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042: the weirdly specific things that make us cry

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This week is a chaotic emotional spiral through all the oddly specific things that make people cry.

Nins and Arns pull different “cry categories” out of a jar and unpack the videos, memories, fears, therapy breakthroughs, celebrity interviews, childhood movies, random scents, and late-night TikToks that destroyed them emotionally. What starts as a silly little game quickly turns into an honest conversation about vulnerability, nostalgia, healing, growing up, and why the smallest moments somehow hit the hardest.

From emotional texts from parents to irrational childhood fears that still linger into adulthood, this episode explores the deeply human experience of crying over the most unexpected, nonsensical things.

If you’ve ever sobbed because of a smell, a Disney movie scene, or a TikTok at 2AM, this one’s for you.

  • 0:00 - Preview
  • 0:36 - Intro
  • 1:21 - Introducing: cry categories
  • 3:19 - Sob story: Ms. Darla
  • 9:43 - #1: celebrity interview moments
  • 19:11 - #2: TikTok trends
  • 22:10 - #3: realizations in therapy
  • 27:17 - #4: scents
  • 31:02 - #5: childhood films
  • 35:46 - #6: text from a parent
  • 39:05 - #7: irrational fears from childhood
  • 41:35 - Outro

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brb crying—hosted by longtime best friends Nins & Arns—is a podcast where we explore the songs, books, TV shows, films, pop culture moments, and personal stories that help us laugh, cry, heal, and feel a little less alone. Crying is our superpower, and by sharing what makes us cry in a way that makes us laugh, we show how crying helps us connect with ourselves and each other.

Preview

SPEAKER_02

We fucking love black pink. Yeah, we're blinks. No, we're so hardcore blink. If I ever get whiffs of Benge, I immediately think of my grandma.

SPEAKER_03

There's something about making this really big choice that is the most terrifying thing that you have ever done, but you know in your heart that there is no other option and you have to do it.

SPEAKER_02

Also, Dimitri, probably one of my first crushes. Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, I think a Sailor Moon. Um Sailor Tosquito.

SPEAKER_05

Tosquito. Don't like a mosquito. Tosquito mask. Yeah.

Intro

SPEAKER_00

This is BRB Crying.

SPEAKER_03

Hello everyone. Welcome back to BRB Crying. I'm Arnt. And I'm Niz.

SPEAKER_02

And thank you for joining us today. Thank ya. Your two cry queens are back at it again. But we're changing things up. Usually, what we do on this podcast is the two of us will tell each other something that made us cry. But today we're just going to be telling you everything that makes us cry in our bonus episode.

Introducing: cry categories

SPEAKER_02

So we are actually going to be playing a game today. No half-hour long stories. What we are going to do instead is pick a few of our loving cry categories, such as movies or shows that we haven't covered yet. Who knows what we've written in these little papers? Prompts. Little prompts of things that have made us cry that fall under these categories. And then uh we'll just do it until we get bored of it.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, we're just gonna we're just gonna yap a little bit about it. I don't really expect this episode to be as serious in our feels as we often get, but who knows? Who knows?

SPEAKER_02

Who knows? Who fucking knows? Who fucking knows? Um, so yeah, that's the plan for today. Hope you're excited. Hope you're ready to see what BS comes out of our mouths, as always.

SPEAKER_03

But first, but first, really quick. If you're new here, welcome. If you're old, welcome back, Crybaby. Whether you're new or old, if for some reason you're not yet following us on socials, please do so at beerbcrying.podcast. Send us your sob stories, send us cry recommendations, tell a friend about us, rate us on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, and uh follow us on YouTube. That's my little plug.

SPEAKER_02

If we make you laugh at least once today, you actually owe it to us. Yeah. Contractually, you are obligated. Yes, that's correct. Okay. Ooh, you look like you are bursting with some sort of soul story. Way! I do have a sob story.

