#422 Healing the Inner Child, Self-Worth & Aligned Relationships | Sabrina Vedete Elmaliah

In this powerful episode, Sabrina Vedete Elmaliah joins the conversation for a raw and inspiring exploration of inner-child healing, self-worth, emotional boundaries, and attracting relationships that truly match your identity.

We explore how childhood experiences shape who we become, the hidden danger of people-pleasing, why so many people abandon their own needs, and what it actually means to reclaim your power and live from alignment rather than fear.

If you’ve ever struggled with self-love, repeating relationship patterns, weak boundaries, or feeling disconnected from your purpose — this episode will speak directly to you.

✨ What you’ll learn:

• Why inner-child healing unlocks confidence
• How to stop abandoning yourself
• How to recognise unhealthy patterns and trauma cycles
• Building emotional awareness and self-trust
• How aligned relationships form naturally
• Practical steps to raise self-worth and shift identity

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🕒 TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – Introduction & setting the tone
02:25 – Why inner-child wounds follow us into adulthood
05:10 – How childhood conditioning shapes identity
08:42 – Abandoning yourself vs showing up for yourself
12:30 – The danger of people-pleasing & losing your voice
15:48 – Building emotional awareness & self-trust
19:05 – Understanding trauma cycles in relationships
22:44 – Choosing partners from alignment, not fear
26:10 – Self-worth and attracting healthier connections
29:52 – Breaking patterns and rewriting your story
33:05 – Living authentically & trusting intuition
36:20 – Final message from Sabrina
38:10 – Outro

👤 Guest Bio

Sabrina Vedete Elmaliah is a mother, womb healer, ritual artist, and founder of Sacred Lotus Yoni. She guides women to heal from the root and reclaim their sensual radiance so they can rise into their sacred purpose.

Her work bridges mysticism and medicine through somatic ritual, embodiment, plant medicine, and menstrual health practices. Sabrina supports women in regulating their nervous systems, healing old wounds, restoring womb balance, and standing confidently in their purpose as leaders, lovers, and creators of sacred ceremony.

She serves her community through her signature training The Jeweled Womb, private 1:1 ceremonial mentorships, and workshops and retreats around the world.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Now, people always said growing up, when you have a baby, you change, of course you're gonna change. And it's like, well, if I know I'm gonna change, why would I put myself in a situation where I will change and stop having to put myself first? And and the reality is that you don't know until it happens. And then you can say, well, all the negatives that come with the responsibility and the pressure of having a child, is it worth the highs?

SPEAKER_02 0:21

When you have a child, obviously things are changing for you biologically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, your priorities reorganized. Yet the service to yourself actually must increase. I feel like if you don't have a child, you can actually do a lot less self-care and get away with it for a lot longer before your body or your emotions catch up. So as a parent, you are charged with the responsibility to take pristine care of yourself so that that child learns how to take pristine care of themselves. And that's ultimately what's going to heal lineages and heal generational wounds, and do what we all say we want to do, which is make the world a better place to live.

SPEAKER_00 1:10

Being present and grateful for what you have right here, knowing that something better in the future, which may come isn't guaranteed, and what was in the past was then, and now is just all that you have, and really being truly in your body with feelings and how you feel now.

SPEAKER_02 1:26

You know, I probably would have done the same stuff every year. I know myself, you know. I would have been doing the same thing every year, hoping that that divine alignment would happen in one of those containers. But it was the actual act of having to slow down, stop everything, reprioritize, rearrange, and say what is really important to me right now.

