Death By Adulting
A podcast focused on helping you make decisions today that you won't regret tomorrow. Hosted by Dr. Steve and Megan Scheibner. The Scheibners share wisdom and advice regarding marriage, parenting, dating, communication and even sex.
Death By Adulting
Embracing the Chaos: Doctor's Appointments, Screen Time Sanity, and Stress-Free Self-Care
Ever feel completely overwhelmed by the intricate demands of adulting? We’ve got you covered! In this episode of Death by Adulting, we kick things off with essential tips for scheduling that dreaded doctor’s appointment—because let’s face it, no one should avoid taking care of their health. From knowing your birth date and symptoms to storing your insurance details on your phone, we’ve compiled everything you need to make this task easier. Personal anecdotes about our eight children will make you chuckle and highlight why it’s vital to take charge of your health responsibilities.
Next, we discuss how to stay sane by minding your own business and managing your social media usage. Ever caught yourself getting stressed over online arguments? We delve into how limiting screen time and focusing on your own life can bring peace. With wisdom from 1 Thessalonians 4:11, we'll explore how controlling your schedule and learning to say "no" purposefully can help you avoid unnecessary stress. Practical advice like turning off your phone at night and enjoying real-world activities will give you actionable steps to live a healthier life.
Lastly, we stress the importance of self-care and nurturing positive relationships. Imagine a world where you schedule unplanned, restful time for yourself each week—sounds dreamy, right? We recommend at least one unscheduled night per week for adults, and a daily "rest hour" for kids, to recharge and rejuvenate. Evaluating your friendships and setting boundaries, especially with family as you transition from obedience to honoring your parents, are key topics we tackle. And as we gear up for our final stress series episode, we promise to return with practical solutions to help you tackle adulting with confidence. Tune in—you won’t want to miss it!
On this episode of Death by Adulting. What real men and real women have in common with your mother. How to make a doctor's appointment. Next, how FOMO fear of missing out is ruining our social lives. Our top rules to help declutter life, followed by Megan's best advice for how not to stress out about your next family get-together. Then an absolutely new segment Everything I need to know in life. I learn from the Princess Bride. Finally, megan's boss adulting tip of the day, plus much more Roll the intro. I wish that I knew what.
Speaker 2:I know now when I was younger, don't you wish you could know for sure that the decisions you're making today would turn out okay tomorrow? Well, welcome to Death by Adulting. I'm your host, megan Scheibner, with my co-host, dr Steve Scheibner. You can think of us as your on-demand old farts. You know, when it comes to adulting, it doesn't matter if it's dating, marriage, parenting, finances, communication or even sex. You don't have to like it, you just have to do it. And if you just have to do it, why not do it? Well, that's what we're here for to help you make decisions today that you'll be happy about tomorrow. Well, here we are, episode 10 of Death by Adulting, and in our last episode we talked about how making phone calls is one of those nagging little stresses that really is unavoidable, but it weighs on us Episode nine.
Speaker 1:we talked about that.
Speaker 2:Episode nine we talked about that. Yeah, exploitable, but it it weighs on us. Episode nine we talked episode nine, we talked about it, yeah, and so, um, this episode we're going to talk about another one of those kind of nagging little stresses and the more you know, the more successful you can be, and so it's this one making a doctor's appointment. Now we have a lot of young adults that are related to us. And I can tell you that every one of them absolutely will do everything in their power to avoid making a doctor's appointment.
Speaker 1:Have we ever told our death by adulting audience exactly how many children we have?
Speaker 2:Probably, but we should remind them.
Speaker 1:Yes, we have eight children, eight children four boys, four girls girls right, and one kind of quasi semi adopted ish one so yes, nine, yeah one real adopted one out of the eight. I'm answering all your questions right now you're going. Is that same wife?
Speaker 2:yes, same wife, but all birth children.
Speaker 1:Do you have any twins in there?
Speaker 2:okay, those are all the answers no seven birth children.
Speaker 1:The baby machine broke on number seven and then we adopted number eight. That answers, answers the question Wasn't seven enough Apparently?
Speaker 2:not, apparently not. Okay, yeah, we'll talk about the adopted one in another episode. Yes, yeah, so, um, so they hate making doctor's appointments. In fact, they will not go to the doctor before they'll make a doctor's appointment, or they'll ask me to do it, and, um, you know what?
