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We Are Meant for More
If you have felt like you are meant for more but sometimes trip on what that might look like — you are in the right place. You hold an incredible power inside, and that potent power is the Creator within you ready to write your own story. Join me, Karen Sarmento, to be surrounded by extraordinary, uplifting stories that spotlight the incredible life of real people, and how they took their challenging circumstances to another level.
We are meant for more.
We Are Meant for More
Unlearning the Crap to Level Up with Kathy Baldwin
Warning: This episode contains conversations around sexual abuse which may be triggering for some listeners.
What if breaking free from the chains of conditioned responses could transform your life? Join me and our special guest, Kathy Baldwin, a life purpose strategist, as we uncover the liberating journey of "Unlearning the CRAP." Kathy brings a wealth of knowledge and a deeply personal story about overcoming stress and burnout, which she attributes to conditioned responses and automatic programming. Through Kathy's experiences, we discuss the often-overlooked impact of mental programming on physical health and explore ways to celebrate our bodies' natural gifts as a path to healing.
Our conversation takes a dive into the connection between suppressed emotions, energy, and physical health, where energy healing methods like the emotion code and body code come into play. Kathy and I share personal stories about the struggle of self-betrayal and the courage needed to confront traumas that manifest as physical ailments highlighting the importance of self-awareness and the power of choosing what beliefs serve our personal growth.
Through Kathy's journey of overcoming shame and embracing a unique purpose, we urge our listeners to break free from societal expectations and unlearn limiting beliefs. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about resilience, healing, and self-discovery.
Guest Bio:
Kathy Baldwin is a visionary in the realms of personal transformation and women's empowerment, with over four decades of experience learning from more than a hundred leading minds in psychology, biology, quantum physics, and personal development. Her profound journey of healing and self-discovery was catalyzed by the failure of the traditional medical system, which often relies on pills and platitudes rather than addressing root causes.
After navigating a successful yet ultimately unfulfilling career in the corporate world, Kathy faced a significant personal breakdown. This challenging period became the turning point in her life, guiding her to leave the corporate sphere and dedicate herself to supporting women on their paths to healing and empowerment.
Kathy's commitment is to inspire women to uncover their inner strength, align with universal laws, and lead the charge in a transformative global movement towards balance, compassion, and abundance. Her innovative system has already touched the lives of many, guiding them towards a journey of true self-discovery and alignment.
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Karen Sarmento is a passionate and dedicated Nurse Practitioner for more than 18 years, CEO at Sarmento Mentoring Services LLC, and a Proctor Gallagher Certified Mindset Mentor. She specializes in empowering women to tap into their true potential. She understands the unique challenges faced by women because she too has battled some major challenges in her life. Karen does not let that define her; she believes it’s the challenges that have made her the limitless woman she is today. She whole-heartedly believes we hold all the power within and that we should stand tall together in the pursuit of greatness.
Karen has served thousands over the course of her career and has spent many years studying directly with world class mentors to gain a deep understanding of the science behind human behaviour and learning about the success principals that create lasting change and transformation. She will share her insights with you so you can feel unstoppable and limitless too.
Karen Sarmento:
0:01
Have you ever felt that inner whisper nudging you towards something greater? We truly are a force of nature possessing our own incredible power within. We are all here to identify our own personal definition of success. We all have a story to tell. Join me as I dive into empowering concepts and have powerful conversations with extraordinary humans who have shattered limitations, overcome adversity and created remarkable success. I'm your host, Karen Sarmento, and we are meant for more. Hello and welcome back to another episode of We Are Meant For More. Today, I have the absolute honor and privilege of bringing to you Kathy Baldwin. Welcome, Kathy.
Kathy Baldwin:
1:09
I'm so excited, Karen, for our conversation.
Karen Sarmento:
1:10
Oh gosh, me too. Your work is so powerful. I've really, really been looking forward to this.
Kathy Baldwin:
1:15
Me too.
Karen Sarmento:
1:16
So let me tell the audience a little bit about who you are, and then we can dive into wherever the conversation takes us.
