From One Night to Marriage & Baby (Our Love Story)

Happy Easter!

Blair and Khalia share how they met on Easter and turned a chance encounter into marriage and a baby on the way, while reflecting on their journey, relationship growth, and the importance of individuality through “protected time.”

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:03

No, they. I I got White Glove delivery.

SPEAKER_01 0:09

You're not gonna carry either anything either.

SPEAKER_00 0:11

Yes, I am. What are you gonna carry? Are you saying that because it's Easter?

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Yes.

SPEAKER_00 0:21

You're silly. What time is it right now?

SPEAKER_02 0:29

It is 1156. So I'll give you 30 minutes because I want to have enough time to get your footage off of your phone before I go to work.

SPEAKER_00 0:40

Great.

SPEAKER_02 0:40

So uh a 30-minute podcast episode?

SPEAKER_00 0:43

Yeah, call it quick and dirty.

SPEAKER_02 0:45

Quick and dirty? Not on this Easter. Not on this Easter Sunday.

SPEAKER_00 0:48

Not on this day of the Christ rising. You're right over there? Yeah. You look good.

SPEAKER_02 0:54

Because you dress me. You know, I think it's I think it's always been Easter tradition where mom dresses me. So thank you for keeping in one.

SPEAKER_00 1:02

What? I'm not your mom.

SPEAKER_02 1:04

Mama Cita? Welcome back to another episode of the Open Marriage Podcast Easter edition. Easter. I'm your host, Blair Edwards. This is the beautiful Calia Edwards, and we talk all things marriage, pop culture, and all that good stuff. Now, quick disclaimer. We are not in an open marriage. However, the conversations around marriage is open. So sit back, enjoy this episode. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 1:31

That was perfect.

SPEAKER_02 1:32

Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 1:33

Yes. You're really alive today, huh?

SPEAKER_02 1:42

Yeah, it's a it's a quick episode, so we gotta make sure we will like punch you with it.

SPEAKER_00 1:46

I was telling my parents how um my mom said she was listening to one of the previous episodes. Uh, I think the one where I shared the um poem I wrote for my mom when I was a child. Do you remember how it goes?

SPEAKER_02 1:55

Yeah. Um, Roses are red, violets are blue. Snow is white, and so are you.

SPEAKER_00 2:01

Yeah, sugar. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 2:02

Well, yeah, sugar's better. Yeah, it's not a diss.

SPEAKER_00 2:05

Sugar is not, I don't know. But anyway, she goes, and then I think you said something like that's a diss. And she was like, Whoa, Blair, whoa, whoa. I'm like, you have to remember something, mom. What Blair does is for virality. And my dad goes, virality. Are you dead that your kid used that word? And I'm like, virality is a new word, but anyway.

SPEAKER_02 2:20

Yeah, every I everything that we say on this podcast is to keep things alive, it's to keep things fun, light. I I have come to find out I like to um embellish a little bit. Um ultimately it's just for good fun, you know?

SPEAKER_00 2:36

Great fun.

SPEAKER_02 2:37

If you want to have a boring conversation, just talk to talk with us in person. We're boring people.

SPEAKER_00 2:41

Speak for yourself. I'm not boring.

SPEAKER_02 2:43

No, you're not boring.

SPEAKER_00 2:43

I'm just kidding, I am. Um between the two of us, I'm definitely the more boring one.

SPEAKER_02 2:46

That's a lie. That is a lie.

SPEAKER_00 2:49

I like this. Yes. I'm Mrs. Edwards.

SPEAKER_02 2:55

Godfarren. By the way, I think I'm gonna be pulling out a lot of um religious statements. A lot of conservative statements for this Easter Sunday episode. Um, sweetheart.

SPEAKER_00 3:08

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 3:09

How are you doing?

SPEAKER_00 3:10

I'm good. I'm experiencing some hiccups. Umiccups, yeah. So uh it's always a weird sensation. I don't want to so there I t I told you about the TikTok that recently was like circulating the internet where when you're pregnant and a baby has hiccups and you're like this late in your pregnancy, do you remember where you feel it?

SPEAKER_02 3:30

In your asshole?

SPEAKER_00 3:31

Yes, it's a very odd experience. You'd be puckering up over there. Inappropriate. Okay, Blair is disgusting. Anyway, so I'm experiencing a little bit of um hiccups. It's not the most exciting. A lot of these things are very interesting sensations, but you know, we're gonna embrace them because they're not always gonna be there. So uh anyway, I'm doing really fantastic. It's uh it's busy. It's busy on this side of things, and um yeah, I've I've got pelvic pressure. Uh I've got a feel like I got a P24-7, but I just sit on the toilet and two chickles come out. That's thanks to some pressure on the on the uh on the uterus, the bladder. Um it's Easter weekend. It's been busy in the city of Las Vegas. Thank the Lord we're making money. And uh see what I did there.

