a show and be like, Blair was literally lying out of his ass. Maybe we can watch an episode today before you go to work. I'd love that.

SPEAKER_00 38:15

I would also like to get outside. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 38:18

You'd like to get some onset evil, is what you'd like. How do they know? She knows me so well.

SPEAKER_01 38:22

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 38:23

Um, but yeah, Age of a Tractor Shout. It is a little bit, it is given a little bit of like sugar baby, sugar baby vibes, hand in there.

SPEAKER_02 38:34

Is it sugar baby? Is it a coded sugar baby show?

SPEAKER_00 38:37

Yeah, like for example, um Ultimatum, Swing a Show. You can you can try and dress it up, reframe it.

SPEAKER_02 38:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 38:47

It's sugar baby advocacy. That's what it is. And don't get me wrong, like, as long as you have two consentant assaults, assaults, two consentant adults. I hope not assaults. Maybe one can say, unless your frontal lobe is fully developed, you know, I don't know. But all I'm saying is, as long as people are consenting, let them do their thing. If you're some Leonardo DiCaprio kind of vibe, you know what I mean? Just who like the hosts. There's like a what 20 age gap or something like that?

SPEAKER_02 39:19

Nick vial.

SPEAKER_00 39:20

Yeah, I mean to me that's a violation that for me. I personally wouldn't be doing it.

SPEAKER_02 39:26

We yeah, we've already agreed that we're not going, we don't, we couldn't go more than ten years up or down.

SPEAKER_00 39:33

Yeah, but I mean, hey, if the if they're happy, go ahead and do your thing. Do your thing, fam.

SPEAKER_02 39:38

Do your thing. Speaking of that British slang you just threw around, I finished the documentary Into the Manosphere last night.

SPEAKER_00 39:50

Okay, I didn't even get to watch it, but this is something that I've been wanting to talk about. I don't even feel like I would need to watch it to know it exactly.

SPEAKER_02 39:59

Because it was only like an hour and 20 minutes. There's no way you would wait, you know way more than I would know just by watching it for an hour and twenty minutes.

SPEAKER_00 40:05

I was in it. I was in it, I was watching his episodes. Please take the floor. Thoughts.

SPEAKER_02 40:10

If we have a boy, we will not allow them to be in the manosphere. At least not in my household.

SPEAKER_00 40:21

I mean, to be honest, we all live in a under the system of patriarchy. Yeah. So there's already a a concerted intentional effort that if and when we have a child who's a boy, we would have to be very hands-on. So, I mean, to be honest, parents are gonna be working, you know what I mean, and not a lot of them are gonna have time to like invest in their children. So sometimes, unfortunately, television raised our kids. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, I'm just saying it's a byproduct of trying to make something happen for you know your family. But what I will say is these Manafair red pill dudes, I um I've actually been like kind of like hands-offish. I haven't really said this publicly online. People behind the scenes know how I feel. Uh, but dudes in the manifere, fuck you. That's just what it really is. You grifting motherfuckers. I do not fuck with any one of you. Now make no mistake about it. I do appreciate anybody that can be like, hey, maybe you should try a different alternative to view the world. Don't just take what the world is telling you, don't be blue-pilled, you know. I mean, I get it. Me being me, I grew up believing the fantasy of like Disney and all that kind of stuff. But I'm telling you, it was all thanks to COVID, no one else was doing anything. So the rise of red pill content and just having entertainment, like that's what came up. But then if you watch this 24-7, it's no different than taking a narrative that's being sold to you from a different lens. These guys are trying to induct you into the worldview. But do you know what's even worse? They're making money off of you and they do not give a damn about you. They don't. So why the fuck should you listen to them if they don't care about you? The fuck?

SPEAKER_02 42:24

Yeah, it was um shock. I mean, it was absolutely shocking.

SPEAKER_00 42:28

Fuck these guys. Sorry, I had to say it one more time.

SPEAKER_02 42:30

The what's that guy's name? HS Tiki Talkie?

SPEAKER_00 42:33

Uh what?

SPEAKER_02 42:34

HS Tiki Talkie?

SPEAKER_00 42:35

I don't know who that is.

