BridgetteUnfiltered: Dear Bridgette Debut,Barbie Bimbo Realness, Emotional Cheating & the being in the Mess!

In this raw & honest episode of The DyrtyBlonde Podcast, the BridgetteUnfiltered season, former adult star turned podcast host, creator, CEO Bridgette B. rips off the glam filter and shares the real story behind the unfortunate circumstances in January 2025 that shook her loyalty of the adult industry she has always defended, to the emotional fallout of realizing she was "performing” her whole life, Bridgette lays it all out.

This week marks the debut of “Dear Bridgette,” an advice segment inspired by 90s icons Delilah and Dear Abby, where she answers juicy listener questions starting with one about emotional cheating, exes on TikTok, and digital boundaries in modern dating.

Expect deep dives into:

• Barbie aesthetic stereotypes vs. reality
• The modern woman’s survival mode & masculine energy burnout
• Why self-worth > industry validation
• The psychology of men, leadership, and why liking thirst traps is digital cheating..sorry, not sorry.

Whether you’re a reformed bad girl, dating a guy who still follows his ex, or just here for the real talk, this episode is your permission slip to pivot, rebrand, and reclaim your power with me!

👉 Submit your questions for “Dear Bridgette” via Instagram @BridgetteUnfiltered
🎧 Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe wherever you pod!

Chapters

• 0:00 Introducing the Real Behind the Glam
• 4:12 My Life in Adult Film
• 10:16 The Industry Betrayal That Changed Everything
• 15:14 Dear Bridget: Relationship Advice Segment
• 21:36 Shedding Layers & Finding Authenticity
• 25:09 Taking Back My Power

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:06

I'm pulling back the glam to explain the emotional, spiritual and strategic chaos of becoming someone new in front of an audience. And if you've ever felt caught between who you were and who you're becoming, this one's for you as a former adult star turned, I guess, podcast, social media, loud mouth, smart mouth and more. Ladies and gentlemen, I see you. This one's for those who are just tired of the shallow, the loud, the fake. You're here because you want something real. I'm sure, if you're aware, my aesthetic is not exactly for everyone. I always like to say I am well aware that I am not everyone's cup of coffee, but I'm someone's shot of espresso, hopefully maybe Blonde, big boobs, fake lips, as some like to refer to me as the quintessential Barbie bimbo. I've heard it a million times throughout my entire career, times throughout my entire career. And now, for someone who used to love playing with Barbie, this to me will never not be a compliment, which of course leads to the ever subtle eye roll that many of you have when I refer to myself as real. And if life has taught me anything, it is to not only not judge a book by its cover, by its shiny cover, but that, instead of complaining about the stigma women in my industry and the like go through. Let's do something about it. So here we are.

Speaker 1: 2:01

In past episodes I went into great detail about how I started the adult industry, my naive thoughts behind it and the creation of the character that allowed me my own place in an industry. Faker than your last girlfriend's orgasm, trust me. Yet the actors, actresses, directors, pas, my agent, makeup artists were some of the most solid, nicest human beings I could have ever imagined to have been surrounded by. I swear, if it wasn't for the culture within the industry now I'm talking about the top 5% okay, not the average Mary Jane grabbing a camera I wouldn't have made it past a day. It made going on set something I looked forward to, because the actual act online sex was 25, 30 minutes, those 25, 30 minutes that you watch when you fast forward through my favorite part, which is the beginning, the script and I know that most of the demographic always want to forward that. They're like don't waste my time, Just get me to it. But everything else the storytelling, the makeup, the storytelling in the makeup chair. The lunchtime with the crew, as we discussed how everyone's doing the, looking at someone's baby pics they truly felt like we were amongst family.

Speaker 1: 3:32

I think that's why I fight so hard to try and point the honest picture of my own personal experiences during my career, because, for me, I want to give it the respect it deserves Moral clauses aside the respect it deserves from me. But then, but then, when I felt disrespected for the first time within my industry and I felt such a huge betrayal and I mean overall sadness it was then I realized that not only had I been performing for so many years, but so was the very industry that I was protecting so much. Covid truly changed the entire game. Within the walls of the industry, I noticed a cultural shift. Performers had to push the limits to remain relevant. More people found it easier to work from home, online, than waste gas, money, time going on set and trust when I say that sitting in two-hour traffic when you only eight miles from set in Los Angeles was a pain in the ass each and every single time. But I did it Happily, and other things of which I have already tackled in early episodes. And then came the final nail in the coffin for me An award show, january 2025. In the coffin for me an award show, january 2025.