Speaker 1:I'm at the age, and they're at the age, that my answer is no, right so? You know, talking about adulting. Yes, how many. Well, all of them at some point, when they were off on their own in their adult world. You know, and had told us a gazillion times Mom, dad, I'm an adult.
Speaker 2:You have to treat me like an adult. Now I got it.
Speaker 1:They would call you up and they'd say can you make a doctor's appointment for me?
Speaker 2:I think I have strep. You should go to the doctor. How do I make an appointment?
Speaker 1:All right. So let's say, you're in that place in life and you're thinking I've never really made my own doctor's appointment. How do you do it?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so just get yourself prepared. Okay, it's not that hard and you might not even have to make a phone call anymore. My last doctor appointment I just did it all online, so you didn't have to talk to a person. But there are some things you need to know to make a doctor's appointment. Number one is this your birth date, right, the year and the day you were born.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Make your list. Okay, you might want to write this down. Yeah, make your list. Okay. Number one your birthday.
Speaker 2:Second, is this your symptoms? You can't just say I'm sick. You have to be specific. I have a sore throat, my ears are clogged, whatever it is, you have to know your symptoms. Third is this you need to know your insurance company and your group number. It's on your card. If you don't have a card, ask your mom or dad for a picture if you're still on their insurance. But you have to know your insurance company and your group number. Now, didn't you have something you wanted to say about this?
Speaker 1:Well, sure, take a picture of all these things and put them on your phone, which you carry with you all the time, and make a separate file for all, like your important documents. Take a picture of the front and the back of your driver's license. Uh, if you've got a passport, take a picture of your passport. If you've got a birth certificate, take a picture of that. All of the um license plates on your cars most of us only have one or two, but you know, take a picture of that license, because sometime you're going to be at the dmv and they're going to say what's your lady?
Speaker 1:I don't know yeah, register the group card, the number off the insurance card. All of those things should all be kept in one place and you can build a separate album in your in your photo, uh stash yeah, and then, when you have them, you'll feel prepared.
Speaker 2:um, the next thing is this you need to know what pharmacy they should call your medicine into. When they say to you, where should I send your prescriptions, you need to know where it is, what the address, probably, so that you're prepared with an answer. And then, finally, you need to know if your vaccinations are up to date. So it's not hard, you just have to be prepared, right.
Speaker 1:And all that stuff is available somewhere online, especially the vaccination when how many shots you got over the years? Yeah, uh, and you know it's okay, there's no crime or no fault to ask mom or dad to help you with that, because they're the ones that kind of took care of that over the years. But once you become an adult now you kind of take over that stuff so you don't have to call them every time and go did I get diphtheria shot did. Did I get smallpox. You ought to know that stuff.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly. So there you go. Now you know how to make a phone call from episode nine and to make a doctor's appointment, from episode 10.
Speaker 1:Yes, and I've made a lot of doctor's appointments over the years, and the older you get, the more you make. But you know, good, mom and dad, mom and dad did that stuff for us when we were little, yeah, but yeah, I can't remember the transition or the handoff to all of that. But here we go. Yes, megan, just gave you how to do that. So how would you sum that up If you were to say that you know? Just in like a bullet point.
Speaker 2:So find a way to be prepared and I think in your photo album and your phone is a great way, Um, but write down these things that you need to know when you make a doctor's appointment. It'll make it go much more smoothly and it'll take away some of that anxiety you have about making the appointment. So know your birth date, know your symptoms, know your insurance company and the group number, know your pharmacy and make sure you know that your vaccinations are up to date. Perfect, Perfect.
Speaker 1:Great advice, all right.
Speaker 2:So last episode, episode nine, we talked about unavoidable stress, things that are kind of common to all of us, right? You know, politics and finances and the economy, all those types of things.
Speaker 2:This week we want to talk about avoidable stresses, things that, quite honestly, we muddle into sometimes. Sometimes we fall into the same trap of stress over and over again because of our poor decision making processes. But we want to talk about some of those and some of the solutions to them as we go along. Because these stresses, you got nobody to blame for them but yourself, right?
Speaker 1:correct things that you could avoid, but you don't right.
Speaker 2:Right, because we get oh, I was gonna say do you want to get us started on this?