SPEAKER_02 42:36

He's this dude from he's this dude from England.

SPEAKER_00 42:39

He I don't claim him.

SPEAKER_02 42:41

He his dad was like a professional rugby rugby player, wasn't in his life. His mom is white and raised, dad's black, mom's white, his mom raised him, and he just basically he he knows and does it anyway, but he's like, Yeah, I don't really believe in any of the things I'm saying, but it's um what's it called? Clip farming or something, basically, where he just knows if he posts it, it will get a lot of like clicks, and so then he'll you know a lot of views, and so then he'll make money off of it. But he he's online being like, yeah, like fuck the Jews, like all this stuff, like just saying all this stuff, and and then I didn't even realize that it's such a like anti-Semitic um like movement as well, because all of them say that. Yeah, and then there's a I don't know, there's a lot of people, but anyway, that HS Tiki Talkie guy was in it a majority of the time. Um, and his mom's like, I don't agree with what he says because it'll be like, Yeah, I'm racist, I'm homophobic, I'm all these things. I don't I don't give a fuck. Like women are whatever. If you've if you have if you're not a virgin, I'm not gonna marry you. Just like crazy stuff. And I'm like, anyway, it was it's shocking that that people make money off of this kind of stuff and that people sell courses that tell people how to like talk to women or how women want to be treated, and and these guys. guys get on there with their wives, not even their wives, their girlfriends who have multiple kids with them and they're like, I like my life and I don't want to work and I just do the laundry and he he can he can have s it's one sided monogamy. He can have sex with whoever he wants and I don't it's asked, don't tell and I'm like What?

SPEAKER_00 44:18

Yeah. Um I sorry if it wasn't understood before I'm gonna say it one more time. Fuck these guys. Okay. Because they're no different than cult leaders. And they are cult leaders. To to be honest, I I did hear someone say it's not that someone can watch this um watch these kind of guys and then it's gonna radicalize them and make them turn like evil. But chances are the people that gravitate towards this content they already have some underlying yeah views are kind of like that. It's just uh a space that more galvanizes them. And I think unfortunately the only way that you can combat that is being in community with some of these people and really dragging them outside, make them touch the grass and really be like hey this is the real world I'm telling you this is this is why it's so it's such an oxymoron because you can be like red pilled and blue pilled but the unfortunate thing is they're just giving you red pill content but it's really just trading in for a different perspective. The only red pill that you can have and it's detached from all kinds of social programming and matrixes and whatnot is just being in the real world and I'm telling you these people would not be able to survive in the real world that's why they're purely online all I'm saying is this I I I feel very I feel very passionate. Do you remember when you you called me out because I was on some red make no mistake about it I was on some red pill shit okay and then Khalia is the one that checked me fucking hard because I was on some remember I was on some bullshit yeah you were on like for real for real bull bullshit but you said a couple things and I that kind of raised me and I said hmm I I said like you know because you know women usually do this or da da da da and she looked at me she's like oh I'm sorry I didn't realize that you were a woman how would you be able to speak for them and I was like I said you know what you're right you're right now I always felt like I had a an open-minded disposition open minded doesn't mean easy to be manipulated that just I'm willing to see uh different viewpoints and then make sense out of it and then see what resonates with me but I didn't realize that I was being sucked into just one particular narrative and that's what happens with everyone and I and I'm not saying anything that you pay attention to is inherently harmful but if you get one source of information from one place it's no different than just being indoctrinated into it. Yeah. Whether it's religion whether it's the news whether it's your um local sports team I don't know I'm not saying all of these things are bad but you gotta have varying different places that you can get influences from.

SPEAKER_02 47:10

Well and I just think when you live in a vacuum and everyone around you thinks the exact same way you also don't ever question any of those things which is also inherently living in the echo chamber. It's just like if you were to go to school and only take school and the things that you learn there for face value. We know that school is a bunch of bullshit they don't teach you the shit that you actually need to know and they don't tell you the real it's all propaganda. Wherever you live there's some sort of propaganda it's run by the government. So it's like you have to be able to step outside yourself and say hey maybe I was taught this thing my entire life but do I have the am I willing to examine my belief system and maybe find out that what I believe for a long time isn't actually correct.

