The Transformative Power of Ambitious Goal Setting

Can your belief systems and upbringing be holding you back from your true potential? Join me, Karen Sarmento, as I uncover the secrets to unlocking your inner power to create a life that truly inspires you. In this episode, I break down how our mental faculties—perception, will, reason, memory, intuition, and imagination—can be harnessed to build a reality that lights us up. Through personal stories and powerful insights, we explore how showing up as the best version of ourselves not only benefits our well-being but also positively impacts our loved ones, especially our children.

Ever considered setting goals that seem out of reach? I discuss the transformative magic of C-type goals—those big, audacious dreams that can revolutionize your life. I emphasize the importance of writing down your goals, practicing daily gratitude, and getting emotionally involved with your visions. Join me on this journey to break free from fear and mediocrity, and step boldly into the life you've always envisioned.

This episode was produced by: Six-Two Studio

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Karen Sarmento is a passionate and dedicated Nurse Practitioner for more than 18 years, CEO at Sarmento Mentoring Services LLC, and a Proctor Gallagher Certified Mindset Mentor. She specializes in empowering women to tap into their true potential. She understands the unique challenges faced by women because she too has battled some major challenges in her life. Karen does not let that define her; she believes it’s the challenges that have made her the limitless woman she is today. She whole-heartedly believes we hold all the power within and that we should stand tall together in the pursuit of greatness.

Karen has served thousands over the course of her career and has spent many years studying directly with world class mentors to gain a deep understanding of the science behind human behaviour and learning about the success principals that create lasting change and transformation. She will share her insights with you so you can feel unstoppable and limitless too.

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Transcript

Karen Sarmento:

0:01

Have you ever felt that inner whisper nudging you towards something greater? We truly are a force of nature, possessing our own incredible power within. We are all here to identify our own personal definition of success. We all have a story to tell. Join me as I dive into empowering concepts and have powerful conversations with extraordinary humans who have shattered limitations, overcome adversity and created remarkable success. I'm your host, Karen Sarmento, and we are meant for more. Welcome everybody. I am so excited to have everybody here.

Karen Sarmento:

1:01

So, for thos e of you who don't know me, I am Karen Sarmento. I am a nurse practitioner and mindset mentor and I've been working with women now for a number of years one-on-one and, more recently, in group sessions to help women improve the quality of their life and really make changes in their life. So what I ask today? I ask that you come with an open mind and just that to be open to new concepts, to be open to possibility and to be open to doing things differently. Doing things differently because we truly can and do create our own reality and that can work for us or against us. And when you think about your life, is it the life that you want, and what are the things that you love about your life that light you up and what things don't? And when you start to think about your life, what is it about your life that lights you up? And if you don't know, I urge you to give that some thought.

Karen Sarmento:

2:32

So what I want to focus on today is that our world, our reality, has been created by our belief system. So when we came into the world, when we were born, we were given our thoughts, our habits, our culture, our behaviors. They were all fed to us over time. So when we were born, we were fearless. We didn't have worries, we didn't have cares, we didn't worry about what other people thought. We were fearless essentially, and over time that gets taken away because we learn to get our validation from the outside world. We learn to get our approval by the outside world. So we only base our results on what we can see, hear, taste, touch and smell. So that's our physical world, and we forget that we are the highest form of creation that exists and we have capabilities beyond any other living creature and with those capabilities we can create a new reality. So when I talk about higher mental faculties and when I say we can create our own reality and that we are the highest form of creation. I mean that we have six higher mental faculties that can change your life Perception, will, reason, memory, intuition and imagination. With those higher mental faculties you can change your reality. We're not taught to use those. We are taught to base our results on what we can see, hear, taste, smell and touch, and there's so much more to it.

Karen Sarmento:

4:37

We are taught learn some material, take a test, pass or fail. If you're good, you'll get an A. If you're not so good, you get a C, and it's report card syndrome. You're a C student and you get labeled as such and then you perform at a C level. If you're known as an A student, likely you perform at an A level, you perform at an A-level, and that's what happens over the course of our life.