Speaker 1:yeah, avoidable stresses, and the first one that comes to mind for me is meddling in either somebody else's business. The expression is you stuck your nose in somebody else's tent all right, you got involved in somebody else's business. Maybe it expression is you stuck your nose in somebody else's tent All right, you got involved in somebody else's business. Maybe it's even on social media. You felt compelled to comment or send somebody a message or to have something to say in this long thread of whatever. Heaven forbid that you're a troll in somebody else's life.
Speaker 1:But meddling in general is something that just is. It's avoidable stress and you wonder why the stress love in your life has ratcheted up so much. Well, some of it kind of is at your own hand. So again, you can avoid making personal comments or going on social media and having to have something to say. Not everybody, you don't have to have something to say. Even if you don't like what's being done, you don't have to weigh in on it. All right. Number two is this limit social media and you know that's just kind of a general catchall for lowering the stress level in your life. Social media is so invasive in our lives that we don't even realize it If you don't have the function turned on on your phone. This is going to seem counterintuitive. That tells you how much time you spend on your phone. You ought to spend a little bit of time on your phone turning that on.
Speaker 1:Yeah it's really eye-opening it's very convicting and very revealing how much time you spend on it or if you go to you know again. You know moms that have children and they're tired at the end of the day. The only time they get to get online is at 10 o'clock at night, and so they go to facebook or they go to instagram or whatever, and they go to these different places and you look up and it's 2 30 in the morning. Four and a half hours went by and you had no idea how much time went by.
Speaker 2:Uh, it just flies yeah, so in episode nine we we talked about the what the heck. That notification about screen time is one of the what the heck's for me because I'm I'm offended when it says my screen time is up and I know it was an audio book, because I'm like I'm enlarging my mind, how dare you? Or maps. If I went somewhere and I had to use maps for a couple hours, I'm like, how dare you? So there's, that's a good point.
Speaker 1:So the fair and lovely. Mrs Scheibner has pointed out something If you listen to an audio book or you use maps to get someplace, it's going to say that your screen time was through the roof. Well, you can factor those things out, but don't factor too much out?
Speaker 2:Tell it no.
Speaker 1:Tell it no, all right, we'll hear the fair and lovely somewhere else in the house going what the heck, here we go. Everybody runs in what's wrong mom so offended.
Speaker 1:He said I spent 23 hours a day on social media. Yeah, oh. He said I spent 23 hours a day on social media. Yeah, limiting social media. And having said that, don't keep that phone on by your bed at night. Turn it off. Put the do not disturb on. If you're waking up periodically during the night taking texts and sending texts, you're not getting a good sleep at all. There's no running, you're stressed out. Stay in your lane, bro. That's the next one. Just stay in your lane, bro. That's the next one. It's just stay in your lane. That's. That's the modern application of don't stick your nose in somebody else's tent. You know, maybe it's none of your business, and boy, it took me a lot of years to realize that that just was none of my business. I every day has enough stress of its own, yep, enough troubles of its own. I don't need to go looking for somebody else's trouble, just stay in your lane.
Speaker 2:One of our grandsons says it so beautifully. He says that's none of my business. Yeah, it's none of your business. None of my business and none of your business.
Speaker 1:Right, so just kind of stay in your lane. 1 Thessalonians 4.11, great New Testament verse. It says make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, mind your own business and work with your hands. And again that goes back to go out and touch something real. Go out and hug a tree if you want to, or touch the grass or go take a hike.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Walk your dog Right, Go, swat some flies, you know whatever. Go out and do something real out in nature and get away from the screen and the other things that are kind of stressing you out.
Speaker 2:You know what one of the things I would encourage you if you have a, if you're married, if you're dating, um, ask your, ask your partner am I characterized by? Did you know? Kind of comments like if, if they say yeah, you're always gossiping about someone or sharing someone else's business or you get all wound up about this happening to someone else. Sometimes they're a better barometer of how much you're meddling than you are yourself.
Speaker 1:Listen to yourself, say you know how many times did you say political figure?
Speaker 2:a said this yeah, political figure b didn't say that you know and you're, you're constantly going through that sort of mentality yeah, if you're not a solution person, you shouldn't be a talk about it person like we said in episode nine, will it make a difference in 100 years, right?
