Healthy Boundaries

A lot of people talk about healthy boundaries, but what are they really? They are so much more than cutting someone out of your life. To me, healthy boundaries are more like parenting yourself. Doing what's best for yourself even when it's not easy. And healthy boundaries involve all sorts of things - not just people and relationships but finances and food and time management. What healthy boundaries do you need to set for yourself?

Transcript:

Hello, my name is Tiffany, and welcome to the podcast Working on Amazing.

This is a podcast where we talk about the work that it takes to rebuild an amazing life.

And I specifically use that word rebuild because we're designed for women who feel like they're starting over in the middle of their life.

Lots of different things can lead you to the point where you feel like you're starting over.

All I know is that it doesn't feel good.

It was one of the worst feelings I think I've had.

So if that's you, first, I just want to say I'm sorry.

I'm sorry that you're at the point where it feels like you got to start over.

But I'm here with hope.

It gets so much better.

I promise you, it gets so much better.

You're not alone.

You're actually in the right place.

So welcome, I'm so glad that you're here.

Let's get down to today's episode, all right?

So if you'll remember in the beginning, I said I focused on five areas when I rebuild my life.

I focused on my spiritual health, my mental health, my physical health, my financial health, and growth and goals.

Today, we're gonna fall under the umbrella of mental health, and we're gonna talk about healthy boundaries.

Now, I know we've hit the mental health umbrella area a little bit more here lately, but we're right here at the holidays.

Thanksgiving, we're coming up to Christmas.

And I think those holidays can be emotionally challenging, especially when you're in a dark time, when you're in the middle of rebuilding your life, when the rug has been pulled out from underneath you, it is emotionally difficult.

And so I really wanna hit these things a little bit strongly, a little bit more, to help give you some tools to navigate what can be a more difficult season than the average season, okay?

So today, let's talk about healthy boundaries.

I feel like healthy boundaries is a little bit of a buzzword right now.

I'm not talking to her healthy boundaries.

We always see healthy boundaries in light of generally relationships.

And a lot of times, it's because you've cut somebody off.

There are other examples, but like 90% of what I see on my social media, what I read in articles, when I talk to other people, it almost always is about relationships, and it's about kind of cutting somebody out of their life.

Well, healthy boundaries.

Okay.

I'm not saying that that isn't a healthy boundary.

What I'm saying is healthy boundaries are so much more than that.

And let's just have a conversation about what healthy boundaries are, how to figure out what healthy boundaries are for you, things like that.

Like, it's so much more than just cutting somebody out of your life, right?

So first of all, I think the first thing, as we talk about healthy boundaries, what I came to realize healthy boundaries were for me, is healthy boundaries are a way to parent yourself.

I am completely serious.

If you think about how you're going to parent yourself, like I've got to be my own parent a little bit.

If you had a child, do you just let the child run the show, decide when to go to bed and what to eat?

Well, no, you don't, because you know that that kid probably needs to go to bed at seven or eight o'clock.

And you don't pick tha