Real Self Care

We hear a lot about self care these days but what if it's more than eating cheesecake and taking bubble baths? When it comes down to it, self care is taking care of yourself. That means so much more than random self indulgences.  Taking care of your self should be a daily and consistent practice of repeatedly doing what is in your best interest in the long run. 

Transcript:

Hello, my name is Tiffany, and welcome to the podcast Working on Amazing.

This is a podcast where we talk about the work that it takes to rebuild an amazing life.

And I am using that word, rebuild, specifically, because we're designed for women who feel like they're starting over in the middle of their life.

I feel like a lot of things can lead you to the point where it feels like you're starting over.

For me, that was divorce after a 20-year marriage.

For my sister, it was a very unexpected death of her spouse.

And for you, it could be something totally different.

I think the commonality is when all your plans, all your hopes, all your dreams for the future have gone up in smoke.

Your day-to-day life looks totally different.

The rug has been pulled out from under your feet, and it really does.

It feels like you're starting over.

If that's you, first of all, just from the bottom of my heart, I want to say, I truly am sorry.

And how overwhelming and how horrible that feels.

But I also know, and I'm here to tell you, there is hope.

It gets better.

It truly, truly does.

You are not alone.

You're actually in the right place.

So welcome.

I'm so glad you're here.

Now, if you'll remember, in the beginning, I said I focused on five areas when I rebuilt my life.

I focused on my spiritual health.

I focused on my mental health.

I focused on my physical health, my financial health, and growth and goals.

And I said each podcast would kind of fall under one of those five areas.

So today, I feel like we're, this one could fall under a couple different areas, as is with most topics.

It feels like it doesn't just fall under one.

They all kind of overlap to some degree in some area.

But I'm going to put this one under growth and goals.

But it has a heavy dose of mental health too, I believe.

And it's self-care.

And everybody else would put this under mental health completely.

Self-care is good for your mental health.

And I agree.

But I want you to put it under growth and goals.

I want you to see that it's pushing yourself forward.

I want you to see self-care, not as just mental health, even though that is a huge piece of it.

I want you to see that it helps keep you on track.

Self-care, to me, is oftentimes self-discipline, and knowing the difference.

And now, I want us to look at self-care, and just this whole concept.

I feel like it's been derailed by social media, and in the current culture that we're in, and it's like self-care is cheesecakes and bubble baths.

And I love bubble baths.

But self-care is something fundamentally different.

Self-care is staying on track for your goals.

It really is keeping yourself on track in all these ways, not just mental health, but in all the other areas too.

So if you were caring for a child, and I believe I've used this example before, if you had a young toddler that was under your care, that would be child care, right?

And so what would the ideal child care look like?

Well, you would make sure they ate good things.

Yeah, sometimes you get a treat, but overall, you're going to eat some fruits, some vegetables, some good stuff.

You're going to get a little bit of exercise.