129. Organizing for Single Moms (and those who feel like one) - Part Three

In this third and final part of the series, I focus on "health and stress" as part of being a single mom. We talk about organizing time, where to put fitness on your list of priorities, and how to work towards alleviating stress so that you don't end up in the ER, like I did last year. Organizing for Single Moms (and those who feel like one) isn't just about making things look pretty, but functional as well. That also includes figuring out what makes sense to you - for your health and not just your closet.

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So, as we wrap up this series for single moms, I just want to say if you've made it this far, hopefully I have given you some advice that you have implemented, and hopefully it has made a difference in your daily stress overall worry of what you're doing and how you're parenting. I know I haven't necessarily given parenting advice, but that's something that I was more comfortable doing when I was a little bit earlier on in the process because I would do things that worked for me. And then, you know, maybe my cousin would ask me for advice. And I'm like, well, you absolutely have to do this. It's the only thing that's gonna work. And a lot of that came from things that I had tried and maybe even spent money on. And so I was very adamant. I'm like, you definitely don't want to do this because you're just gonna be wasting your time. You're just gonna be wasting your money. And then I realized later that there are other people who are trying things and they would find that something worked for them that maybe it didn't work for me. And I think that's one of the biggest things about parenting that we don't realize until we're further along in the process is that we can be 100% sure that the way we're parenting is the best way. Or we may think that we have the best idea for somebody. But I really want everyone who is listening this to know that I'm not always right, even though I've done this for a long time, and I am a very organized person. And I have seen how a lot of other people parent and organize. Being a single parent is very, very unique. It sounds like there's a lot of people out there that are dealing with this, and there are, but I've also found that a lot of people who end up being single parents aren't single for very long. Or maybe they do have a lot of help from family, or maybe they are in a situation where a lot of their bills are taken care of, a lot of their worry as far as groceries and bills being paid. There are many, many parenting situations out there. And all I can say is that at the end of the day, everything you've heard in this podcast, in this series, can definitely be customized to your situation. And again, I'm just scratching the surface with this series. There are so many different scenarios that we can talk about and we'll talk about. As far as specific organizing, like your closet or your kitchen, those types of things I've covered in so many other episodes that you can certainly go listen to those and come up with ideas as far as your refrigerator or your garage or your playroom. The reason I wanted to do an organizing for single moms specifically and not talk about a lot of those things is because telling you how to organize a mess, I don't think is very helpful. My philosophy is the answer is always less. That's gonna be my book that comes out next summer. And so I really want to push for single moms that you focus on having less and doing less while you're trying to do everything yourself. Because it is very, very difficult to do everything by yourself, let alone try to deal with a lot of stuff. So one thing I haven't really said in this series is try to get rid of as much stuff as you possibly can, because I've said that in a lot of other episodes. But before we start this episode, I just want to say if you can really, really focus on living in a smaller space so you don't have as much to clean, getting rid of a lot of clothes that don't fit you anymore. If you're like one size off, that's different. If you're like, well, I really love these jeans and all I have to do is get down one size and they'll fit, then that's fine. Keep those. If you're like, hey, these are jeans that I wore before I gave birth, they're three sizes too small right now. I would consider letting those go. And then I would really try to organize items based on season. And then if you're going through a season where maybe you're not working as much and you do have some cute workout fits that you know you are going to get back to, I would put those in storage. I would try to put everything out of sight, out of mind that you know that you either really, really want to keep or you have to keep, but it's not part of your daily routine. And if you can get those into a guest room or into a storage unit or into a basement or attic, as long as you are properly storing them in weathertight totes, then I say it's fine to keep them. Let's just act like they don't exist right now so that you can focus on yourself and your child and the things that really matter. Now, in this part three episode, I really want to focus on health and stress. Fitness is part of this, but it's almost gonna be like a grayed out part of a triangle. Okay. So if we think about the triangle as health, stress, and fitness, that fitness part, whatever part of the triangle it's on, maybe it's gonna be written in gray instead of black. And maybe that part of the triangle, maybe those lines are gonna be a little bit lighter because it matters, but it's not as important. Fitness certainly is part of health and it's part of keeping your stress level down. But this is not the time to go compete like I did. That was something I did two years in a row. I had done it before. Okay. I