SPEAKER_00 1:51

Just quickly, I just want to say a massive thank you to everyone who still listens to the podcast. I started four years ago, and since then I've had over a million downloads. I'll get 5,000 downloads per month, and I've had over 200 different guests. So a massive thank you to everyone who still listens. If you could please do me a favour, if you could rate and review the podcast, that will be amazing because it helps get the podcast out to new conscious people like yourself. And my goal is to awaken as many people around the world. You can also follow me on Instagram, it's yesKingOliver, should you wish to see what I get up to on my day-to-day moments. Back to the episode. So, literally, before we just um came on the podcast, me and my best friend are talking about that we are at the phase where we are transitioning from child to adult. Now we're both 32 years old, and what we're talking about is that most people they leave school and they jump into the real world without doing any inner work, working out themselves, why they're here, what life is about, what makes them happy. They just follow the pattern. So they have the life that everyone else has, but they've not, they don't know their emotional body, they don't understand the nervous system, they have no clue. And so we've been at the stage where we spent the last 10 years working on ourselves, healing all our trauma and bullshit from growing up and our parents' trauma, that we are in a position now where we are admiring that normal life which we ran from and didn't want for so long. And we are becoming aware of ourselves, being aware that we are transitioning from the mindset of a child to an adult right now, and that we can't do anything about it, we can't get out of situations that we are in, we just have to ride with it. So, for example, we're talking about saving money. So we both have businesses, and when you make money, you spend it, and you take some risks when you're making money because why not? But then when the situation comes where the business goes to a quiet period and you've not got your savings, you're like shit. Um, I need to save. And it's like you haven't got your savings. So then you realize, okay, savings are boring and investments make money, but you need to be adult responsibility, adult responsibility. You need to have adult responsibility, such as saving stuff, just because that's what you need to do. And we're in a situation where we're realizing, okay, um, we need to be adults and save as opposed to spend and invest, like most people our age are doing, um, but we're just aware that we're at that point right now. And you couldn't have told us two years ago, you couldn't have told us last week, it's happening now. And that shift of child to adult, um, yeah, it's just it's happening.

SPEAKER_02 4:31

Well, congratulations. Welcome in. I think that the shift from child to adult happened for me when I had a daughter. Uh, for the majority of my life, I was a very free soul. I traveled the world, I spent months in tents, I was backpacking, it was me and my dog all the way. And the when my daughter came through, that was when I was like, wow, okay, um, my daughter is a being and she is going to need things. And my lifestyle isn't sustainable for that. And what I want to share with you in that, in that building for me, I understand and I understand this um inherent need or desire to save. And also I found that in the precipice of moments when I felt like I had nothing and what I was supposed to do was pull back and start saving pennies. That's when I take the biggest risks and I actually invest in myself in a higher and deeper way because that is actually where the big growth is, and that's the edge. That's actually where I'm uncomfortable. It might feel comfortable to save because that's what we're supposed to do. But I want to bring myself to the edge of my risk and invest more in myself because I know that that's the way I'm going to scale and double and triple my income instead of just staying the same while I'm trying to put pennies away.

SPEAKER_00 6:04

So, do you think it's necessary for people to have children to go from a child mindset to an adult, or can you choose simply not to say have children and therefore you never will really become an adult? Is it just the choice, or does evolution say no, this is what happens? It is just what happens, and you can try and prolong it. Inevitably, it will always somehow arrive there.

SPEAKER_02 6:30

Well, it's interesting that you say that, Oliver, because right now, as a 44-year-old woman that does have a young daughter, I had a daughter later in life. I am seeing a lot of my feminine sisters and priestesses that are in their 30s and 40s that are making those choices about whether they're choosing to have children. And right now, when I'm speaking in terms of the woman, this is the maiden energy, right? For men, this would be the prince energy, right? And if you continue to choose to be a prince or a maiden past the time of your childbearing years, that doesn't mean you energetically remain a prince or a maiden. You are still evolving energetically, whether you choose to have the physical act of a child or not. And where the growth edge is or where the stagnation can be is by saying, actually, I'm choosing not to have a child because I want to remain a prince. But actually, that means you have a greater responsibility to show up for the actual kings and mothers in life. That means you become an uncle, that means you become an auntie, that you become a different type of contributing member to society. You don't get to stay a child forever just because you choose not to have a child. You actually step up in another role that supports the community in a different way.

