Fear is a Liar

How often does fear drive our decisions? Fear can be a loud voice or a silent motivator.  Either way, fear does not come from God.  Fear is a liar and acknowledging the fear is the first step to getting rid of of.

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Transcript:

Hello, my name is Tiffany, and welcome to the podcast Working on Amazing.

This is a podcast where we talk about the work that it takes to rebuild an amazing life.

And I am using that word rebuild specifically, because we're designed for women who feel like they're starting over in the middle of their life.

Now, I think a lot of things can lead you to a point where it feels like you're starting over.

For me, that was divorce after a 20-year marriage.

For my sister, it was the unexpected death of her spouse.

And for you, it might be something totally different.

I think the commonality is when all your hopes and dreams for the future have gone up in smoke.

The life you planned is no longer viable.

The rug has been pulled out from under your feet.

Your day-to-day life looks different.

Everything has changed, and it really does.

It feels like you're starting over.

If that's you from the bottom of my heart, truly, I'm so sorry.

But I'm here to offer hope and encouragement.

I'm here to tell you, it gets so much better.

It truly does.

You are not alone.

You're actually in the right place.

So welcome.

I'm so glad you're here.

As we get down to today's episode, I'll remind you that in the beginning, I said there were five areas I focused on when I rebuilt my life.

I focused on my spiritual health, my mental health, my physical health, my financial health, and growth and goals.

And I said that each podcast would fall under one of those categories.

So today, we're going to talk about spiritual health.

And it also to me very much bleeds into mental health.

I think a lot of these categories can overlap.

So I'm going to put it under spiritual health, but it definitely strongly ties into mental health as well.

And today, we're going to talk about fear.

I believe fear drives more of our decisions than we actually acknowledge or give it credit for.

I feel like oftentimes, we make a choice, and we don't even realize we're making it out of fear.

So today, I just want to talk about fear, the hold it has over us, and just get to the place where we start acknowledging fear.

And sometimes, when you call something what it is, and you label it correctly, it loses some of its power.

When you look at it with clear eyes, then you're like, hey, that's kind of irrational.

So let's just take a moment and look at some of our choices that could be being driven by fear.

I feel like relationships, some of the decisions and choices we make, some of the things we say or don't say, some of our relational patterns are driven by fear.

And we have to look at that, and we have to acknowledge, what am I afraid of?

Am I afraid that this person is going to throw their hands up in the air and say, I no longer want to be in a relationship with you?

That for me is a big factor.

I've had people do that to me before, and it makes a big impression when that's done.

And I will say that I think I avoid conflict, and I'm fearful for addressing an issue for what it is, because that is a driver for me.

So I have to say, OK, this is what I'm afraid of.

Is this rational?

Well, in some cases, it is.

Some people may have truly even threatened, I no longer want to talk to you, or when I no longer talk to you, or whatever.

That is a very...

So in this particu