Karen Sarmento:

5:08

We get labeled through our culture, through our upbringing, through our circle of friends, through the world media, social media, news, and we become something different over time and it may not be who we really are. So when I got into this material, I would have described myself as quiet, really kind, a good friend, under the radar, I wouldn't speak up about anything very much, just a people pleaser and, over time, it's not a sustainable way to go through life, because we're all different. We all have unique capabilities, we all have unique stories. We all bring something different to the table, and that's not something to be ashamed of, that's not something to be feared. It's something to embrace. So what I want to do with that today is have you really take a look at where you are now and where are you going? Because many people don't know the answer to either of those questions, especially where are you going? Most people get up in the morning and they do the same thing every day. They follow the same process every day.

Karen Sarmento:

6:37

Well, what if you made a decision today that you're going to start doing things differently? And it all starts with a decision. It starts with a decision that you know what I want something more. I want my life to be different. I want my life to be inspiring. I want my relationships to be better. I want my body to be healthier. It all, it all matters. It depends on what's important to you. Everybody's different, so what's important to me may be very different than what's important to someone else, and it's okay to want more by having more. It gives you freedom, it gives you peace, it allows you to give back, it allows you to show up stronger for your family, for your relationships, for your children.

Karen Sarmento:

7:35

Oh my gosh, when somebody many years ago, when I first started on this personal development journey, somebody said to me, what you don't fix in yourself, you pass along to your children, and that was like a punch in the face because you want the best for your children and I wanted to be an amazing mother and at the time I wasn't showing up as the greatest version of myself for various reasons. But the reasons at this time are somewhat irrelevant, because they got me to where I am now, which is a place where I am confident. I am loving what I've created in my life amazing relationships. I feel healthy in my life, amazing relationships. I feel healthy, mentally healthy, physically healthy, and I know that that's what my son sees. I know that that's the mother that shows up for him and he's seen it on various occasions. And to me, that is the greatest gift that I could ever give to him. And I was able to do that through really looking at myself, and any of your outside results are something you've created in one capacity or another.

Karen Sarmento:

9:00

We are the creator of our lives. We are the creator of our lives. We are the creator of our external world, and that can be hard to hear, it can be, but with that, if you are the creator, it means you have the ability to do things differently. Now, that's powerful. That's a powerful thought. So how do you do that? Well, first, you need to recognize where you're at and where you're going, and it's like a GPS system. If you are leaving your house to go somewhere, well, you've got to know where you're leaving from, but you've got to know where you're going to, otherwise you just go in circles and you don't really get anywhere meaningful. So we want our lives to be meaningful and in order for that to happen, we have got to make a decision, a concrete, committed decision to ourselves that we're going to do things differently. So when you realize where you are, what you like about your life and what you don't, you also have the ability to start to recognize where you want to go, what you want for your life.

Karen Sarmento:

10:19

And I want you to get a pen and paper and really start to allow yourself to visioneer, which means to really imagine your greatest life, way beyond what you could see, the map to making it happen. Your greatest life. What would your relationships look like? Where would you live? What would your body be like? What would it feel like? How would you show up in the world, how would you talk? How would you dress? All those things? And allow yourself to think big. Allow yourself to think way outside your comfort zone, because that's where the magic is.

Karen Sarmento:

11:03

It's not in doing the same thing over and over again, because by doing that, we're creating the same result year after year. We're creating the same relationships. We're creating the same experiences. We're waking up the same each morning. We're waking up the same each morning. I wake up now with a spring in my step because I know I'm showing up strong and I know I'm on a mission. I know I'm on a mission to have an impact on the world, to share this information with other women, and I know that I'm really content with myself. And that's all an inside job. It is for you, it's all an inside job.

Karen Sarmento:

11:51

We're taught throughout the school years that we need the outside world to validate us and that we need another degree. We need another person's approval. We need to do as we're told, and you know, certainly there's approval. We need to do as we're told and you know, certainly there's rules, but if you look back over time some of the greatest teachers that go back years, like Neville Goddard and then, more recently, my mentor, bob Proctor when you look back, they teach you that you need to go inside to make change. Look within. That's where the change happens.