Kathy Baldwin:
1:24
Love it
Karen Sarmento:
1:24
Amazing. So Kathy is a life purpose strategist and concierge who specializes in helping women who are trapped in stress and burnout unlearn their disempowering crap so that they can bring their unique gifts to the world and live on purpose with peace, passion and prosperity. And you have a really powerful story too, Kathy, so I appreciate you being here and being willing to share.
Kathy Baldwin:
1:54
Oh, absolutely, when we can take our craft and turn it into gold. That's where everything has meaning, and so that's what I have done with my own journey.
Karen Sarmento:
2:10
Yes, and prior to us getting on the call, you mentioned that the dark times were actually your gifts.
Kathy Baldwin:
2:20
Absolutely, absolutely. Through my whole journey, I've come to learn that when things appear bright and shiny, the way we were taught, we're actually in a disempowering comfort zone. Let someone else make the decisions for us. Let the government make the rules. Let the doctors tell us what we needed. Let our education tell us what we should learn. Everybody is coming at us telling us what we need and who we should show up as, and that makes us sick and that makes us sick Absolutely.
Karen Sarmento:
3:11
So then I'll start there with the unlearn the crap, because I really admire the boldness and the direct title of your work. So you're an author, you are a speaker, you have an amazing community all titled Unlearn the Crap. So what does that mean to you?
Kathy Baldwin:
3:28
Well, crap has so many layers. For me, that is the one of the ones. I want us to start being playful with the things that we think are wrong with us. I want us to be able to make it comfortable to talk about it. I want us to smile through this instead of hiding behind masks, because I'm the type of person that I lay everything out on the table and I deal with what's there. So if we have a pile of crap, so if we have a pile of crap, when we do that, we do that with our homes, when we sort and clear out the clutter, you know, we go through the closets and we have a keep pile, and we have a giveaway pile and we have a trash pile. The same goes for ourselves, our life, the things that aren't working. We don't need to hold on to them, we can just let it go. And then there's an another layer where it is an acronym, and the acronym stands for condition responses, automatic programming, which is how our brains are wired. They're wired to keep us in automatic pilot. We are meant to be doing as much unconsciously, so that we have access to our conscious brain for creativity and for innovation and all these things. But if our automatic pilot is taking us down the wrong path, then we don't have access to that, that zone of genius, that, that moment of clarity, because we're too busy in stuff that's not working for us. And then there's a third layer to the word crap which I don't mind sharing.
Kathy Baldwin:
5:20
Okay, my mother was one of the most amazing women I've ever met my whole entire life. She was my hero, she was the one I looked up to. But she had this standing joke. It was a joke. She would say I'm so perfect that I don't even have bodily functions. That I don't even have bodily functions. And I mean it was a funny joke. But do you know what my brain did to me? My brain told me there was something wrong with me because I had bodily functions. I suppressed, I held back, I was ashamed of anything that my body was doing. I created ulcers, I created IBS, I created inflammation and stress and cortisol. I couldn't go to the bathroom if anyone knew that that was going to happen, because they would deem that there was something wrong with me because I had a bodily function.
Karen Sarmento:
6:26
Wow, the power in the conditioning.
Kathy Baldwin:
6:30
Yeah, my mother did not mean to put that on me. No, of course not.
Kathy Baldwin:
6:35
It was a joke, but that was how my brain translated it. And I I, for 40, and for 40, almost 50 years, I struggled with these issues with my body, and I couldn't figure out where it was coming from until I had to go through my own healing journey, until I had my own dark night of the soul. And then things started bubbling up and as soon as it came to light that I was doing this to myself by the condition response of my automatic program of own brain, now I celebrate when my body works properly. You know, it's like woo, we're in alignment, we got homeostasis.
Karen Sarmento:
7:28
Everything is working. So, yes, when I think of our results or our reality, it's a direct reflection of what's going on in our mind. Yes, and that we're often creating the same thing over and over again. To be consistent with whatever the story is that we've created, when did you actually realize so? I know your life had a series of events where you got to a point where you realized something needed to change.
