Overthinking F**king Sucks: Here’s How I Healed It (And You Can Too)

If you’ve ever felt trapped in your own head, stuck in endless loops of anxiety and self-doubt, this episode is for you. I’m sharing the raw, unfiltered truth about my journey from chronic overthinking and panic attacks to finding peace and freedom in my mind and body.

I’m breaking down:

✨ The moment I realized how deeply overthinking was ingrained in me

✨ The unconventional practices that actually helped me heal (hint: it’s not just meditation)

✨ How I went from living in fear to finding peace, even when life feels chaotic

✨ Why shifting your focus to the inside is the key to breaking free

✨ The mindset shifts that made the biggest impact on my healing journey

This episode is straight from the heart. I’m sharing real stories, honest struggles, and practical ways you can start healing your own overthinking patterns today.

I promise, if I can break free from this cycle, so can you💫

Let me know how this episode lands for you! I’d love to hear your thoughts and breakthroughs.

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Transcript

Rachel: 0:44

This is kind of scary to think about. So I just got a message from my client and he was congratulating me in saying all these nice things, and just the other day he had messaged me and said another really nice thing how I'm really changing his life and all these things are happening yet for some reason. I read his message today. All compliments, all nice, and somewhere in my brain and body, I registered the thought, oh my God, he doesn't think you're valuable. Oh my God, this is fake. Oh, he's, he's, he's, he's lying. Um, you're about to be cut off guard. He can't wait till your sessions are over. I, I felt those thoughts in my body, they felt true and I stopped and I just like sat with that for a second because. How could I think those thoughts and they feel so true, yet I look at what he messaged me and I look at what he messaged me last week and there's no trace of you're doing a bad job. I don't like these sessions. I can't wait till they're over. And it was in that moment. I realized how programmed wounding is into the body and how much it will find evidence even when there's absolutely not a shred of physical evidence there. It will literally make up evidence. The evidence my brain was making up was that was too nice of a text. Okay, now I don't believe you. That's literally where my brain went. Why is, would he be paying me every month? Why would he resign with me? Like, why would his life be changing with me? And then him complimenting me if that was true. So all of this to be said. What you think and feel if it is negative, and coming from fear and coming from limitation is not real. It is. It might be your truth in that moment, and this is why I always talk about truth and that that is totally valid and totally real. It is my truth that at one point. I got wounded into thinking no matter what I did, I still did something wrong and I would still get in trouble no matter how hard I tried. That's, that's been some of my deepest wounding. It goes back to when I was a child and I did everything possible to knock in trouble at school, yet if my pencils fell off the table. I got in trouble and I was mortified and I remember thinking like, oh my God, I'm the quietest, goodest girl. My pencils just fell off and I got in trouble. There's no saving me. Like I felt like, it just felt like no matter what I did, I was like, I could still get in trouble like this. This like helplessness, like I have no control. And that's the thing is we get wounded when we realize how little control we have. And so when we realize how little control we have, we then try to control our environment more by coming up with these thoughts about, oh my God, they might hate me. How do I protect it? But the problem is, is we just go into overthinking and we think, and we think, and we spin until we spiral, and then we stay stuck in the same place for years. And so. I healed my overthinking, and that's what I really wanna talk about right now. I wanna talk about how I healed my overthinking because five years ago I would think that that was impossible. So let me paint the scene for you. I was on Martha's Vineyard five years ago. It was the summertime I was walking the beach. It was a beautiful summer day. I can literally tune it into the summer day and how crystal clear the blue, what water was. It was like blue, green in some parts sparkling, not a cloud in the sky, that like rich blue sky, not that many people on the beach because the walk that I took went on to a lot of the private parts. Of the beach where I'm at on the vineyard, and it would just feel like peace, like the whole world is mine. Yet at the same time, there was no peace at all. There was the least amount of peace ever maybe I had ever had in my life. I was at peak overthinking. I and I have been an overthinker my whole life, like overthinking to the point where I swear I was just born with anxiety. I'll get into that more in a second, but yeah, let's, let's return to this story. It's beautiful. It should be peace. I should be walking the beach. I've been walking the beach for hours. At this point, I should feel peace, yet I'm overthinking. I'm worried. I had just started my business and I'm worried about how I'm gonna make money. I'm worried about if people are gonna see me. I'm worried if I'm gonna do a good job, if I'm a piece of shit at what I do. If I'm just. Cheating