Speaker 1: 5:08

To some, what I heard might have not been a big deal, but to me because someone as loyal as I've been to the industry because of its very people, I realized that not only was I performing this entire time, but dare I say, the entire industry was too, or at least that part of the industry, and it just got my mind racing and racing. I won't get into it at the moment, but this, this, was when I realized that speaking my truth meant more to me than being a dancing sexy monkey for select corporations. I hit that breakdown that began that internal audit I had to do for myself in order to continue moving forward as an entertainer. I realized that I know I'm not the only one feeling like this, and there will be others who will have the sense of oh shit, now what? So if you're tuning in, you value strength, clarity, inner confidence, that voice inside your head, that little voice that realizes once you hit a certain point and that's different for everyone the courage to move ahead and draw your own life is inside you, because what good is working, living day-to-day in the grind, when your voice is being suppressed? Right, that's exactly what I'm weaving into my brand now not performing for anyone but me. So why does this matter? I feel it's so important to be authentic. It's exactly what I look for when others content, entertainment, et cetera.

Speaker 1: 7:03

There's a reason why I no longer appreciate super woke Hollywood. There's a reason I refuse to watch the newer Disney remakes. Just let me have old Cinderella, let me have Snow White the way she was. Why remake it with this agenda? Because there's always an agenda. Almost every form of entertainment that we consume, there's always an agenda, there's always an asterisk, always just something extra. And it's exhausting. Honestly, it's exhausting for me as a consumer and now as a creator, and as my journey drives forward. The layers had to be shed, but at my own time and not anyone else's. I've had to relearn literally who I am, and the journey of creating just can't be fulfilled without this honesty, because with baggage like mine, there's just no way that I could even move forward. And that's why this matters to me to put this out there for you, whatever brought you here. That's why it matters to me. As much as it matters to me, we're going to put a little pause. We're going to put a little pin on that, because right now I am going to debut this new section that you're going to be hearing every week.

Speaker 1: 8:39

I'm calling it Dear Bridget. So this is something I've been secretly dreaming about for a while. You know how some people grow up watching to be astronauts or surgeons, ballerinas yeah well, I wanted to be Delilah. Yep, I don't know if you know. I don't know if you've ever walked into your mom's kitchen back in the day and she was listening to the radio and you heard Delilah. I loved it. And if you don't know who that is, it's probably because you had a very loving, stable home life and you weren't awake at 11.30 pm crying in a wet towel, listening to other people's breakups on AM radio. I mean, not that I know from experience at all, from anyone I know, of course not. Delilah was like your mom's therapist and your ex's worst nightmare, because after every mini therapy session the music went straight to like Phil Collins or Enya, some shit like that. It was literally iconic.

Speaker 1: 9:44

And then there was Dear Abby. Dear Abby was the OG New York Post columnist. She gave these punchy like no bullshit responses to readers' questions with like a cigarette in one hand and a divorce lawyer on speed dial, and I ate that shit up. I loved the New York Post for that, if I had my way of get around, if my teacher had it, I would read up on it. I loved the New York Post for that. If I had my way of get around, if my teacher had it, I would read up on it. I loved it. So I thought, what if I took those two energies right Delilah's softness of which I'm trying to embody in my new era, and you know, miss Abby's side eye that I'm always gonna have no matter, and just filter it through my own hot mess.

Speaker 1: 10:31

Introducing, dear Bridget, where your questions are going to meet, my brutally honest advice, because that's what we're here for, right, ladies and gentlemen, dear Bridget, I've been dating my boyfriend for six months and recently found out he's been watching his ex's TikToks and liking every single one of her thirst traps. He says it's no big deal. Am I being insecure or is this emotional cheating? Ps, I did look through his following list, which pretended, while pretending, to watch the new episode of Quarterback on Netflix. So maybe I'm not innocent either. Let me know. Okay, well, first of all, I love when girls step in and, you know, kind of, ask their questions and don't look of me, don't look at me like their arch nemesis. And you know, girl, I hate you. You're the reason why my man watched porn. So I appreciate that. I appreciate all the female support. So that's probably why my producer said this is going to be the first question we give you, which is awesome Done. And second of all, girl, you are not insecure and you have every right to investigate.