Kathy Baldwin:
7:58
I'm not sure I realized, because I say that I was too strong. For too long I was able to suppress and ignore. Push through everything that was screaming at me. Kathy, you're going the wrong way, you're making mistakes. But I was so locked into the identity of who I was supposed to be and that meant that I was supposed to put everyone ahead of me. I was supposed to take care of everything and everybody and their problems were my responsibility.
Kathy Baldwin:
8:37
I had all of this horrible dysfunction and I had the weight of the world on me and nobody knew it, except I would be crying and saying I can't sleep. I bought over $30,000 worth of mattresses and pillows, thinking it was the mattresses problem that I couldn't sleep. I had fibromyalgia, chronic stress. You couldn't touch my body. It was on fire. I wasn't functioning. I would cry to everyone I'm so empty, I'm so empty and I would say when is it my turn? Nobody realized how much I was suffering and I was crying for somebody else to come and be my knight in Shining Arbor. Come and fix me, give me permission. And when that didn't happen, when the fairy tale of what I thought was supposed to happen didn't happen, I had a complete and total breakdown where I lost everything Everything Family relationships, my home, my job, my health, my money. I lost everything. And then I looked at the universe and said, okay, I'm listening, okay, I'm listening now.
Karen Sarmento:
10:10
What do you think it is that keeps us in the story or in the place where we don't see ourselves as valuable enough to matter and put everybody else first? What do you think it was that kept you from recognizing earlier that, okay, that you needed to listen. I'm getting a message here that something needs to change. What do you think holds us back from recognizing that sooner Education?
Kathy Baldwin:
10:43
and awareness. We're not taught how our body works. We're not taught how our brain has these automatic programs so that we can challenge them, look at them and decide if this is working. When we are off track or we're trying so hard and we keep falling down, we think there's something wrong with us. And then there's the physical component of our dna and our cellular structure is built on chemicals and hormones and the energetic vibration of our cells and they replicate. So we inherit the traumas and the stresses that have been unhealed from generations and it gets imparted into the womb of a child.
Kathy Baldwin:
11:40
For my case, I was a product of an unwanted pregnancy. My mother was 15 years old. She married my father. They stayed married for the rest of their lives. Were they the best match for each other? I don't know, but they believed in the sanctity of marriage and they both died early deaths. Mother was 58, my dad was 63. They both died early because of their own traumas and issues and beliefs and things that kept them locked in their own roles. And when I go back to my family history I can see the patterns. I can see how those traumas had me believe, and I did not necessarily consciously know what the belief was. But when I went back and analyze the actions of what I did and how I was people pleasing and self-sacrificing, I realized just how I came into this world thinking I didn't belong. There was something wrong with me that I don't, I need to earn my keep, and that was built into the cellular structure of my DNA at birth.
Karen Sarmento:
13:05
This is really fascinating. There's so much to dive into there and unpack. I'm going to start with the generational programming because that's so interesting and I would imagine so many people are not aware of that. They think maybe about as far back as their childhood, but they never think back to even before they were born, or certainly not what their mom was thinking while she was pregnant. Yeah, yeah.
Kathy Baldwin:
13:39
That's fascinating hormones are in our body and how they actually really wire our cells and every cell, and it just gets replicated. That's, you know, that's what our genes are. They're the replication of the parents that came before us. And so for me, my grandmother. She escaped Estonia during the World War II and she escaped with her husband and went to Sweden. She got pregnant with my mother and her husband left her for another woman while she was pregnant on a bicycle into a unwed woman's shame hospital because her husband had left her.
Kathy Baldwin:
14:42
She had to be a single mother. In the 50s she carried the shame and then my mother was raised in that shame and so my grandmother became a perfectionist. Oh my goodness, go shopping with that woman. She would touch every single tomato to find the perfect one, and she did that with every aspect of her life, that everything had to be perfect, because if it wasn't perfect there was something wrong.