SPEAKER_03

Yes, thank you for the thank you for the soundbite. I that's really important. There's no way I could find one on the other. Oh, it really is. Yes, yeah. Brand recognition, that kind of stuff. Yes. So

Sob story: Ms. Darla

SPEAKER_03

I do have a sob story, and this one is not an official sob story per se, but this was a comment left on one of our YouTube videos. So I'm just gonna get straight into it. Speaking of crying, Ariana, that's my name. My legal name. I worked at the school where your daughter goes, and when I had to leave due to overstaffing, it was so hard for me. I had been with these kids since they were practically babies slash toddlers, and having to leave them after seeing them every day was so heartbreaking. Even though the kids were young, I feel like I just quote unquote disappeared from their lives. They may not understand what happened, and being in contact with other parents, the kids think I moved classes. To this day, it still makes me sad. I miss all of them so much. Your daughter will always be a special part of my life. You've done such a good job with her, and I loved having conversations with your silly girl. Tell her Miss Darla misses her. P.S. I literally ugly cried when I watched your episode when you talked about the early years of becoming parents, and you mentioned your husband said if he had at least so many years with her. I'm sure you remember the story. I don't know why watching that made me so emotional. Thank you for sharing. So the context behind this, because when I first started reading this comment, I was so confused. I was like, wait, what? Who is this? Then I realized this was one of my daughter's teachers at her Montessori school. And she left one day. This is my daughter's by far her favorite, her favorite teacher, one of her teaching assistants. And one day she was gone, and we found out that she had left permanently, and we were so sad because we had no idea she was going. We didn't get to say bye. And you know, we didn't really know what to tell Sauna. So I was so happy to see this comment. First of all, thank you, Miss Darla, for listening, for watching. I didn't even know that you did, but that was such a pleasant surprise. And it just breaks my heart a little bit because I'm thinking of it from the perspective of my child, and like, oh man, what are we gonna tell them? I'm sure all the other parents are thinking that too, but I don't think I ever stopped to think, well, what about the person who had to leave? What was that like for her? Because I assumed it was um a choice. I assumed it was her going because she wanted to, not because of overstaffing. And so it was just such a bittersweet moment. And I just wanna actually, I just wanna thank everyone out there who's a caregiver for a child, because it is no easy feat being around these toddlers day in and day out. You become literally their favorite people on earth because they spend maybe even more time with you than they do with their own parents sometimes. And so I'm just really grateful for my child, like to be surrounded by that kind of community, and I'm grateful for all of the caregivers out there who are leaving such an imprint on these children and continuing to think about them even when they leave.

SPEAKER_02

So yeah, I think someone who's on the outside of this relationship, kind of watching how all of that unfolded, first I think that even if you aren't a caregiver, even if you aren't, you know, a parent who's dealing with this exact scenario, it did kind of remind me of like those moments where life just takes a turn and things change and you don't get the opportunity to say goodbye. And even if it's like something that you're expecting, like a graduation or like you change jobs, there is still this inevitable ending date where these people that fill your days are no longer gonna be there. But I think I think maybe a past version of me would have just been like, oh, well, that's that. There's no way for me to express my gratitude and just say how much I appreciated that time together. But I'm just really touched that Miss Darla felt safe enough to do that, sought you out, and beautifully shared all these memories that she had with her. And I think that's just so cool that people are doing that. People are are not thinking anymore, oh, it's probably weird for me to leave this comment. No, um the window's past for me to explain. Yes, exactly. When no one, I mean, at least our community is like, yeah, let's just wear hard on our sleeves, let's just show gratitude as often as we can and just feel good about that. So that was that was what I took away when I saw that comment come through.

SPEAKER_03

I love that. And I think that's the perfect reminder to anyone. Like, if you think of someone, no matter how long it's been, like reach out. There's no way they're not gonna be delighted seeing your name pop up. Yeah. You know, it's so funny.