Speaker 1: 11:50

Watching your man like another woman's TikTok in 2025 hurts. It hurts a lot. And for the men that listen to the show, here's an inside look it hurts. We are well aware that men have animalistic behavioral tendencies and some might say that, due to the modern-day suppression of such animal-like tendencies, us, as women, have instilled unnatural expectations on our male partners. Don't look, don't stare, don't talk. Why are you liking this? Why this? But fuck it, women, we're crazy. We're crazy only when we like the guy.

Speaker 1: 12:34

I'll be honest dudes, the average girl can probably get over anything. When she doesn't like the guy, she'll get the ick. You know what I mean? We pray for the ick so that we don't like you guys too much, but that's another topic. And at the beginning of a dating story, at the beginning of a dating relationship, these dates, you know, the ones where the minutes turn to hours and you just learn everything about the other person is where I feel men, being the more logical rather than emotional being, will take mental note and if he's a dick, we'll use it to his advantage. But if he listens and truly cares about the girl sitting in front of him, he will listen to the stories, pay attention to the things she doesn't like, because he's the hunter and he's chasing her and by liking exes, tiktoks in modern times that's considered digital chasing.

Speaker 1: 13:37

It's convenient, it's adequately distanced to where a guy truly can just be liking the pics, not thinking it's a big deal. Much like if he sees a hot girl walking and turns and looks. But the only reason it upsets you, my dear listener, is because you looked. Had you not looked, would you have known. It's a catch-22, right, my girls? My mom always used to tell me if you don't want to know, don't look. Let's just say we all have our boundaries. If yours is lack of self-control, from a man, you know, like not liking a girl's pic is easy to do. Much like not flipping your neck to see a hot girl walk by while you're holding your girl's hands is easy to do. It's self-control. It's so easy to do when you respect and like the girl. It's what separates the animal-like tendencies to the in-control masculine that women like me tend to find very attractive.

Speaker 1: 14:43

A man's self-control in out-of-control situations is what makes us women trust in him, because he demonstrates leadership, which, in turn, if you hadn't noticed him liking his ex's TikToks, I can bet a million dollars you wouldn't have gone through his follow list. Which leads me to think due to how that app works, his follow list is on private, oh boy, and that's just a whole nother set of fucking issues. Why is his follow list private? I know. For me it's because of work, brand deals, et cetera. Having that follow list is gold because people look at who you follow.

Speaker 1: 15:31

So, girl, what's your boundary? You can't expect a man to be what you want if you don't have your own self-control, because I can guarantee if his boundary is that he doesn't like his girl going through his phone, you will get disposed of. Finding out each other's firm boundaries from early on can lead to eliminating so much heartache, because I can guarantee the man being the logical one, usually through experience. As soon as we fuck up that first boundary, they're done with us, because a man wants and values respect. And if we go past that boundary that he has set for himself. That means he doesn't have self-respect for himself. So when the guy doesn't have self-respect for himself, what good is he to us? He can't lead us. He doesn't even like himself, which then we don't find attractive, and then we behave as such and then things become toxic, and then you have to break up. Most of us are not innocent. We're crazy. We're crazy when we like the guy. It's just part of our DNA and it's just part of our nature. The moment I stop caring what you do, who you're with, what you're following, what you're liking, is the moment I'm not interested. Trust, and I think guys are catching on to that. So, with that being said, sweetheart, if this answer gets to you in the digital universe A thank you for your question. B I wish you the best of luck and I really would love to know what happens. So you know, dm me on Instagram at Bridget Unfiltered. Welcome back.

Speaker 1: 17:28

Okay, we left off with expressing me, expressing and letting, telling you that, in order for me to continue as an entertainer, I needed to relearn who I was. I needed to be honest with who I was and with what I'm going through as I bridge this gap, because there's a lot of layers and I've been asking myself, how many layers do I fucking have? Because it's exhausting, it's so much, but it's also so freeing. Mind you, my background is not the norm. The average person doesn't have to be concerned that at any point you could be having an innocent dinner and the table next to you can just go to Google and see your tits Anytime, anywhere. That sense of privacy feels long gone. When, if you know you know, I'm not saying everyone knows what I do I'd hope that if someone were to meet me in the middle of the street or at the grocery store I'm not exactly blatant and screaming ex-porn star, but who knows?