Karen Sarmento:
15:03
This even has my gears turning. Shame is such a destructive feeling and that perfectionist quality If things are not perfect, then we feel shame, and the audience doesn't know this. But as Kathy and I were getting started, I made a mistake with the introduction and I immediately hit stop recording and wanted to start over, and Kathy said but we started over. But she said, however, it goes forward from here, let's just do it. Imperfections and all now.
Karen Sarmento:
15:37
How true is that to what you're trying, the message you're trying to get across here? Because it isn't about being perfect and it's not about the shoulds and those generational patterns that we're trying to carry with us, to just remain in our place of comfort. And although it feels safe, it doesn't mean it's beneficial or what's right for us, absolutely so. The audience member right now that is sitting here going oh my gosh. Now I'm wondering, is this me like? I feel like she might be talking to me. Where does that person even begin with trying to figure out where their patterns began? Or is this a generational thing? Or where do they even begin to try to sort it out?
Kathy Baldwin:
16:28
oh, there's so many ways and so many experts and so many different modalities. My choice was because I have a logistical brain and I wanted to understand the science, because I had been a studier for 40 plus years. A studier for 40 plus years. Everything from the brain, biology, every aspect of human development, everything that I needed to learn to be the best version of myself. I learned it all. I had over 100 mentors and coaches. I mean, I was deep diving. And so I realized that if we have these electrical impulses that are sending the connections between our cells, and those impulses are then turning on switches within our hormone system that are releasing the chemicals that are, you know, the good ones, the dopamine and the serotonin and they all those good feeling ones but they're also releasing the negative ones, the cortisol and the ones that are stressors to us. Every aspect, it's a chemical and we have toxins in our body. When we suppress our emotions, when we don't let that whole process go through our lymphatic system, then that chemical gets trapped and that chemical is an emotion, it's a trauma, it's a hurt, it's whatever we did not release. And what does our body do when we have a foreign object in our body? It creates inflammation, and that inflammation surrounds that chemical. So what does our body do with that inflammation? It stores it in fat, because fat is the safest place to store these toxins. So now we've got this.
Kathy Baldwin:
18:35
I've had fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis, had both of my knees replaced. I needed to get rid of the weight. I was severely overweight. I still am. That's my last journey of my healing process, but I thought, okay, it's time to go to root cause. I've done every diet, I've taken the pills, I've taken the platitudes of the medical system, I've learned through the education system and the self-development. Nothing has worked. So I need to go root cause.
Kathy Baldwin:
19:13
And when I went root cause, I went and learned about energy healing, because I thought if that energy put it there, then that energy can help me release it. And so I found the emotion code and the body code and I healed myself. I, I released these toxins. And as you release them because you can do it for yourself, you can go to a practitioner, which gives you a little bit of perspective, but I did it to myself, for myself, and I began by looking at oh. By looking at oh, the emotion code teaches us that our subconscious wants to get rid of this, and so it will tell you you have this here and it came from this moment and it will direct you directly to those moments you know I had.
Kathy Baldwin:
20:17
I think I had over 200, and I got to pull up my journal to get the exact number but I think I had like 240 cases of self-abuse trapped in my uterus. Well, when I went through where those root causes were they were sexual attacks, they were abuses that were put on me that I ended up getting cysts and fibroids and ended up having to have a full hysterectomy. But it was also every time I betrayed myself, every time I went against my own values, every time I put somebody else's needs before my own, every time I self-sacrificed. It was a betrayal to my own heart and my own soul. And in my healing journey, the hardest part of it was looking myself in the eye and owning when I betrayed myself, when I could have done better, when I could have stood up for myself like I would have stood up for anybody else, when I would have fought for my rights.
Karen Sarmento:
21:16
That's genuinely making me very emotional, because we think of traumas or insults to our body as something somebody else has inflicted on us and certainly that is a piece of it as well on us, and certainly that is a piece of it as well. But to think of the level of harm we're doing to ourselves when we don't honor our core beliefs and values and don't stand up for ourselves and the people, pleasing, just making sure everybody else is happy at the expense of our own happiness or what we know to our core, wasn't the right thing. I should have said something and didn't. That's really powerful.