SPEAKER_02 4:26

I know. I've I I'm a fan.

SPEAKER_00 4:27

And um now baby's shaking my belly. This is insane. Uh you see it?

SPEAKER_02 4:33

I am yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 4:36

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 4:37

Um baby doing a mool can there.

SPEAKER_00 4:40

It's crazy.

SPEAKER_02 4:40

Um praise dots.

SPEAKER_00 4:42

It's it's going wild. And I and we're like, we're moving and grooving. I mean, we're I'm spending a lot of money that Blair has no idea I'm spending on things for the house. So just don't look at the credit card for the next couple of weeks.

SPEAKER_02 4:52

I I can throw some money too. I can give you I got five on it.

SPEAKER_00 4:55

Five, yeah. Five thousand, hopefully.

SPEAKER_02 4:58

Do you need five thousand?

SPEAKER_00 5:01

Uh I can put five thousand down. No, we don't need five thousand down. Just anyway. All is well. All is well. And we also celebrated our Meat Q anniversary a couple days ago, so that was really exciting.

SPEAKER_02 5:13

Five years ago to this day.

SPEAKER_00 5:16

305 to Ladad.

SPEAKER_02 5:18

Imagine that.

SPEAKER_00 5:19

Yeah, I can.

SPEAKER_02 5:20

You can? Because I shot your shot.

SPEAKER_00 5:23

I did.

SPEAKER_02 5:24

Give him a quick, just a quick reminder for those. Okay, so for those of you don't know that don't know, our podcast used to be synced up podcasts, and we had about eight episodes of just talking about our relationship. Now, if you haven't gone back to those eight episodes, just give a quick synopsis of um how we met our Meet Q.

SPEAKER_00 5:42

It's so funny because um so Blair came to my store yesterday and brought me this beautiful bouquet of flowers, uh, and I was in the middle of a one-on-one, so I like ran out to the floor, everyone's like, Oh my god. They didn't even see you like come in with them, but then when I was carrying them to the back of the store, they're like, Where are those flowers from? So I was like, Oh, it's from from Blair for Meet Q. And they're like, How did you guys meet? And I realized like a lot of them don't know how I met. Uh, but I think it's because uh there wasn't enough time to share this in the midst of transition to the new store versus my first store when I moved to Vegas, everyone knew you and it was a smaller team. Um long story short, I was visiting in Las Vegas, family lives out here. My parents and I drove out here, it was Easter weekend, um, and it was the day before we were gonna leave. Went to Flower Child uh in Summerlin, and I just saw this beautiful majestic man sitting outside.

SPEAKER_02 6:32

She's told about me, y'all. She's told about me.

SPEAKER_00 6:34

Yeah, it's so beautiful. And um, I yeah, I mean, listen, I I saw him, I complimented his skin because it was so beautiful. Look at his skin, it's beautiful. And he said to me, Oh, I'm blushing. And I'm like, is he choosing back? I think he's choosing this is my opportunity. So my mom said, Clea, if you're if you don't talk to him or get his number, you're gonna regret it on the drive back home. And what do you have to lose? You're never gonna see him again if he says no. And I'm like, honestly, shout out to my mom, because she's 100% correct. Took me three times to go talk to this man. Age of COVID, mask on, pulled it down so I knew I wasn't catfishing here, and um asked him for his number. After I asked him for his number and he said it was either gonna be you or me, I blacked out because I heard his British accent and saw his beautiful smile, and um that's how we ended up here five years later. Is that good?

SPEAKER_02 7:24

That was great. Thanks. That was fantastic. I I know like we only have three minutes, but we could have embellished a little bit more. I mean, but quick and dirty, quick and dirty, yeah. Cut a long story short, exactly what she said, everything that she said, but I was shooketh, I was nervous. Remember, this is covert times, and some of you might not actually know this, but I am actually really shy. Like, even you don't see my hands, but I'm holding myself because I'm just so emotionally like amped. Um, but when I saw you and you was like, Oh, you you have such beautiful skin, I said, uh my name Jeff. I was very cool of God, but I said, Thank you. Um, and you were like, Yeah, you know, I'm only in town for tonight, I'd leave tomorrow. I'm like, what are you trying to do?