SPEAKER_02

Like, I for my day job, I had, you know, this like weekly meeting in front of all these people. And I was planning on publicly thanking a person on my team because they had done something above and beyond. And I remember like the opportunity presented itself, and I don't know why my habit was like, oh my god, should I say it? Should I say it? And then obviously I was like, no, fuck it, of course I'm gonna say it. I took the moment and like you could tell how much it meant to him to hear someone publicly acknowledge what he had done. And so it just feels really good to yes, receive that praise, but also to give it. And I just I really have been taking an active effort to like stop listening to that voice in my head that tells me that's fucking weird, don't do that. Like, no, just don't, just don't bother. Like, it just feels so good. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

So both ways. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

So thank you, Miss Darla. And again, send us your sob stories.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah. If you want us to talk about you and like just shower you with praise for, I don't know, five minutes. Five minutes, that could be you. It's really easy. If you send us a sob story.

Cry category #1: celebrity interview moments

SPEAKER_02

All right. Okay. Should we get into it? I guess you'll start off. I'm ready. Okay, so Arns is gonna pick a category. A cry category. A cry category. And she will answer the quick we both answer the question? We're gonna both answer the question. Like I want to answer the question too.

SPEAKER_03

You think you're not like you're not gonna be burning next, like not even listening to my response. You want to answer so bad, you know? Stupid. All right. Ooh. Celebrity interview moments. That was me. That was me. Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Blind-sided me. Celebrity interview moments that has made you cry. Um, ooh, I'm gonna have to let me. Ooh. Sorry, I'm racking my brain for all the times I cry during a celebrity interview. Okay, I'm just gonna go with the one that came to mind. Okay. I already talked about this though. But you know what? Maybe you listeners don't remember because I mentioned it very offhand. Emma Watson's segment on Jay Shetty's podcast. Okay.

SPEAKER_02

Which segment, because it was three hours long.

SPEAKER_01

So to be a little bit more than that.

SPEAKER_03

It was just her, oh my god, what was it? I think I cried, I think I teared up a couple times. She was talking about how hard it was because when you go on these sets, it's so from the outside, it looks so glamorous. You assume everyone's best friends with each other, but the reality is it's not always like that. And there were so many moments where she wanted that friendship, she wanted that connection, and it wasn't being reciprocated. And it just was such a vulnerable moment to share as someone who is really fucking famous, yeah, to say I felt like I didn't have anyone in my like that. Yeah. That was a bit like mind-shattering for me. And her voice broke when she was there was no way I wasn't gonna tear up listening to that.

SPEAKER_02

And that was like 20 minutes in or so something like that. Please. Because I remember that too. Like just how how raw that was. I mean, I know you and I do that shit like every fucking episode, but it really is such a new and different place for people to be. But when they do that, like when they show the side to themselves, like I what we listened to that months ago, and that is the part that is still so vivid in our minds. Yeah, that one hit me too.

SPEAKER_03

And it's funny, you say that because it took me a while to remember what she was even crying about. But the first thing I remembered was the way she was saying it and the way she was feeling. Like I was recalling, I was, I was recalling the feeling she was feeling. Yeah. And then I was like, oh, and this is what she was talking about. So it's like those feelings stick with you. I know. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

I loved that interview. Like, I feel like they covered so much. I feel like I got to know her because obviously we all develop these really parasocial relationships with the people that have been on our screens our entire childhood. And you just think that they are their character. And maybe that's true to an extent, but I thought that that was such a wonderful glimpse into the full depth of who she is. Yeah. And I just, I mean, I already loved her, but now I really love her. All right. Okay. What was your answer that you obviously had an answer to while you were writing the question? I know everyone's gonna think I'm just gonna pull some Ariana Grande moment out of my butt. But that is true. That is true. That was one of the ones that came to mind, her Vogue interview where she talked about how beauty was hiding for her. Oh. Did you watch that one? Um I guess you're gonna talk about it. I'm gonna do two. Um, okay, so the first one, she was doing like a get ready with me for Vogue, and she, I guess one of the prompts was like, What does beauty mean to you? And this was during her like wicked era. So obviously, she has done very different makeup styles over the years, and she had talked about how growing up beauty was a way of hiding. It was like during her 20s, I guess the caricature of what Ariana Grande was was so far removed from who she felt she really was, but she used that as a way to hide from people. But now beauty is a way for her to just like really embrace who she is. So that one highly recommend, but that was not the one that I wanted to. I was actually going to talk about Lelisa from Black Pink. I don't think we've ever mentioned this. We fucking love black pink. Yeah, I don't think we've ever, yeah, we're blinks. No, we're so hardcore blink. Like, we had a few years where like rent-free in our heads, like every time we were together, we would just watch black pink videos.