had done fitness pretty much my whole life, and then I got pregnant, and then I had my child, and then it took me a really, really long time to get back into my regular clothes. And then once his father and I split up, I wasn't really dating as much in the beginning. And I noticed that whenever he would go with his dad, I'm like, I really want to go to the gym. And so that's what I did. I spent a lot of my free time going to the gym and working out. And then once I did that, I was like, I would really like to compete again. And a lot of what that solved for me was more of, I guess, the loneliness. And it gave me a goal. So I'm not saying that you can't go work out, I'm not saying that you can't try to compete. But I did it two years in a row. And then when COVID hit, I think that's when I realized that yeah, like that that was a really good goal. I did it the first year, and then I decided to keep improving on all of that effort. And then I competed a second year. But when I stepped off stage that second year, I was like, okay, I'm not dating anyone. So there's no one in the audience to greet me. My child is with his father. I think I'm just gonna go get something to eat and go home. And when I got home, it was like, yeah, I mean, that was an accomplishment. I'm glad I did it. But I also kind of felt like it was more stressful than what it was worth. Now, when I was younger, it wasn't that big of a deal. I didn't have kids. I would get up, go to the gym, go to work, get off work, go to the gym, go home. And I did that until, you know, competition day. And then competition day, my current boyfriend and I would go to dinner, and maybe the next few days we would go travel somewhere or go to a movie or go get ice cream. And so I just feel like if you're not already in that world and you're a parent, sometimes it can really take over. And I know that a lot of you, especially new parents, are wanting to get down to a certain weight. And yes, that's important, but it shouldn't become your entire life, especially if you are a newly single parent. When you're a new single parent, the biggest things to focus on are how can I set up my household and my life so that I have the least amount of stress because being a single parent is stressful. I know some of you got to that point because you chose to be single after maybe years of being in a relationship didn't work out. Maybe you got divorced. I know some of you didn't choose it. The other partner said, I don't think that we should do this. I think we should just co-parent. Whatever your situation is, doing everything on your own in your own household can be stressful. Now, for me, it was stressful, but it was also better. It was better for everyone in the situation. I was already doing a lot on my own. So I really had to focus on increasing the financial piece because I already had the household set up the way that I wanted. And we actually stayed in that rental when we split up. So his dad went and got another place. We stayed there. So I didn't have to worry right away as far as moving and setting up things a certain way. I already had them set up. It was just more of now how am I going to structure everything so that I can work more and make more money? And of course, there's lots of ways you could do that. If you're not already working, then a lot of your focus has to go towards working, especially if you're not getting a large amount of child support or if you're not getting alimony. I was never married, so that wasn't even a factor for us. And I was already working, and so I really just wanted to ramp that up. And that was what I did. But there comes a time where you really, really have to look at your health and your stress level. Those are the two things that I think single moms deal with the most because fitness is a little bit easier to work in, right? You can go on a walk with your child, you can push the stroller around, you can get an inexpensive gym membership, or like at our gym, there's a kids area. And our gym is kind of expensive. So what I do to help my stress level is every year you can take four months off of your gym membership without losing it. And so every year I block off four months and I say, okay, we're gonna go do something else, which we do have a little gym in our building and we do have a pool. And so over the summer, we just take a break from our gym, and that allows me to afford it so that when school starts back up again, I've got classes I can go back to at the gym. When he gets out of school, he can go work out with me. That has helped my stress level because I do enjoy going to that gym. I've gone to that gym forever, and it didn't always used to be so expensive. So for me, it's not really an option to go find another gym because I know that I've tried every gym out there. I mean, when you're competing, you try out a lot of gyms because you're like, well, maybe this will be easier to get to, or maybe I'll save some money, or my friends go there. And so with the health and the stress part, you don't want to take on something that is gonna be counterproductive. And it's like, well, I want to join a gym, but I don't care which one, then go find a gym that's not gonna hurt your wallet. But I think the stress part of it is sometimes you need to go do something on your own. If your child is with the other parent and you're like, this is how I want to spend my time. I want to go to the gym, then I encourage that. Because what I did that I wish that I would have done a little bit differently is I ended up working every single time my child was away. And though it did help me a little bit financially, I feel like there were times that it was counterproductive. I didn't get a lot of me time in. And so it actually caused more stress. And then I felt like some of the things that I could