everyone. Every thought possible goes through my head. You're not good enough. You're all the different things, while at the same time wanting so badly to be a business owner and reach the goal. And so it's like I'm overthinking all the reasons why I cannot be that person and I'm not that person and I'll never be that person. And it feels heavy, heavy, heavy, heavy. And I'm overthinking all the ways I can become that person and they're all canceling each other out. And I just feel anxiety in my body. And so, no, I don't feel peace while I'm walking this beach as much as I feel like I should. And that gets me extra. It is so sad to be on such a beautiful beach and feel so anything but beautiful on the inside. Not physically, but like peacefully. I don't feel what I'm seeing. Maybe you can relate, and I'm scrolling Instagram and there's this coach I had connected with. She is more successful than me at this point. And so I, at that time, I was comparing myself to all the people who were getting their businesses off the ground quickly. And she's one of the people I was overthinking and comparing myself to. So I'd go to her profile on the beach and she talks about this book that she read that helped her heal her overthinking, and I think, yeah, right. I've literally overthought my whole life. Like I, I swear I was born an overthinker.'cause I was born a very quiet child. I was born very conscious, very young. I remember my thoughts from a very young age. I remember my thoughts from before I could talk, which doesn't really make sense, but they're like awareness, thoughts that I had. Like I remember being at a restaurant, this is before my brother was born, so I had to have been one or two years old and. It is Valentine's Day, and I'm quiet at the table because I just rem, I remember the feeling I had, like I'm in this world and I don't feel safe, and everyone's around me and I don't know what's happening and I don't know how to be and I don't know how to act. Like. I just remember that feeling from a very early age, and I don't know if there were words, but they were there in my awareness. And a lady came up to our table and said, how is your daughter so good? She's so quiet. She just sits there and just looks so good. And I remember I internalized that and thought, okay, you're good. You're being quiet. Like keep doing this. And so I started living my life for everyone else from such an early age. I'm a Libra rising. This is how deeply programmed our rising sign is into us. I was programmed from as early as I can remember to default to what other people wanted me to be. It's a Libra rising. You're rising signs, your deepest, ingrained programming that you're here to transcend in this lifetime. So. What ended up happening from that point on is I lived my whole life from everyone else, and that requires me to think, overthink about everything, control of my environment from a very early age. I didn't grow up in a traumatic home. I grew up in one of the most loving, open, accepting homes ever. It's not my family. This was very much in my birth chart. This is what I mean by we're here to learn lessons and it doesn't really always matter the en environment you grow up in. I understand that some people are. Grow up in horrible environments and have horrible lessons that feel impossible. And you're probably like Rachel. How do you compare yourself to them? Here's the thing, some people have invisible lessons that are so hard, they feel trapped on the inside, like in jail, in themselves, on the inside. From a very early age. That's how I felt. I'm not saying mine's worse than anyone else's. It's not the point of what I'm saying. So. I was trapped on the inside, and because of that, at very early ages, I would have anxiety, panic attacks, and they would mainly happen at sports games. I think my first one happened when I was seven or eight. It was at a soccer game, and this girl, Meredith yelled at me to pass the ball and something in my nervous system at that point, couldn't handle it. And I remember I collapsed. And I couldn't get up and they had to stop the game and I couldn't breathe and I'm on the ground hyperventilating. None of my body works. And I, my dad had to come onto the field and scoop me up and carry me off the field. And I wanna cry right now'cause that's, it was mortifying, apparently That's still living in my body. Ah. I am a very deep feeler, probably also why I was very quiet from a very early age. Feel very deeply, ah, my, my emotions can literally change in a second. Okay, so. My dad carried me off the field, and that wasn't the first time I, I had a panic attack. I learned that it was a panic attack because I didn't know what happened to me. That's what it was. I had several more at several other games. Uh, I got diagnosed with general anxiety disorder and panic attack disorder at a very, very young age. And then that's why partly like if you heard my whole story, if you haven't heard my whole story, go back to, it's one of my episodes in the beginning, my story about how I, how astrology changed my life.'cause it was really the thing that changed my life the most anyways. And I like, part of my story is I became. Uh, overweight, obese. I went to a weight loss camp when I was nine. It's when I started personal development so early because I was in so much internal pain that I begged my parents to let me try to fix myself. Um, which I don't believe in fixing myself anymore. I've now real, like, I don't believe in healing at my, this