SPEAKER_00 8:02

Yeah, so my friend actually said, um, you know, we've gone from like not wanting the normal traditional life because we know it's not as great as you think it is, and that it's stressful if you've not done your own work, for example. The alternative is traveling forever, being free, having no responsibility, not giving a fuck. And he was actually saying how no, you can do both. You can have, say, a partner and a family who says taste millions, build businesses. If you fail, I'm here. If you fail, you've still got what everyone else has, he's not doing that. So it's like, oh wow, yeah, you can have a family and still like taste the dreams and whatever, but now you've got like two things to do. You've got this and you've got that, versus just focusing on just that, because that's all you've got to do. So it's like you can have both. You're absolutely right. Just because you have an adult uh a child and you have to go up, it doesn't mean you lose your your child itself, you just give yourself other purposes and fulfillments. That's that that's that's basically what I'm getting from that. Is that you have more things, not necessarily less, and um you create more situations where you are now more valued, which empowers you more, and then you compare that feeling to like just traveling and giving money to the homeless person, when you compare all these extra feelings you get from that, you realize wow, these feelings and energies are actually quite small and and minimal compared to these big energies. Like you realize when you have like amazing loving sex that just having a quickie is absolutely just pathetic, so you think that was great, but actually, like tantra and eye gazing and whole breath work sessions with your partner, no, that's really deep, that's where it's at, and then suddenly the sex is just ridiculous.

SPEAKER_02 9:46

So, um you know the quickie is just that, it's a quick release, but love making, whether you want to label it tantric or not, is actually having a divine connection and communion with God, goddess, source energy. When you actually have spent the time as you're sharing to do the inner work so that you can be intimate with yourself without masks, without skins. When you actually know yourself to the level where you are intimate with yourself and you know who you are, then you get to share your intimacy with your partner, the which who has also done, quote, the inner work. The two of you get to meet in a meeting place that creates God in your sex.

SPEAKER_00 10:38

Yeah, and then when you compare that, all those feelings compared to just the feeling of being free, not having any of that, and just going traveling and making money when you can, whatever, you compare those feelings, there is no comparison. Um, now people always said growing up, oh, and I know this is true because it just is it is what it is. When you have a baby, you change, of course you're gonna change. And it's like, well, if I know I'm gonna change, why would I put myself in a situation where I will change and stop having to put myself first? And it's like, well, why do you want to put yourself first? And it's because, say, you think that the thing you want to do is gonna provide more fulfillment than say having a child, and and the reality is that you don't know until it happens, and then you can say, Well, all the negatives that come with the responsibility and and the pressure of having a child, is it worth the highs? And then you realize, well, it's actually not just about that, because like the the uh the siblings are with your sister and being an uncle and siblings hanging out, you create other worlds, um, that it's not just about having a kid, so many worlds open up, and um, if you're not if you don't know that because you're not there yet, then you won't really be able to appreciate it.

SPEAKER_02 11:51

Um well, listen, when you have a child, obviously things are changing for you biologically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Your priorities reorganize, your everything is chang is shifting into a different state of service, yet the service to yourself actually must increase. I feel like if you don't have a child, you can actually do a lot less self-care and get away with it for a lot longer before your body or your emotions catch up. But when you have a child, you are faced with the divine mirror of who you are 24-7, because that child becomes a carbon copy of who you are. So, what that means is if you're somebody that is prone to overworking, if you're someone that has substance, um, not even abuses, but that tends towards substances for numbing, if you're somebody that has rage or anger, that's simply amplified when you have a child, and now you have a divine responsibility to take care of yourself so that you don't send another carbon rage a holic, another carbon substance abuse, another carbon, you know, overwork or out into the world because ultimately that's not benefiting our human and relational community. That's not going to support the trees, it's not gonna support the air, it's not gonna support your human community if you are an unhealed human that is choosing to remain unhealed with and bring that into the next generation. And so I feel that having a child is an opportunity to learn how to fully fill your cup and keep your cup filled so that you can be in an overflow of love and resources. When you are parenting from an empty cup, it has a double negative effect when you're living your life from an empty cup. So, as a parent, you are charged with the responsibility to take pristine care of yourself so that that child learns how to take pristine care of themselves. And that's ultimately what's going to heal lineages and heal generational wounds and do what we all say we want to do, which is make the world a better place to live.