Speaker 2:probably not right all right on to the next avoidable stress overcrowded schedules. You need to own your schedule, not let your schedule own you, which means that you have to learn how to say purposeful no's. It's okay to say purposeful no's, it's okay to say no. In fact, sometimes it's preferable to say no. I've told young moms this a lot. I never regretted saying no to something. If I thought through something and I said no, that's not something we're going to participate in, I never lost a minute sleep over it. But there were a lot of times that I said yes to things that became a burden that I, because I didn't slow down and think is this something I should be involved in?
Speaker 2:There's another great Bible verse for this. First Corinthians 10, 23 says everything is permissible, but not all things are profitable. Admissible, but not all things are profitable. So you know, I can, I could do this thing, I could add it to my schedule. Um, but should I add it to my schedule and again, ask your, ask your husband, ask your wife, ask your boyfriend, ask your girlfriend, ask your roommate does my schedule seem too full? Because if you don't have space in your schedule for one, god will orchestrate an emergency. Yeah, right To mess the schedule up, because, because time is not God, god is God.
Speaker 1:Let me, can I make a comment on that. That's brilliant the way you said that. It's almost like you haven't printed on a t-shirt, you know it's. It's very succinct and to the point. And I think, uh, I taught a leadership class for years and one of the things I taught was what I call the new virtue these days, and the new virtue is this it's not whether you should or shouldn't do something, it's whether you can or can't do something. Is it legal? Will I get away with it? Will I get caught? And if I do get caught, how much trouble will I get into and how much will it cost me to get out of that trouble?
Speaker 1:Almost every decision that's made on the political realm and every other level you can think of is the can and can't. But really the most satisfying decisions in life are the should and shouldn't questions of life. They have a moral component to them and when you make decisions on that moral level with should and shouldn't, all things are permissible but not all things are profitable. And that little tidbit right there, that little great Bible verse, will help you make some of the most satisfying life-changing decisions you'll ever make Big ones, medium ones, small ones.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and we joke about it. We joke about our kids, we joke about ourselves having FOMO, which is fear of missing out, which sounds funny, but really it's a problem. That fear of missing out doesn't give us any time for rest or um peace or meditation. Talking to the Lord, we fill our schedules so full that all we do is run here and there we never get re-energized at all.
Speaker 1:um, you're kind of always running on empty, yeah right, exactly right, yeah, exactly, all right.
Speaker 2:Oh, I have the next one too. Um, the next avoidable stress is a lack of routine and order. And those aren't dirty words, I promise they're not dirty words. I'm not talking about clock routine like, oh, 12, 15, I do this 12, 22, I do this 1222, I do this 1214. You know, that's not what I'm talking about. But a regular routine to your life, order to your day, order to your home. A lack of order causes chaotic thinking. When there's too much clutter, when your schedule is too full, when there's too many people around all the time, that type of chaos causes anxiety and stress. And so do you have order and routine. Don't press the snooze button. That's a simple discipline. A simple discipline because you press the snooze button, you never really fall back asleep. You lay there thinking, oh, it's gonna go off any minute, right? So just get up when your alarm goes off, start your day. Look at your home, look at your life. Are they cluttered? Nobody else can fix that for you, but you can. That's an avoidable stress.
Speaker 1:It is the next. For me, avoidable stress is it's too people-y out there. It's too people-y out there, and there's times where now it depends on whether you're an introvert or an extrovert. Extroverts tend to get energized by people-y situations. They don't mind going into a room and shaking hands with everybody. A good politician is probably going to be an extrovert. An introvert gets drained by that. They can do it, but they don't like it.
Speaker 1:They sit in the car outside and they go that probably shouldn't go in me, they don't really want me in there, and then that probably shouldn't go in me. You know they don't really want me in there and they think about turning around and going back. Right, if you're that person, then you're an introvert and the people-y thing is going to drain you. So you got to know a little bit of who you are. But there's times in life to kind of evaluate how many people are going to be at this thing. And you know I'm an airline pilot and so in the summer everybody comes out to travel.
Speaker 1:I was just in the airport yesterday and I was dodging people left and right and I was tired. I had gotten up at midnight to drive to work, to go to fly all the way from North Carolina to Los Angeles. I waited around for three hours for my return flight. I flew all the way back. I get off the airplane, I'm just dog tired and then it's peopley out there. So did it cause stress? I could feel my whole back and my shoulders just tensing up, uh, and I thought I need to go find a hot tub. I need to go home and get in a hot tub or something like that, or take a good hot shower and just kind of let try to wash off the the stress from my life. So, two people, you don't have to go to disney in august. Can we tell them what?