Karen Sarmento:
21:59
You had a moment in your life where you felt almost betrayed by, say, the medical system and trusting in them to guide and guide and not being kind of steered in the right direction. How would you describe how that impacted you and that moment?
Kathy Baldwin:
22:19
Oh, this was my darkest moment and my greatest gift. I had been going to the doctor asking me, help me, help me now. The doc my family physician was a wonderful man and he would say to me do you have these traumas? Were you abused? No, I mean, even when I was sexually attacked and had my first sexual attack was five boys, when I was 12 years old. So I mean, this has been my whole life. So, because it was my whole life and this had happened so many times, it was normal.
Kathy Baldwin:
23:01
I did not consider that anything that had happened to me was anything I needed to deal with, because it was normal. Yeah, it's in the past, it's done, it's over, it's not, it's not. And so I was getting sicker and sicker and I ended up having a complete breakdown Burnout, couldn't function, couldn't even remember how to wash my face. I was standing in front of the bathroom mirror trying to figure out what do I do next. I couldn't remember, I could not. My brain was so fried from the burnout, from the stress, that I couldn't function. And so my doctor says I'm sending you to a psychiatrist. Oh, yes, yes, somebody's gonna fix me. And so I showed up at the psychiatrist's office and I was so excited. This was it. This was the moment he was gonna come and figure out what was wrong with me and he was gonna fix me. And I sat in his office and he asked me every trauma, every stress, every abuse, every, everything that had happened to me. And it was a long list, and so I poured it out and I shared everything with him and he looked at me and said here is your prescription. I'll see you in four months. I left his office and I could feel myself spiraling. I could feel myself losing control of my mind. I couldn't stop crying. It wasn't sobbed crying, it was those wet tears that just fall out of your eyes and you have no control over it. And I was trying so hard to get control. I was phoning everyone Hi, what you doing? Oh, busy with this. Can I get back to you another time? Yeah, sure, no problem.
Kathy Baldwin:
24:58
And that evening the police knocked down my door and dragged me out of my bathroom where I was attempting to take my life. And I was attempting to take my life behind closed doors, so my cat would not be affected In a bathtub with running water, so I wouldn't make a mess Fully clothed, so nobody had to deal with my nakedness. Nobody had to have anything to deal with with what I was doing. I was even self-sacrificing in that moment and and it took about 24 hours they, they locked me in the hospital. I wasn't allowed to leave. I had security watching me every single second.
Kathy Baldwin:
25:49
And when I could slowly feel myself coming back, I could slowly feel that all of a sudden my brain was functioning again and I could, things were making sense and that darkness was subsiding. And it was. It was like that you know that pin drop light at the end of a tunnel that you see in the movies and it gets brighter. That's what it felt like. It felt like I could see the light coming and it just kind of enveloped me. And I said to the hospital staff I'm OK, now I can go home. And they said, no, you're, you're under observation for at least four days. No, I'm fine.
Kathy Baldwin:
26:29
So they brought in a psychiatrist and I told him everything that had happened. He says that is a natural, normal response to the amount of stress and trauma you've had and what you just went through. It makes sense Come back if you ever need us. And I've never needed anyone again, because when I went to the original psychiatrist and I said Do you know what happened to me that day? I saw you. Do you know where I ended up? And his response to me was my role is not here to heal you. My role is to make sure you are adequately medicated.
Kathy Baldwin:
27:10
I knew if I was going to live that saying that I had used to push myself to the brink of the edge.
Kathy Baldwin:
27:21
If it's to be, it's up to me, and I use that. Okay, kathy, if you're going to live, you need to make a decision that you're going to put yourself first and you're going to fight for your life. And because I'd lost everything, because everything was gone and I was literally alone with nothing else to take my attention, I, for the very first time in my life, had nothing to focus on but me and all those fears of the people I was afraid to lose and the identity to my job and my career and my children and my relationship, and all the house that was supposed to be the perfect home and all of the things. I lost it all and I realized I'm still alive. All those things I was afraid, all those things I sacrificed for because I thought there would be something really catastrophic would happen, but it didn't. I'm alive and it was the greatest pivotal moment of my life. I took back control. I did the healing, I sought out help. I got coaches and mentors. I went into energy healing. I wrote the book Unlearn the Crap.
