Q&A: We Answer Your Questions

Join hosts Diane and Leigh Ann for this fun episode as they answer listener submitted questions. Dive in as they cover topics like parenting including tough topics like discipline and managing the impacts of social media. They also answer your questions on grief, adult friendships, and maintaining a healthy marriage. Diane and Leigh Ann will share their insights gained from their decades of experience while maintaining a prayerful and well grounded mindset. 

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00;00;00;00 - 00;00;23;10
Diane
you have to create date nights. You have to create time that you spend together, outside of your work, outside of your house. And they don't have to cost a lot either. You know, these are fun and creative things. Walks in the park, going to a movie, you know, and sometimes they if you, you know, are recently married and maybe it's trying to find out what's it something new that you can do together.

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Diane
What's a new hobby that you want to do?

00;00;29;22 - 00;00;39;01
Diane
Hello friends. Welcome back to the Well-Grounded podcast. And we are so excited to join you again. This is a wonderful episode that we've worked hard on on our content.

00;00;39;01 - 00;01;00;11
Diane
And we just want to say hello to you and introduce ourselves. If this is your first time listening, we've got a lot of episodes you can go back and listen to, so you can go and, check that out on all of our platforms. But, just to introduce who we are, I am Diane and I am Leigh Ann, and we are two lifelong friend sharing life over coffee and conversations.

00;01;00;11 - 00;01;22;17
Diane
And we are just excited to come to you today on our next topic on our episode list. And we are going to be doing a question and answer session. We, about three weeks ago or so, we kind of, talked about, questions and answers from our listeners, and we did that for a coffee giveaway. So check that out on Instagram some time.

00;01;22;17 - 00;01;48;11
Diane
We always do those little coffee giveaways, and we put together a list of our questions. And we're going to provide the best possible answers today. Well I don't know if the best possible answers. Yes, yes. So but before we do that, we are going to go into our latte moment today and cheers. Today I want to give a shout out to my good friend, our good friend Judy.

00;01;48;21 - 00;02;07;00
Diane
She gave me this, as an idea. It's called a London Fog latte. And I am going to tell you this is actually not coffee. It's actually tea. So another tea recipe. We want to change it up a little bit. We want to make some fun with this. And it's very simple as again, that's what I need.

00;02;07;00 - 00;02;26;00
Diane
I need simple recipes. So you have tea, you have a little bit of lavender sirup if you want that. You have honey, you have milk that you froth and I put a little cinnamon on top, but you can do other things on top. But it is definitely delicious. And I don't know if it's nutritious, but it is definitely fun.

00;02;26;02 - 00;02;45;17
Diane
And possibly I mean, cinnamon is good for you, they say. I mean, you can't go wrong. Yes. Milk. Good for you. I think that's good. I think that's good. So and I know so before we begin, we just really wanted to say a little disclaimer that, you know, with these questions, we just kind of have thought about, you know, what we wanted to share with you.

00;02;45;17 - 00;03;08;01
Diane
And by all means, we are not experts. But we did really enjoy that. You guys had some great ideas and questions for us.

Leigh Ann
So I just want to say I feel like the best approach that we can take with us is being careful. Yeah, sure. And to really come at this from our experience from, walking through coffee.

00;03;08;01 - 00;03;29;21
Leigh Ann
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And some of the things that have worked, some things that haven't worked. And so a lot of it is just what did you do. Yeah. That the whole concept of this with the coffee conversation. Yeah. Just goes to that. It does. Yeah.

Diane
Hey, and let's just tell our listeners to like what is our age ranges of our kids because some of the, some of our listeners are new.

00;03;29;21 - 00;03;57;19
Leigh Ann
So they might not know that from when we first started our season. We have our youngest is 17 and we had to, his two big sisters are 21 and 26. Yes, yes. So we have those basically adult kids now, like our 17 year old is super independent. Yeah. Making his own schedule. Yeah. And we're really in more of that advisory role that.

00;03;57;22 - 00;04;15;04
Leigh Ann
Yes. Coaching. I think that's a good word to say. Yeah. They, every single thing, you know, and knowing what being told this is what you're doing when and all that. Yeah. Yeah. We're just mapping. Well and you know he's a senior in high school so he's going to be moving on soon and doing things too. So yeah.