SPEAKER_03

We saw them in LA. I was pregnant. Oh my god. Sauna's first concert. Sauna's first concert.

SPEAKER_02

She was bouncing around in there. It was crazy. Yes. Um, we fucking love black pink. And for those that have been following these women in this group, they did do kind of like solo ventures during the past year. And Lelisa had released an album. And Lelisa is like a powerhouse performer. She has like a crazy aura on stage. And so I guess when it translated to her album, it was like very banger heavy, like songs that you can very easily picture her performing on stage. So, like heavy hitters, a lot of big sound and whatever. And I saw that there were a lot of criticisms once that album came out because she was releasing it to Western audiences. You know, obviously Blackpink is from Korea, so it was a very different audience that she was targeting with her solo career. But the criticism was that there wasn't a lot of quote-unquote depth to her music when the album came out. And she did an interview a few months after its release, but she did it in her home country in Thailand. Oh. And darn, I really should have looked up the interviewer's name. But they had the entire conversation in Thai. And I had just like English translations as subtitles, so hopefully they were like pretty accurate. But she had talked about how like how difficult that was for her to hear that because yes, she is known worldwide as Lelisa, and she has, you know, a huge team of people, but really when it comes to like breaking into the American music industry, she felt like she was like starting from scratch. She didn't have these relationships with these recording studios or these producers, so she really was like doing things on her own a lot of the time. And obviously, we know she was in White Lotus, whatever, like very busy, very pop star lifestyle. But it just struck me that the way that she was articulating all of this in her native language and all of the thoughts that were pouring out of her. She's out of this world, like incredible. But just seeing that moment where she was like trying to process the criticisms, trying to like receive it with grace, but also like explaining her experience throughout that whole process. Like it just it stayed with me.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, it stayed with me. There's this creator on TikTok where he explained it so well. He was like, the thing is, when you get bigger and more famous, the flops don't stop. You just flop more grandly. Like the highs are high, but the lows are still fucking low. Like exactly what you were saying. Imagine having like the world on your side, and then in an instant, people are like, Oh, I don't know about that. Like, holy shit. I can only imagine how heartbreaking. And people might think, oh, but she's so famous. But like, no, no, no, you still feel that the same way because you're fucking human. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

And I just felt like so devastated to hear that people were writing her off as like, you know, super shallow because the music was about, you know, lifestyles and whatever. But it's like, okay, people are so much more than just what their art is showing you in that moment. Like, let's not forget that. Let's not forget these are real humans behind it.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

unknown

Fuck.

SPEAKER_03

By the way, we'll definitely link all of these. We're not gonna make you search shut the fuck out, Blackpink though. Dude, oh god.

SPEAKER_02

All right.

Cry category #2: TikTok trends

SPEAKER_02

All right, 30 minutes later after one question. Okay. Next category TikTok trends. Or videos. Or videos. Um I know there's so many. There's so many. I actually posted a TikTok on our TikTok. We'll link it. About which TikToks made me cry. TikTok, TikTok, TikTok, yes. Um I think I'll just say, because it's the one that came to mind at first, was around Dia de los Muertos when people are putting up ofrendas for their pets. Must I continue about it?

SPEAKER_03

You must not.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

And then like they would show like their living pet playing around it or like watching in I can't do it. Stop. I can't. Don't. And then they would put like the You say I can't, you keep going. They would put the cocoa guitar. Remember me. Yeah. Like just like the instrumental. Yeah. It's too much. It is. Delete those videos. Yeah. Nasty. You reported them all.

