Connecting the Dots

Connecting the Dots...with a Super-Man (Brett D. Scott)

• Adam Leishman • Season 1 • Episode 39

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What do mindset coaching and Superman have in common? Brett! This week, I explore Brett’s journey from fitness to mindset mastery. We unpack his philosophies on truth, fear, and why the cave we fear to enter holds the treasure we seek. Plus, Brett shares a glimpse of his vision for helping others through storytelling and personal transformation.

Tune in for an inspiring chat about resilience, authenticity, and creating your own heroic journey.

Keywords: Superman, mindset coaching, personal growth, transformation, truth, resilience

Week 39 of me connecting the dots with people, finding out about the people I know, people I don't know. This is somebody that I was connected with by somebody that lives in Los Angeles actually. Um, and the other thing to know about me is I like Superman. I have a Superman themed car. So you'll figure out why when I was connected with this guy, there was this, Oh, I've got to find out more about him. Okay. Anyhow, let's go, well, meet a superman.

Speaker:

This is Brett. Now, wow. I met you because we have worked with somebody in common together. I think I did some work with James Whittaker. And I think you'd done some work with James Whittaker prior to me and then we connected that way and it just happens I run into you a lot now. The universe does those things. At the markets. At the markets and Redcliffe. This is a lovely spot. This is a lovely spot to run and that's why, I mean, I don't even live here. And but I come here to run because it's a lovely part of the world and you know, you're obviously always out here as well. Running, but not as long. I love to, well, you, you certainly have, you do fitness though. I've seen, I've seen images of you standing inside a gym, so you certainly know how to lift weights and move them around. I'd love to start with

Speaker 2:

What do you do? So, now I'm a mindset coach, mentor, speaker, author dad. I, yeah, you mentioned fitness. So before I got into mindset, which is a story and I don't know whether we'll get into that deeper, but I'm happy to. Before that I was in fitness, so of course, you see me in a gym, it's, yeah, it's my habit. I'm there six days a week. Not to work now, but to just for my own enjoyment. I do run, every now and again, 5Ks. Not really a 10K, well sometimes 10, but it might be split in two. But what I do for work This year though has changed a little bit. So even though I still have clients that I coach and when I say mindset, it's helping people who want to sometimes upgrade their business, maybe start a business or they're at a point in their business where even though I'm not a business coach, keep mentioning business, but most people have a business and rather than being employed. And so what I essentially am is a success coach is probably easiest way to put it. Maybe high performance, but not necessarily. It's more about, usually it's about I'm going after this or I've been going after this for a while and I haven't been able to break through. So where I come in is getting clarity on why they're not able to break through. And so I'm really good at figuring or bringing to this, to the surface of the conscious thinking, what is the, what is the blockage? So what is the thing that's been holding them back from being able to achieve? that goal, or maybe there's a glass ceiling that we sometimes refer to. And so I love helping people to understand what are they holding on to subconsciously or unconsciously that is causing them to keep repeating a cycle of not achieving whatever that might be. So sometimes I could be when I first started, I had people who wanted I want to win this award or I you probably see I've won a number of awards myself. And so. Sometimes it's a tangible thing, other times it's, I just don't know why I can't seem to do X and I really want to do it. And so mindset is a real passion for me and why I shifted from fitness into mindset was I was stuck. Just like all the people I just mentioned. I was also hitting that kind of threshold where, I knew I could do more, I just didn't know why I kept sabotaging myself.

Speaker:

Yeah, wow. Of all the, we'll talk about the future in a tick, but in terms of what you've achieved so far, what, what project or, avenue or thing have you worked on that gave you the most satisfaction?

Speaker 2:

Good question. Do you know interestingly, I mean, I could go back years. I used to have my own magazine publishing business. So when I did that the thrill of all the work that went in, not just me, I had a team of, you know, editors and writers and photographers and graphic designers. And so when you would get the finished product, the actual printed publication. The thrill of that, that was, that sort of project was exciting, especially when you know you've had a big part to play in it.

Speaker:

Yep.