SPEAKER_00 8:10

Well, and the funny part was, and this is what I told my team, is like I had never had a one-night stand ever. Uh at the time, you know, this is five years ago, I was 25. Um, and my mom told me in a conversation before I had gone to Vegas, maybe like a couple weeks before, like, Clea, you have to have stories to tell your kids. Like, live a little. My mom's always in the line that's like, live a little, like push the boundary, have a good time. And I'm like, me have a one-night stand? That's like not on brand for me.

SPEAKER_02 8:34

Shout out to your mom encouraging you to thought it up. Shout out to you need to bust it wide open every once in a while.

SPEAKER_00 8:45

She said, thought that us in a circle for one time and said, You know what? Tonight's the night.

SPEAKER_02 8:50

But yeah, I mean, after that, um, we met up later on that night, got some dinner. I now Blair ate dinner. I didn't know that. I was nervous. She was cool as a cucumber. She she was like just in the cut, slinking back in her chair. I'm like, God, this girl's so cool. I'm like, you want to have something to eat? You're like, no, thanks. Remember what you remember when I asked you? I said, you were like, oh yeah, we can we can go get dinner, maybe go to the bar. I said, oh wait, hold on a second. How old are you? Because I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. See, this is how you get caught up. You're like, I'm older than 21. I didn't ask for your ID, but I had to just play it cool.

SPEAKER_00 9:30

I was 25.

SPEAKER_02 9:31

Yeah, but and it was grown. We we talked for like how long?

SPEAKER_00 9:35

I don't know, a long ass time, maybe like two and a half hours at the restaurant.

SPEAKER_02 9:38

Just talking about everything under the sun.

SPEAKER_00 9:40

Chatting.

SPEAKER_02 9:41

Just yapping.

SPEAKER_00 9:42

Yapping. And then Blair's like, um, have you ever been around Vegas before? And I'm like, um, not really. I mean, I've come here to play basketball, and he's like, care if I show you around? And then he's so sweet, he's like, Do you mind if I drive you? Are you comfortable if I drive you my car? I'm like, this guy, is this guy, does he have a book like somewhere? Is he someone in his ear telling him what to say? This is just like too good to be true.

SPEAKER_02 10:03

I did have a book.

SPEAKER_00 10:05

The art of mac.

SPEAKER_02 10:06

The art of Mac. You can't see it. He used to be on this bookshelf. We're currently in the movement process, but back then we had books.

SPEAKER_00 10:16

Back then, five years ago, he read a book about how to Mac. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 10:20

Okay, no, no, no, no, no.

SPEAKER_00 10:22

I'm scared because if this baby in here is a man, is a boy, my husband's going to start lessons the moment the baby comes out of the womb, and it's gonna be unbeknownst to me in the room reading Art of Mackin at night.

SPEAKER_02 10:33

Nah, okay, first of all, if they're a boy or they're a girl, they're both gonna read Art of Mackinac. They're both gonna read Art of Mackin. They need to know how the game goes. Okay, also at the same time though, all of those, like, you know, as a young man and a bachelor, there are some things that you you can just can get hit to game, right? But I think when I met you and we started talking, all of the rules went out the window. Like, all of them went out the window because I there was something there was something different that was happening, you know. I mean, I really felt like, whoa, we're like connecting way too deeply, and I feel absolutely comfortable, and I feel like I can actually be myself, you know. Um, but cut long story short, took you around the city, went to the Las Vegas sign, went downtown. You were like, we are never coming back again.

SPEAKER_00 11:26

I've never gone back to Fremont since then. That was five years ago.

SPEAKER_02 11:29

Uh I was like, oh my bad. You know, and then um we hung out till like six, seven o'clock in the morning.

SPEAKER_00 11:34

And then had the audacity to ask me if I wanted to take a nap. I'm like, so you can murder me now? No.

SPEAKER_02 11:40

I was gonna hop, skip, and jump over. Well, I mean, yeah, I mean, because I got you. And your parents were still testing you, they're like, is everything okay? I was like, hey, does your parent do your parents want my an ID, like a picture of my ID?

SPEAKER_00 11:53

Like, so after I murder you, they can take it to the police?

SPEAKER_02 11:56

No, no, that's horrible.

SPEAKER_00 11:58

Just kidding. Uh, yeah, it was very sweet. We like got donuts from my parents because you insisted, and we went to Pink Box. I had never been before, obviously.

SPEAKER_02 12:06

You got not only can you charm the girl, you gotta charm the parents also, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_00 12:10

And then the last just icing on the cake, we get back to the car that happened to be at Red Rock, and as I we're gonna part ways, and it's like seven in the morning on Easter morning, and he's Christ has risen at this point, obviously. And he looks at me and he's like, You're just so beautiful. Mind if I take a picture? And I'm thinking, I have mascara crumbs down to my ninnies. I don't look cute or beautiful right now.