SPEAKER_00 14:17

Um, yeah, that's that interesting because let's just say I'm sitting down meditating and I'm just sort of going through what I perceive as trauma and negatives, things and patterns that I've got for my parents, and then I'm aware, and then I heal it and I fix it. I'm like, great, I'm done. When you have a kid, for example, if there's any work that isn't done, that'll be reflected in them and should trigger you in some way, basically mirroring yourself, and then you'll have an opportunity to heal even more and even deeper. Plus, you've got all the amazing, beautiful things that come from having a child. So you're right. You think that well, I think I used to think that my my freedom and my soul will be taken if I have a kid, um, and instead it can actually be enhanced. You can still be you, you can still travel, you can travel with your child, you have the extra love and feeling that comes of children, you create a whole new world on purpose with what comes of having children, and it's very hard for the childhood version who hasn't even traveled yet to be like, oh, um, that is what's really gonna be fulfilling in life, um, because you're not you're not there yet. Um, and so this natural state of when does the body really truly grow up, you know? When does the per when does the body actually like the person want to grow up versus like they're having to grow up because circumstances are making them, you know? And I didn't want to grow up because well, I'm still in my childhood, like say mindset saying I don't want to grow up. Like, why would you change? But then suddenly certain things happen where you're like, well, traveling is not sustainable. Every way you look around, you give you got family and children and kids and partner, partnership is about a team, team is great versus being on the pitch by yourself, and then when you add all these up, you realise, well, there is so much more to that life, but the bit I love the most is that it reflects even deeper parts of you that you haven't healed, and it forces you to either heal them or project that back to your child, in which case that pattern just will continue. Um you know what?

SPEAKER_02 16:20

I relate to you. I relate to you because I did not have a child until I was 40, which some might think was um old. I'm 44 now, my daughter's about to be four, and I spent the first 40 years of my life so deeply attuned to what I wanted to do and how I wanted to live my life. It happened because I had a transformational experience at 21, where the man that I considered my who was my father had a tragic sudden death. And it was wrong, it was not okay, it destroyed our family, and it sent me into an abyss of questioning whether there was a God, because if there was a God, God definitely wouldn't do this. And also, wow, life's not guaranteed. It was like a new, it was like an NDE moment for me. Like life is not guaranteed. I am not guaranteed tomorrow, even if I take my master's degree and my college education and I work at this job and I do this thing and I build this life. What's to say that I'm ever gonna be able to enjoy a fucking penny of it when I'm supposed to retire at 60? So at 21, I made that decision that I was going to live my life for myself and do what my heart calling was. And that is when I became an entrepreneur. And that's when I set out into the world. I got involved in the transformational festival community. This is now, you know, 20 years ago, I started going to Burning Man. This is 20 years ago. I spent 16 years at Burning Man. I became a producer in the festival community so that I could travel all over the world and produce festivals and live my life. And I've been doing this from 21 years old till I'm still doing this at 44. But what changed when I had a child at 40 was that I said to myself, you know what? I've done all of this. I've lived all of those lives, I've seen many fucking sunsets, I've seen many fucking sunrises, I've danced at the parties, I've done all of that, and I felt full. And now what do I do? I produce the family village of festivals and I bring my daughter to the family village that I curate and create so that she gets to experience what it could be like in a new paradigm where people work together and camp together and live together and eat together, and I organize these entire events so that my daughter can come and experience what that feels like. And though I don't get to go out until 6 a.m. in the morning at the festival anymore, I'm lying in bed with my daughter hearing the bass music. You know, I don't feel like I'm missing out. I don't feel like sad that I'm not there. I'm I'm with my daughter and we're here and we're having this experience together. And it is just the most profound transformational experience to be as I'm a wound healer and a ceremonialist and a ritualist. When I hold ceremonies, sacred ceremonies with women, my daughter is there. She's witnessing, she's seeing, she's experiencing. When I'm sitting in the Maloka, my daughter is there. She's witnessing, she's experiencing, she's seeing, she's inputting, her imprint is changing. And this is the greatest like gift that I don't feel that I'm missing out on anything. I'm I feel double the love. Like when my daughter witnesses me holding space in a ceremony and guiding women through transformational experiences, to understand like what that means for her as a four-year-old, you know, and how she's gonna grow into this world because I actually really do care about this world. I actually do care about animals, I actually do care about you know the environment and the whales. Like, I I want her to be feeling the same way that I do and to be a steward of this world, it's worth it to me.

