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SPEAKER_02 0:00

So yeah, I was saying early on that it's going to be eight years and that I started taking people's stories. And along that journey, as we talk, you will hear and you would see a little video. And um, you know, only a few days ago, I think it was Dr. Tash and Freddie and I is on mental health bytes. We have a little group chat, and I think I told them that. Um, I have my book, Believe, coming out, but it was in 2018. My cousin and I was just sitting there joking, having drinks on my balcony, and we were talking about my biography, writing my biography, about what I'm going to take the people's stories because I have my spiritual journey started when I was a teenager, and I always tell people I learned love from religion, and learn love that you're supposed to show each other. So, and I kept that with me throughout life. But with that being said, is that I brought together this togetherness when it comes to who I am in my book, Believe, from 2002, gaining a spiritual gift to 2018, when I said I'm hanging up my hat and I'm not helping anyone spiritually anymore. So, within that book, there's stories, and I was just telling Dr. Tash and Freddie this week that you know, just sitting on a balcony, speaking about things, I became a number one international best-selling author. Before I started your trauma tops, your um your life experiences with RAW, I never thought of any direction. I remember one person called me from Manhattan trying to promote me, and he told me what I have is a million-dollar, it's a million-dollar company, and the idea was amazing. This was back in 2018. And he's like, I am sure with all the talks that you're doing and the people that you're helping, you're going to make an amazing motivational speaker. And that was not even close to being who I was or what I wanted to do, but the journey continued from 2018 by 2021, traveling all over, speaking about mental health. Next thing you know, in 2022, I'm holding a plaque that says International Motivational Speaker. And you know, little things, as you say, you count your blessings and you show gratitude for. You take that ladder and you put it up there. It goes way up into the clouds, into the sky. You just can't see the end of it. It's not like your house, your roof needs repairing, and you're taking the ladder and you're actually putting it on the house, and you know when you take a step up, the house is going to hold the ladder in place. So you are safe. But this ladder, I'm speaking of your ladder of success. This goal that you're going after, you climb up one step at a time without knowing what it's holding on to. Only you are the one to be able to tell what is actually happening, and you have to believe in it a lot. See, today we speak about gratitude, and I don't just sit here as a damaged person anymore. I don't speak sit here as the victim, I don't sit here as a survivor, but I'm a I sit here as a witness for the things that happen. You see, I grew up in a country, Trinidad and Tobago, where I would say certain talks become abuse, and for them that is normal. Where you can say rape or sexual abuse is hidden, where trauma is inherited with it's like a family heirloom. And we all call this tough love, but is it really tough love? For me, it was survival, it was tradition, it was a generational pain that just dressed up so much into something we all call discipline. Now, mind you, the things I have learned from a child punish being however it is, it taught me a lot, even taught me to be who I am. You see, life has a way of reminding you of many things, especially when it's to be grateful and to show gratitude towards others and not just the people, but the situation that you were in. As I started before, I said, What is meant for you shall never pass you by, and what passes you by was never meant for you. You would hear someone like Dr. Tash go through so many surgeries, so many things, and throughout her life, all she did was live a healthy life, and that person will ask a million questions, just like the guy next door to you who's smoking packs of cigarettes and they don't they don't have cancer, not a single place in their body. See, again, what is meant for you shall never pass you by. What passes you by was never meant for you. See, as I say, I start living it. You have to understand it. Just like when you think that nothing is happening for you and you're all down and out, whereas that day you know you have to step up your ladder because you can't come down, you're far from the shallow, remember? So you can't come down that ladder, but you can only keep stepping up. The thing about that step up is it can happen slowly. Because just like the man with the blues, you know, I tell people this all the time. There once was a man who had the blues because he had no shoes, and just what happened? Guess what happened down the street? He met a man who had no feet. You see, I don't talk from a place of medicine, I don't talk about things I speak about is not from textbook, it's my lived experience. It is the things that actually held me back, and I could have been something or somewhere I don't know about. And this is the this is what I tell people all the time, and they don't understand. When they ask, how did you do it? How did you overcome, or how did you let go? You see, many people in society today tend to hold on to things that is unnecessary in their life, even the traumas I know could be hell, it could be bad. Yet you cannot keep dragging it along. You want to think about your your traumas? You think about an old beat-up ocean liner's anchor um anchor, like the Titanic's anchor, and it's all connected to that old rusted, old chain, and you brought it out on the shore somehow, and you're dragging it. That's your baggage, that's your excess baggage of trauma, mental health, abuse. Every single thing that happened in your life that's affected you negatively, and you're dragging this along the shore because you're holding it and pulling it. What is going to happen? While you drag it, it's going to accumulate more garbage and more stress because that's what happens to you when you do not let go. So, the best thing I tell people, you have to let go. We've spoken acceptance and we had forgive yourself and we had love yourself. And I remember speaking on one of these talks that I remember calling for my aunt, her boyfriend, and telling him, telling the wife that um, you know, his her husband has another woman. And remember, however, I don't know how it got out or whatever that was me, because at that time it was um star 6-7 or whatever. But I actually being a grown-up, I understood where it went wrong. But remembering that guy picked me and slammed me um on the gate and how big he was and how scary he was, or whatever. You see, at that moment it was traumatic. At that moment, it was bad being 16 years old and that