It's Not Supposed to be This Way

In a season of change have you ever said in anger or frustration - it's not supposed to be this way? It's easy to get stuck here on this statement. At this point of wishing things were different and resentful of how life has turned out. While it's a common sentiment, getting stuck here will serve you no positive purpose. So how do we get past it? How do we move past the resentment to build an amazing life? That's a good question, let's talk about that.

Transcript:

Hello, my name is Tiffany, and welcome to the podcast, Working on Amazing.

This is a podcast where we talk about the work that it takes to rebuild an amazing life.

And I do use that word rebuild, because we're specifically designed for women who feel like they're starting over in the middle of their life.

Now, I feel like that can mean many different things.

For me, that was divorce after a 20 year marriage.

For my sister, it was a very unexpected death of her spouse.

And for you, it might be something totally different.

I think the common denominator is when all your hopes and dreams for the future have gone up in smoke, it feels like the rug has been pulled out from under your feet.

Your day to day life looks totally different, and it does.

It just feels like you're starting over.

If that's you, first of all, from the bottom of my heart, I truly want to say, I'm sorry.

I know firsthand how overwhelming and just achy, horrible that feels.

But I'm also here to tell you that it gets better.

I'm here to offer hope.

I'm here to offer encouragement.

Countless women have gone through this whole midlife reboot, just starting over process, and they have ended up on the other side better for it.

I promise you, so many people have gone through it and ended up with a better, more amazing life.

And you can too.

You are not alone.

You're actually in the right place.

So welcome.

I'm so glad that you're here.

So if you'll remember, in the very beginning, I said, I focused on five areas when I rebuilt my life.

I focused on my spiritual health.

I focused on my mental health.

I focused on my physical health, my financial health, and growth and goals.

And I said that each podcast episode would fall under one of those five categories.

And sometimes they overlap.

If you are a listener, you know that.

They often, it can be very easy for one topic to fall under multiple categories.

And that's just the way that works.

But today, I want to talk a little bit about something that falls under mental health.

And I want to talk about how to get past the mental block we have when we look at our life and say, this isn't the way it was supposed to be.

I think when you go through a major life transition, a major life change, when something unexpected happens and it isn't what you asked for, it isn't what you hoped for or planned for, it's a negative change, it's a negative transition, I think it's really easy to get hung up on, this isn't the way it was supposed to be.

Whether it's a job loss and you're dealing with unemployment and applying for a job, and you're stuck on, this isn't how it was supposed to be.

I was supposed to actually get a promotion.

You're going through a divorce, this isn't how it was supposed to be.

You're going through the grief of the loss of a loved one.

This isn't how it was supposed to be.

How do we get past that?

I think that is a very natural part of the grieving process.

And when you go through a major life transition, there is grief, especially if it was unexpected and negative.

You're grieving the way your life was.

The things that were, that you loved and enjoyed, and you