have been working on to make money, I worked on less because creatively I just wasn't there. Like my mind just wasn't there and I was tired and I was frustrated. And I think once I actually found a balance of instead of getting up every morning and hitting the ground running and going and doing all of these side hustles until he comes back home, what I ended up doing was saying, okay, I'm gonna get up, I'm gonna have coffee, I'm gonna work on a few projects at home that I want to work on. And then I'm gonna take off and I'm gonna run a few errands, I'm gonna go do a couple of side gigs that make money. And then I'm gonna end the day with going to the gym because I like to work out later in the afternoon or even the evening. Some people like to wake up and get it out of the way right off the bat. I think that having fitness as a part of your life is important, but don't sacrifice it for the sake of your health or for your stress level. The other thing about health I want you to keep in mind, and this is very specific to single moms, is that what will happen if something happens to you? In a lot of parenting situations, if something were to happen to you, the child would just go to the other parent. Sometimes you've got situations where you're like, no, that's not what would happen. Especially if you're the one who has sole primary custody, you make all the decisions about everything. I would encourage you to start thinking about a plan. What's going to happen if something happens to my child? That's something that I wish I would have done sooner, but I do think that I was in the state of mind of, well, something would have to happen to me and the other parent for that to take effect. And then sometimes we don't want to think about it, right? We don't want to think about not being here for our kids. And it's all very heavy, right? I know this is an organizing podcast, but I do want to say that I don't want to gloss over the fact that life is heavy in general. I don't want to gloss over the fact that you may not have wanted this and you're like, I don't even want this. I don't want to be a single mom. I don't want to do it. It's not what I had planned. Trust me, it was not part of my plan either. A lot of moms now that are single moms are choosing it. They are deciding that they are gonna go do it without someone in their life, and I can't tell them what to do. If they have the funds and they have the team of people to help them, then I wish them the best. But for me, I did not desire to have that situation. My mom was a single mom. Luckily, she met somebody when I was young. They dated a really, really long time. Like they didn't get married until I was 12, but she did have somebody romantically in her life. He was a part of my life, and then they got married, and then he was my stepdad. So I went through the high school years with a stepfather. I'm not sure if mine will. And that's just me being completely honest. I don't know if it's something that's gonna happen, and I'm okay if it doesn't. But I have been all around the world with this. I went out and dated a lot when I was newly single, when I was ready. And then I took breaks. I'm like, yeah, I don't want to do that. And then I would perfect something else in the household. And I'm like, okay, now I'm definitely not gonna let someone live with us because they're just gonna mess it up. Then I'm like, well, I would like to meet somebody. I want to find somebody. So I would get back out there and start dating. And then I would date someone for a long time. And then again, they would come in and say, once we're married, this is how we're gonna do it. And I'm like, no, we're not. So I think sometimes people hear my situation and they think, oh, isn't that sad? She doesn't have anyone and you know, she's been single for so long. Like I've said before, a lot of it is by choice because you have to weigh your options. You have to weigh your health and your stress level. And those are the two things that are gonna help with your decision making. When you're making decisions for yourself and for your child, it's really important to say, how is this gonna affect my health? How is this gonna affect my stress level? Now, there are times that I think, yeah, it would be great to have somebody else in our life so that I don't have to take on as much because obviously that affects your stress level. It affects your health overall. But for instance, I went to the doctor last year. I was having not necessarily chest pains, but I think I had like more muscular issues in my chest. And I think a lot of it is just I messed up my neck years ago and I've had trouble with my back. And I kind of knew deep down I think this is like a muscular issue, but I kept feeling different weird pains in my chest. And so I ended up going to the ER one night and my son was actually with his dad. So I was like, okay, I've been worried about this. He's not here. Tonight is the perfect night to go. And so I went like around midnight. And by 2 a.m., I was back home because it just happened to be one of those nights where I went in, they weren't busy. They're like, okay, we're gonna take an x-ray of your lungs, we're gonna do the EKG. And of course they move quickly on that. Like once they ruled out it wasn't a heart attack, then it was like, okay, now we're gonna take a look at your lungs. You said it kind of feels like you're having trouble breathing. And trust me, I've had my share of panic attacks over the years, and it didn't really feel like a panic attack. So I went and they ruled out a lot of stuff and they said, you know, we still want you to go to a cardiologist, but I think for now, just go home and go to sleep. And so I did. I went home, I went to sleep, I woke up the next day. I either put like an ice pack or a heating pad on my chest and did