point in my healing journey. I just wanna say side note. Okay, so back to the story. I, I think you're getting the point that I was an overthinker from a very early age, and it really killed me in my life because it killed me to work really hard and. Give my all to everything I did like type a rigid, like overextend myself, person, but it also lend to me also simul, simultaneously shitting on myself in everything that I did. Perfect storm to create overthinking, right? And so here I am back at the beach, 27 years old, and this girl. She mentions a book that she read on how to stop overthinking. I forget the exact title. I forget the author, but I read it. It was not a life-changing book, which is why I am not, I'm not finding the author and title for you. I'm just painting the picture how desperate I was, and I'll tell you why I was desperate. I had been practicing meditation and yoga and getting out of my head like a fucking crazy person for like six years already. Um, no I didn't, no, I didn't been practicing yoga at that point for 11 years in meditation for like six years and none of it. Had solved my overthinking yet.'cause the problem is, is it's, I, I, what I know now is it is not just about meditating and doing yoga, it's an active practice to stop overthinking. It's an act of practice. So I read this book out of desperation and that kickstarts my journey where I, that book doesn't work for me, but I. Do everything I can to stop overthinking from that point on. And these are all the things that did work. Yes, meditation is important, but it really, it's not, I don't wanna say it means shit.'cause it's helpful if you do it even just 20 minutes a day. The real juice is in the tantric living of meditation. So really it's when I started studying tantra. That my overthinking truly began to stop healing because tantra is the practice of meditating with your life. And no, it was not easy to start. And no, I was not amazing at it at first. I wasn't even good at it. I remember I would just. Practice by using every ounce of my might to be as present as possible all day, I would touch things when I would wash my hands. I would be like, wow, feels so nice. Feel the water. Even though I still have a million thoughts going through my head, I'm just like, wow, feels nice. Like I'm just doing everything possible to check in throughout the day. And if you're like, Rachel, how do I just start doing it? I try to start these things and I can't. I wanna tell you, I've gone through many transformations in my life. The reason I started transforming so early is because. You get to use pain as fuel, and sometimes I think people maybe don't get to a pain, pain enough place to say, I, I'm not fucking doing this anymore. It's the only thing I can think about because that's what happened to me is I got to such a painful pa place. Like the pain I had in my life from overthinking was so bad that there wasn't really a point to living in, in case I, unless I stopped it, I'm just gonna say that. Okay. We always have a choice to sink or swim in this life. And when you want something bad enough is when you decide. You decide you have that power. The power of a decision, the power of transmuting all of your pain into every ounce of grit that you will have. To overcome this pain. Are you a fucking survivor or are you a sinker? You're a survivor. If you're listening to me, if you even listen to one of my episodes, you're a survivor. I don't care if you even think you might be a sinker, you are a survivor. You're wrong. Okay? So that's how I get myself to do it. I motivate myself because I am a survivor and so are you. And I will do anything to get outta that fucking pain and never be in it again. And thank God I know I'll never be in it again at this point. Thank fucking God. There's no way in living when you're in so much pain and or that's not true, but like that's the motivation for me. Not, I would never do the other thing. Oh my God, I'm just gonna keep talking. This is turning kind of weird. Alright. So I gave everything I had to being as present as possible during the day. And yeah, I sucked at it for a really long time, but I, I gave everything I had and. It eventually started to transform things for me, especially as I started to breathe into my body and sound into my body. I made that part of a tantric practice. I, I gave voice to different organs in my body, and I would practice for an hour a day. Sounding into different parts of my body and breathing into different parts of my body, and I would do it while I'm doing other things. If you're busy, you can do it. While you're doing busy things, you can look ridiculous. It doesn't fucking matter. This is your life. All that matters is how good you feel in your life. The better you make yourself feel on the inside, the better your life's gonna look on the outside and the people who laughed at you for. You know, maybe doing embarrassing things in the beginning to make yourself feel good on the inside are not gonna be laughing when they see your outside life manifest because of how good you feel on the inside. If you want your outside life to feel fucking good, it really does start with how good you make yourself feel on the inside. So might as well start practicing tantra'cause it feels good to be present. It feels good to tune into your senses. It feels good to feel the water on your skin. It feels good to feel the sun on your skin. It feels good to slow down to the pace of nature. It feels fucking good, and at first