SPEAKER_00 20:22

Yeah. Um the main thing that came from that is that the time will come when you feel your cup is full. So you are 40 and you're like, I've done the mushrooms, I've done the sunset, and all this shit. I'm so full I can't have any more dessert. And that's the time when, say, you had you had a child for me, because I haven't even travelled yet. To even think about a kid, it's like, well, I haven't even gone to Barley yet, for fuck's sake. So it will take like going to Barley maybe two or three times to realise, okay, I've seen the sunset, I know the animals, I know the locals, I've done the machines, I've done the fucking ayahuasca. It's a not natural organic phase in life where you will just be like, I'm done. And you don't really know when that phase will come. It might come sooner rather than later for people. For some people, it might never come. But what I'm getting is that you don't really know when that time will come. It either comes or it doesn't, and when it does, you don't know when it's gonna come. Because I literally, six months ago, since I was 21, no marriage, no mortgage, no kids, because it was about being controlled and me having freedom forever. I want to travel forever, but now I've started traveling. I'm like, I it's not sustainable. I don't want that, I just wanted what I really wanted, which was like that family and children and stuff. So it comes organically. You don't know when your cup's gonna be full, you might have to go to Bali, or I might have to go to Bali nine times, might be ten times, but in the 11th time, I might be like, no, I've done so. Now you sit in the tent with your daughter, you hear the music pumping, and there's no like, oh, I wish I was there. You've done it 400 million times. No, you you know what's happening. There's like truly no loss. Like it's not it's like nope, I I'm fine. I can just I don't need to take that lovely Chinese takeaway there because I'm I'm full. And let me reframe with you.

SPEAKER_02 22:16

Let me reframe with you. It's not that I'm done, it's that I'm ready to share. That's why I'm still there. I'm not done. I'm not home in my bed by myself in the Catskill Mountains with the, you know, I'm ready to share. And I hope that's a good reframe for you because you don't have to be done. I'm not done being there. I'm not done meeting beautiful people. I'm not done dancing. It's just that I'm ready to share now.

SPEAKER_00 22:42

Yeah, uh that rap that rephrase. So I'm gonna reanalyze that. The past version, say of one, might be like, oh, I feel like they're missing out here in the music. The current version is, no, I'm not missing out because I have a equal to amazing experience with my daughter listening to the music, wondering uh what it would be like. And that wondering feeling is you could say equal to or more better than the feeling of the past virginity being in the tent. Um yeah, it's just I'm just getting that it's not you don't feel like you're missing out. Um, it becomes how that's it. Yeah, yeah. That's amazing because um yeah, it's just you can't plan, it seems like you just can't plan these situations when that evolutionary step happens.

SPEAKER_02 23:38

It's true, you know, and that is exactly the type of shifts that you get to see after doing your inner work, just to bring it back full circle, right? When we stop choosing life from the unhealed parts of ourselves, when we stop choosing life from our wounding, when we start to stop choosing life from our longing, and instead choose from our values and from our worth and from our divine destiny path, then all of a sudden, you know, our communication with the divine becomes clearer. We're not abandoning ourselves for, you know, like the the desires that aren't bringing us closer to our truth, right? We begin attracting into ourselves people, places, experiences that feel safe, that feel reciprocal, that feel aligned, right? We become this tuning fork, right? When we do that deep inner spiritual work, when we meet ourselves, when we unmask ourselves, when we can give ourselves an orgasm, especially as a woman, that is a very deep, intimate experience, right? When we can be with somebody in their discomfort and not feel like we have to fix them or change them or alter them in order to feel good ourselves. You know, that's when we start living in that divine alignment where things in our life just start coming full circle, where we don't have to feel FOMO because we know that we're in it.

SPEAKER_00 25:19

So we don't have to feel FOMO because we know that we're in it. Like analyze that even more. I think that's a that's a good one. Yeah. You want me to analyze it or like just even more, because that's that's that's a good one, but I want you to analyze it even more so I can really, really get that.

SPEAKER_02 25:36

Okay. Well, what that brings me to is like the path that I'm walking, right? You know, I say that I walk the path of the priestess, right? But walking the path of the priestess for me is not about um, it's more about what it is. It's not an identity, right? It's a devotion. It's a devotional act of service to myself, to my child, to the earth, to my community, to the women I serve, right? When I'm on that path, I don't feel FOMO for other things that are happening on out there in the world. I'm not like, wow, I'm in devotional service right now, but I really want to be over here. I know that where I am at is exactly where I'm supposed to be. It is exactly where I'm meant to be, and that every step that I'm taking is my the ceremony of my life. There's like nothing else that's more important or valuable.