Karen Sarmento:
28:47
Thank you for sharing that story. So in the moment when you realized your attempt to take your life was not successful and here I am I'm still here, lost all the things I was so afraid of losing, and yet I'm still here to move forward what goes through your mind when you realize that that we spend so much time with the people pleasing and trying to hold on to things that we think we're supposed to want to hold on to? And then, naturally, these things fell off the grid and you are okay and now you're doing this amazing, powerful work. What is it that keeps us in that place of not recognizing that we matter? It's like we're afraid to be found out that we're not perfect or we have an issue, or I don't want somebody to know. I need for them to think I'm perfect or they might think I'm not okay. Yeah, is that so important? For us to think I'm perfect or they might think I'm not okay?
Kathy Baldwin:
30:06
Yeah, is that so important for us to hold on to that story? Because our brains are wired to be right. Our brain will do anything to make sure that we are right. There's so many different parts of our brain Reticular activating system, the amygdala, all these different parts of our brain that once that automatic programming gets in there, it will make sure that we are right, because anything not right means we're off automatic pilot and that means to our brain, we're not safe, and so our brain only cares about being alive and being right, and so it's really important that we figure out what we want to be right about, make sure it's what we it's going to empower us, make sure that the things that are in our brain that get wired.
Kathy Baldwin:
30:58
Because marketing and big business and all of our education system was designed to feed a system, not personal empowerment, and that system is breaking because it's unsustainable. We were not created to be robots. We were not created to be just workers and consumers. We were created to bring our unique gift to the world, and when we go out of alignment of our own gifts, our own purpose, we get sick.
Karen Sarmento:
31:38
This is so powerful and I hope everybody's hearing this like the lengths that your mind will go through to prove your story right, it won't go out of its way to tell a new story. So without a conscious decision, tell a new story. So without a conscious decision or an actual awareness of, like geez, I don't think this serves me. I don't think the way I'm thinking or the way I'm living serves me and I'm stuck in the story and it's it's hurting me.
Kathy Baldwin:
32:11
Yeah that's exactly it. That's exactly it. It is our, our story. But we live in a universal law and we've been taught about the universal law of attraction, but I think the most important universal law is the law of relativity. Because the law of relativity states that everything is true based on our perspective, because reality gets warped by time and space and it gets warped by our perspective. And so, if you think about married couples who go to an event or have a memory together, they have two opposite stories because their realities were different, but they were in the same place, experiencing the same thing, but they have two different realities. And so we can change our stories, we can change our perspective, we can change our reality by looking at and going. Well, if I'm looking at this center, and I'm looking at it from north, well, what does it look like from the east? What does it look like from the west? It's the same event, the same story is the same experience. It's a different perspective.
Karen Sarmento:
33:24
Absolutely. I love that. And to the audience too, when you think of the story you're telling about yourself, to your, to yourself, does that story serve you, and is it even true anymore? Sometimes the story grows over time and when you really sit back, was that even the story?
Kathy Baldwin:
33:45
Yeah, because we change, we evolve. What was true when we were in kindergarten is not true as a person who goes to high school or college. What is true about our identity, our belief in who we are, evolves as each stage of our life. We change. When we become married, we're no longer a single person, we're now a married person. When we, for example, I quit smoking, well, I went from my identity was I was a smoker to now I'm a non-smoker. It was only the decision that changed the identity, that changed the story, that changed the reality and changed the outcomes.
Karen Sarmento:
34:27
And to the audience. This story is so powerful and what you're sharing is just I'm so thankful. What you're sharing is just I'm so thankful, and if they could know, I want them to understand that who you are now, as I've met Kathy through. We're part of a community, a Women Thrive community, and you're doing phenomenal work to help others, either preventing them from going down these roads that don't serve them, and tell us about your unlearn the crap collaboration community. Tell us what you're doing there, because it's amazing.