Speaker 2:

But other than that, when we met, 2023 you met Kim, Kim Serafini of Positive Prime. We're at that time putting together a reality TV show. And the reason to put together the reality TV show was so that we could get Positive Prime into hands of, or hands, into the eyes, maybe is the best way of putting it of millions of people. And that was going to be the vehicle that was going to enable that. However, there were a lot of moving parts, but even within that, and even though the project then didn't complete, we got to a pause moment. But we're now back and we're doing something, we pivoted a bit, which is common in 2020. We pivoted and so we're now back, now focused solely on Positive Prime, the software, building it into a billion dollar app. There's a movie called Three Minutes that we're going to put together, filming of that happens in May. We're doing a three day summit. So the answer to the question I'm giving you in a long winded way. which is quite common just to be clear, is that I love helping other people who are doing great things. Yep. I love helping myself to do great things, don't get me wrong, but I think collaboration is the part for, if you're collaborating with people who have bigger ideas, then you tend to grow. Like they call me the, in the group, we've got like chief technology officer, we've got chief communications officer, chief community officer. My title is Super Connector, and you might say, What's a Super Connector? Why don't you have a chief title? Well, I don't have a chief title because I can do a lot of, I could, I could be sales or I could be, you know, customer service, but where I thrive and where I'm really, what I'm really good at is making connections. And so I brought a lot of people into the original TV show that didn't take off and and again, now I'm bringing people into this new project. So yeah, wow. That's the answer. You said you said

Speaker:

during there the word super. Yeah. I've often seen photos of you wearing a Superman t shirt under a suit.

Speaker 2:

Yeah. Tell me about that. Trying to think how long we got. Because, and I'll tell you why I'm saying how long we got. The story of Superman starts with me at the age of one. You might think, hang on, How does Brit remember being one years of age? Well, I don't remember, but my mum remembers clearly that I would nag her for a Superman outfit at the age of one. How does a kid even talk at one? Anyway, this kid was talking at one and he was asking mum to get a Superman costume. Now, my mum, knowing that her son, me, was very adventurous to the point where if and I said to her the other day if you left the door open, you know, I could I could walk out and she'd say, no, no, you wouldn't even have to leave the door open. You'd find a way to open the door. That one. So anyway I was a safety risk. And so what that meant was she was too scared to buy me one because she, she had a very strong intuition that I would find a way to get on the roof and have a go at actually flying. Yeah. And she would have been correct. Now. The funny part to that story, and I'm going to get to the why do I show up with Superman now, the funny part to that story is at the age of three I was still nagging her apparently, and she thought, you know what, I've got to get him something, I'm just going to get him a Batman costume. So she gets me this Batman costume because she thinks Batman can't fly. Well, I'm imagining three year old Brett thinks Batman can glide. I've seen him on, you know, glides off the building, so. Brett did get on the roof and Brett did have a cracker gliding off the roof and landed in a rose bush. So it didn't break anything but I actually do remember having the tweezers plucking the thorns out of my legs. So to get to the point, why do I show up as Superman now? When I finally understood and realized why I kept sabotaging myself and when I actually started to make these proper changes. Two things happen. Number one, I recognize the biggest problem that I had. And I think a lot of people have is the truth. And when I say the truth, a lot of people have trouble telling the truth to themselves, maybe not even necessarily to other people. Now, I wasn't a full blown liar, but I was a people pleaser, very much people pleaser. And I thought that was a good thing. Anyway now I understand why people pleasing happens. And so within that, what it, where it begins is you're not being truthful with yourself and therefore in part, you're not truthful with others because you don't want to get into arguments. You don't want to upset people or the excuses that come up as to why I can't tell you the truth. But it begins with, with me. Now, what does the truth have to do with Superman? Well, if you know Superman, you'll know that Superman stands for truth and justice. What I recognized after I'd gone through this healing I was going to say moment, it's more than a moment, this healing period of of learning is I recognized that the number one thing I actually had to uphold was the truth. And so I made it my mission that that was the thing. And so I reprogrammed my subconscious to be truthful. And when I say reprogram, we all have the ability to program ourselves, good and bad. And we're programmed all the time, just to be clear. Could be in, you, we grew up in the 80s, right? And, or did you grow up in the Yeah, yeah, I'm a 75 boy. Okay, 74. So, we grew up in the 80s and you know, TV was a big thing. And so, even though you might think, oh, you're in a certain household, you're in a certain environment, if you're watching television, guaranteed you're being programmed. That's why they call it programming, right? TV programming. Anyway, the point is that the truth, for me, was the number one thing. I recognize that's what Superman stands for. I did a photo shoot. Here's the second part. I did a photo shoot with a friend who was my, one of my first clients. And he said, when you come, I know you're going to bring your, your suits and your shirts and your ties. Can you bring a something fun? I even said to him, what do you mean fun? I looked at my wardrobe and I could see some Hawaiian shirts. So that's pretty fun. But I don't know if that's really the look I'm going for. And and then I saw my Superman T shirt. I'm like, huh. I could do a Clark Kent turning into Superman look. That would be pretty cool. And so I knew the pose and I did it and he took an amazing photo, which I'm sure you've seen. I've actually had three photo shoots with that guy now. And so the one that's Yeah, I've seen multiples. Yeah. So the one that's on my social now is not the original one, but The original one was, was, it went viral, not just with my own group of friends, it went viral everywhere and everyone's like, oh my gosh, it's amazing. And in that moment, it hit me. I went, oh, what does Superman actually stand for? Not, not the truth and justice part, but think about Clark Kent turning into Superman. Think about a caterpillar turning into a butterfly. What is that? It's a metamorphosis. I realized I'd gone, I was going through still in the early stages, going through this metamorphosis, becoming the version of myself, the stronger, the more the person that I always wanted to be. And so from a young age, one years of age, I knew that Superman was really important, but it took me to the age of 44 until I actually became Superman. And so people now call me Superman. I didn't wear it