00;04;15;07 - 00;04;35;14
Diane
Yeah. So my kids we have four and they range from I'll go from the top down. Yeah. That's the way I remember them. And we have a 23 year old, a 21 year old, 19 year old and a 15 year old. And so I have three girls, and then Ethan is the caboose, which is our only son.

00;04;35;14 - 00;05;01;21
Diane
So it's a it's a lot of fun. So, like you said, we do have quite a few years between us, for parenting. So. And that's kind of where this whole conversation came about. You know, we said we do have some, life experiences that have given us some good. I wouldn't say wisdom yet. Maybe not old enough to say wisdom, but, you know, we definitely feel like it's, given us some, some opportunities to share with other people.

00;05;01;23 - 00;05;23;18
Diane
And that's what we want to do today.

Leigh Ann
And some of this is also from ministry. Yeah. And from talking to other people. Yeah. It's these are all questions that, relate to our own, children in our own families. But yeah, we have friends in this season. We have, yeah. Friends who have younger children. Yeah. You have older children.

00;05;23;18 - 00;05;48;07
Leigh Ann
And so we're just always talking. Yeah, yeah. We just want to. Yeah. Do. Well. And, and the best thing you can do is to share information. You know, if something works for you, share it, share it with a friend, you know, don't. Yeah. Be generous. Yeah.

Diane
And then when something doesn't necessarily work, share that too. Because then you can tell people as well that that did not work.

00;05;48;10 - 00;06;02;00
Diane
Yeah. Let's not do that again. So I know but let's focus on the past. Yes. So one of our first questions, that we'll put up there is about discipline.

00;06;02;00 - 00;06;08;20
Diane
Someone asked us the best ways to show it and teach it and live it to our children, toddlers to grownups.

00;06;08;20 - 00;06;14;04
Diane
That's a big question. Bing bang boom. Starting out with the big one, right?

00;06;14;28 - 00;06;38;27
Diane
I did not put these in any sort of order, so we did. We started out with the big one. Yes, yes. That's good. Yeah, it is kind of fun. Well, I will just share. And I know it's not very trendy right now, but when my kids were younger. Because if you think about it, my 23 year old when she was young, which was many years ago, we did use a book called Baby Wise and that was, you know, just a great parenting technique.

00;06;38;27 - 00;06;58;20
Diane
We really loved it. There's goods and bads about it. And, you know, if you if you wanted to look into that, it's still around. You can still research it. But for me, what I needed at that time was structure. We did have a busy life. We have businesses, we have parents, we had things going on, and I just needed that structure and that discipline.

00;06;58;20 - 00;07;25;22
Diane
Technique and discipline, just gave that to us. So it was something that I used, right.

Leigh Ann
And I, I will say we also with our oldest, we put that book album. You ask us about this. Yeah. Wonderful sweet training. Yeah. Of scheduling thing. And we loved it. Yeah. It worked really well for my husband and I. And then our second baby, we did the book and pretended we never heard of it.

00;07;25;25 - 00;07;47;29
Leigh Ann
He was like, I'm not doing that. This is not going to work. Yeah, yeah. So that's how it is. Wisdom. Any book idea that isn't working for you. Yeah. To say, you know, it's not about making everybody conform to that. Yes. Like, does this make sense for us? Yeah. For us. So we also love that. Yeah. The older version is called Growing Kids God's Way.

00;07;48;01 - 00;08;08;15
Leigh Ann
Yes. It is a lot of structure and yeah, critique I will say taking it to an extreme. Yeah. Stick with it. Right. Yes. Good idea. Yeah. And saying hey how does this apply. But we had to drink from it. Yes. Yeah. Schedule the play time. Independent play. Yes. Really it was a sweet time I, I think I enjoy it.

00;08;08;17 - 00;08;13;13
Diane
Yeah. Yeah it I would agree with that. And I think you know

00;08;13;13 - 00;08;32;07
Diane
when you hear the word discipline sometimes that really scares people because a lot of people have a negative connotation with discipline. They think they've had a negative experience with discipline and discipline to me, structure. And so it did not mean that there was a negative piece about it.

00;08;32;12 - 00;08;56;11
Leigh Ann
It doesn't just mean yes. It's not about a punishment. Yeah, yeah. Having good bad. Yeah I mean good like you said the structure. Yeah. But also like saying, you know, you know, deny myself something not necessarily punitive. Yeah. Well and I think of the fruit of the spirit self-control. You know, sometimes discipline is about self-control. And,

00;08;56;11 - 00;08;59;00
Leigh Ann
you know, my kids love me when I use that word.

