453: Listening & Learning: Why LDS Loved Ones Could Not Stay in the Church

Series Title: Torn: Why People We Love are Leaving the Church & What We Can Learn from Them [Part III of III]

In this final episode of this beautiful series featuring guest author Jeff Strong & his bestselling book Torn: Why People We Love are Leaving the Church & What We Can Learn from Them, Val & Jeff cover four "culture imbalances" that thousands of disaffiliated LDS offered as reasons they could not grow in the context of the LDS church. Listen in to hear some sobering & important data that offers a more accurate narrative surrounding the current LDS dissafiliation crisis.

As painful a this information might be for devout LDS loved ones, this information is vitally important. Can those who loved the church and want what is best for their faith- expanding families listen to their feedback and create safe harbor for those on unexpected faith journeys? 

The only way our LDS homes and wards can become this kind of community is to listen, learn, and trust the words and experiences of those who often only leave because they feel that thriving spiritually is not possible if they stay.

Jeff's book Torn linked HERE

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

02:45 Why These Talks Matter

05:00 Unexpected Family Reversals

13:14 Why Culture Is Key

20:25 Imbalance One Who Belongs

28:53 Balancing Standards With Love

35:13 Transactional Faith Pitfalls

44:54 Map Not The Sea

50:57 Agency Versus Compliance

54:28 Trusting Individual Conscience

01:00:23 Pressure To Conform

01:03:15 Ubuntu And Closing Takeaways