SPEAKER_02 12:33

You do, you did.

SPEAKER_00 12:34

That was really sweet of you, and so I obliged, but then I was like thinking about it quickly, and I was like, if I never see this man again, I need proof. Um, because I know I was gonna go home and tell everybody what just happened. So I was like, I get one too. And so we have pictures of each other.

SPEAKER_02 12:49

Um should we put them out there?

SPEAKER_00 12:51

I actually have seen the picture you took of me like one time because Blair also has this like really bad habit of taking a bunch of photos of me and then never sharing them. I think that when I turn like 50, he's gonna compile them all into an album and then provide provide them to me as a present.

SPEAKER_02 13:06

Is that what you want? I can do that.

SPEAKER_00 13:07

I no, I don't, but I just want to see them. I'm like, where are they? He's like, Oh, sorry, I'm gonna have their hard drive.

SPEAKER_02 13:12

I'm like, it's one of the reasons why I was trying to get that hard drive fixed. There's a lot of things on there.

SPEAKER_00 13:17

Of me?

SPEAKER_02 13:17

No, no, no. Luckily, not on there. Yeah, maybe, I don't know. I gotta check. But anywho, um, it was a magical time, and you know, whereas you one might think, oh, it's supposed to be a one-night stand, we might not see each other again. Um, but you literally kept in touch with me. You send voice memos, and you know, just kept in touch and started day-in-long distance. You would come over to Vegas a lot, stay with me for the weekend. I would come out to LA, stay with you for a weekend.

SPEAKER_00 13:53

In the midst of all this, players still having multiple women, but it's fine.

SPEAKER_02 13:57

A fuck boy with a conscience. I think that's what you labeled it. Um, thanks for always staying at in a mix. That's always gonna be in a mix. I didn't want to, okay? But I had to play it safe. You never know. I've had my heart broken before.

SPEAKER_00 14:10

Ladies, here's the thing don't play it safe with the right one, because it always works out in your favor.

SPEAKER_02 14:15

But how do you know who's the right one?

SPEAKER_00 14:18

Yeah, it's really cliche. But I hate to say it when you know you know.

SPEAKER_01 14:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:24

I can go into more detail, but it's like you have a gut feeling. And when you know it's not the right one, then don't stay. That's my other advice.

SPEAKER_01 14:32

I just had a gut.

SPEAKER_00 14:35

If we don't stay in the podcast, it's not a podcast episode, huh? Even you've had an appreciation for the song, huh?

SPEAKER_02 14:43

I love that song.

SPEAKER_00 14:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 14:44

That is what okay, out of that whole album, there's two songs. Oh, I can't wait to play the other song. But yeah, gut feeling is my favorite. I love her. And I love Elemate.

SPEAKER_00 14:55

Well, you don't love LMA.

SPEAKER_02 14:57

I don't know, but she got a couple bitty bucks.

SPEAKER_00 14:59

Where's her been?

SPEAKER_02 15:02

Probably like living her life. She's so accomplished, and she she did the most. So I really do. She's actually interested. No, she's not done. Hopefully, she's not done. She's probably writing for other artists, also in the meantime. Yeah, I guess. She should be enjoying herself. Anywho, um, yeah, five years later, moving into our new place. We're having a baby on the way.

SPEAKER_00 15:24

No, we're having it on the way, it is on the way. The baby is on the way, the baby will be here in seven weeks.

SPEAKER_02 15:29

Yeah, and just to think, it all came from your mom encouraging you to have a one-night stand. Imagine that.

SPEAKER_00 15:35

Easter great, right?

SPEAKER_02 15:36

Thank you, mom.

SPEAKER_00 15:37

Thanks, mom.

SPEAKER_02 15:38

Okay, cool. Uh, where were you at? We we don't have a lot of time, right? Oh my god, it's 15 minutes. That's halfway through the episode. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 15:47

It's perfect. What else do you want to talk about?

SPEAKER_02 15:50

Um, okay, Easter. Well, this time we didn't get really any Easter baskets together for one another, huh?

SPEAKER_00 15:57

Did we do that last year?

SPEAKER_02 15:58

We did.

SPEAKER_00 15:59

Oh, yeah, we did.

unknown 16:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 16:01

We got a lot of things going on.

SPEAKER_00 16:02

Yeah, and I just feel like Yeah. Like what it's one less thing we have to pack, you know? But I'll get you another basket. I'll get you a dad basket.

SPEAKER_02 16:13

I'll get you a mama basket. Um, when we have this child, at what point do we start picking them in the Easter spirit?