00;08;59;01 - 00;09;29;01
Diane
You know, they they don't they don't really love that. I get a lot of eye rolls with that. Yeah. Yeah. So that training cycle of Christ. Yes. Yeah. And the one other thing last, last on that one is that be persistent and be, corrective, but be loving and kind, but realize that all that you do when they're little will definitely pay off for when they're bigger.

00;09;29;09 - 00;09;50;26
Diane
And so sometimes you might feel as a mom and even as a parent, that you're being really hard in the beginning with them. But I will speak from experience, especially having the girls and having a son, that it does help when they're older, so that even though you feel like you probably are being a little harsh when they're younger, that really does help in the end.

00;09;51;03 - 00;10;11;28
Leigh Ann
Yeah, able to say just like high school teacher. Yeah. Starts off the beginning the year very strict and things. Yeah. And then you get to know them and you kind of see like my husband took very seriously that verse about not exasperating your children and not pushing them so hard. Yeah. More of them than they could. Yeah. Deliver on.

00;10;12;03 - 00;10;35;10
Leigh Ann
Yeah. Where's the balance. We have high standards for you. We expect you. Yeah. You do your best. We expect you to obey. Yeah. Listen and respect your parents. Honor your mother and daughter. But also they're a child. Yeah. Are they too tired. Sure. We get sets realize the humanness of things. Yeah. Yeah too much. They're old.

00;10;35;10 - 00;10;56;27
Leigh Ann
Who's been out all day long. Yeah, yeah. So anyway so that's all. It's all out of love. Yes, yes. So, the next one is one that I also wanted you to take. Is that we had a question from a listener that was about loss. Like how how do we deal with loss as a family, especially for your children?

00;10;56;27 - 00;11;22;26
Diane
Yeah. Some experience with. Yeah. So, you know, and I, I'm, you know, thankful to share about this, but, over ten years ago, I lost my dad, and that was to cancer. And then, just a year ago, my mom passed away. And so I did. You know, our kids have had to deal with that. And it it was a absolutely amazing, process to watch all of us go through.

00;11;22;26 - 00;11;54;00
Diane
And I would really give credit to the hospice organization in that we had, they they just helped us give great resources to our kids. So as things were happening and as as things were progressing, they would definitely come in and talk to the kids. They would help about things. And so I would encourage anyone that if you are dealing with that, if you can have, you know, to resource your local hospice organization, if you also, like your church, you have a pastor that you want to talk to or a counselor.

00;11;54;06 - 00;12;16;01
Diane
Most everybody, when it comes to grief or just dealing with that will be very helpful. The one thing that was really special for our kids that the hospice organization did was they gave them. And so when my dad passed away, the kids were much younger, and they gave them each a memory book. And this memory book was really neat because they could write down, you know, it said, you know, what did grandpa like to do here?

00;12;16;01 - 00;12;35;16
Diane
What did he like to do here? And they could make this memory book. And it was a real comfort to them to have that, and things now that when my mom passed away last year and, you know, they're older and things they did, they kind of done their own things. But, one of the other things to a hospice hospice organization will do also is what's called a memory bear.

00;12;35;19 - 00;12;54;29
Diane
And they will take clothing from the person and they will create a bear out of that clothing. So especially if you have really young children, that's a really sweet keepsake that they can have. So yeah. And I think the biggest thing for me with dealing with any sort of grief is just to talk openly about it. Yeah.

00;12;55;17 - 00;13;13;15
Diane
And what I've learned is that grief comes and goes. It comes in waves and you just have to kind of let it come. Don't suppress it. Don't try to push it away. And just, you know, my kids have seen me have good days and bad days, and that's okay. They need to see that because I do miss my mom.

00;13;13;15 - 00;13;33;24
Diane
I do miss seeing her and talking with her and things. And so it's, you know, I think so that's don't make it seem like it's a private matter. You know, I think it really do keep it on the surface. And I, I would just very quickly add that it's an opportunity, grief as an opportunity to learn and as a family instead of push away from each other.

00;13;33;24 - 00;13;56;24
Leigh Ann
Yeah. And so you may you may want to like I don't love crying in front of my kids, about things and having that vulnerability. Yeah. Worry about me. Yeah. There's also that, like, come around each other, share each other. And that's something you can involve very young children. Yeah. Yeah. Moving through that and just expecting it's going to land differently.