SPEAKER_03

There are people out there whose accounts got flagged and disabled because you reported their pet offrenda videos. Y'all got shadow banned for a reason. Okay. I think the one that comes to mind for me is the one where you hug your or you carry your child for the last time. Oh yeah. And I mean, obviously these were already coming on my feed. And then all these other people are like DMing us, right? And you've seen that, like, oh my God, this Andrew Cratt and I was like, I can't watch these anymore. If you don't know what I'm talking about, there's this trend where a parent will go up to their usually preteen teenage child and say, a lot of people don't know when is the last time they get to hold their child. So I want to take the time and pick you up one last time today. So we know we can say this is the last time I got to hold you this way. Uh I just saw one maybe a couple days ago. And they're still doing that shit? She's still doing it. They all hurt. And in this one, the teenage, like his mom isn't even done talking, and he just starts sobbing. She hasn't even picked him up yet. He just starts sobbing and oh, breaks my fucking heart. Cry baby. Cryfucking baby. Holy fuck.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, those are rough. Those are really rough.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

We'll also report those.

SPEAKER_03

Nasty. Oh, I like that, but that was a little shorter than I was like.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, well, because the last one was uh 20 minutes each.

SPEAKER_03

All right.

Cry category #3: realizations in therapy

SPEAKER_03

Realizations in therapy. Ooh. I actually just had therapy a couple hours ago. I don't think I cried though. So I've been seeing my therapist for the past five years now. And shout out I love you. Um she listened. I she comes across our videos sometimes, yeah. Hi. Uh and during my very first ever session with her, it was over Zoom because it was during lockdown. Well, I was a different person completely. And I was very much like I would say kind of a more of a shadow of myself. I felt very small. And we talk about this a lot, how much I've changed in that way. But one of the things she told me, because I had mentioned how I have a hard time like sharing how I feel and expressing it and stuff. This was you know five years ago. Five years ago. Yeah. And she said when babies enter this world, they come in screaming and crying. Our inclination as human beings is to express ourselves. And it's not normal to keep that in. And that was just like the fact that it stuck with me from that very first conversation, and the way I see how both of us, like how much we exemplify that now. I don't know. It's r it's just really cool. Growing is really cool. Yeah. You know? Yeah. Yeah. What about you?

SPEAKER_02

Um honestly, I'm gonna have to look this up because I write bars that she says on my notes app. I have like journal entries. You know what I mean? So I actually have a different experience with therapy. I've had a few therapists over the last few years. But one of the things that I've really been working on is like this need for affirmation or like this need for validation constantly, like, oh, you're doing a good job, and just wanting to hear that from people. And I remember just feeling very insecure for of a long time and like coming into this really shaky, like coming into therapy, really shaky, not really having a strong foundation to sort my emotional shit out and like really being rocked by so many things around me. And the therapist that I had gone to probably for about two years at this point, she had been my therapist right at the start of us starting this podcast. And so she had watched, as kind of with all things, when you start a project, you're feeling your way. You don't, it's like learning how to walk, right? And there was a lot of doubts for me, at least in the beginning. And then once we had kind of found our stride, and I was talking about how I never really realized how much impact our words were having on people. When I was thinking about like the impact that we had had on our audience, and I was like still feeling like I was craving validation from this or that person, and she had been such a strong supporter of this journey for me, and she was like, I wish the world could see how brilliant you are. And like that to me, like hearing her say that was like so affirming. It was as if I no longer was seeking that from whoever I was seeking it from. Like that was enough to validate me in that moment.

SPEAKER_03

I feel that that is a really hard one. Yeah, I feel like as humans, we just we're social beings, and we can't help but want the affirmation and the validation. Yeah. But finding it within yourself is I mean, when you can reach that, those moments where you can reach for that, you don't need it from anyone else.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah. And I think it's so cool, like these lessons that they share with us, it's so simple, and it's like, yeah, that makes sense. But but for whatever reason, in that setting, it just hits so much harder. Like it just it's so much more meaningful when it comes from this outside person who's not affected by your life, who just is telling you what you need to hear in the moment. Go to therapy, everyone.