SPEAKER_00 16:25

I think as soon as possible. Well, because they're gonna be a whole you're basically almost a whole year old by the time the Easter rolls around next year.

SPEAKER_02 16:35

Will they even understand what's going on?

SPEAKER_00 16:37

No, they don't understand a lot of things, but you still do them.

SPEAKER_02 16:40

Oh, see, I was gonna wait until they're like five years old.

SPEAKER_00 16:42

Oh god. It's like for memory's sake. Like it's my imagine you being like, we're not celebrating birthdays or any other holidays until they're five. It's like, no, you do it because it's like the memory and the the joy and it's just like a newfound appreciation for the small things in life when you have a kid, you know? It all starts over from the very beginning, and when we don't we have no recollection of those things when we were a kid, we get to experience them with our kid.

SPEAKER_02 17:07

See, it just goes to show you that you will be the fun parent because all of that is the stuff, I'm like, mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 17:12

No, you what you'll do is I tell his TikTok and it's like this this dad, and it and he's like using a stencil, and he's like fla putting flour over the stencil so it looks like little bunny um footprints in the kitchen. That's so cute. Yeah, I'll do that. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 17:28

I mean, if uh whatever for the child. Yeah, it's fun.

SPEAKER_00 17:31

It's fun. It's it's the wonder of the world, you know? They don't they're like, oh my god, this is real, the tooth fairy is real. I'm like, yes, all this stuff is real. It's fun, it's joy.

SPEAKER_02 17:42

I always get a little scared when it comes to folklore and like imaginary gods and deities. Like, at what point do we say, Okay, by the way, sorry, little homie, but all of this is fake.

SPEAKER_00 17:55

I don't think you have to really say it.

SPEAKER_02 17:58

They just know.

SPEAKER_00 17:59

Like, I never was told like the tooth fairy isn't real. I just was like, okay, this is if you use logic, it's not realistic. No one, no fairies flying over here and putting sparkles on my face. My mom did it.

SPEAKER_02 18:12

I think I'm just scared, like, to tell our child that. Not because they wouldn't know better, but I just can only imagine them busting out their teeth in order to get money. I'm like, please don't do that.

SPEAKER_00 18:22

Do you do that?

SPEAKER_02 18:23

I don't I can't say that I didn't do that. Maybe when a teeth tooth was wiggly, I was like trying to get it out. Also, I will say something.

SPEAKER_00 18:33

I am frightened for wiggly teeth.

SPEAKER_02 18:36

You're scared of wiggly teeth? Why? Oh, yeah, that's gonna be a thing.

SPEAKER_00 18:43

I am crying because that is the scariest thing. If you think about it, like I think back when I was a kid, there's some scary shit, but when you're a kid and your tooth starts to get wiggly, like that is that's like a that's like a nightmare type of experience. And then you have to twist it. Oh my god, that's how you get out. Nah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 19:04

Nah.

SPEAKER_00 19:05

You know you can start doing like a 360 with your tooth and you just like it.

SPEAKER_02 19:08

Oh my gosh. That's why you have a nightmare. That is not good. You don't twist nothing.

SPEAKER_00 19:13

Yeah, you do.

SPEAKER_02 19:14

No, I did.

SPEAKER_00 19:15

What you do is you twist it and then you pull it and it comes up.

SPEAKER_02 19:17

No, you eat something and that's just chewing. Well, there you go.

SPEAKER_00 19:23

Yeah, any money.

SPEAKER_02 19:25

That's why you gotta learn chew your food. No, we're not twisting nothing. We're not doing we're not doing the chew string, put wrapping it around the doorknob and then shutting the door. We're not doing none of that shit. Let it fall out naturally.

SPEAKER_00 19:42

Those are the things I'm afraid of because I feel like just doing all of that.

SPEAKER_02 19:48

I'm like, yo, chill, leave that alone.

SPEAKER_00 19:50

Basically, when kids are just like wiggling their anyway, that scares me. And then what also is really funny is um I just gotta kick out of that. Um, is also when kids like take photos and they have like jack-o' lantern mouths, like that shit also just kills me because they have like one big tooth and no tooth, tiny tooth over here. Like, they just look it's like seven years old, you look crazy.

SPEAKER_02 20:13

Yeah, I don't know how I can help them out with that. Just don't smile. They they'd be roasty, you cool jack-o'-lantern.

SPEAKER_00 20:23

It's fine because every kid looks the same at seven, so it's like no one thinks twice about it. But when I look back or when I see kids in like school photos, I'm like, oh, what a terrible time.