Kathy Baldwin:
35:07
Oh, okay. So I told you I had over 100 mentors and coaches. Some of them provided value, some did not, while one of the things that I equate to our learning is similar to driving a car. We were taught how to drive a car, we were taught the rules of the road, we were taught how to access our own gps and read the maps and all those things. We were taught how to do anything and everything in our lives, whether we learned it through trial and error and crash, bang against the walls, or we learned it through having someone guide us and coach us.
Kathy Baldwin:
35:49
And so the unlearn the crap community is bringing about. We all have a gift, we all have something that's special and unique and we all have needs, and so I am connecting the needs with the expertise and removing the fears and removing the feeling of being sold to, and removing all the barriers that get in the way, the crap that gets in our way, because the most amazing people who can do really fantastic healing and guiding work are not necessarily the best people who know how to present that to the people who need it. And so I've gathered, I've curated, some really amazing people that I have worked with. I have trust. I respect, I refer and I connect them and then, in there as well, I share my guidance, my learnings, my resources. So there's multi-dimensions.
Kathy Baldwin:
37:06
I consider it part of the quantum field, because there are so many layers and variations, because I do believe that we all all have the right to education, but we have the responsibility to be independent. We have the responsibility to take care of our own health, our own wealth, our own actions, our own results, and there is a huge need to figure out how to do that. We don't live in tribes anymore. We don't live in communities, in small little areas where the system is built in to support each other, where one person's a baker and one other person's a doctor and another person is the seamstress, you know, where we all have our own unique gifts and we're there to support each other. So we're creating it. I'm creating it by bringing people like you and other women, of Women Thrive and other people who have been there. So we talked about sex, we talked about relationships, we talked about money, we talked about business, we talked about personal development and emotional healing, and you name it.
Karen Sarmento:
38:15
It's there emotional healing and you name it. It's there. The listeners are hearing this, because it lets people know that they're not alone, no matter what you've been through, no matter how small you might feel because of what you've been through, and that's what it's designed to do to keep you there, keep you feeling small and you're not alone. You're not small, you're meant for greatness and we're all in this together. Yes, and I feel so blessed to have been able to meet you, know you, but I want everybody to see what's possible and what's out there to get you out of where you might be feeling stuck. Yeah, because it's possible. It's not only possible, it's gosh. It's your right to to live your purpose. Yes, and I feel like we all have this little whisper that lets us know hey, I think I'm meant for more, but we still continue to play small and I hope people are hearing you and just to know what's possible and what's out there for help.
Kathy Baldwin:
39:32
Absolutely.
Kathy Baldwin:
39:32
Thank you, absolutely. Thank you so much because you're so right. We are in an exponentially fast evolving world. A hundred years ago, what was our life like a hundred years ago? We didn't have cars. We didn't have technology. In my lifetime I was born in 1965 I saw women's right to be able to have their own bank accounts. We brought in debit cards, and then we brought in computers and cell phones, then Google. Now we've got AI. Every industry is being disrupted. Every structure is having to go through these massive changes, is having to go through these massive changes.
Kathy Baldwin:
40:16
There is a gap that is happening between what we knew, what we were raised for, the system we were funneled into, into the new reality that futurists are expecting, that we're going to see 100 years of change in the next 10 years, and if people do not reach out and get the help and support to heal and release the traumas that are keeping them stuck, get rid of the crap that's in the way and get the resources and the help to step into their dreams, because those dreams are not selfish. Those dreams are our guidance. They're the ones pointing us in the direction. It's our true north, and so it's people like you, it's people like me, who have gone through the darkness and come out the other side, that are there to help and help people along so that we can all become stronger and better. I don't want to get political.