Karen Sarmento:

12:31

When you change your inner dialogue, your external world changes. That's powerful. So what is the internal dialogue? What is it that you say to yourself when you look in the mirror? Do you say I am beautiful, healthy, strong, powerful, I love myself? Or do you point out all your flaws? Oh, I've got some wrinkles there, I've got some.

Karen Sarmento:

12:58

You know that inner dialogue is powerful and as you go through your days, try to be aware of how you're speaking to yourself and what you're putting out into the world, because what you're putting out is what you're getting back, and that is a fact. What you put out into the world is what you get back. So your inner dialogue is creating your external results. We're constantly manifesting, so we're constantly creating our reality. Whether we realize it or not, or whether we like it or not, we are, we all manifest. It's whether you are consciously doing it or subconsciously.

Karen Sarmento:

13:46

So when I say subconscious, I'll start with consciously. When I say consciously, I'm talking about our ability to think, our ability to have a thought process and to accept an idea or reject an idea. And we're getting ideas and thoughts all day long and we have the ability to say I'm not going there, I'm shutting that news station off or I'm going to exit this conversation. It's too heavy. And our conscious mind receives data, receives information, receives ideas through our five senses seeing, hearing, taste, touch and smell. So those are your physical senses, your five senses. When I speak of your subconscious mind, that is where we want to get. We want to be in there, because that's what is really controlling our behavior. That is what's controlling why we do the same thing every day, even though it's not serving us.

Karen Sarmento:

14:57

Our subconscious mind is the reason we talk, walk, do half the things we do, even though we know it's not in our best interest, but we keep doing it anyway. Our subconscious mind doesn't have the ability to reject ideas. It doesn't know the difference between what's real and what's fake. So you can feed your subconscious mind anything and it will accept it. Now, that's what's happened to us up until this time. We've learned a lot of great things. So we have some great qualities in our subconscious mind. All of us do. You know, perhaps it's kindness, perhaps it's loyalty, integrity those are the first things that come to my mind. You know, perhaps you're a really hard worker, perhaps it's really strong family values.

Karen Sarmento:

15:53

Those ideas, concepts, belief are what also keeps you stuck. And those beliefs, ideas, habits that keep you stuck are paradigms, paradigms, are a repetitive set of behaviors that we keep doing over and over again every day, and we don't even realize it. And even if we realize it, we still continue to do it and we don't even know why. Now, that can be changed. It can be changed through constant repetition of new concepts, and that's how I was able to change a lot of my thought processes and the way that I live my life, a lot of my thought processes and the way that I live my life.

Karen Sarmento:

16:48

So when you start to change your thoughts, you start to change your reality. Now, be open to that. Be open to that concept that when you are stuck in a way of thinking, you're not open to anything else. That means you're not open to accepting new ideas, so you're basically rejecting new ideas. Be open to allowing yourself to think big, be open to the idea that you can change your life. Be open to the idea that you are the creator of your reality. Be open to the idea that this is a tough one to hear you me. You are the only problem in your life, but on the flip side of that, you are the solution. You are the solution. So, by making a decision that I'm going to do things differently from this day forward, that's where the magic happens. A committed decision, and then from there you can set goals and start to think bigger and think about life that is different from the way you're living it now.

Karen Sarmento:

18:13

So when you start thinking about setting goals, there's three types of goals. We have A-type goals, b-type goals and C-type goals have A-type goals, b-type goals and C-type goals. A-type goals are goals that are very simple. You know how to do them. You've done them over and over and over again. It doesn't require any growth. It doesn't require you stretching yourself, doesn't require a whole lot of thought. It's not going to change you or your reality. Those are your A-type goals. We're not going to talk about those.