SPEAKER_02 20:33

We're gonna train our child to smise in all of their pictures just in case, so that they understand how to we you have a brilliant smile, I have a brilliant smile, but until they can grow into the smile, they're just I can you imagine our child every time I'm like, you smile, go like this with your teeth, or go like this. They'll look great.

SPEAKER_00 20:55

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_02 20:56

My kid had it.

SPEAKER_00 20:57

I am not well. I just had I don't know why I thought about wiggly teeth. It kind of scares me. I'm gonna talk to my mom about that.

SPEAKER_02 21:04

Now I'm I understand talking about a twist and pull like it's a bop it. Like, what are you talking about?

SPEAKER_00 21:08

No, you do twist it. Um, actually, just tell us what you guys think, like if you twist your teeth, because I think that it would be important to know. Maybe it's like a British thing that you don't twist your teeth. I don't know. We're doing things for a dollar in America. Capitalism.

SPEAKER_02 21:22

A dollar?

unknown 21:23

I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 21:25

Back in my day, it used to be it was 25 cents.

SPEAKER_00 21:29

Were you born in the 1950s?

SPEAKER_02 21:31

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 21:32

No, I think I got a five 25 shillings. Like a five spot.

SPEAKER_02 21:36

A five spot? Five dollars? This is how you know this girl grew up. Privileged. Are you kidding me?

SPEAKER_00 21:43

Only child, your parents had to send out shillings. There was six of you.

SPEAKER_02 21:48

Oh, that's why they had to divide it by six?

SPEAKER_00 21:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 21:51

That makes sense.

SPEAKER_00 21:52

Well, really, so you got a nickel, because your older brother wasn't around when everyone wants to lose his teeth.

SPEAKER_02 21:56

Five pence? Is that all I'm worth to you, tooth fairy?

SPEAKER_00 21:59

You guys got Five cents, I got five dollars. Do you remember getting money under your pillow or no?

SPEAKER_02 22:03

Yeah, I remember it.

SPEAKER_00 22:04

Were you excited?

SPEAKER_02 22:05

It was a coin.

SPEAKER_00 22:06

Wait, what?

SPEAKER_02 22:08

We didn't have notes.

SPEAKER_00 22:10

Like a chocolate coin? No, like a half dollar.

SPEAKER_02 22:14

Okay, remember England.

SPEAKER_00 22:16

Okay, I don't know what the coins are.

SPEAKER_02 22:17

25 pence. See, this is why I wanted you to have a couple.

SPEAKER_00 22:21

No. What am I gonna do with those with those things?

SPEAKER_02 22:25

Do heads and tails.

SPEAKER_00 22:27

What is the actual name of they're called pens?

SPEAKER_02 22:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 22:32

You don't like pens. No, I don't.

SPEAKER_00 22:34

I don't like that. Well, so how did you know? Did you have any evidence that the 23 had come besides the money?

SPEAKER_02 22:43

No. The money is evidence. You know what I had? You had fairy dust on your face and whatnot, which is so cute. Do you know your mom really hooking you up?

SPEAKER_00 22:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 22:52

Shout out.

SPEAKER_00 22:53

That's why I didn't have to question if she was real or not. I'm like, obviously, there's evidence here. Logically, she flew over my face and her wings are up together, and they left me some sparkle dust. I can't wait for a child to just be like, yeah, this happened, and then this happened.

SPEAKER_02 23:09

I'm looking at them and then I look at you, I'm like, you really be well building for them.

SPEAKER_00 23:13

Yeah, it's exciting. I'm excited.

SPEAKER_02 23:15

That's so cute.

SPEAKER_00 23:16

Anyway, that was a lot of giggles. Thank you for that.

SPEAKER_02 23:18

That was good fun.

SPEAKER_00 23:19

Yeah, it was funny.

SPEAKER_02 23:20

I think I'm gonna have nightmares now thinking about my teeth falling out.

SPEAKER_00 23:24

I think if you have a dream about your teeth falling out, it's something it means something like good. Oh, I don't know. I don't remember what it means, but uh anyway, so yes.

SPEAKER_02 23:37

Okay. Um I keep looking at the time just to make sure that we're on schedule. What else should we do?

SPEAKER_00 23:42

Well, because last time we almost were not employed. What?

SPEAKER_02 23:45

Oh, that's normal fine.

SPEAKER_00 23:47

No, we're talking about the um social media thing.

unknown 23:49

Social media.

SPEAKER_00 23:50

Oh from last night.

SPEAKER_02 23:52

Okay, cool. Um, yeah. So did you hear about this this video of this woman recording a video of her husband?