happening to you, but also it teaches you something, it teach you in life don't do that again. Be grateful, have show gratitude for that incident because you could have gone on to do something worse to someone else, and it could have been worse. You learn, you know. You say we live on a planet with 1.3 billion people that is silently suffering with some sort of mental health stress or disease. Did we just see billion, like billion with a bee? And yet, what happens? We pretend like we are all something different, we pretend like we are all separated. See, that's not true. You think about the water in the ocean, and that tells a story by itself. Each human being, as I tell someone, when I tell people this all the time, not just one person I had a conversation with recently as well. And I said, When I see your success, I feel happy inside. Like, I don't know, it's always been me. Like I feel happy for someone when they rise up. I always was like this, and with that being said, is yes, I told that person, you're living it for me, and I'm living because when they turn around and said, Man, you're Mr. Traumatox, you've been to the Grammys, you do this, you're always at some event, you're hosting mental health conferences, you're a host of a podcast, host of four podcasts, actually. But the thing about it is when I said you're living it for me, and me too, Ron and said, keep doing it as well. It's basically the same. We are all connected. If you take a big bucket of water, a big bucket, and dip out a bucket of water from the ocean, and you bring it back to this the seashore, and then you pour it into smaller buckets. The only thing that separates the water is that vessel, and every human being is like that. There's some divine light, there's something that's a greater power that is actually connecting all of us, and we have to understand that. So let's all think about the water in a way that when it merged together, it becomes one, and that is each one of us, each one of you on this panel today. When I read your bios and and I, you know, I go to your Instagram or something, and I realize like I saw how Angeli was posting back all the posts of the mental health conference, and I was like feeling so proud, you know. Sometimes you do it on your own. When you see Dr. Tash post it, when I see Trish post it back, and like I was like, oh my god, they're here. They're they're they they want others to know they're part of something amazing. You see, because it is not just your story, every one of your stories is part of your womb, it's part of your triumphs, it's part of Dr. Tash just showed you, it's part of your scars. Every moment throughout is not you just drowning. You all could come together and remain connected. Your trauma is not your identity, your trauma is actually your teacher. And if you think about it like that, and you think about your doorway that you walk through to meet the strongest version of yourself, that is what happened. And I can surely say that with a lot of gratitude to situations and people in my life, I have become Mr. Trauma Talks. And I stand here not because I had an easy life, I stand here because I refuse to let this story just end in the middle. I have so much amazing things happening, and I love, love, love that I am blessed like this. I'm coming back again. I reference people in my life, and I'll tell you this little story. If you go to my personal Facebook, Rahul K Maharaj, you would see I just posted one of my friends. I met her in 2001 when we start when I started working at a sneaker store. And throughout my life, I have heard people said, Who God blesses, no man can curse. And it just so happened to me yesterday that I was scrolling through and I saw this person who I met at a networking event, and they were playing a song, and the person was singing that. But I asked myself many of times, does everyone really understand it? So we come back around to my friend, but when I heard that, it triggered back. I had to go back to my friend because when I met her in 2001, even though here in it throughout my childhood and understanding it, I didn't really truly understand it until she explained it to me. And when she said that to me, it came with Ra mark my words, you will see it will happen. And she used that quote and she put it, and it's I think it's like 25 years, I'm friends with her, and I've seen so many things unravel in her life, especially when it comes to Ra marked my words, because at the end of the day, she believes, and that belief of who God bless, no man shall curse. I actually brought that on my spiritual journey and had to understand when people were saying it, but was not living it. So I want to leave you with a few messages here, and I want to let you know that you can, you shall, and you will. And not only you're healing from the traumas of your childhood, no, Ry's not healing from that. I'm healing still from the things that went on this year that I put together a mental health conference on Broadway and a stage, and then I had a whole team working for me. And what did they do? So, you see, you get broken in parts of it while others betray you, while you have to go through all the stress of life that you have, you have to deal with the unnecessaries as well. So letting go is a huge, huge important part of your life. Healing is a spiral, as I say to everyone, and healing is a place that you return to yourself because when you heal, you have to reflect. And we are talking about all the traumas that actually happen with people. The pain behind the scenes is what we love people to hear, not to hear to feel good that someone went through that. No, to hear it to let others understand and we can connect with them and not be able to compare ourselves to them, but be able to connect and been like, whoa, hats off to them, because at the end of the day, if I was in Angeli's shoe, would I have been able to do it? If I was in Dr. Tash's shoe, would I have been able to do it and come out as strong as they were? No. So you see, we are not here to impress anyone, and we are not here to let you know that there's no hope for you. We are here to let you know that you are not alone and to remind you that your story matters, that your pain is not a waste, your survival is not an accident, your voice is needed, your healing is possible. So, I want to tell you again don't matter where you came from in life, don't matter where you are and how much you endured, you have to remember right now you're still breathing. So keep rising and keep becoming. You were never meant to be drunk in the water that you were born in. You were meant to rise with it, you were meant to flow with it, you were meant to become the ocean. And this is the truth, and this is the truth about healing. This is your trauma talks. This is Rahu Ki Maharaj, Mr. Trauma Talks, and I am very grateful as I show gratitude to every one of you that's here today. Thank you.