SPEAKER_03

This is why I think truly therapy is so it can be so valuable. Because sometimes when you're in the thick of it, you can't see what is so obvious. And to have someone reflect it back to you with such clarity, yeah. And then like what you were saying, it's kind of like, well, duh. Like, of course I knew that, but it's like, well, you weren't arriving at that point on your own. Right. Right. So for some people, like it can be so helpful.

SPEAKER_02

Shout out, therapist. Shout out, thank you, shout out mental health. Okay,

Cry category #4: scents

SPEAKER_02

is it my turn? My turn. We keep pulling each other's questions.

SPEAKER_03

I know. Did you pull mine again? Yeah. Oh my god, that's funny.

SPEAKER_02

Okay.

SPEAKER_03

Ooh, sense. Ooh. I must admit this was not my idea. I told Joey about our little Yeah. I was like, what category would you say? He's like, oh, sense.

SPEAKER_02

Like, I was like, ooh, Ninza's gonna love that. I know. I am a perfume girly. That is one of my many hobbies. Scents. Let me think about this. Hmm. You know what's so funny? I was thinking of um, if I ever get whiffs of Benge. Oh if I ever get whiffs of Benge, I immediately think of my grandma. My grandma, my dad's mom, who passed when I was like 11, but by far was the grandparent that I was closest with. I lived with her. She took care of me for a lot of my childhood, and she was like such a character, like always yapping on the phone with her girls. Gotta. While painting her nails. Hell yeah. While smoking a cigarette. Let's go. With curlers in her hair, duster on. And she was just, she was just such an incredible grandma. And like I miss her a lot. Like I always wonder what my life would look like if we had more time together and I could go to her as yet another maternal figure. But she always smelled like Bengay at night to help with her joints. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

So it's funny because I smelled Bengay the other night because Joe Moore was using it.

SPEAKER_02

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_03

And I immediately also thought of my grandma. Really? My dad, also my dad's mom. And it wasn't quite bengay, but it was a bengay adjacent. She was using some, but I was like, I immediately started crying, and I was like, oh my god, these scents. And like the I don't know. There's something about like a grandparent and the smell of them when you can't really conjure anything else, right? It's like uh it just really transports you. Yeah. That's really funny. Bengay. Yeah. So Bengay from our paternal grandmothers. Sponsor us.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

How about you? That's that is my answer.

SPEAKER_02

What was your answer to? Yes.

SPEAKER_03

Oh my god, how funny. I mean, I guess in general, just like sense for that remind me of my paternal grandma. You just copied my answer. Yeah, I know. Paternal unoriginal. Um, her house, her little apartment is across the street from Sana's Montessori school. So I think about her every single day. Every single day. Yeah. And it's funny because I don't know how long that school has been there, but up until she passed in 2012, you know, like I was going to that apartment. I spent so much of my childhood there.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

And it's just so wild. Like I never thought that in another part of my lifetime I would be turning this other direction. And I don't know. It's just, I think about her a lot. It's such a different relationship from parents. Yeah. So if anyone listening out there has had the opportunity to spend time with any of their grandparents, like really, like that's so special. Yeah, I know.

SPEAKER_00

I'm Jelly. Jelly. Shout out Pilar. Is that her name? Shout out Fe. Miss you. Yeah. Love you. Love you.

Cry category #5: childhood films

SPEAKER_03

Oh, this is I picked my own. Oh. Childhood films. Ooh. But this is one I know we both had on our minds as it could be something to talk about.

SPEAKER_02

I had it on my mind as a question.

SPEAKER_03

Oh, yes. I don't know what my answer is. Well, adjacent, childhood films that scarred me. I probably cried because I was scared. Lion King. Mmm. Your dad's brother unalives your dad in front of your face. Yeah. Horrifying. Yeah. Scarring. Ooh. Yeah. But in adulthood, I'm re-watching Disney films with Sana. And I talked about Moana for one of our episodes. But we watched Mulan. And I definitely did not cry watching Mulan when I was a child. It was my favorite Disney movie growing up. But when I watched it as an adult, have you ever watched it as an adult? Okay. It's like I know what's gonna happen, but the scene where she decides to steal away in the middle of the night and she goes in. Yeah, the fucking like epic music. Yeah. Because I think at the beginning of that scene, that's where she she watches her dad like trying and then he falls, and like, and then she does it and she like cuts off her hair, and it's just like, oh, I don't know. There's something about like there's something about like just making this really big choice that is the most terrifying thing that you have ever done, but you know in your heart that there is no other option, and you have to do it, and you have to listen to that call. You know what's so funny?