more stretching. And again, like that was a time where I'm like, okay, let's, I'm gonna go work out because if I'm having a panic attack or if my muscles are just really tight, then a workout is gonna help. So that's where using the grayed out fitness part of the triangle is important because it was gonna benefit my health and my stress. Now, I will say that getting out and walking every day and stretching every day is a really good habit to get into. I'm never gonna discourage somebody for taking 20 minutes to go for a walk and then stretching your arms and your legs and your back and all of that because again, whether your muscles are tight from picking up a child or you're stressed out, you do get really tense and it can appear as though you're having a bigger health issue. I do think that stress and managing stress is really important because it can present itself as other things. But sometimes you do need to work a little bit more because you've got to pay a bill, or sometimes you do need to sleep a little bit more because you've been sick. And so that is why this episode, I really did not want to focus on the fitness part of it. As single parents, sometimes we think, I'm gonna set a good example if I get up and go to the gym every day. Or I want to make sure that my weight doesn't get out of whack. I understand that. I have gone through so many phases over the last eight years. Sometimes I work out a lot and I'm like, man, I feel really great. And then sometimes I'm like, okay, maybe I'm working out too much because I now have a late fee on a bill. So that's why in episode two, in part two of this series, we talked about time and balance. Because as a single parent, you have to think about how am I spending my time and am I creating balance for myself? I want to make sure I'm taking care. Of my child, but I also want to make sure I'm taking care of myself. So as we wrap up the series, I just want to say that if you've made it this far, congratulations. I'm proud of you. I'm not saying that because you're listening to me specifically. I'm just proud of you in general because if you are taking the time to actually listen to a podcast or read a book or research something in addition to being a single parent, it just shows you care and it shows that you want to be better, not just be the best, but you at least want to be better. And I think having a growth mindset, especially during this time, is going to help you too, because the more that you seek out the answers, the more that a lot of this stuff is going to click into place. And you're not always going to have great days, but you're also not always going to have bad days. And the more that you are present, the more that you're relaxed. And the more that you are thinking clearly, especially around your child, the better it's going to be for the whole situation. Now, when it comes to stress, I do encourage a couple of different things. We are going to have an episode purely about this method that I'm getting ready to talk about. But for now, I just want to lightly mention it. This is not my method. This is a method I heard about years ago called the HALT method. If you don't know much about it, Google it. But basically, the HALT method stands for hungry, angry, lonely, tired. A lot of times when we get down or we have panic attacks or we're not feeling our best, it could be because of one of these four things. One of these four things is not being met. Now, hungry. Sometimes, this is where you know hangry comes from. Sometimes we don't feel our best because we're hungry. So what the method is basically saying is if you're not feeling great or if you're feeling sad, try to go to one of these four things and figure out what you need. If you're hungry, go eat. If you're angry, maybe you talk to somebody. Or maybe you do need to scream into a pillow. Or maybe you need to make a phone call, which also helps with feeling lonely. And sometimes that's why people start dating again because of the L part. They're like, I'm feeling lonely. I'm gonna get back on a dating app, which there's nothing wrong with that. But just keep in mind that sometimes we're just lonely because we haven't seen other adults. Okay, so maybe you need to go see family. Maybe you need to go to the mom's group. You know, maybe you've avoided the mom's group and you're like, you know what, they did invite me to go to this mom thing. And so maybe I do need to go be around other moms. When you leave that event, if you're feeling great, then maybe you do want to be part of the mom's group. If you leave and you're like, yeah, I'm fine, then at least you know, at least you know that what you need is to not be around the other moms. Sometimes that can make it worse because again, you're either comparing yourself, maybe you feel left out, maybe when you're around them, you don't have that much in common other than being a parent, and that's totally fine. The T stands for tired, which a lot of us parents are, and a lot of us single parents are for sure. And sometimes it's even harder to catch up, quote unquote, catch up on sleep when you're a single parent because you're dealing with everything. So in some households, there's another parent that can get up in the middle of the night if a child is sick. If you're a single parent, it's just you. That is where, as far as your stress level, I do want to give you permission that if you need a day off, and when I say a day off, I just mean if you wake up and maybe your child had a nightmare. Okay, this is the this is a scenario I think works really well. Let's say you're a single parent. Your child wakes up at 2 a.m., has a nightmare, can't get back to sleep until let's say 3:30. And then, you know, maybe he's supposed to go to school the next day. Maybe you get back to sleep at 4:30 and you both wake up at 