00;13;56;26 - 00;14;19;17
Leigh Ann
Yes. Yeah. Not great.

Diane
And I think just encouraging them no matter what the age child is to just make a photo book, make a journal, make something where they can process through those memories. And the more that they can process through those, they'll remember more of the good times. Like my kids saw my mom progressing her cancer disease.

00;14;19;17 - 00;14;43;09
Diane
And that's hard because she went from really fun Mimi to really sick Mimi. And that was really hard. But just keep those fun memories alive, you know, talking about them and remembering, you know, that's why we take so many pictures. You know, it's a great thing to be able to go back and look at and one day that somebody may be like, I don't want to look at that today, but another day they'll be like, yeah, yeah, yeah.

00;14;43;11 - 00;14;58;03
Diane
All right. Question three came from, another listener. And it was about creating and keeping meaningful friendships as adults. So I'll let you kind of talk about that.

00;14;58;05 - 00;15;23;22
Leigh Ann
Yes. So a little throwback to that. We have spent quite a bit of time. Yeah. And we do recommend that I will say, two words to, to focus on. Yeah. Yes. As adults, time as children. Yeah. Abilities are the biggest threat. It can be someone that you adore spending time with. And if you're only getting to hang out with them once a year.

00;15;23;25 - 00;15;47;25
Leigh Ann
Yeah, build on that. But it's still worth it. Yeah. And we are here to. Yeah. The season where we were driving everybody around all the time. Yeah. You, you asked me. Yes. Yeah. It's hard on kids. Yes.

Diane
You know and that does sometimes you know it's like you get to see each other four times a year.

00;15;47;25 - 00;16;08;16
Leigh Ann
It seems, you know like around a holiday or a birthday or something. Yeah, yeah. But to also just say, hey, when was the last time like, yeah, go and do a quick assessment. Yeah. But really seriously we do talk about. Yeah. So we encourage you go back and watch those. Yes. Thank you for that. Yeah. Thank you.

00;16;08;19 - 00;16;23;01
Diane
All right. Next one goes back to you. It's about how to teach our children the CTS principle. Someone asked that and how to discern between a completely thinking sweetly moment versus a consider the source situation. So

00;16;23;01 - 00;16;33;04
Leigh Ann
when my mom taught me and that was my. I just want to say thank you for the question, Wendy, because I. Yeah.

00;16;33;07 - 00;16;55;04
Leigh Ann
So, as a codeword in the throes of middle school and high school female drama and. Yeah, getting your feelings hurt, being on edge, emotionally, being hormonal. Yeah. I my mom was always really big into her cute slogans and acronyms. Yeah, yeah.

00;16;55;04 - 00;17;06;05
Leigh Ann
What we would talk about is consider that source. So if somebody is coming after you and trying to, drag you down or hurt your feelings or something like that.

00;17;06;05 - 00;17;19;28
Leigh Ann
Yeah, that consider where that's coming from. Is this from somebody who actually is a close friend? Enough cut to share this. Just kind of. Yeah. That you need to learn how to process that. Yeah. Keep distance there.

00;17;19;28 - 00;17;32;15
Leigh Ann
So, one thing that I was, was a believer in high school and was able to do that, and having, having my mom just kind of keep reminding me that my source was in the Lord.

00;17;33;06 - 00;18;01;01
Leigh Ann
Not necessarily. Everybody else was coming. Yeah, yeah. So giving them kind of keeping that in perspective and pushing that back. So considering the source of where that's coming from, is it coming from jealousy, is it coming from. Yeah. Just meanness or competition or. Yeah, or something like that. It was meant to give me compassion for people, but it was also that, you know, a little quick way to tell myself, like, just focus on the good and focus on.

00;18;01;01 - 00;18;24;12
Leigh Ann
Yeah. Thank you. That's great. That's good. All right. All right. The next question was about asking us to talk about navigating the impact of social media on, young adults, keeping a positive nothing, nothing like a serious topic or anything trendy, trendy and.

00;18;24;15 - 00;18;37;14
Leigh Ann
Yeah. Yeah, right. Let's take it to the mall. Let's take it to the mall. Yeah. Let's go. Yes. Or go buy plants or.

00;18;37;17 - 00;19;02;00
Diane
Well, I think that, that question, you know, does stir up a lot. And having three girls, and most of them, they kind of were teenagers at the same time. It was it was quite challenging. You know, in my household, the one thing that I will definitely say is from there's a four year span, between my oldest and my third daughter.