SPEAKER_00 23:59

I didn't hear about it until last night when you sent it to me on TikTok and I was like this on the couch.

SPEAKER_02 24:03

So for those of you that don't know, there was a woman who I'm gonna try and put this video up here. There's a video of a woman who recorded herself going to the car. She came to find out her man was just sitting in the car chilling. Apparently, he might have fallen asleep, and it just seemed as though he just wanted some peace or quiet. She's like, Is your life that horrible that you don't want to come inside? And he's like, Yo, I just want some time for myself. She's like, Well, I'm coming in, I'm coming in the car. He's like, No, please don't.

SPEAKER_00 24:31

And he locked the doors.

SPEAKER_02 24:32

It was funny to me because I was thinking about like our relationship and our dynamic. I've never had to sleep in your car. Well, I've never had to have time away from you because I didn't feel like I could get that piece because you encouraged that. And you're the person that introduced that concept to me. Do you know what that can you tell the viewers what that concept is?

SPEAKER_00 24:54

What is it?

SPEAKER_02 24:55

Protected time.

SPEAKER_00 24:56

Oh, oh, I thought you meant like for yourself.

SPEAKER_02 24:59

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 24:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 25:00

Protected time. See the misconception. Oh, I came into this relationship thinking that we have to be around each other 24-7, 365, and all that kind of stuff. Until one day you were like, Have you had any protected time today? I'm like, what is protected time? You're like, Yeah, you just time for yourself. So you can do whatever you want. I said, I I can have that. You're like, Yes, you can. What do you need? You need about an hour, you want to watch some anime, you want to play some video games? I said, I can do that. You're like, please, go ahead. Oh my god. I think that's one thing that I really do appreciate about you, and you cultivate like the best kind of environment for me is making sure that we both have protected time for each other.

SPEAKER_00 25:40

Yeah. Well, and I'm an only child, so I I like to be alone. You know?

SPEAKER_02 25:47

Sounds lonely.

SPEAKER_00 25:48

Oh, it was a great time. Yeah, it's it's everyone's always like, oh my god, how was that? Oh my god, I don't know, how was it to have siblings and share your parents?

SPEAKER_02 25:57

Share your parents.

SPEAKER_00 25:58

You have trauma, probably. Um, how big is your bag? Mine's only a size carry-on that can go on the overhead bin. What about yours? Oh, two trunks full, sorry. You know, like though I that's what I want to say. I don't do that.

SPEAKER_02 26:10

Sounds fine. I feel I feel attacked. You no, I'm just gonna ignore it.

SPEAKER_00 26:14

Uh, but yeah, it's it's just important. And I think going back to some of these like dating shows, um, where people have to then come together and live in the same space, they don't know how to like get out of some under someone's armpit, and it leads to frustration and resentment because there's no time for you to just be an individual outside of the relationship. Like, you're not supposed to be with your partner 24-7. And if you want to be, and that's a joint decision, then go ahead. It might work for some people. I personally am like, we can have some space, and I love you, and I want to be able to come back together and have things to talk about. If I talk to you and with you all day long, what are we possibly talking about? We've experienced everything together, you know?

SPEAKER_02 26:58

Logically, yes, I understand what you're saying, but for some people, they might look at you like, oh, what are you talking about? Well, siamese attached at the hip, at the head, at the heart.

SPEAKER_00 27:10

No, and that's why he had to sleep in his car and lock her out.

SPEAKER_02 27:15

I'm I'm pretty sure she she went on to say, like, you know, there's there's two sides to every story, you don't know what's gonna be. I feel like she was just being facetious. I I'm not sure how honest she was actually being. Um, but even if it was a skit or whatever have you, uh, I I think that it is good for each couple, each relationship. Everyone has their own protective time so that you can have that kind of balance for yourself, that you don't have to sneak that time in. You know? I grew up I grew up with multiple siblings, but for me, my protective time was when everyone was falling asleep. I would stay up to like I mean, well, this is like middle school and high school, but at least 12-1, maybe even two o'clock in the morning, where it's just peace and quiet. I can watch as much TV, look as much dirty images as possible, and I'm like, yo, I finally have more time for myself. The trade-off is now though you're asleep in class, sleeping in class and just being tired, also being asleep behind the wheels sometimes, like it's is not good. But you know, everything would balance.