SPEAKER_02

What I didn't think you were gonna mention that scene. The scene that makes me cry all the time when I watch Mulan is when the Emperor says like his big speech to Mulan, like destroyed my palace and saved us all. And then the entire crowd like bows. And I'm I'm laughing because when I think about our realizations and therapy, like they are so similar to the scenes that we pulled from Mulan. You know what I mean?

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah. You answering the call. Yeah, yeah. Me wanting to feel validated. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03

There's something there. There's something there. What would what would your answer have been though, aside from Mulan? Oh gosh.

SPEAKER_02

Honestly, I'm gonna shout out my girl Anastasia.

SPEAKER_03

Oh do you watch Anastasia? I did a long time ago. It's about Resputin. Yeah. And the Bolshevik Revolution. Yeah, because remember I told you a few months ago that I had a weird uptick in Bolshevik Revolution content on my feed.

SPEAKER_01

I don't know what the fuck happened. I don't know that they ever said Bolsheviks in this movie, but like I went down a I went down a deep rabbit hole.

SPEAKER_03

So yes, I am familiar with that. Okay.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah. So the whole movie, Anastasia, it opens up with the royal family being murdered. There's only one survivor, Anastasia. And then she ends up growing up in an orphanage. And like one of the first scenes is she's like kicked out of this orphanage because she's like 18 and she needs to find her way. Banger song, by the way. Which one? Heart Don't Feel Me Now. That one. Like the whole song is about her being like, okay, like this is it. I'm on my journey now. This is my life. But then you realize like how much she's actually just longed to know where she comes from. And like there's like a small little snippet of like her walking in the snow, and then she's like on her way to Moscow or something, like the big city, and then she like sees this family, like this young family, like playing. And she's like, obviously, it's to imply like that's all she's ever wanted to know. And then when she finds out, like, oh, actually, you're a fucking princess, it's like that didn't really matter to her. Like, all she really wanted was to know her family. And then she finds her grandma, her paternal grandma.

SPEAKER_03

That's the name of this episode. Paternal grandmas. Fuck. Yeah. That one gets me. Ooh, I'm gonna need to give that a rewatch. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Banger. Banger soundtrack, too. Sick. Also, Dimitri, probably one of my first crushes. Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_03

All right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think of Sailor Moon. Um Sailor Moon.

SPEAKER_05

Tosquito. Like a mosquito. Tosquito mass. Yes.

SPEAKER_02

He was hot too. Oh my god. Yeah. All right.

Cry category #6: text from a parent

SPEAKER_02

Oh, is it my turn? Text from a parent. Um, in line with my therapy realization that made me cry. This story actually sends me chills, but I gave the context of my therapist saying, I wish the world could see how brilliant you are. I took a while to muster up the courage to tell my family that I was doing this podcast. I don't know why. It's just like me being shy and me being used to making content and getting over that whole hump of and that fear. So I finally ended up telling my dad about it, probably, I don't know, 10 episodes in, or like some at some point during our first year. And he was like, Oh, this is through text. And he was like, Oh, like, can you send me your YouTube page? Like, I wanna subscribe, I wanna like watch the episodes. And then, you know, I think maybe in my teenager mind, I was like, Oh my god, don't listen. Like, I don't know what the fuck I'm saying on there. Um, so I kind of like, oh yeah, like here's our page. Don't feel obligated to like listen to every episode. By the way, it's so funny, like when we meet people and they're like, I'm not caught up yet. And I'm like, I don't care. That's okay. We don't care. Same. Yeah. So anyway, I was like, like, don't feel obligated to like listen to every single word, but yeah, like it's just been really fun for me to do this, whatever, whatever. You know, me and Arns just will tell each other things that make us cry and dead ass. Do you want to know what he replied? Did I tell you this? If you did, I don't remember. He replied, Wow, what a brilliant idea. So that one.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. We cried a little bit. Just a little. So okay. All right. Um, also a text from my father.