Speaker:

today. Sorry. The other thing I remember about Superman is he helps people and that's what you do.

Speaker 2:

It is what I do. You know, actually just on that even though I mentioned, you know, maybe not the greatest version of myself before, but what I, and so the one thing that I know I always have done, even from a very young age, my mum would tell me, I was always helping. I was, like, if people came over, I would serve them food, I would get them drinks, I would, I just loved to help people, so.

Speaker:

And that would tie in with being a people pleaser. Oh, absolutely, yeah, absolutely.

Speaker 2:

So why do people show up as people pleasers primarily? Because they don't feel enough. They don't feel worthy. And why don't they feel worthy? Well, I can tell you most people that go through this people pleasing part, and not everyone is affected the same way, but it's abandonment or that feeling of abandonment. My dad, my mom and dad broke up when I was 10 months old. Of course, I wouldn't remember that consciously but that had such a big effect, not just the breakup, but actually, he would not even show up at times, he would, I hear he's coming to pick you up and I'd be waiting out the front and he wouldn't turn up. Then he had new kids and then I was no one, you know, so I think in part, it's that, that missing something and feeling like you need to fill a void. And so that's what happens for a lot of people.

Speaker:

When you were talking about the TV series and you talked about pivoting, pivoting must be a, Hallmark of those who learn how to, you know, change their mindset and succeed because pivoting is all about not stopping at failure, but, you know, learning through failure. Do you find that having your own moment of pivot helps you work with other people?

Speaker 2:

I can actually really talk into that. So That was a really

Speaker:

awkward way of me asking you.

Speaker 2:

Tell me about pivot. No, no, but no, but it's actually really good. The way you put it in, it's actually about change. people are afraid of change. Now I remember, so if anyone's read the book, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. I remember in that book, he. He explains that he interviews over 500 people. Sorry, 500 of the most successful people in the world at that time. That would have been the early 1900s. Now, he said, you know, out of the 500 of the most successful this is maybe verbatim, out of the 500 of the most successful people in the world, the only thing that they could all agree upon is that they all made very quick decisions and they changed their minds slowly, if at all. And he said, you know, the people I've interviewed who didn't have the same level of success, what I recognize is there was a similar thing, is that they took a long time to make up their mind. In fact, some of them didn't even make a decision. They did make a decision. They changed their mind frequently all the time. And I remember when I read that, I thought, shit, I'm the other idiot. I'm the guy who, that was exactly what I used to do. Oh, can you give me a couple of days to work it out? I even said that with my first coach that I hired when she said, can I have your credit card? I was like, Oh shit. Anyway, the point is what happened for me is I remember thinking to myself in January of 2019. When I was a student with my coach, I remember thinking, how do I get myself to that point where I'm the more successful one, one of the 500? How do I, how do I make these quick decisions? Because I find it very hard to say yes quickly. And I, I asked the question of myself in my head, I got an answer. And the answer was you're so afraid of failing. Yeah. And I'm sure you'd say, you're not alone. I'm sure that's how a lot of people think. And it is, that's what stops most people from going through change. And so we all feel like I need to work out and everything needs to line up, got to have all the money, got to have like, whatever the things are, but they're excuses. So I learned a really valuable lesson from one of my coaches, which was When you make a decision, so we've all been taught, or she said majority of people have been taught to make a decision. You need to know whether you can or can't. You need to know whether you've got the money or you don't. You need to, usually you've got to know that things have lined up and that you can say yes or no. But actually we've been taught the wrong way. What you should do is, do I, do I actually feel like this is what I want to do? Or do I feel like this is the road that I should take? Say yes or no. Say yes or no. In fact, I won't tell you the whole story, but she kind of told me in a condescending way, and I needed it to make a decision, because no maybe, no give me a couple of days, is it yes or no? Do you want to work with me or don't you? And that lesson really landed for me because I then made a decision with myself that I need to figure out a way To make these quick decisions and just stop being afraid of failing and be more afraid of not trying. The way that you can, you can make this decision quickly is you ask yourself a question. So I'll say, does this have an ability to get me closer to where I'm going? Or does this have an ability to get me to my goal? And if you can hear the words that I'm using, I'm not saying, is this the right road? Is this going to win? I'm saying, does this have an ability to get me to where I want to go or, or my goal? And I'll just feel into it. So I close my eyes. And usually, and I use, my right is yes and my left is no. And usually what happens with that, I, cause I use my hands a lot, I go, I don't know what it is. There's something about it feels right. I'll say yes, pretty, pretty quickly. And on the other side, if I go, the monkey minds kicking in. I don't know what it is. Something doesn't feel right. I'm going to say no, might be intuition. So that that technique enabled me to speed up the process of saying yes and no. And it actually enabled me to achieve some incredible things in a very short space of time. So what that is is to, cause we all have at some level, area of fear that kicks in. Yep. And so you've got to find a way to push through that fear and move towards it. So for me, it's like, as long as this is really aligned to where I'm, as long as I feel like this is aligned to where I'm going, I'll give it a go. Cause even if it doesn't work, what am I going to do? I'm going to learn a lesson. Yep.

Speaker:

It's funny how fear on even small things can stop you from doing things. This project that I started has me once a week, reaching out to somebody that I don't know terribly well and asking them if they can be part of it. And I trip over that almost every week because I'm worried they're going to say no, which almost never happens.

Speaker 2:

But even in what you're talking about, that is it. There's a, you probably know, there's a book called Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. I think it's Susan Jeffers. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. And actually Mel Robbins, I think, wrote a book called The Five Second Rule. You count I think it's you count backwards, 1, and you do it, whatever that thing might be. Just do it. And and it's such a, it's such a good way of operating because what actually then happens is you're creating new neural pathways, scientifically, That actually then reinforce that you should do that. So even though the fear might be there as you're talking about, you're now then going to do it and you're going to get a certain response, which is different to the fear that's there. And eventually, even though, you know, the fear is there, you think about the history of what's actually occurred. You go, I just have to do it, which is what you've been doing. I love talking about what I do. to the point where I could talk to you for a couple of hours, which your audience might go, why do I have to listen to Brett for two hours? But when you find something, this is the other thing I was going to share. When you find something that you love to do, it's not a chore.

Speaker:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

You know, it's like I could do what, and that doesn't mean I don't get tired. It just means if I'm required to do something that's in line with the work that I do, or someone needs my help with the understandings that I have. It actually gives me more energy. Yeah. There's an energy

Speaker:

source that just finds itself, isn't there?