00;19;02;00 - 00;19;31;24
Diane
So, the amount of social media, the amount of things that were going on, that are just available to them increased exponentially. So I really feel like that, that, you have to think about that when you are looking at social media standards and social media trends, that how much is out there. So when you're when you say something that happened to one daughter or something that happened to your son, way back when is it going to be the same as it is today?

00;19;31;24 - 00;20;01;10
Leigh Ann
So I do know that that's a that's a big thing that I've had to realize. Right. And that it was like a two dimensional, like watching TV on a screen. Yeah. The addictiveness. Yes. The bombardment. Yeah. An algorithm that's being created. Yeah. Social media platforms have changed. Yes. Yeah. devolved like they've gotten worse. Yeah, yeah. But I, I agree, I just really do feel like from the first time we handed.

00;20;01;13 - 00;20;23;05
Leigh Ann
Yeah. And even though we set boundaries. Oh, yeah, we had, you know, turning phones. Yeah. Making sure that, we knew everybody, have that policy as well. Like, if they have it, you have it. Yes. One of yours. Yes as well. And that's not always fun. Like, you have all the social media. Oh yeah. You're like, I don't want to be.

00;20;23;07 - 00;20;47;03
Diane
And when you say when they have it, like, if they have Snapchat, you have Snapchat. If they have Instagram, you have Instagram. And it's a big commitment as a parent because, you know, I did not want to get those apps and be kind of sucked into that. And, you know, but if my if it was going to be a positive experience for my, my child, then I figured, okay, well, I kind of have to bite the bullet and do it, and, and things not.

00;20;47;07 - 00;21;15;01
Leigh Ann
Yeah. Getting it encouraging. Yeah. A young. No no no that it. And being knowledgeable. Yeah. That's the secret to that. Yeah. Able to you know who are their friends. What's the pattern. Yeah. Of this child. Are they able to handle that. Yeah it can anybody. Totally. Yeah. Yeah. Are they able to you know, step away. I know we both have two others that have said I'm going to fast.

00;21;15;03 - 00;21;40;19
Leigh Ann
Yes. Yeah. This app, which actually I find quite admirable because they will do that for even a month at a time or things. And I just think that is a great, a great thing to do. Yeah. Let other platforms go there. Yeah. You know, it's sort of spiraling into some bad situation. So I know that's kind of a broad answer for that, but, one of the things we just want to make sure that we put in putting boundaries and.

00;21;40;22 - 00;21;59;22
Leigh Ann
Yeah, from the beginning. Yeah. Makes it easier to monitor that later. If you just say, hey, there you go. Good luck with everything. And then. Yeah, later, you're like, I got to get all this back. Yeah. If you're able to do that ahead, And say we are. Yeah. Communicate with you. We want you to have the tools that you need.

00;21;59;22 - 00;22;20;15
Leigh Ann
Yeah. In that's world. But we're not going to be of the world. Yeah. Make sure that real life is real life. Yeah. Life is cut. And I think right now with what's out there with AI generated things, what's out there is we have to put they have we have to help our kids understand that it is hard to know what is real and what is not.

00;22;20;18 - 00;22;39;27
Diane
And these, you know, computer generated things are very clever and it's very hard to actually know. So it even goes back to the CTS, you know, consider the source. You know, if you see something. You know, I remember my mom used to say, if it's if it's too good to be true, it's too good to be true. You know, like it still holds true today.

00;22;39;27 - 00;23;02;08
Diane
You know. And so sometimes when it looks really exciting and good out there, like, is it really a true thing? And so we just really have to kind of always have that boundary. We've talked to about like notifications. You don't have to have them turned on. I mean, I've told my kids when they were younger that they have to don't put them on because there's you don't have to be notified every time someone like something or comments.

00;23;02;10 - 00;23;23;24
Leigh Ann
Is that addictive? Yes. Yeah. Buzzing you. Yeah is what's it what's circling. And what is so damaging to them. Yeah. Develop neurological development. Yeah. So understanding that there's just a really big I feel like Gen Z Gen and Alpha are really in a push back on this. Yeah. You know, we want this to not run our lives.