it doesn't because you're not used to it, and it feels scary, and it feels unsafe, and it's worth it. Okay, how else did I heal? Overthinking. I healed a lot of victim mentality type thinking, so I learned this through and lifted coaches. It was one of the first coaching programs I took, but I really started to become hyper aware of where I project any power onto anyone in my life. And, uh, this is, I don't, I don't wanna teach about projections right now, but I have a feeling if you listen to me, you're on my level and you get it with projections that I, I never believe anything wrong in my life is because of another person. It's never because of them. It's always because of me. And that has healed my overthinking. Because you only overthink when you need to control something outside of you. But if everything is inside of you, there's nothing to overthink. There's only empowerment on the inside. There's only choosing yourself. There's only evolving into a higher perspective of myself and a higher perspective of my life, and no one can take that away from me. Oh, a friend is acting like a piece of shit and I can't control how they behave. I can tell them I'm not friends with people. These are my values and standards, and if you're gonna not be in integrity, then like you can't then buy. Bye. I'm not gonna be mean to'em, but also that's being a good friend. I've, I've had things in friendships where I've done that and then actually my friends are, are grateful that I've done that because then they've been, they've realized where they've been out of integrity and they've risen back into the values that I always knew that they had and that they have. They always did have. We just, sometimes people fall out of integrity and it's just a thing and that's what good friends do. It's what I want my friends to do for me too, to hold me. To my values, to hold me to my standards, to not fucking slip, and not in an overthinking way, in a less thinky way, because when I have certain values and standards, I don't have to think. I just know how I live my life. It's another way you heal your overthinking, know what you value, and focus on what you value, and only do what you value. Then you don't have to overthink. Sit down one day and write a list of everything that you truly value. It will make your life very simple. Life doesn't meet those values. It's not for you. That's how you get into a good relationship. That's why I feel like I have a partner right now of eight years and the best relationship of my life because, um, he's lives up to every single value that I have. And we're really moving into an age. That's what NUS and Taurus has been doing for all of us, is it wants you to recognize that life is meant to meet your values and standards. You're not meant to chase life and improve your value, you're not meant to. And the more you learn that life comes to you, the more you get in touch with your own values and standards, and you live by them, and then you allow life to meet them with you. The better your life gets and the less you think, because again, there's nothing to think about. What else helps me heal, overthinking Well, because it matters so much how you feel in order to manifest the life that you want. When I start freaking out or feeling anxious about something, like I talked about in the beginning of this episode, my brain went into an old pattern of thinking a client didn't like me when I had absolutely no evidence for that whatsoever. I, well, number one, I can recognize those things now because of how. Much I've practiced tantra in my life. Like that present moment, that connection with the moment, I can just notice these things. Now when I, and I'm a person who would have panic attacks from a very early age because my brain had a mind of its own. It was so overthinking. So I, I'm saying this so that you know that this is possible for you too. It's not just me. I get really pissed off and people say, well, it works for you Rachel,'cause you're some sort of special person. No, I just literally. I just directed my power in, um, in one, I directed my power on the inside, and for some reason people think that all of their power needs to be directed outside of them, and they need to control their external environment. No, you just need to turn that around on the inside, and that's just what I figured out how to do, and you can do it too. So I get that text from the client that thought comes in. I have that awareness like, what the fuck, Rachel? How are you thinking that? In that moment, I sit down and I breathe, and I breathe into where I feel tight in my body and I allow it to loosen and I allow it to open. And the more I breathe through it and I allow it to loosen and I allow it to open, and I tell myself, that's an old version of me, and that's not me. That's not who I'm becoming. That's not who. Like the truth of who I really am. It loosens. I find the peace again, and then I anchor into all of the evidence of why that's not true, and that's how I reprogram myself. Because then I feel better. I know I don't act on anxious emotions anymore. The thing is, is people get an anxious bill that brings an anxious action and overthinking, and they perpetuate the anxiety. It's it, I'm, I'm not saying my methods easy. It's scary, but now that I've done it so many times, I've seen how budget's true. And how it's literally the only way I'm gonna live now from here on out.'cause the only thing that works really works is you get to create peace in your