Speaker 2:my new license plate is going to say what's it going to say? Yeah, it's going to say E-W-W-P-P-L. Ooh people.
Speaker 1:Megan is an introvert, if you didn't know that. She doesn't get energized by those things, but she does a good job with them, as you all know. All right, just because you can get together, should you? Just because somebody says, hey, we're going out tonight, or your friends are all going out for the fifth night in a row, and just because you can, because you don't have anything else scheduled, should you? Again, that's that moral decision of I can or can't, or should or shouldn't. You've got to be making the decisions on that should or shouldn't thing.
Speaker 2:And it's okay to do that.
Speaker 1:It's okay and it's okay to do that.
Speaker 2:It's okay. It's okay, in fact.
Speaker 1:Wisdom says you have to take care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally or spiritually and you know what if your friends put pressure on you like, well, what are you doing? You're just gonna sit around. You're thinking, you're just gonna listen to an audiobook or watch tv time, you know? Uh-huh, there's some. There ought to be at least one night a week. This is universal, whether you're single, you're married, you have children or your children are grown and gone. There ought to be at least one night a week, and probably more, where you look at each other or you look at yourself in the mirror and you go yeah, I don't know what I'm going to do tonight I don't have anything planned.
Speaker 1:Great, that's awesome. Read a book, watch the movie you've been wanting to watch, have a little quiet time, meditate for a little bit. You don't have to have every minute planned. Those times are extremely re-energizing and extremely refreshing. You ought to have at least, I would think, a couple of nights a week where you don't have anything planned.
Speaker 2:Yeah, can I throw in a quick parenting tip? Yeah, um, cause this is true for our kids as well. And and first of all, kids should take naps. But when they're when they're past that nap age especially those of you who have many children it's really wise to separate them for a good hour every afternoon from each other, because they need to get refueled and be unpeopled for a little bit. It will help them play better, it will help them get along better, it'll help you get along better with your children. But everybody does need that break during the day, where we're not talking to anyone else, we're not touching anyone else, we're just kind of bringing it all down.
Speaker 1:Well, when the kids were little enough nap age, they always got a nap every afternoon, when they were beyond nap age, they had room time.
Speaker 2:A rest hour. A rest hour, right, that's what I remember, that's what we called it rest hour and they'd have to read a book or play with their toys, but they were separate from each other. They didn't. There wasn't two kids in a room.
Speaker 1:know, we had a lot of kids and I and I would say, if you're going to institute a rest hour, which is a great idea for you and the kids, don't put them in there with the ipad yeah, no, no, no no right. Have them read a book, have them use their imagination. Some building blocks do something that's healthy for their brain and you'd be surprised.
Speaker 2:Some of them will just rest they'll just rest you know again. The introverts in your house need that downtime, and if they don't ever get it, they're they're running behind all day.
Speaker 1:So my next way to avoid avoidable stress is to uh, what asks the question what fruit is coming from this relationship? Uh, or this friendship? Uh, you, we've all had friends that are kind of a downer and they're always negative. And you're thinking to yourself every time I get together with this person, it's just nothing but negativity, and now I've become sour, I've become negative, or I find myself, when I'm not with them, being like them, and so there might not be a lot of fruit from that relationship. Maybe it's a very fruitful relationship. This person is encouraging you, they're lifting you up, they're inspiring you to do things. Spend more time with that person. You need to evaluate the kind of what. I don't want you to be selfish about this, but not every dynamic is a good dynamic.
Speaker 2:And we're not good for everyone either.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:It's not just that a friendship might not be good for me. There's people that I'm probably not a good friendship for them because of what I bring out in them.
Speaker 1:Well, I remember having this conversation with all of our kids, because most all of them are married at this point and when they found their person, there was a series of people that they had dated before they finally found the person. Yeah, and we would. Would as they were getting older. We'd have those really serious conversations, dad, mom, what do you think? You know, I just say, well, thanks for asking me and including me on this. You know, the feeling was they were kind of looking at that person and evaluating the relationship and going I don't know, I just don't feel right about this. But she's a lovely girl or he's a terrific guy and you can be with a lovely person, right, but the two of you, maybe, are not meant to be, and that's what we would say we like you and we like him.