Karen Sarmento:

18:49

B-type goals are goals that they may stretch you a little bit. They may cause you to. You know, have to plan a little. They goals where you say, if I did X, then I can create this, if I did B, then okay, c could happen. Well, if I did that well, maybe this could happen or I could go there. So B type goals you can see how it could happen. Maybe it stretches you a little, but probably not a whole lot. Probably not a whole lot. It's probably not going to create a whole lot of change in your life. Feels good to accomplish a goal. So it's nice to have those goals because you can acknowledge you accomplished and that you did what you said you were going to do.

Karen Sarmento:

19:41

But what I really want to focus on today would be C-type goals. C-type goals are the goals that are so big that you couldn't possibly see how it could happen. But wow, would it feel good. C-type goals are the visions that I asked you to write down on paper. What would you want your life to look like If resources were not a barrier? If you had all the money, connections, resources that you needed to have do be anything you wanted? What would that be? And most of the time, we've never even given ourselves the luxury of going to that place because we figured well, it's not going to happen, so why would I bother? But yes, bother, because that's how you start to change your external world, by thinking big. Don't worry about the how, don't worry about how's that going to happen? How am I going to have the money to do that? How am I going to get there? How am I? The how is none of your business. That is God, the universe, source, whatever term feels comfortable for you. That's their job to show you the how along the way and have faith that that how will find its way to you. The steps will be revealed along the way, but you have got to have the vision and the goals.

Karen Sarmento:

21:26

If you walk down the street and asked people what's their goal in life, most people wouldn't know and certainly most people wouldn't have it written down on a piece of paper. And I have it written down. As a matter of fact, I write it every day. I know that sounds wild, but I do. I write it on a paper every single day and I write out my gratitudes every single day. And these practices, among other habits I've created and material that I study every day, has changed my life dramatically, and I'm certainly not done. That's why I feel so called to share the information with other women, because we don't need to settle for mediocrity. We need to raise our standards and we need to raise our self-worth and eliminate the doubt. We need to recognize it and move through it.

Karen Sarmento:

22:30

So back to the C-type goals. We don't focus on the how. That will cause you to stay stuck. Focus on the vision of yourself in that wish fulfilled and we will start talking about showing up as that version of yourself, because the order of events is be, do, have, not have, do, be. It's actually the opposite. It's actually the opposite. So before you can have a greater life or massive change, you have got to be that person now. You've got to show up as that person now. Does that make sense? So when you start showing up as that person, when I say be that now, how would that person, with your wish fulfilled, how would she walk, talk, dress, speak? How would she feel on the inside when she walks into a room? How would she wake up in the morning? What would that look like? Inspired, kind of lit up, a little spring in your step, because you know you're on a mission to change the world, to change your family.

Karen Sarmento:

23:51

Maybe you're the person in your family that's going to start doing things differently, because all too often we do things a certain way for no other reason except that that's the way we've always done it. But why have we always done it that way? Well, I started to ask myself those questions why do I do it that way? It doesn't make sense. And I start to do things differently and it feels nice. And it's not confrontation, it's not destruction of relationships. It's the opposite. It's showing up as an authentic version of yourself, with so much love. You're leading with love. You're not leading with resentment or anger. You are just so comfortable in the inside that you start to show up differently and everybody else feels that.

Karen Sarmento:

24:46

So what if you were the one in your family who starts to do things differently and you raise the standard of everybody in the family? I mean really together we rise because you start to become what your closest circle of people becomes or already is. And if your circle's not growing, then likely you're not growing. So why not be the grower? And the people that are meant to come with you will come with you, and those that aren't growing or don't want to grow or going to stay stuck, they naturally kind of fall off the grid. It's just the process, it's just the law. It's literally the universal law. You attract what you are, so you will attract to you what you're putting out there. So the be do have, that's being Just be it. Now, shock your system. You shock the neural pathways, you just start showing up differently and you can really have fun with that because you are the main character in your life, you're not an extra, and you get this go-round here for your life.