Kathy Baldwin:
41:20
There is a lot of political things that are happening in the United States, but I keep hearing different versions of we need a new ruling class or we need to plug the holes. No, we need to bring the power back to the individual, where we are all living our best life. Imagine if you were living the life of your dreams, living in alignment with your purpose and living with passion, with full prosperity and abundance. If every single person in the world was living like that, how could a war happen? How could famine happen? How could disease or any other thing? How could our environment suffer? There is nothing that we can't heal and fix if we just focus in on ourselves and everybody does the same thing.
Karen Sarmento:
42:23
Absolutely the ripple effect of each person doing their self work. Where can the community find you? Where can the listeners reach out to you?
Kathy Baldwin:
42:38
the community find you. Where can the listeners reach out to you? Unlearn the crap. Just look it up, you will find. Yes, my tv show is on unlearn the crap. My community is unlearn the crap, my website, my book. I have a new book coming out that talks about my personal journey on how I unlearned my own crap. So, kathy Baldwin, or unlearn the crap, I'm, I'm, I'm there and I'm, I'm open and available. I don't ever want to be arm's length away from the problems or the solution. I want to be the bridge away from the problems or the solution.
Karen Sarmento:
43:17
I want to be the bridge. You're such a beautiful human and I hope, the listeners here that's an invitation to reach out. Please reach out If any of this has resonated with you or you're in a place where you just feel like there's got to be more. Reach out and just check it out, because it's just invaluable. Your work is invaluable, absolutely do you know what I?
Kathy Baldwin:
43:41
I just have one little thing I want to leave with no, go right.
Karen Sarmento:
43:44
That's actually what I was going to ask was was what would you want to leave the audience with? What are your parting words of wisdom or anything you want to share?
Kathy Baldwin:
43:54
I dug out of the piles of stuff a picture of me as a child, as a baby, and I have it here in my office.
Kathy Baldwin:
44:04
And I have it here as a reminder that, where I may have felt guilt and shame because I would have how I was conceived and how I was brought into the world and the expectations of the world upon me, my parents didn't know that I was coming. In their minds I wasn't planned. But I know I'm the change maker. I know that I'm the one who breaks the traumas from the past. I know I'm the one who takes all of this and makes a difference. I know I have a purpose. I know there was a reason that I'm here and so, even though my parents didn't know I was coming and I was a surprise to them, I no longer carry the shame of being a product of a teenage pregnancy. I no longer care. I now say I was brought here under extraordinary circumstances, because I belong, and the proof is that I'm here and every single one of us has that same story and purpose. However, it's evolved for them Because we know we belong, because we're here Beautiful.
Karen Sarmento:
45:28
I just have to ask you one other question To the person listening right now that is afraid to be the one, even if they think maybe they're supposed to be. They're afraid to be the one who does things differently than the way the family's always done it, or the one who thinks they're supposed to be the one. They have more in them, but they're afraid to disrupt what's expected of them, the judgment, the. What do you say to that person as a first step to what do they? What do they say to themselves? Or how do they proceed when they're afraid to disrupt what's expected?
Kathy Baldwin:
46:10
It's crap, it's a lie. It's a lie, perfect. It's just a lie that we've been programmed to believe. You were meant to be unique. There are no two snowflakes alike. There are no two anything alike. We are not plastic, we are not molded by machines. We are meant to be unique and different and special, and it's that specialness that the world is waiting for.
Karen Sarmento:
46:44
That's beautiful. That is a beautiful note to end on. Kathy, thank you so much for being here. This has been so powerful, so helpful, and I know so many people are going to be helped by your words and your work.
Kathy Baldwin:
47:00
I hope, so I hope so. That's my mission.
Karen Sarmento:
47:04
Unlearn the crap. Kathy Baldwin, please look her up. Unlearn the crap. I feel it's going to leave me smiling because it's so perfect and it's so true.
Kathy Baldwin:
47:15
Thank you.
Karen Sarmento:
47:16
Thank you for being here and thank you for the list of the listeners for being here for another episode of we are meant for more, and I will see you next time. Remember, whatever challenges you're facing or have faced in the past, they don't define you. You are worthy, capable and destined for greatness. Let's embrace the whispers of possibility together, because together we rise and we are meant for more.
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