Speaker 2:We don't like you and him, the two of you together.
Speaker 1:It's not working. You're not encouraging. I was thinking. The last person I dated before we met and got married was a lovely gal and she loved the Lord and we had great conversations, but it just wasn't right. Nothing wrong with her, nothing wrong with me. We weren't meant to be. Yeah, why? Because of the, the magic, the spark. All right, is that a little bit of vomit in the back of your throat? Okay, sorry about that yeah, yeah, all right, yeah, so what freaks coming from the friendship all right, good, that's really good.
Speaker 2:All right, let me um, let me kind of wrap up this segment with a really big one. And, and in episode nine we said sometimes family is unavoidable stress. But you know what? Sometimes family is avoidable stress as well.
Speaker 2:And one of the things about being an adult is that you change the relationship, especially with your parents, where you're not in a relationship of obedience anymore, you're in a relationship of honoring them and and those look starkly different. And so if the relationship is you have to come for Thanksgiving because we're telling you you have to, no, you don't. Or if, um, if, when you are with your siblings or your family, it's all negative, maybe you're the only Christian in the bunch. It's okay to make wise decisions about the time you're going to spend together. Just because you're related doesn't mean you have to be involved in every family activity. Now, part of honoring is finding ways you can be involved, but you're not at the beck and call of other people and as an adult, you have the freedom to say no, no, we're not going to come to that. That's not something our family wants to be involved in, that's not something I want to be involved in. Whatever it is, you can respectfully and in a very honoring way say no.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah I agree. I agree and be careful about giving your two cents worth at that point. But you know, you don't sometimes you don't have to give a whole bunch of explanation it is kind of like the very first one you said with the meddling.
Speaker 2:Just because people are family doesn't mean you get to meddle in their business either. So, um, maybe you are the only christian in your family or you feel like you're maybe a little more sanctified Christian than the rest of the family. You need to be asked into that conversation. You can't invite yourself in and say, hey, let me tell you what I think, right.
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Speaker 2:All right, perfect. Well, we're on to uh, a new segment. Do you want to introduce this I?
Speaker 1:do, because I want to write a book on this segment and we're gonna. This is probably book research for us, but I everything I needed to know in life. I learned from the princess bride, all right, that that old movie, uh, that's probably your parents watched, but you can still rent it or download it within a dweeb, and the most quotable movie, I think, of all time, is the princess bride do you remember how we found the princess bride?
Speaker 1:I do I, you know we were. This is back in the day. I hate to do this to you, but we had one, sorry you're gonna have to endure one boomer story we had little kids and we and that was back when blockbuster was around and you had to go to the video store and get a vhs tape and, uh, we wanted to watch cinderella with the kids and we went and we got the Cinderella box and you rented it for three days at a time Three days, yep you get the three-day rental and we brought it home, we opened it up and it was a princess movie, but it wasn't Cinderella.
Speaker 2:Little did we know it was the princess bride, like what is this?
Speaker 1:And so well.
Speaker 2:But it was snowing, it was snowing, it was snowing. We couldn't take it back.
Speaker 1:So we stuck it in the machine and we watched it. Did we watch it twice that first night?
Speaker 2:We might have. We might have, we watched it like five times over the next three days what?
Speaker 1:We kept watching it, we re-readed it, watched it for like eight days in a row, we invited friends over. Friends over. You know, this is the best movie ever honestly, it became our barometer.
Speaker 2:Yes, if we invited friends over and they didn't like it, we cut them off yeah, we cut them off.
Speaker 1:You're not our friend if you don't like the princess bride you, I unfriend you everything I needed to know in life I learned from the princess bride and we. We shared one last week, but here's one for this week the one this week is when, uh, prince humperdinck says try ruling the world someday. That's a great line it is a great try ruling the world someday?
Speaker 1:and? And how do you avoid, uh, stresses that are that you can avoid? Well, don't try to rule the world someday. Right again, every day has enough stress of its own. Pay attention to your own issues and don't try to solve everybody else's problem. The person who rules the world whoever that is, I guess can take on all of those stresses all at once. Probably not you and probably not me. So the notion of try ruling the world someday was quoted in that movie of boy. Life is stressful.
Speaker 2:I'm exhausted. You think you got it bad.
