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Thank you for having me."},{"speaker":"Emily","startTime":2919.812,"endTime":2920.668,"body":"This is so good."},{"speaker":"Emily","startTime":2920.724,"endTime":2923.2,"body":"I'm gonna go look up all my stuff."},{"speaker":"Emily","startTime":2923.7,"endTime":2924.96,"body":"I'm so curious."},{"speaker":"Emily","startTime":2926.74,"endTime":2927.628,"body":"Alrighty."},{"speaker":"Emily","startTime":2927.724,"endTime":2929.628,"body":"If you want to build a successful, fulfilling"},{"speaker":"Emily","startTime":2929.644,"endTime":2932.668,"body":"and successful, sustainable writing life that"},{"speaker":"Emily","startTime":2929.644,"endTime":2932.668,"body":"works for you, you've got to get on our email"},{"speaker":"Emily","startTime":2932.724,"endTime":2933.18,"body":"list."},{"speaker":"Rachel","startTime":2933.3,"endTime":2936.54,"body":"Sign up now to get our free email"},{"speaker":"Rachel","startTime":2933.3,"endTime":2936.54,"body":"course, the Magic of Character Arcs."},{"speaker":"Rachel","startTime":2936.62,"endTime":2940.172,"body":"After seven days of email magic, you'll have"},{"speaker":"Rachel","startTime":2936.62,"endTime":2940.172,"body":"the power to keep your readers flipping pages"},{"speaker":"Rachel","startTime":2940.236,"endTime":2941.18,"body":"all through the night."},{"speaker":"Emily","startTime":2941.3,"endTime":2942.236,"body":"Link in the show notes."},{"speaker":"Emily","startTime":2942.268,"endTime":2943.036,"body":"We'll see you there."},{"speaker":"Emily","startTime":2943.108,"endTime":2944.2,"body":"Thank you so much."},{"speaker":"Rachel","startTime":2944.5,"endTime":2944.86,"body":"Bye."}]}