SPEAKER_02

Oh my god, you're stealing.

SPEAKER_03

I'm so sorry, I don't have any original ideas.

SPEAKER_02

Well, we are the same person. We've lived the same life.

SPEAKER_03

So that's true. He was traveling somewhere and he sent a photo, but the photo didn't send because of Wi-Fi issues. So it was just the caption. Okay. And it was, I always think of you and I'm always proud of you. I was like.

unknown

What?

SPEAKER_05

What? Because it's a crazy thing for Ben to say.

SPEAKER_03

Crazy thing for Ben to say. Those words are rarely spoken by this man, but it was just really jarring. I mean, obviously, it was a wonderful feeling, but whoa. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

What was the picture? Did you refined out or it was like a quote?

SPEAKER_03

It was like a quote of him at a mall somewhere, you know?

SPEAKER_01

But that's sweet.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Shout out our moms too, but like they're like they're so much more expressive about like Exactly. You know? Exactly. Hi, beauty. Love you so much.

SPEAKER_03

Have a great day. Yeah. The amount of voicemails I get could have been text messages, you know? Lots of words being exchanged on that end.

SPEAKER_02

And so the rarity of a text from dad. Yeah. Love it. Love it. All right. This is clearly my, I don't remember what it was. Okay. Oh,

Cry category #7: irrational fears from childhood

SPEAKER_02

actually, I know what it is. We'll end it on a fun note. Okay. Perfect.

SPEAKER_03

Oh no. Irrational fears from childhood. Vacuums. I swear to God, if you put a still now, if you put a vacuum near my fucking feet. Like you would cry. The way my chest constricts just imagining it. When I was younger, I was afraid of it vacuuming my feet, obviously. My feet being gone. Yeah. Interesting. It's like loud. I don't even think it was that.

SPEAKER_02

It was the motion of like it gets closer to. Okay. Alright.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Mine was anytime I watched a movie where someone was sick. I guess I was a hypochondriac. Yeah. I just immediately was like scared that I was gonna be sick. Oh my god. Yikes! Yeah. And I would like I would go to the doctor because I'd be like so scared. Whoa, that's intense. Yeah, a lot of like anxiety about like example. Anything would scare me. I I'm pretty sure I told you this story. So my older cousin, he was probably in his 20s at the time. This was like big era of like home videos where like you'd just record stuff at Camcorder. Camcorder vibe, and he would make like the dumbest movies. Like he would like write these skits that were like so dumb. And one of the movies was him dying because his belly button got infected.

SPEAKER_01

And so in his movie, he like staged his whole death scene where he put ketchup on his belly button. And he was like on the couch, right? Like, oh my god. It's like so stupid. But me, I was like six at the time. I was like so stupid. Oh fuck, oh fuck, oh fuck. Looking at my own belly button, like, oh my god.

SPEAKER_02

Oh my god. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. So could not watch movies where people were like that had to be a trigger warning for me.

SPEAKER_03

Um, do you still feel any vestige of that hypochondriac, that anxiety of oh my god, I might have this thing.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, like a little bit, but like not to the extreme it was as a kid because now I have resources. WebMD, Google. WebMD, that one just really wants you to panic. Oh yeah. So I'm not as bad. Okay. Growth. Yeah.

Outro

SPEAKER_02

There you have it. There you have it. Our cry categories.

SPEAKER_03

Love it. That was fun. That was really fun. That was pretty funny. If you enjoyed this and you want us to do another episode like this, let us know what categories you want us to cover next time. Yeah. I like doing episodes like this because it's again, like with our last bonus episode, so much more of what a conversation between us is like. Just on the reg. Yeah. And yet we still fucking cried.

SPEAKER_02

Still did. Surprise, surprise, surprise. Okay. We're gonna wrap this up. Mm-hmm. See ya next time. See ya. But until then, beer be crying.