Speaker 1:I'm ruling the world, and that also goes to the interpersonal relationship side of trying to one up the other person all the time. Right, get together with a group of middle school boys, right, and they're always trying to one up each other on whatever. The worst thing is, try ruling the world someday. Try ruling the world someday. So, try ruling the world someday. And here's kind of the thought on that.
Speaker 1:There are some things in life that I think are too heavy to carry. It depends on where you are in life, but they're too heavy. They weren't meant to be carried by you or anybody else for that matter. World events, politics, a lot of those things. Do I need to get involved in politics? Yeah, do I have an opinion? Absolutely. Do I do my part? Sure, do I vote? Absolutely? But do I carry that stuff around all the time and let it just weigh me down and kind of debilitate me? No, they're too heavy to carry Because many times they're just problem oriented and not solution.
Speaker 1:Or you're not talking about that in a minute, all right, they're gossipy as well. If you carry around gossip, other people come up to you and you've got that friend or friends. They go. Can I tell you about so-and-so. Did you hear the thing and they want to give you that. And then you lean in and everybody's talking about somebody else. Many times talk radio or whatever you've got set up in your youtube feed is very much like that. Hopefully this show is not gossipy. That's part of our aim here is to not. You know. Let's tell you about the latest political intrigue that happened today. You know there's thousands of people doing that. That's fine. We're trying to be solution oriented here, not problem oriented. And then media that creates problems but they don't have any solutions. There's people that that's what they do. They've got a million, two million, five million subscribers. All they do is create problems, not solutions. You might want to think about how much time you spend in those kind of places. Don't take on the things that aren't yours to carry, even with our friends.
Speaker 2:I can't't fix a friend who has cancer. I can't fix that problem for them. I can pray for them, I can help them carry their load, but I can't carry it for them. I can listen to them.
Speaker 1:I can serve them, I can do things for them, but I can't carry that Right. I can't carry that. It's not yours to carry. So don't take on things that aren't yours to carry.
Speaker 2:Not my monkey not my circus, that might be another segment.
Speaker 1:We do some other time. But you know what? There's a lot of things that fall into the category of it. Hey, guess what? You know what, sir? That's not my monkey and that's not my circus.
Speaker 2:All right, try ruling the world someday.
Speaker 1:Now it's time for Meg's boss adulting. Tip of the day, meg.
Speaker 2:All right, here we go. So the adults that you really want to be around, the adults that you like to be around, are adults who continue learning, Think about it. People who have varied interests. They're always exploring new things. They're discovering new things, they're reading about new things, and so my adult boss tip of the day is find something new to learn about. Become an expert on something I just said to Steve recently. I said you know what I want to start to study World War II, because I know a lot about World War II. I had a history minor in college, but, man, there's so much more to know, and so make your mind grow. The adults who and this is going to be a little pointed but just sit around playing video games or just sit around on social media, have nothing to offer anyone. They are just those people who meddle in other people's business or with the gaming thing. It's uh. They have nothing of value to offer. So be a learner, be a lifelong learner, but start today.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that's a, that's a great uh boss adult tip of the day. Um, can I give you my boss adult tip that? Go with yours If you want to learn about world war two. Uh, there's a and this. I don't get anything back for this but uh, mark felton productions. Oh yeah, just go to youtube and type in mark felton with an f, mark felton productions. Uh, he's got a couple million subscribers, subscribe, hit the notification bell on his channel because he puts out videos probably three or four times a week. They're excellent. They're all about world war ii, world war ii, some sort of interesting issue that came up with it, and and they're and he's extremely well researched. Yeah, and it's not. This is not for nerds or for geeks. You don't have to know anything about that and he's going to educate you and it's very, very good stuff yeah, he's.
Speaker 2:I would call him an evidence archaeologist so he's not digging in the, but he's digging in the archives of things that have gone on, and he does it in a really really interesting way yeah. Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's true. Excellent, okay, very good. So it's time to wrap up.
Speaker 2:Okay For episode 10.
Speaker 1:Let me tease you with this though, meg Next time you still got stresses in your life, all right, we have got answers and we're going to come back next time. We're going to wrap up this whole series on stress with some real, concrete answers for the issues that you're dealing with.
Speaker 2:All right, steve, I can't wait. Well, this has been Death by Adulting, and I'm your host, megan Scheibner. Remember, when it comes to adulting, what doesn't kill you Just makes you tired.