00;23;23;24 - 00;23;47;29
Diane
Yeah. It snowballed. It did. And I think so kind of to summarize that we had we threw out a lot of a lot of information. There is just boundaries and knowledge. And you with there on it, you have to be on it, you know, just to be aware of what they're seeing. You know, I know there was many times I did phone checks at night, our phones were kept downstairs.

00;23;48;13 - 00;24;10;21
Diane
They didn't have them in their rooms at night, when they were younger, for sure. You know, middle school aged and things as they get older and they grow into that responsibility that changes. But it's, it's good to be always be aware of what they're on and check in. Yeah. And to be normal. Yeah. My husband and my son had had a standing Tuesday night social media check.

00;24;11;07 - 00;24;31;24
Leigh Ann
And that wasn't like snooping through the phone necessarily. That was like, hey, how's it going? Yeah. How's your week going? And we would sit and do a little assessment like, let's look at how many, how many new people did you. Yeah, yeah. Very, very hard on. Do you know. Yeah. Person four is well you're following that.

00;24;31;24 - 00;25;01;16
Diane
You don't. Yeah. And I would do those I would take their list of followers and things and I would actually say, if you do not know that person personally, we don't need to be following them, you know, or they don't certainly don't need to follow you, you know, they don't need to know your business. So, you know, it's really good to just every so often take that time you're doing our 20 something kids will tell you, their friends will tell us every time a parent tries to intervene, even if they're not solving the whole situation.

00;25;01;18 - 00;25;26;24
Leigh Ann
We appreciated that. Yeah, we may have pushed back. We may have been mad in the moment, but the older that they got, they realized they weren't alone. Facing. Yeah, the whole thing. Yeah. So like somebody said you're starting conversations that. Yeah come back and finish. Yeah definitely. It's a good thing. Yeah. There's a lot to that a lot to that could probably do a whole episode.

00;25;26;24 - 00;25;58;16
Diane
But we appreciate that question for sure. Leanne's going to mention and talk about this next question, which is ways to spend time with aging grandparents and relatives. She's going to share about that a little bit.

Leigh Ann
Yes. I just can't emphasize the priority. It's it's at all possible. I did a lot of Road Warrior stuff. Yeah, live in out of state from both sets of grandparents that when my kids were young, I was to them that they would have regular access to.

00;25;58;19 - 00;26;22;03
Leigh Ann
Yeah. And my in-laws to have that access to my kids and vice versa. And so really just wanting to make sure that this is a priority. Yeah. Something that we're communicating. Yeah. But as they're up to date. Yeah. Very important. Yeah. Not like reacquainting or. Yeah. Thanksgiving. Christmas. Yes. You've had that to take as much as possible.

00;26;22;05 - 00;26;52;01
Leigh Ann
And there is a change of. Yeah. Now where my girls are calling my mom. Yeah. And I'm not in. Yeah I have a separate. That's amazing. Yeah. Just the text and as on my grandparents. Willing to text that they're willing to meet the Korean kids where they are and that. Yeah. When they get older. Yeah. You have the control over that as a young parent to really make that as connected as you can.

00;26;52;03 - 00;27;14;10
Leigh Ann
Yeah. Yeah. So whatever we can do to control that. So I did a lot of a lot of Road Warrior and yeah, it's great. And I did all of that because I think it is very important to to make that intentionality. Yeah. I want to just do. Yeah, sure. Yeah. I mean, I'm going to ask you to answer it, and then I'm going to tell you that this was going to be.

00;27;14;17 - 00;27;35;26
Leigh Ann
So we have a couple great questions. We'll be doing this again soon. We'll do. Yeah. We can do is in stories. Yeah. More. Yeah I was on Instagram. Well grounded podcast on Instagram. Yeah. So we just want to make sure that, you know, we get a good sampling of some of the questions. Yes. So one of them is on, date night and marriage.

00;27;35;29 - 00;27;56;27
Leigh Ann
Yeah. Which we have a whole episode. Yes. As well. So you want to make sure you watch that. What do you what's a way to keep dating? Yeah. When someone's gets married. Yeah. There's a lot of jokes about. Oh, well, you're married now. They're not going to try anymore. Yes. Yeah. Kind of negativity about it and the joke about it.

00;27;56;27 - 00;28;12;25
Leigh Ann
But what are some good hints that you could give like newly married. Yeah. To keep that dating.

Diane
And I think the I think the question is great because I think when you do get newly married, you know, you've just come through that season of dating and you're like, well, what does that look like to date your husband now?