6.30 and you know, he's still frazzled, you're exhausted. I'm not saying that you don't take your kid to school, but I'm also saying there have been times where my child has had almost perfect attendance and we had a night like this, and we're both, you can just tell by looking at us, neither one of us is gonna have a good day and be at our best. And I say, Listen, you've had almost perfect attendance this quarter. We are both gonna stay home today. I'm gonna move my client to tomorrow. We're gonna work, we're gonna ask our teacher. Like, I'm gonna, I'm gonna call in and say, listen, we had a rough night. We're not gonna lie and say we're sick. We're gonna call in and say, listen, we both had a really rough night. I don't think it's best that he comes in today. He's not gonna be focused. He's really rattled. What kind of homework can we do at home? Is there something already in his folder? Is there something that we can watch together that's gonna help, you know, with a classroom assignment? These are the types of things that I feel are important to your stress level. Because then also, if both of you are at home and both of you need to have some time, maybe you both will be able to take a nap during the day. Maybe he'll nap and you won't, or maybe you will and he won't. As a single parent, you want to make sure that your kid doesn't miss out on the really, really important stuff, just like any other parent. But I also want you to give permission to yourself that if you just need a minute, that you take a minute, or if you need a day, you take a day. And your kid may have to go along on this ride with you. You may only get a break as long as your kid gets a break with you. That's fine. You want to keep the balance, you want to try to keep your stress low. And that's one way that you can do it. And as long as you're communicating that to other people, people are gonna understand. You don't always wake up sick, you don't always wake up throwing up. That is why they came up with a mental health day at some workplaces. Sometimes you just need a day. And the more you try to force it, and the more you push your kid to go to school to get that perfect attendance certificate, which by the way, that's all they're gonna get. Then sometimes it makes you feel like and your child feel like you just have to push through no matter what, at the expense of your own health and your own stress level. And you definitely don't want to relay that. You want to relay the fact that we're all human, we all make mistakes, we all have nightmares, we all get sick, we all have our days where we're not feeling our best. But again, the Holt method is something that has really helped me. Hungry, angry, lonely, tired. It's something that I have taught my child. I didn't really present it to him until a couple of years ago. So they're really not gonna understand it until they're like 10 or 11. You can kind of explain it when they're younger. You can say, hey, I think that you're upset because you're hungry. And then you feed them, and once they feel better, you can say, Don't you feel better now that you've eaten? See how when you don't eat, what happens? You can kind of introduce it to them that way when they're younger. But when they're older, you can explain that listen, if you're not feeling great, if you are extremely tired, you don't even need to be hungry, angry, or lonely. If one of those four blocks is way off kilter, then it really can bring down your entire mood. And sometimes until you get that back on track, you're just not going to be productive. Now, I don't know much about the Halt method. I haven't studied it completely. But these are the things that either I remember from it or I have added to it the way that I understand it to be. So if there's somebody listening to this that's like, no, that's not really how the Halt method came about, or I mean, I know that that's what it stands for. But if someone's like, I've read a lot about it and there's really a lot more to it, then of course, I understand. I it's not my method, it's just something that has helped me. And I think that it helps others. The other thing is just meditation in general. Sometimes we've got to cry in the shower, sometimes we've got to cry in the closet. And sometimes when we go to meditate, we start crying. Now, I'm not saying that you should just start crying all the time, but I think a lot of times we hold it in for our kids, but then we don't come around later and cry when we're by ourselves or breathe when we're by ourselves. And I think that me going to the emergency room that one night is probably good evidence that I really was not keeping track of my health and my stress level. I don't think it was a full-blown panic attack. I do think a lot of it was muscular. And when I went to the cardiologist, that was pretty much proven to me because they did do a scan and they're like, wow, you're 45 years old and you don't even have like soft plaque. Like that's miraculous. And I was like, oh, so that actually helped my stress level to know what my health level was because other than a full panel of blood work, they had ran a lot of tests to figure out that my heart looked good, my lungs looked good, my muscles were really tight. And a lot of the stuff that they wanted me to focus on was a lot of the stuff that I'm telling you now, which is you have to find a balance. You have to lower your stress level. And so even though I'm not a mental health professional, and we're not talking as much about physical organizing, organizing your life, organizing your health records, organizing your time, your schedule, you find a balance, all of that falls under the umbrella of organizing. It all works together or it doesn't. So if you've only listened to pieces of this, maybe you listened to parts two and three and not piece