SPEAKER_00 26:32

Yeah, so truly being present and grateful for what you have right here, knowing that something better in the future which may come isn't guaranteed, and what was in the past was then, and now is just all that you have, and really being truly in your body with feelings and how you feel now, and then continuing that like every second and every minute, and then every day, and that constant awareness of this is all there really is, which is like now, and longing and grieving for something is uh saying that this moment now isn't isn't good enough, and it is always good enough. Um when did you realize that you so have you always wanted children and knew it would be a later down the line, or were you like, no way, and then suddenly something shifted, and then you're like, oh, actually, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 27:24

You know, I did know that I always wanted a child, but I never was one of those people that said, Oh, I want to have a kid at this time or at that time or at that time. And we all know what happens when we don't give the universe clear direction, right? It just didn't happen. I was living my life very fully, like I shared before. I was traveling, I was having every experience, I was building on, I was questioning who I am, I was going into the inner depths of myself, I was going traveling the world. Um, and I didn't know when becoming a mother was gonna be for me. And also I knew that one day it would. And the true reason that I did become a mother, I believe, is COVID. COVID said all the festivals are closed. COVID said everything is shut down. And right coinciding with COVID, my mom, um, you know, uh, my mom got cancer. And so I was called out of my life to come back to my home of um New York State, where my mom lives in up in upstate New York to take care of her during this time of COVID. And this is when I was severed from my California community, I was severed from my world community, and all of a sudden I was in my mom's like, you know, like 50 and older community, like immersed in a cancer healing journey, which she has survived and she is alive and thriving. Um, and it was at that time that um I had to slow down, and that was really it. Like my mom and my sister were begging me, go on a dating app, like go find somebody. And I was like, no way, I'm not staying here in New York, you know, I'm going back to California. Um and uh, well, I went on a dating app, and you know, within a month and a half, I met who was to be the father of my daughter. We both felt like it was a divine alignment. We um decided to get married. We got married. Um, and you know, my daughter came very soon after. And though that relationship was not fated to be a lifetime relationship, I know that it was a soul contract, and I'm very like clear and complete with the fact that my daughter, it was her time to come, and it could only have taken the two of us to make that happen. And here she is, and I'm eternally grateful for you know that soul alignment for that one moment in time, that COVID moment, that my daughter's energy and spirit was able to come forth from these very two particular humans, and you know, here we are, and I get to be a mother, and it is the greatest gratitude of my entire life.

SPEAKER_00 30:13

You think if your daughter hadn't come at that time, you would have continued like the path you were before, identically, or do you think that there would have been changes, or did your daughter come so the next change could unfold? Like would you literally just done the same stuff every year? Do you think?

SPEAKER_02 30:29

Or you know, I probably would have done the same stuff every year. I know myself, you know. I would have been doing the same thing every year, hoping that that divine alignment would happen in one of those containers, as I always had, you know, and it may have happened or it may not have happened.

SPEAKER_01 30:49

Divine alignment meaning like say partner and child.

SPEAKER_02 30:53

Yeah, you know, like I I was, though I have had many beautiful, I'm kind of a long-term relationship type of gal. I've had many beautiful long-term relationships in, you know, my existence from the time of high school till, you know, my 30s. Um, you know, it the alignment for a child wasn't there. And I do feel that I am like this creature of habit. I loved my life a lot, I love my friends a lot, I love my my lifestyle a lot, that I would have kept on going in the same way and like praying for the divine alignment of the partner to come through in that way. And he may have, or he may not have. But it was the actual act of having to slow down, stop everything, reprioritize, rearrange, and say what is really important to me right now. And that is when it came through. Motherhood is important to me. Like that is the priority. And once motherhood came the priority, then I opened myself up to that. The partner came through very quickly. We met and married in a month and a half, and it was very beautiful. The story of that is so beautiful. I'm so grateful it's my daughter's story, it's not my story anymore. Um, however, it is, you know, it it is how universe aligned to bring me into becoming a mother, which became the priority because everything else was cleared off the slate.

