07 - Sexual Confidence

Welcome to another empowering episode of Business Sexcess! I’m your host, Lorraine Crookes, the Sexual Empowerment Liberator, here to help you lead an orgasmic life, both in business and in the bedroom.

This week, we're diving deep into a topic that’s not just about sex—it's about how you show up in every aspect of your life. Sexual confidence isn't confined to the bedroom; it’s the secret sauce that fuels your creativity, drives your success, and radiates through your everyday interactions.

In this episode, we’ll explore what sexual confidence truly means and how embracing your authentic self can revolutionise both your personal and professional life. Whether it's owning your body, communicating your desires, or bringing your full, vibrant self to your work, sexual confidence is a game-changer.

Join me as we break down the barriers of shame and guilt, and discover how to channel this powerful energy to achieve greater success, deeper relationships, and a more fulfilled life. It’s time to shine your light and live unapologetically as the sexually confident human being you were born to be.

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Hello and welcome to this episode of Business Sexcess and in this week's episode we are going to be exploring a topic that is super powerful, super transformative and often something that's really misunderstood. Thank you for tuning in to Business Success, empowering business professionals and entrepreneurs to lead an orgasmic life. Hello and welcome to this episode of Business Sexcess. This is an overrating space here to fuel up your business and your bedroom. It's where sexual empowerment meets personal professional development. I'm your host, yes that's me Lorraine Crookes, sexual empowerment liberator and award-winning speaker, columnist, educator and healer. Here to make sure all business professionals and entrepreneurs lead an orgasmic life. This week we are exploring sexual confidence. So what is sexual confidence? Well sexual confidence isn't just about sex. Sexual confidence is about how you harness your innate power. It's about how you embrace your true, true, true, true, true self. It's about letting that energy that fuels your everyday life really shine through. Sexual energy is about how you dress, how you show up, how you communicate. It's who you are because you're a sexual human being and when we suppress that side of us we're not shining our true light. So in this episode we're going to be discussing how sexual confidence can really revolutionise both your personal and professional life and just take some time to explore how powerful this force can be and how it can improve our relationships and our drive in success in our career. So let's dive in. So firstly sexual confidence in our personal life and why is that important? Well sexual confidence in our personal life is not just about feeling good about how we look. It's more than feeling good about our physical appearance. Sexual confidence is about bracing who you are at the very core without any shame or guilt. That can be really challenging because in society we have a lot of shame and a lot of guilt around sex, intimacy and pleasure and that's so the journey I've been on. Like I felt so much shame and so much guilt around how I was showing up in my sex life, in my lifestyle choices. And in one hand my choices helped me with my confidence and I could embrace that side of me and just feel that that strength in what I was exploring. But then the other half of my life was the shame and the guilt and the suppression of who I really was and the truth is we need to be who we are because we can't be anyone else and a huge part of our sexual confidence is about that self-acceptance. Loving and accepting our body, our energy, our mental capacity, like just every layer of ourselves. Just accepting who we are right now in this moment and let's face it we're our worst critics but imagine how liberating it could be if we could just take that look in the mirror and feel nothing but appreciation for who we are physically, emotionally and mentally. Just to look in that mirror and really own who we are with that level of excitement and a little cheeky wink and just feel that little bit taller, that little bit sassier, just that walking a little bit different through our day. That's the difference it makes and when we have that things change. What we need to remember is it doesn't mean that we won't have moments of self-doubt. We're human beings we're always going to have moments of self-doubt but it's about saying hey I am who I am and I like who I am and I love who I am and this is how I'm going to show up. About cultivating self-love, self-acceptance and to really just embrace who you are and your individuality as a sexual human being. And then there's also about the aspects of sexual confidence in regards to healthy communication in relationships. Now this can be the make or the break. So the other aspect to consider is the communicational relationships. So when we think about sexual confidence, sexual confidence in itself can transform how we communicate in our relationships. When you feel really confident don't you feel more able to express your needs, your desires and your boundaries? And why is that important? Well this openness leads to deeper emotional connection and a more fulfilling journey with emotional and physical intimacy. When we have a voice we own who we are and we are in control of our life. I've seen this so many times with clients you know communication is the bedrock of every good relationship. I've spoken to