The Courage Coalition

"I Carry You”: When Grief Becomes Courage and Presence with Christina Stiverson

Corree Roofener Season 2 Episode 89

Some stories don’t thunder in with triumph they arrive quietly, hand to heart, and ask us to breathe. In my conversation with Christina Stevenson certified grief coach, retired U.S. Air Force officer, and author of I Carry You we talked about what courage actually looks like in the dark. The book’s title began with Addie’s toddler hands lifted high “I carry you” and became a ripple: the way our people carry us, the way we carry their light forward, and the way our stories carry others when words feel impossible. Christina reminds us that grief isn’t weakness; it’s love with nowhere to go until we choose to give it direction. That choice begins in the smallest places: noticing the smile in a hospital room, the sunset outside a window, the cardboard box on a doorstep that arrives the exact day you’ve forgotten how to ask.

Christina’s definition of courage took my breath away: courage is choosing what matters most while doubting yourself on a whole new level. It’s saying “home” when hospice asks where your child should spend her last days believing you can’t possibly do it, and doing it anyway. From that place, she offers two journal prompts that can reframe a life: “How could the worst day of my life become the best?” and “What do I value more than the pain?” These aren’t instant answers; they’re invitations to presence. If you’re just beginning, start smaller five lines of gratitude, a simple prayer, one memory you want to keep. Evidence collects. Light gathers. And healing, as we both believe, is an evolution layer by layer, lesson by lesson never a finish line, always a becoming.

If you are navigating loss (of a person, a season, a dream), let this be your permission slip: tell your story on paper, to a friend, or just to yourself. Share the parts that still shake your voice. Vulnerability doesn’t erase the ache, but it transforms the way we carry it. Christina said it best: death isn’t the worst thing; not living is. May we choose the next brave step toward presence, toward gratitude, toward being fully here with the people we love. And if this conversation touched you, pass it on. You never know who needs to be carried today.

Find "I carry you" the book by Christina Stiverson here: https://a.co/d/1Enhu6p

Follow Christina here: https://www.facebook.com/christina.stackstiverson

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