SPEAKER_00 32:15

Out of 100% of all the stuff you're doing before your daughter, how much are you still doing identically the same, but with your daughter?

SPEAKER_02 32:24

Um, well, I am still a womb healer. I still walk the path of the priestess, I still hold sacred ceremonies, I still am in divine service to women and to my community and to the temple of my womb. I still do produce transformational music festivals and curate family villages for families and children to come and experience what life could be like in an ancestral tone. Right. And yet, my that is not, you know, how I've shaped my life. I now shape those things around my daughter.

SPEAKER_00 33:00

So life hasn't changed too much since five years ago. It's just slightly different.

SPEAKER_02 33:07

Yep. The biggest change is that I live in the Catskill Mountains of New York, you know, and that is a completely different. I live in a rural area. I'm carrying, you know, water, chopping wood. You know, that's a very big change to the sunny beaches of California and Costa Rica, where I've spent a lot of the past 15 years. So that is a big lifestyle shift. I'm welcoming it. We are now in the season of snow, which is wild, but um, you know, I'm taking that all as part of this beautiful chapter of my life. So, yes, you can have a child and you don't have to sacrifice, you don't have to give up, you don't have to, you know, decide that you know you can no longer live in your divine purpose. In fact, everything that I do is now interlaced with a deeper purpose, with a deeper devotion because she is here. And so now she is that like shining priority where everything else wraps around. And now I get to integrate my life into the me being a mother. And I feel like it's brought a deeper depth to my offerings, a deeper depth to my service, a deeper depth to how I show up in the world and for myself. And I know that I'm going to leave this world with a legacy that I would not have understood the value of without her. And she, just as they say, the children are our teachers, she teaches me every single moment because she is asking me to live in my higher self because she's a child and she doesn't deserve the leftover parts of me. She doesn't deserve the outdated parts of me. She doesn't deserve the traumatized part of me. She deserves like the highest self of me. And it just, it just rises me into myself in a way that I've never experienced before.

SPEAKER_00 35:03

So to summarize and finalize, children will teach you and reflect your wounds, and then once you're aware, you've got a choice to to fix them and heal them, or to just keep running from them, and then your children will keep bringing it up and until you die, or you keep finally do it, you finally heal and address, and you become a better person because they saw things that you didn't see, and it's absolutely accurate with my parents. Yes. Um, if you had one day left to live, what is one thing that you would share to the rest of the world?

SPEAKER_02 35:36

Wow, it's really beautiful that you say that because one of my deepest meditations, um, and I meditate on this myself, and I also share this in ceremony, is if when you are lying on your deathbed, the most important thing that is going to be there with you, the most important question that you're going to have to answer when you're lying on your deathbed is have I loved enough? Did I give myself to love? Did I allow myself to love and be loved by others? Because ultimately, when everything is done, love is the only thing that's going to remain. So to answer your question, to me, it's going to be that reflection on my last day. Have I loved enough? Did I give myself the opportunity to be loved enough? Did I care so much that my heart was overflowing with love? And that is, you know, my last moment, you know, contemplation.

SPEAKER_01 36:52

Okay. Um, anything you want to promote and plug before we finish?

SPEAKER_02 36:57

Sure, I would love to share. Um, if you would desire to follow me on Instagram and be friends in the interwebs, my Instagram handle is at sacred lotus.ioneirituals. I have a legacy program for womb healing mentorship and facilitator training where you get to become the bridge between mysticism and medicine. Um, it is called the Jeweled Womb. We begin in January 2026. If that is feeling like something that you want to explore, if you are in a woman's body, if you contain a womb, then I'm here to have that conversation with you. I also lead sacred medicine retreats and workshops in different places around the world, as well as have one-to-one private ceremonial mentorships, which we can do virtually. I'd be uh more than happy to connect with you so that you can awaken your sensual life force energy and pour into your divine purpose, your lovership, your motherhood, and your money. Thank you so much. Yes, King Oliver. I appreciate you and the beautiful work that you're doing out here in the world, raising the frequency for all of us to dance in.

SPEAKER_00 38:19

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