clients about their most intimate intimate parts of their lives and I've said how much of this have you shared with your partner or loved one and they're like none of it. Because we don't have that ability to believe in ourselves and know that we're human beings and things are different for everybody and and our journey is our journey and we can own that and we don't have to fit in with everything else that's going on around us that actually we can be accepted for who we are. And good conscious communication where we own who we are we use the I language you know this is how I feel this is about how I want to show up in the world like all of that I stuff where we're not blaming or or projecting onto somebody else can really help us build our confidence. And when we release the shame and the guilt so let's just address that elephant in the room because many of us carry so much so much so much so much so much so much negative emotions around sex and our sexual identity but what if I told you that by getting rid of those feelings you could unlock a new level of freedom and joy. Just shake off that shame kick that guilt into touch because it doesn't serve you and it is not needed let me say that again it is not needed we do not need to feel this shame and guilt going around everyone else's stuff and we don't need to we don't need to feel shame shame and guilt about who we are when we let all of that go when we let go of those societal pressures and if each of us in turn embraced our sexual self and our confidence and be proud in who we are what an amazing world we'd live in don't you agree like how amazing would that be if everyone just stood in their truth and owned who they were what an amazing amazing world we'd live in wow isn't it good to be a sexual human being to embrace who we are when I say sexual human being I'm also not talking about someone who's having sex every you know three times a day this is about who you are as a sexual human being being confident who you are in who you are so how can this amazing sexual confidence help us in our professional life so you might be wondering how this amazing sexual confidence can help us in our professional life how does having sexual confidence help me run my business well it is my business because I'm my business and I'm a sexual human being the thing that most people don't understand that is that sexual energy is a powerful powerful force and what do I mean by that well sexual energy is about creativity drive innovation it's how we channel ourselves into our work when you are in touch with this energy when you're connected to this energy and it it's just that fuel that's running through your veins you kind of you take more risks you you take a different perspective on your work you think outside the box you pursue your goals and your passion and your purpose from a whole different space this is the difference between being good at your job and bringing everything to the table to make the difference sexual confidence means you can show up authentically in your professional life it means you can be who you want to be be authentic to your role and just shine your light and when you're when you're showing that confidence when you you bring that confidence to the table people meet you where you're at people are drawn to that authenticity and that richness and that open honest vibrant yummy energy that you kind of just radiate and that is what builds strong relationships that is what gets respect that is what inspires other people that's what people are drawn to if you think about people in your life that you believe are sexually confident and how you get drawn to them you kind of you become encapsulated in their energy and who they are as a human being they kind of just radiate and ooze this little edge and lastly the other thing that really is important around sexual confidence is people who are really sexually confident know their boundaries you can't cross the lines you can't make it difficult for them you can't like they know their boundaries because they respect who they are because they've got that confidence to respect their own boundaries and the boundaries of others and in a professional setting having that and knowing your worth standing up for yourself and being in charge of self-respect to know your yeses your no's and your maybes when you own your sexual confidence you own your boundaries that's an amazing feeling to be really connected to knowing what's good for you and what doesn't serve you so how do we manifest this into our lives how do we bridge the gap between bedroom and business how do we become this sexual human being that is really confident so i guess for me there's three key areas that we really need to think about so the first is making sure we have that kind of um work-life balance it's all about the balance it's all about the balance sexual confidence isn't just a bedroom thing we really need to understand it is literally part of who you are it's not something you do after dark it's embracing who you are fully and being in harmony with every single area of your life it's about showing up authentically in every area and pursuing your dreams and your ambitions and all the things you want to do without sacrificing any part of you oh i got goosebumps when i said that it's about living your life without sacrificing any part of you whoa i just want to interrupt for one second and say if you are loving this episode and loving business success and want to discover how you can work with me then why not book a call use the link within this episode book a call grab a cuppa and let's connect