Karen Sarmento:

25:54

And so many people get to the end of their life and they wish they had done certain things that they didn't do because they were afraid they'd be judged. They were afraid, they were just afraid. They're afraid to do it, afraid to step outside the comfort zone, afraid to try, afraid to fail. I don't believe that we fail. I don't ever believe we fail. If something doesn't work out, we learn and we do it differently the next time. There's no such thing as failure. The only time I would say something could be a failure is if you give up. And there's things that don't work out or things in my life that I consider mistakes, and I've made a lot of them, a lot of them. But now, looking back, I can see what I learned from those things. The most difficult times in my life definitely shaped me, and you come out on the other side, but you've got to be willing to look at yourself and go inside, at yourself and go inside and you do come out on the other side a whole lot stronger.

Karen Sarmento:

27:03

So, and our past isn't meant to define us. We're not meant to live there or stay there. We call it the past for a reason we're meant to learn from it and move forward. Oftentimes it's our past, or our past mistakes or our dark times or the things in your life that you're less than proud of. Oftentimes, those things don't disqualify you from doing amazing things. It's often those times, those experiences, those mistakes, that actually qualify you to help somebody else, or they actually qualify you to show up stronger because you've learned, you've persevered and you've moved forward. We're not meant to carry those mistakes around in a backpack. We're meant to learn from it, let it go and move forward.

Karen Sarmento:

28:03

And all too often, one of our higher mental faculties is the memory, and often we use our memory to do a disservice to us. We use our memory to remember that mistake. Oh, remember the time you really messed up. Oh, remember the time you said such and such and you really hurt somebody's feelings. We use our memory to recall things that hold us back or remembering things that make us play small or make us feel small. It's the worst. We used your memory to recall the time that you write in someone's day, the time that you achieved something really amazing. Use your memory to recall something great you did and really pat yourself on the back and acknowledge it, because those are the times you want to remember and carry in a backpack. So if you're feeling small one day, you remember all the amazing things that you did and how amazing you are. So I really feel strongly about that one, about letting the past define you. Don't let your past, do not let your past make you feel small. Do not let your past make you play small. Do not let your past make you feel small. Do not let your past make you play small.

Karen Sarmento:

29:22

And although it's so important to be present, we do have to have goals and dreams so that we have something that we're moving toward. Think of this we are energy and energy is always in motion. Always in motion. So if you're not moving forward, you're moving backwards. So be sure to start thinking about goals. Tonight, I would like you to grab a notebook and just write down some of the thoughts that have come up throughout this process. What are some of the visions that come up for your future? I really want you to start thinking big. If you had all the resources and the means to make anything happen, what would your life look like? And put it down on paper? The how it's going to happen is none of your business. That will be delivered to you along the way.

Karen Sarmento:

30:19

When you really start to get emotionally involved with your goals and really see them happening. You've got to see them happening. Think about the Wright brothers, who were two bicycle mechanics who knew they were going to fly and they never gave up on that, even though everybody thought they were crazy. They never gave up on that. Even though everybody thought they were crazy, they never gave up on that. Don't worry about what other people think or how crazy it sounds.

Karen Sarmento:

30:50

Hold on to your dreams and not in an airy fairy tale sort of way a concrete vision of your dreams and get emotionally involved with it. See yourself with the wish fulfilled. See yourself in that reality and you will see that the people, the experiences, the opportunities will come to you and you've got to be open to it. You've got to be aware and that way you see it, you recognize it why a certain conversation had to happen, why you were stuck in the line at the grocery store. Because you were meant to see something on an article. You were meant to run into somebody. That's how it happens. It's not planned or forced. It happens naturally, it happens organically. But when you start showing up as that greater version of yourself, you will attract different into your life. Your life will start to look different. So that's where I'm going to leave you.

Karen Sarmento:

31:58

Write out your goals. Write your C-type goals, those big goals. Write out your vision, your dream life. Put it down on paper. When we put it down on paper, it starts to come to life. Something's different when we put it down on paper and allow yourself to get emotionally involved with what you're writing down. Emotionally involved with what you're writing down. Remember, whatever challenges you're facing or have faced in the past, they don't define you. You are worthy, capable and destined for greatness. Let's embrace the whispers of possibility together, because together we rise and we are meant for more.