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker:

Let's talk about quotes, because I love, I love the industry you're in that's about service. It's all about quotes or phrases or sayings and, and they really can resonate with people. What's your, what's your favourite quote or saying that you, you know, feel you live by?

Speaker 2:

Oh, I've got a great one. And I think it's one that a lot of people will probably feel themselves into as well. Or that I'm just. Or, I remember when I first heard it, I thought, Oh, that's such a good quote. I understand what the metaphor is, but I couldn't see how I fit into it. But I still loved it. That quote is The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.

Speaker:

The cave you fear to enter? Holds the treasure you seek. Holds the treasure you

Speaker 2:

seek. That's Joseph Campbell. Joseph Campbell was a I think he was a, I'm going to say mythology, but he, he essentially came up with the understanding of the, um, the journey, what's it called? I was going to say the journey of life. No, it's not the journey of life. He came up with the understanding about how we actually go through the the trials and tribulations towards becoming the version of ourselves that we want to be. He actually George Lucas hired him to create Star Wars. And when I say create Star Wars, I mean help him to really harness the journey of Luke Skywalker becoming this incredible Jedi. You know, from being a kind of a farmer, all the way up to being this incredible Jedi. Thanks for your time. And so that quote for me, I actually, one day when I was studying, found myself in the cave. Now this might sound like I'm making this up, because when I recall it, I still think, did I actually just hallucinate? And it probably was a hallucination, but I'll share the story. So I loved this quote for such a long time. And I even had on my Instagram, before I had Instagram for business, I had the quote literally on my underneath my name. The KV Theatre holds, holds the treasure you seek.