Speaker 1: 18:41

Again, going back to the beginning, my aesthetic. It draws certain conclusions and I get it. I'm very much privy to it, because what am I going to do? Am I going to hide under a bed for the rest of my life? Am I going to be concerned about what the table next to me at dinner is going to think if they see something for the rest of my life? No way, we can't live our lives like that. But there's no rule book, there's no playbook, because we build as we go. And for a minute after I realized that the next chapter of my career was just evolving, because the internet will never go away and the internet will never let me live it down I just picked myself up and took accountability and ownership. I just picked myself up and took accountability and ownership.

Speaker 1: 19:34

Whenever I had to make tough decisions, I tended to self-isolate. I'm notorious for staying silent and away as long as it takes, until I know I'm ready for that decision to be made. I remember making this exact statement on a podcast and the lady interviewing me said oh, that must be nice. I got kids and a husband. I can't hide anywhere. So, trust me, I know it's a luxury and I'm grateful for it.

Speaker 1: 19:59

But hiding while I worked on a decision that had to be made, whatever that looked like, worked for me until recently, until about the last, I guess, 16 months or plus. Until about, you know, the last, I guess, 16 months or plus. These life decisions that I had to make that part of my brain that has to think about what's five steps ahead of me instead of just what's in front of me, is what's had me making the decision to not be afraid of what's next, that, after being one of the more downloaded porn stars. You know not to toot my own horn to toot, but whatever, it'll be okay. I didn't have to isolate as I had before, which is where I am now revibing in real time, learning what hasn't worked for me previously and just flipping it on its head and doing it differently.

Speaker 1: 21:01

However, there is this messy middle Old friends become strangers, new friends become new family Men I would find attractive during those chaotic times and now just seem exhausting. The average modern girl does have somewhat of a past by the time you get to her, unless you go to a monastery and get yourself a nun. Because, if I have to come across one more talking head, andrew Tate-like personality putting down this generation of women who have had to embody such survival skills because the average male isn't providing the safety, the leadership, the trust that she needs to thrive, say, in a growing relationship like our dear Bridget. Question from this episode, your girl will feel the need to look through your follow list, to look through your phone. She will feel she needs to question why her boundary is being crossed and yet, being the loving, emotional beings we are, we'll still stay in the fucking relationship, even though we know it's a wrap.

Speaker 1: 22:18

That award show in 2025 was my boundary. I wasn't expecting to make a decision that fast. I thought it was going to be this drawn out event. I expected to do what I always do go away. To do what I always do go away, hide, get off social media, stay silent and isolate. But instead I got louder. I went back to my hotel room, took off the gorgeous leopard print cowboy outfit it was chef's kiss by far one of my most favorite looks of all the red carpets I've done. I took a bath and I sat. I sat until the sun rose over the Las Vegas strip and that was that.

Speaker 1: 23:02

There was no plan, no idea, and for me, that was my rebrand. I mean, I could have stayed and smiled and continued to give energy and press and marketing to the company that didn't value me at all as an integral part of modern day adult industry. Because they showed me. They showed me what they thought of me because of what they did at the award show in January. I didn't matter to them. They were nice to me. Of course. I mean, they're not animals. We're not animals, we're adults.

Speaker 1: 23:38

But when I heard from very credible sources to what was said about me behind closed doors, I realized that they were only being nice to me as another performer, as another performance, and that was my boundary. We all deserve to be respected as basic human rights and needs are met. They fucking teach us that in pre-K. For God's sakes, your parents are supposed to teach you that from birth. But that boundary, that internal pivot in where you no longer will tolerate what's done in order to be seen, in order to be paid or just to be able to work, or in order to have that boyfriend, or in order to have that girlfriend or that wife, is where it's different for everyone. And so here we are. The ability to have an authentic conversation with you is so rewarding for me that, even though you can google me whenever you want, I'm going to take my power back and share with you my voice, my opinions and my journey, not only to evolve me as an artist and an entertainer later and to add yet another layer to Bridget B. To make room, you have to shed, and that's where this journey is leading me. If something I said made you laugh, made you cry, made you block your ex, you're welcome.

Speaker 1: 25:11

Make sure to subscribe, rate on iTunes and follow at Bridget Unfiltered on Instagram and, if you want your question featured on, dear Bridget, go ahead and slide into the DMs or, you know, do a shout out, put it in the comments, we'll find it. Ladies, go light a candle, fix your lip gloss and stop letting boys with zero vision distract you from your empire. And remember king. If you gotta check her following list, it's already over. Heal, hydrate and stop falling in love off instagram stories. All right, guys, see you next episode. Bye.