SPEAKER_00 28:21

Okay, so we're not gonna do that. Um, yeah, that lady was uh weird. That whole thing was weird and also her line of questioning of like, is your life that bad? I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa. Like, can you just maybe ask a question? Of like, she tried to be like, Can I get you anything? But then also it was like, is your life that bad? I'm like, okay, you're operating from two different places. Do you care about this person or are you upset that they're not with you inside the house sleeping? Like, are you mad that they're choosing to be away from you sleeping in their car? Instead, you can just be like, Hey, why are you in your car? I've seen some sleep. Okay, do you want to come in the house? No. Why? Because I can't get away from you. Okay, great. Finish your nap and we'll talk about this later. Like, let him be. Kind of jump in the car, then he has to lock you out. Like what?

SPEAKER_02 29:09

Maybe you needed a third space. Maybe it's just work and home, working home. His third space was his car.

SPEAKER_00 29:16

Yeah, I also don't love the idea of any black person sleeping in a car, period. Um, so I'm like, please don't sleep in your car. Like, we can make something else work in the house. Not that you're safe anywhere, but at least the house feels a little bit more appropriate. You know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, just bizarre. That was a bizarre woman, bizarre situation, bizarre TikTok.

SPEAKER_02 29:37

Yeah, and as you were saying, yeah, because they're talking about well, I guess he didn't have social media, so but he heard about it on the podcast. So guess what? You're hearing about it again, my boy. If you hear about it, we talk about you, and we want nothing but the best for you.

SPEAKER_00 29:52

Yeah, and for both parties. Oh, yeah, I'll say, and for her, hopefully, amicably. Alright, so we got things happening this week. Look at that. Yeah, we got this week.

SPEAKER_02 30:04

Next episode. Is this the last one that we're gonna be in this house?

SPEAKER_00 30:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 30:10

Is this an episode or the next episode?

SPEAKER_00 30:12

This is the one.

SPEAKER_02 30:14

Everyone, take a look around. We had a good run.

SPEAKER_00 30:19

We did.

SPEAKER_02 30:20

I'm kind of getting emotional.

SPEAKER_00 30:22

Are you?

SPEAKER_02 30:22

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 30:23

Yeah, it's kind of weird. I think once I see things everything like out of here and like off the walls, it'll feel like more for real. Right now it's like, yeah, we got boxes everywhere, but we're still here for a few more days.

SPEAKER_02 30:35

Yeah. I don't know like if we'll have the podcast, the new podcast set up ready to go by next Sunday. I don't know what it will be like.

SPEAKER_00 30:45

It might be a couple week hiatus, because we've got move and then we have we have our baby shower in California. So either way, like when we come back, we'll be in a new place and we'll have a new setup. It's gonna be real nice. Yeah, it'll take some time. Downs we haven't, we're prioritizing rooms based off of where we'll spend our time. So it won't be maybe we'll start in one place and then shift the podcast to a different room. But we'll come back eventually and bring everyone up to speed. And uh I feel like we need to start posting like more TikToks um because we're about to head into a whole new we've got a bunch of stuff happening. We've got road trips, we've got showers, we've got photo shoots, we've got appointments, we've got a move, we've got decorating, we have the nursery. There's like so much going on, you know.

SPEAKER_02 31:34

Yeah, I think also at the same time, um like I said, our first the first time we called our podcast something was Sync Top Podcast. I labeled that as season one. Then we came back with open marriage, and this is season two. I think once this baby comes through, it'll be season three, and we'll have a whole new dynamic, whole new setup, and a whole new chapter that I can't wait to bring everyone on this journey with us. Yeah, it's gonna be great.

SPEAKER_00 31:59

I'm really excited.

SPEAKER_02 32:00

Yeah, okay. Well, well, that's it. Quick, quick and dirty.

SPEAKER_00 32:05

Quick and dirty.

SPEAKER_02 32:06

Uh, thank you so much for tuning in on this episode of the Open Marriage Podcast. And I think you actually gave like a really decent sign off just now, but just wanted to put a button on it. Just say thank you. Appreciate you. Thanks for listening in. Any last remarks?

SPEAKER_00 32:22

Let us know if you wiggled your teeth and twisted them to get them out.

SPEAKER_02 32:26

And if you did, psycho box.

SPEAKER_00 32:28

That's me.

SPEAKER_02 32:29

No. Alright, room for you. Have an amazing week. Get outside, drink your water, call your family, talk to your friends, take care of yourself, please.

SPEAKER_00 32:40

Have some protected time.

SPEAKER_02 32:42

Mm hmm. Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 32:44

Happy Easter.

SPEAKER_02 32:44

Happy Easter. I love you, sweetheart.

SPEAKER_00 32:46

I love you. Bye. Bye. That was great, James. Good job.

SPEAKER_02 32:53

Great episode.

SPEAKER_00 32:54

Plenty of time to spare for you to retrieve my footage.