00;28;12;25 - 00;28;41;12
Diane
I mean, that's just kind of a weird concept. Well, I really feel like it's essential. You know, you have to create date nights. You have to create time that you spend together, outside of your work, outside of your house. And they don't have to cost a lot either. You know, these are fun and creative things. Walks in the park, going to a movie, you know, and sometimes they if you, you know, are recently married and maybe it's trying to find out what's it something new that you can do together.

00;28;41;12 - 00;28;43;08
Diane
What's a new hobby that you want to do?

00;28;43;08 - 00;29;04;04
Diane
One idea that I wanted to share was about having, like, a date night jar where you just kind of each of you maybe put 5 or 6 things in that jar, and then when it's date night, you just pull one out and it's a random thing. And if you know, you guys each have something in there, then both people get to pick from it, and it's just a fun idea to just kind of make it make it new and fun.

00;29;04;07 - 00;29;30;21
Leigh Ann
Yes yes yes yes yes. You don't have a great, awesome plan like yeah you can. Yeah. Have those couch dates times. Yeah. Years of. Oh yeah. Yes. And a lot of just kids are in bed. Make it a priority. Yeah. You just don't get on. Yeah, yeah. Together. Pick an activity. You're going to do. Yeah. You can.

00;29;30;24 - 00;29;55;00
Diane
And I think that, you just hinted on the whole phone thing, you know, that sometimes it's so easy that that's a way we all decompress. You know, we kind of go into the scroll and and, you know, to see what's out there, but, you know, take that time, make the eye contact, think about things and what also is kind of fun on a date night, especially if you're newly married once you get your wedding photos back is to go and look back at your wedding photos.

00;29;55;00 - 00;30;13;27
Diane
And you kind of remember the day because honestly, it is a blur. Like you get back from the wedding and you're just like, what? What happened? So when those wedding photos come back and you can look at your wedding video and things like that, I mean, every anniversary, that's something we've done. So we've done that 26, almost 27 times.

00;30;13;29 - 00;30;37;27
Diane
And, you know, it's it. My husband sometimes is like, really? Again? And I'm like, yeah, really? Again. Yes. And it's actually funny because we bring back some funny memories because like, do you remember when that picture happened? That was really funny time. So it really does. You know, make it, make it special. But I think, you know, some people date night can be once a week, some people can be once a month.

00;30;37;27 - 00;30;43;04
Diane
You have to just kind of see what works with your schedules. It changes. Yeah. And it changes. Definitely.

00;30;43;04 - 00;30;59;26
Leigh Ann
Definitely. You're in a season. Yeah a great. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. That should go. Yes. Because you may hit a dry spell. Yeah. There's not good options. Yeah. You know finances. Well yeah. Something you have an opportunity for that. And you say, hey, let's make this work.

00;30;59;27 - 00;31;05;28
Leigh Ann
Yeah. Give can be an hour. Yeah. Run an errand together and come back. Yeah. Anything you can do.

00;31;05;28 - 00;31;27;04
Leigh Ann
I remember, last thing we got. Yeah, yeah. That's fine. Yeah. Instagram stories for these. Like, I just was going to say when our oldest became the biggest. Yes, it was a big day. Yes. I was going to say B be aware that that day comes and it is a sweet spot.

00;31;27;06 - 00;31;49;03
Leigh Ann
It's really fun there. And and you do. Yes. Yes, definitely. Thank you for saying yeah we'll be doing this again. Yeah. We just wanted to get you all.

Diane
Yeah. I think, you know, it was a lot of fun to, to get that interaction on, Instagram. And so, you know, just be checking back for next time and, you know, look for those, answers to some of the other questions.

00;31;49;03 - 00;32;12;02
Diane
And I know we really appreciate the the listener support for sure. So also, but before we close out one verse we just did want to share, is from first Thessalonians 511 and it's about therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. And we just felt like that verse discovers all of these questions just to encourage each other.

00;32;12;02 - 00;32;32;13
Diane
I mean, that's what we need to do as mothers, as, as friends, and sisters, we just really need to make sure we encourage each other so as, yes, people better than he signed up. Absolutely. There needs to be a whole episode. Probably, but one. So, yeah. Just just make sure that you receive this blessing.

00;32;32;13 - 00;32;47;18
Leigh Ann
so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith, that you may be rooted, grounded in last three. Yes. And be refreshed. Be encouraged and stay well grounded.