one, go back to part one and get that piece. If you haven't listened to episode two, go back and listen to that piece. All of this will slowly come together. If you remember that the answer is always less, you want to try to do what you can to come up with a consistent low maintenance schedule. You don't want a lot of clothes, you want the food options that match up with your current lifestyle. If you've got a lot of dishes piling up and you have a dishwasher, maybe you start using the dishwasher. If you use the dishwasher very infrequently and you say, you know what, let's use some paper plates, let's use some plastic forks, it's not that big of a deal. It really isn't. When it comes down to the actual organizing piece, I say this to my quote unquote regular clients. The less you have, the easier it's gonna be to keep it all together, organized, contained, clean. All of that is really important. But as a single parent, those are the things that are really gonna help you. And one day, if you get married, if you meet someone great, or your child gets old enough to where you are pretty much already on your own as an empty nester, even if they have a year or two left of school, all of these habits are gonna help you because if you do get married again and you are living with somebody else, you're gonna be like, hey, this is how I run my household, and it's very clean and tidy and organized. And a lot of people appreciate that. I know that there's a lot of men out there that say they meet someone and her place is a mess. She's a slob. If any of you watched Friends, I always think about the episode where Ross dated Rebecca Remain. And a lot of you already know what I'm talking about. If you haven't seen that episode, she is the biggest slob. She has trash everywhere all over her apartment. She has stuff strung out everywhere: clothes, boxes, old pizza boxes, and random stuff everywhere. And the joke was that he thought she was really beautiful, but she was such a slob he couldn't stand to go there. And I know that this is like the least important thing when you're a single parent is how you're gonna look when you're out there dating. But it really is part of the bigger picture. It's part of how organized are you? How well do you have your stuff together? How well do you present yourself? All of that is just gonna help your confidence. And again, that little triangle, that little gray out triangle as far as fitness goes, it is important. But trust me, there's a lot of people who are happy to meet somebody that just works out two or three times a week. But maybe you walk every day, maybe you stretch every day, maybe you meditate a few days a week. It's about finding the balance. It's about finding something that works for you without losing yourself. And there are times that you may have to skip a workout class to go take your kid to do something. Or maybe you have to push a client to another day because you have just maxed out. And it's better for you to sit and meditate than to go to that client's house, increase your mental load, your stress load, and then end up at the hospital the next day. Because again, I've pushed myself way too much over the years. I am a perfectionist, but I'm also a single parent. And that is priority. It's the trickle down, it's everything that's important for my life right now. Remember, this may only be a season. It may be a short season, it may be a long season, but it doesn't have to be your life forever. Your kids are going to grow up, they are going to move out, they are going to have their own place, their own relationships, their own life and their own struggles. And you want to make sure you're not so caught up in the stuff that you don't recognize when they really need you. This isn't coming down on parents. This is just something that you will realize as your kids go older, is that they are going to need you in different ways and you are going to show up in different ways. But if you keep things small and minimal and easy to work with and you keep your days light, you do the work that you need to, you pay the bills that you need to, you reward yourself occasionally, you do stuff with them, you still hold on to pieces of your quote unquote old life, whether that's painting or reading or taking trips, finding the balance, finding the new you as a single parent is going to be crucial. And then you protect it. You protect your life that you build for yourself. Anyone who comes into it needs to understand that this is important to you and it has been important to you. And if they take any stress off of your life, whether it's physical, financial, mental, then that's just a bonus. But I just want to encourage you to keep going and to keep trying different things and to do what works for you. Because I'm just one person, I'm just one podcast. I don't have all the answers. But hopefully I've given you enough answers where you feel like you can at least move forward this week, next week. And then maybe you'll find another podcast that works, or maybe you'll find a book that you're reading that you really enjoy. And there are some tips that you can take from that. And then you just keep building on that foundation and you just become the best single parent ever, right? I hope this episode was helpful. Please make sure to check out the other series that I have out there. Some of them are in the bonus content. So make sure you subscribe to the bonus episodes. The minimum contribution is only $3 a month if you are able to do it. Just remember you can always join and cancel later. There is no contract, no obligation. You pay per month, and then you can listen to all prior bonus episodes that I've recorded over the last two and a half years. And then if you want to cancel, you can cancel. 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