Turning Down Your Emotional Thermostat

What do you do when you get upset? When someone does something that irritates you? How do you turn down your temperature emotionally speaking? On Today's podcast we talk about one way to regulate to help regulate your emotions when you get upset.

Transcript:

Hello, my name is Tiffany, and welcome to the podcast Working on Amazing.

This is the podcast where we talk about the work that it takes to rebuild an amazing life.

And I am using the word rebuild because we're specifically designed for women who feel like they're starting over in the middle of their life.

Now, I think starting over can mean a lot of different things, but just as an example for me, that looked like divorce after a 20-year marriage.

And for my sister, it looked like the very unexpected death of her spouse.

For you, it's probably something totally different.

But the commonality, I believe, is when all your hopes, all your dreams, all your plans for the future have gone up in smoke.

The rug has been pulled out from under your feet.

And it really does.

It feels like you have to start over.

And if that's you, I just, from the bottom of my heart, want to truly say, I'm sorry.

I know how overwhelming and just horrible that feels.

But I am here to offer hope.

I'm here to offer encouragement.

I'm here to tell you it gets so much better.

Countless women have gone through this exact process and come out on the other side better for it.

We just need to talk about it.

We need to encourage each other and give each other the cliff notes of how it worked.

You are not alone.

You're actually in the right place.

So welcome, welcome.

I'm so glad you're here.

Now, if you'll remember in the beginning, I said I focused on five areas when I rebuilt my life.

I focused on my spiritual health.

I focused on my mental health.

I focused on my physical health, my financial health, and growth and goals.

And I said each podcast would fall under one, at least one of those categories.

Sometimes they overlap, right?

Well, today, we're going to talk about mental health.

And we're going to talk about what to do when you get really upset, kind of like when you get triggered, right?

When somebody does something that just sets you off.

Now, I think there are a lot of tools that we can use in those situations.

So today, we're just going to talk about one of them.

It's not the only tool you could use.

It's a tool to use, something to think about when you get upset.

So let's say you get cut off in traffic.

Let's say potentially someone that lives under the same roof as you didn't put the dishes in the dishwasher.

They left dirty dishes out in the sink.

Maybe at work, a co-worker took something off your desk without asking.

Okay, sometimes something happens, and we're going along okay, and then suddenly it's like the temperature rises.

When this event happens, it's like we run hot really quick.

Does that make sense what I'm saying?

That suddenly that incident, whatever it is, gets us really mad really quick.

I think this is especially true for women who are going through this big transition in life where it feels like you're starting over.

I feel like when you feel like you're starting over, your emotional bandwidth is at maximum capacity.

All your emotions are caught up in the events that made it feel like you're having to start over.

You just don't have a lot of extra emotional give in that bandwidth.

Now, in a different season, it's different.

But in this season where you are just emotionally maxed out, something happens and it can be really easy