SPEAKER_03 18:53

Well then, Ra always love listening to your stories. Um, Ra is such an incredible person, and he brings so many people. Um, you know, he allows so many people to be on the platform and tell their stories, and I always admire him. And there's this the the one he does with the um um trauma with the glamour. And I absolutely watch I'm a huge fan. I love watching it. And uh, you know, I've I I had the honor of reading a few chapters of his book, and it's very intense, and uh you know, the way he he he describes things and and and situations in life, um he's he's someone who's been built by trauma, and by listening to the pain inside him to turn it into something more powerful than pain and uh turn it into his pathway, his purpose, his his platform. So he turned his his pain into a massive platform for all of us today. So I'm gonna thank you, Ra. And I want to say, you know, when when when pain pain comes down, when pain goes up, blessing comes down. And I think that's what happened in your life. You just there was so much pain that went up that God just showered his blessings on you, and I'm so grateful that I was one of them.

SPEAKER_02 20:23

Thank you.

SPEAKER_03 20:26

I'm one of your biggest blessings. I'm just kidding. I you're one of my biggest blessings, and I adore you, and I'm just so proud of you. Um so I I just love listening to your stories and how you get through it. Um, I'd love listening from everybody else.

SPEAKER_02 20:49

Anyone else have a question or anything? Based on what I said, you all could talk, say, expand on it, say anything you want.

SPEAKER_00 21:02

Yes, I just want to say, uh Do you ever take a moment and reflect and appreciate the ripple effect of you saying yes to allowing your trauma to be your teacher?

SPEAKER_02 21:26

Well, I think I got that from reflecting, and another thing is that um I remember meeting um a very amazing young um motivational speaker as well in Paris, and then I had lunch with her in Vegas afterwards, and I was telling her about an incident, and she told me this. She says, Ra, when we go to university for our degree, what do we do? We pay for it, right? University is our teacher and we pay for it. The similar way, everything that happens in our life, if we don't look out and look at it as something that a teacher, therefore, we would never be able to understand that life teaches us in the most expensive ways. That we it's not even a university degree, it's more costly. So, with that, when she told me that, actually, I started reflecting on things that happened. As I said, I was able to look at that thing that happened with my my aunt's ex-boyfriend and look at that and say, hey, gratitude. I would maybe if that didn't happen, I might have done it to someone else and it would have hurt them. So we really have to use the trauma as a learning experience and as a teacher. I mean, most of us have been through something that's I I could say that in your life, everyone has a story, and each person's story is their story, no matter what. And it's their trauma to go through or their mental stress to overcome.