And I still thought, what's in my cave? What's in my cage that I am so afraid to look at? Well, here it is. I'm sitting, I'm doing some study, I'm writing out some answers to what are the behaviors and what are the beliefs that are holding you back or what are you holding on to. And I'm, I'm really thinking about it. And what's the number one? And all of a sudden the room went dark. I'm in my study and it's daylight. It's not nighttime, it's daylight. And it was like, the room just went dark and this is only for a few seconds. Only for a few seconds, the room went dark, and I was like, oh, what's going on? And then all of a sudden it was like the wall lit up with glowworms. There weren't glowworms there, just to be clear. And the word truth was written on the wall. And I felt like I was in a cave, and it was cold. And the word truth was there, and then all of a sudden everything just came back to normal. And I sat there thinking, what on earth just occurred? But it was the answer that I was looking for. and how I mentioned earlier on that I recognized that truth was the number one thing I had to uphold. And so that hallucination, we might call it, it was it reinforced that truth actually had to be the thing. So now actually, even my personal mission, which might sound also a bit extreme, is to discover the truth of everything. Yeah, wow. Now with that probably know this quote as well, which is Success is a journey, not the destination. Success is a journey, not the destination. And so what that means is we're all setting these goals and we're all driving towards these goals. But what happens when you get there? Well, you don't, that's not the game over. It's like, oh, now I've got to set another goal. And so it's really important for everyone to remember, enjoy every single day of the journey, even when it's quiet. Crap. I use better language. Even when it's crap, like enjoy the journey of actually how you're getting to the goal. Have fun because otherwise you're missing it. And so I might never get to the truth of everything, but what a fun ride, you know, cause for 43, 44 years, I was not upholding it. I wasn't even paying attention to it. So. And when I started the journey, I thought, Oh my gosh, this is so important. And it, and it adds, it adds value to your life. It adds value to the other, other people's lives around you as well. And what I think it actually does is it enables other things to occur in your life that couldn't occur before when you're being untruthful. Yeah. Is there a project that you could work on in the future that just excites you, gives you energy, just thinking about it, that we haven't discussed yet? What, what's something that you could possibly see yourself doing in the future? You go, I can't wait to pull up that string. So I actually have an idea for a show. And I don't know if anyone's read the book, The 5am Club by Robin Sharma. I put off reading that book for a long time. in an egoic way because, not thinking I know it all, but because I was getting up way before 5am for a long time. So I was like, I don't need to read the 5am club. I'm getting up at 4 or 3. I was even getting up at 2. 30 for, 2. 45 for a long time. And I thought, I don't need to read this 5am. Now, I'm so glad I put my ego to the side and thought, I need to read this book. Now, Robin Sharma wrote another book, which is his first one called The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari. And I remember thinking, the monk who, hang on, why has a monk got a Ferrari? Read the book, it's actually quite good. So this book is also another great story. It's real, it's like, there's so many, not just analogies, but so many let's call them secrets to life. How to actually operate in life in a better way. And the story that he created, there's this one character called the Spellbinder. And the Spellbinder, to me, the way it's created is like this wizard. Now, I'm not necessarily intending to come on stage and be this wizard that is sharing all this wisdom, but I, I don't know if you've ever seen on Instagram or Facebook, I do these funny characters. I do them through a Snapchat filter. Ever seen one? Ah, I think I have actually, yep. So I have some different characters with different accents and, and they, I did them first of all just for fun and I did them to make my son laugh and and then when I put one up just to say what people would think. The response was incredible, I thought, oh, maybe there's something to this. And so I started doing the characters, talking about my mindset work as the character. And there, and so I don't do them all the time, but every now and again, I'll throw another one in. And I thought, what if I actually create a show where I have these characters, me, become these characters that actually is on stage. And I have other people that might be talking into, Some other topics that are relative to what we're talking about. And the show idea is or the name for it that I've got in my mind is Removing the Mask. Because so many of us are going through life with a way that we think people want to see us, rather than just being the person that we are. And I was definitely one of those people. People pleaser, you know. Putting on a mask because I thought this is how people want to see me. Behind the scenes, I could be a completely different person. Now I'm not saying we don't have different versions of ourselves for different environments. Of course we can, I don't think there's anything wrong with it, but I think it's really important if you're saying, remember talking truth, you're saying a certain thing then you need to be that certain thing. Yeah. Not pretend. So, and added to that, I think I'm going on a quick tangent because you're asking about what I like to do. It is a show that I want to put together, get on stage, create this show. I'm not an actor. I've never, well, when I was younger, I was an actor and I always had dreams of actually being an actor, funny enough. But I was so interestingly as outgoing and as back then as extroverted as I was, I couldn't pull it off for the camera. And so I gave up on my dream of being an actor. But later in, later in age, 50 I think I'm, not think, I'm actually going to do this show. Maybe not this year, maybe not next year, but definitely I think 2027, I reckon I'll do it. Yeah, awesome. And I'll pull these characters as in I'm going to have the wigs and the make up and whatever I need to do to make these characters. And it's about helping people to understand through a mindset mindset understanding, how they can change through laughing at these different characters, but actually seeing the story that I'm going to create. Yeah, cool. Yeah. Awesome. Yeah. Thank you very much for chatting with me today. You're welcome. Good to see you. You're going to be a judge in some awards soon. Last year I did, obviously did good work in my business and put myself forward for man of the year and coach of the year with the beam awards. Yep. And I won, well I won gold for man of the year and I won a silver for coach of the year. And those were, those were, it was probably the most reward, like I've won quite a few awards, but that, they were the most rewarding awards for a couple of reasons. This year I was going to be the sponsor for the man of the year. So instead of putting myself forward for awards, I'm going to give out some awards. Not that I've given up on winning awards. It's just, I need a break. I just want to focus on, on supporting. And so Beck said, Oh, do you want to be a sponsor for those awards? I said, yes. And this, the awards up in Yipoon are on the same date now as my summit for the positive prime summit that we're doing in Cleveland, Ohio. So yeah, wow. Can't be in two places. And so I said to Beck, look, I don't want to pull out. Could I get my mum or someone to, you know, my mum was happy to do it. And Bec said, Oh, she goes, you could, but I'd actually rather you be there because it's not just about it's not just about you having your brand recognized. It's actually. People might want to meet Brett, you know, might want to, I was like, yeah, okay, that's fair. And she said, can I move you to 2026? So I'll sponsor the 2026. And then she said, Hey, would you mind being a judge? Yeah. Awesome. No, I don't mind. And something new and, you know, yeah. Interesting. And awesome.

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