enjoy the rest of the episode i guess the next thing second thing would be about sexual energy is this this uh creative force if you think about energy as something that drives your passion in your personal life then it can definitely be the same energy that's redirected to fuel your personal goals sexual confidence is about having that serotonin that dopamine them endorphins just bubbling under the surface to create this kind of force that when it's tapped into you can be the most authentic groundbreaking amazing version of yourselves it's just this energy that's almost like a fuzzy felt i remember explaining to a client once like it's just that like fuzzy felt that feeling between um that like velcro sparky like real yummy energy that just holds everything together this yummy energy is something that should be celebrated and we should be embracing and yet it's still a taboo which holds us back and knocks our confidence because we don't want to shine our light and the truth is when we embrace our sexual energy we embrace life it's a vital part of who we are and we can bring so much more authenticity and creativity and passion to our work and that's not wrong it's about recognising this powerful energy and how we can use it responsibly i've worked with clients i've talked with individuals i've worked in a number of charities where people really struggle with sexual confidence and when they find it they describe it as you know this kind of cocoon turning into a butterfly this lock falling off a cage this freedom that they suddenly find in themselves when they really really embrace who they are and when they realise that sexual confidence is not having sex in the bedroom with your clothes off and the light on that sexual confidence is so much more than that sexual confidence is about how you walk down the street how you smile how you connect to other human beings how you dress how you show up how you talk how you shine in your everyday life sexual confidence is not about that fact that you're happy to be naked in front of your partner that's a whole different thing and definitely part of it definitely part of it but it's more than that it's more than that it's it's literally the vibration that you create in the world by the actions you take in being confident in who you are as a sexual human being and when we're not confident in the bedroom it impacts our work and when we're not confident in work it impacts our bedroom this whole this whole energy of who we are literally is how we show up in the world so as we go about our day and we're managing our business and our bedroom i want to challenge you to reflect on how confident you feel in who you are as a sexual human being how confident are you in your sexuality and your sensuality and who you are and how you show up and i challenge you to address the areas that may need more love and attention and don't be too hard on yourselves because we're all human beings and we're wired to find the thoughts before we find the amazingness in us so start with small steps whether it's affirming your body celebrating your physical body standing in front of the mirror naked and just giving yourself the biggest smile or whether it's communicating more openly with a partner while bringing a different level of authenticity to your work however you choose to up your game however you choose to build your sexual confidence own it love it i know when i really embrace this side of me there was almost some sort of i kind of met myself because for so long i've been living with the expectation or living in the expectation of everybody else we have so many roles in life you know mother sister aunty colleague like we have all these different hats we wear and the truth is when we stand in our own authenticity as a sexual human being and we own who we are we can just be one bloody version of ourselves everywhere and that's how i show up now i'm the same person everywhere i go and i've never had that in my life until i really gained my sexual confidence because we we adapt ourselves to the environments we're in why are we doing that why are we adapting ourselves to the environments we're in and not standing in our authentic truth because we're trying to fit in and why fit in when we were born to stand out so take those small steps and i'd love to hear your thoughts on this topic and how you are building your sexual confidence how you gain your sexual confidence or how you lack sexual confidence how has this impacted your life share your stories your questions and your insights i would love to know what your thoughts are on building sexual confidence for business and for bedroom go out into that world and rock who you are because we're all amazing and we all have a journey and we all have challenges and we all face the human experience for me when i gained my sexual confidence i came home to who i was i found my truth which is why i'm sitting here recording this for you because finding your truth is the most liberating experience and it can save and build and develop every single area of your life when you become a sexually confident human being everything changes and i wish that for you i wish for you to be more sexually confident so you can shine your light in every area of your life so i hope this episode has been well at a minimum a bit of thought-provoking maybe some insights that allow you to make some shifts but whatever it is i wish you an orgasmic life so for now take care and i will see you very very soon thank you for joining me on business success empowering business professionals and entrepreneurs to lead an orgasmic life