SPEAKER_00 47:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 47:50

Because sometimes it's not and that's okay.

SPEAKER_00 47:52

And I also do recognize that when you have your whole being built off of said belief system if someone challenges it you it feels like your reality is being challenged you yourself is being challenged and it can be very uh destabilizing and you'll do anything to kind of regain that control back. I get it I understand but that's why it's better to have a community of people that are like hey I know what you've been fed your whole life may seem like the truth but I'm here to let you know that it might not actually be right but we've got you. And I feel like that's what unfortunately the manosphere gives to some men where they feel like they've just been fed a propaganda for a particular kind of reality and they're like hey I'm giving you a different choice but you know it's on some fuck shit when the reality only helps them and it doesn't really help you. That's the thing that you really have to be cognizant about. But also if it wasn't completely understood before fuck the man's like fuck these guys like you bitches real bitches out here.

SPEAKER_02 48:56

Yeah fuck them it's honestly I was just I went to my uh pedicure appointment and I was chatting with my um technician and she's like awesome she's a a a five year old but we were talking about how she tells her kid like hey you say next to me because people take like people will come take you like they take kids um I'm not gonna say the gender of her kid because I want to make sure I'm not talking like I'm protecting everyone but I think growing up as a girl there's often conversations around like hey like these are your private parts no one touches your private parts if anyone does you let us know we don't call them a cookie or something else we call them the name of what they are right because like if you start dissociating then someone can be like oh let me you know and it's like that's it's your it's your parts like we got genitalia got calm by the name um but I was telling her like I really do think that we've done a lot of boys a disservice because we don't give them the same level of protection or information as we do girls. Where it's like hey don't sit on men's laps don't sit on anyone's laps. Don't hug people that you don't want to hug because we then create these people that are like yeah sure let's hug whoever uncle so and so and then come to find out 20 years later your son was like sexually abused his whole life but didn't feel comfortable saying anything because it thought it was like not masculine or didn't you know he never had a conversation like that. Um and just like the importance of being able to have those conversations because I don't know if you heard about that private school thing that happened. Oh yeah I've seen it and it how like how the fact that kids knew to do that and what it was and how to do it just goes to show that there's something missing at home in terms of how we how they're parenting children or there's this idea that like oh we can just get away with things we can pay things off or like we can hush it and sleep under the rug because we have the funds and we have the money.

SPEAKER_00 50:42

And that goes doubly for the institution itself because there was multiple documented claims of what was going on and they said honestly we're getting this money so we're gonna turn a blind eye to it fucking disgusting. Yeah and that's what makes me as parents I'm gonna be on my kids arse 247 because the world is I'm not gonna say like I'm gonna make my kids homeschooled or anything like that. You I don't want them to be completely indoctrinated into my own beliefs also. Right, right but I have to be very intentional that they're not just getting it from one place and that also in terms of being in the community they are supported that they they are supported that they don't have to just feel like oh I can't go to these people I can't go to these people you're surrounded by love. Yeah you'll always be taken care of and that goes for both men and women you know and hopefully we can provide that kind of environment but just in case if it wasn't understood before fuck you guys real fucking talk I'm I'm not even playing it's so unfortunate.

SPEAKER_02 51:58

I mean I didn't I was uneducated but um I I started watching it and uh I couldn't stop finished it so yeah damn so you took me to a dark place.

SPEAKER_00 52:11

So woo I was about to go black pill on y'all I mean it all goes it all goes hand in hand.

SPEAKER_02 52:17

It's when you become a parent it's all those things are important and educating yourself about what is out there in the internet. I think a lot of times especially with technology as you get older it gets scarier or like you don't understand it or you're further removed from it. And I think that's when parents start to kind of allow their kids freedom on the internet and the internet was a scary place when I was a kid it's 20 million times scarier now.

SPEAKER_00 52:40

Yeah if we could go on video chats when I was a kid doing Omega and chat roulette. People are still doing it I think there's a new one no I think it's like we're done with that monkey or something like that. Monkey?