body. You get to come into belief that things will work out, and then the answer will come. But if you are in fear in your body and you perpetuate the fear by trying to fall, find the answer from the fear and overthinking, you're gonna perpetuate more fear in your life in that pattern. How you feel on the inside is number one. Maybe that knowing alone can help you today start practicing to quit overthinking because it can give you the bravery to step into the unknown. Really, it's the bravery to step into peace. Are you brave enough to actively practice peace in your life and let go of control in that way? Are you brave enough to do that? Are you brave enough to do it until shit hits the fan? And then in that moment you don't wanna do it at all anymore. You wanna grasp onto control again. And actually, it's in that moment that you have to find an even deeper layer of peace and allow the answer to come to you an even deeper layer of what? A more peaceful way, the answers that come to you in peace. Those shit change your life. The answers that come to you from overthinking those keep you stuck. So one of, uh, one last thing I'm gonna give for how you can heal, overthinking. Is, you can start with like self-concept work or a mantra. That's another thing that healed overthinking for me. If you don't know how to just be present during the day, start with something you wanna believe about yourself, that you don't currently believe about yourself, and repeat it to yourself 110% all day, every day for at least 30 days, and you will stop. You will start to notice that one thought manifest in your external reality, and you'll help you heal your overthinking. So, for example, um, I have a client and one of her affirmations is, is I'm connected to my truth and my truth brings me to my highest timeline. And in the beginning of our coaching, she was terrified of speaking Her truth, would never speak her truth. She thought she was a burden. She thought she just had to like please everyone. Um. Basically thought that her needs were not important, but she started repeating that to herself 110% all day every day. I mean, obviously she lived her life too, but she'd go on hikes where she would repeating it for an hour at a time. She'd repeat it as soon as she woke up, and she'd repeat it as she was falling asleep. It's really all you have to do. Doesn't have to be every second of the day, I guess, but as much as that, like an hour a day on an hour hike, an hour in the sauna in the morning, an hour at night as you're falling asleep or something. I know it's work and it's worth it, but what ended up happening is she would start speaking her truth in moments She really didn't want to because that was the only thought she was focusing on. And then she would get evidence that it did connect to her with her highest timeline. So then she would speak her truth again and again and again, and now we're five months in, and this woman is so in her truth, she feels no guilty about putting herself first, but it started with that one. Belief she wanted to ingrain in that led her into new actions that led her into new evidence in her life that then led her into speaking her truth, which then led to more freedom and less thinking. Okay, that's the power you have. I mean, I also believe astrology has been monumental in healing my overthinking. It's maybe the number one tool. Because when I know what's happening, I know how to navigate life. It's, it's also why my, this client, I talked about navigated life and healing that wound so gracefully is because we also use the astrology. It's why all of my clients have very similar results and navigate so gracefully. It's because of astrology can bring acceptance when a lesson is coming up that you're wanting to resist and it can help you navigate it and stay in peace. That's how I use it when I work one-on-one with people. So this is how you heal, overthinking. I hope this was cohesive. And off. I know I was a little all over the place, but that's how I healed my overthinking. You can do it too. I'm really good at helping people do it, and I'm at moving only into one-on-one, working with people one-on-one now, and deep dive. I just believe that the most responsible, effective, impactful way. To use astrology is not just doing one reading, but doing deep dive one-on-one sessions where I help people not just like use the astrology, but I use all of these tools I talk about that heal, overthinking, and bring you into true power in your life. True connection, true flow with your, with your life. And what feels good and what feels peaceful and what feels. I just want people to feel peaceful and free because I know what it feels like to not feel peaceful and free. I know what it feels like to overthink everything in your life, to feel this chronic anxiety like, like, like I told you, my panic attacks as a little girl. I'm just recently became a peaceful person. And you can too. So if you want to apply for one-on-one coaching, you do have to book a reading with me first to apply. I'll put the reading link down below if you haven't booked a reading with me yet. If you have booked a reading and you wanna apply, I'll put the application below that. You can apply for one-on-one coaching and I reach out when I have spots available. I am looking to fill one spot right now and I do have some applications in, so we'll see when I reach out to you. But. I hope this episode helped you. Let me know if it did, and I will see you all on the next episode.