SPEAKER_02 52:52

I don't know I I think it kind of looks like Snapchat I trust I Blair is in charge of the technological technological things that all the all the locks all the passwords all that you're in charge of all that because everything's locked everything's password protected.

SPEAKER_00 53:07

To my future children hey it's mom and dad we care about your well being that whole padlock parental control it is for your benefit because there are some creeps on this internet creeps never grade A creeps and we just want to make sure you're taken care of and you can always come to us no matter what imagine we say this and they see this layer on and they're like you're a liar because you don't let us do anything. We gotta give them give them breathing yeah give them some breathing but but not too much I know all I'm tech savvy I'm not one of these old farts I promise you won't be able to use no no code words to try and get your fix.

SPEAKER_02 53:52

I'm telling you I am on your ass white on rice you can do that and I'll take care of the other um on your ass conversations what other on your ass conversations oh like procrastination and oh yeah your mother won't let you get away with it I'm so sorry she doesn't even let me get away with it the choreless yeah we're not doing allowance by the way we all live in the house my parents' premise was this we all live in the house we're all responsible for the house no one gets allowance I don't get allowance to be here as your mom vacuuming the floor why would you get allowance uh hell yes to my parents exactly uh and if you want something then you ask for it or you want to go somewhere with your friends and then we'll provide the funds.

SPEAKER_00 54:37

But we do have to like figure out some kind of system of understanding the like cause and effect in some kind of way, shape or form. I don't want to like indoctrinate them into a capitalistic mindset, you know what I mean but you need to know how to how we can talk about like entrepreneurship right in different kinds of ways. Right.

SPEAKER_02 54:56

I used to go to the park sell water in Gatorade to you guys any I think you did yeah yeah yeah. Yeah my parents had me go to Costco I would buy the Gatorade in the water I'd roll my cooler down there I would sell it and I'd make a profit I'd buy more supplies put some in savings. See what I'm talking about me I'd just be selling sugar water myself um okay I think it's time do you think I think it's time yeah it's great um next week what are you looking forward to sweetheart we get the keys to our house next week it's gonna be great it's off to the races um yeah next week I'm excited we will have a lot of things solidified I love to plan I love to be ahead of schedule and chart everything out so I'm excited for that and once one week closer to my leave I don't know shit's cool I haven't been off of school or work or basketball since I was probably like six years old I don't know I mean I'm gonna have a baby but I'm like what can we do? I'll be like mom's like out of the house 247 like we're gonna go walk over here and do this.

SPEAKER_00 56:10

I can't wait to see you as a mother I've been seeing you open up a couple of these buses and you're like this is for the baby this is this is for the baby look oh my oh you're so sweet.

SPEAKER_02 56:20

It's fun I'm so excited for you thank you yeah I'm I'm excited for this next week too we are off to the races um I'm excited to finally step into the new place really like plan out okay what what can go here what can we do over here it's gonna be an amazing time and the best part about it is I'm gonna be doing that with you it's gonna be great it's gonna be great good okay sweet all right let's go outside yes jinx and get some bowls I love you I love you so much give me a kiss let's sign off I did anything I don't want to I wanna kiss I'm gonna go back now sorry I just needed a kiss really bad I appreciate you all right thank you once again for listening to this episode of the Open Marriage podcast we will be getting a video on Apple on Spotify we started the TikTok account we got the Instagram Instagram kind of like we we gotta get it together and most importantly YouTube I am working on this I think we got got something going ahead we're gonna get that generational walk on generational trauma yeah anyway um thank you to everyone who came to our baby shower again we're not crying now we were earlier but we appreciate you so much and for those people that couldn't attend that still sent wishes andor presents we appreciate you I promise I will send old school thank you notes that's my vibe um but we want to be something a little bit special so they'll come they'll come closer to baby's due date uh and it'll be worth your while but in the meantime we love y'all I love you and uh pray for us in this 90 degree Las Vegas heat because I did not plan for this during this time. Okay anyway setting off very well done thank you sweetheart I'll see y'all later bye bye you're so cute so we didn't turn off we'll see that it this is fine yay this is fine yay