12 - How Sexual Confidence Enhances Public Speaking and Networking

In this episode, I look into how sexual confidence doesn’t just heat things up in the bedroom - it’s the secret sauce to showing up stronger in business too! 🔥 Whether it’s public speaking, networking, or rocking your next big event, the confidence you build in intimacy will naturally spill over into your business life. 

Ready to ditch that cringe-worthy elevator pitch? Nervous about speaking up at meetings? Let's change that! Discover how tapping into your vulnerability, owning your desires, and embracing your sensual power can supercharge your presence on and off stage. 

Let’s explore how mastering sexual confidence can elevate your professional confidence—and it’s all connected!

Tune in for game-changing tips, and a whole lot of sass. You don't want to miss this!

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Thank you for tuning in to Business Sexcess. Empowering business professionals and entrepreneurs to lead an orgasmic life. Hello and welcome to this episode of Business Success. This is an overrating space here to fuel up your business and your bedroom. It's where sexual empowerment meets personal professional development. I'm your host. Yes, that's me, Lorraine Crookes. Sexual empowerment liberator and award-winning speaker, columnist, educator and healer. Here to make sure all business professionals and entrepreneurs lead an orgasmic life. Welcome to Business Sexcess. I'm very excited about this episode. This is something really close to my heart because I know a hundred and a hundred and a hundred and a hundred and another hundred percent how amazingly impactful this can be. I have been on this journey and I have helped hundreds of clients go on this journey. And the journey is about embracing your sexual confidence so that you show up better for public speaking, networking and business events. The truth is when we own who we are in the bedroom, when we're confident enough to be vulnerable, when we have a voice, when we can really tap into our wants, needs and desires, when we can show up in our sassy self and love ourselves for who we are. We show up in our business without even knowing it in a whole different way. Sexual confidence enhances public speaking, networking and business relationships without question. And that might surprise you, but if you think about it from a perspective of you are your business. So if you become more confident in who you are, you're going to show up differently. And there is no other place that's better to get into the juices of that than in the bedroom. That is your most vulnerable space. That is where it's sometimes the hardest to communicate. Sometimes it's the most challenging area for us to be vulnerable. So if we can master that, we become a different person in our business. So today we're talking about how we can connect to that sexual confidence and how it can enhance our public speaking, our networking and our business relationships because the two are completely, utterly, without question intertwined. If you've ever felt nervous or unsure when you're given a presentation or you struggle with networking, that elevator pitch just makes you cringe when you're going around the tables. It's like, am I next? Am I next? If that's you, this is 100% something for you to think about. So let's start with what is sexual confidence? What do I mean by sexual confidence? When I talk about sexual confidence, I'm not just referring to those intimate moments with a partner. I'm not just referring to the action between the sheets. I'm talking about that extra layer, that deeper sense of self-assurance. I'm talking about you rocking who you are in your own skin. Sexual confidence means knowing who you are, embracing your physical, energetic, emotional, spiritual body, like every layer of yourself and owning who you are and your desires and your needs and your wants without shame or guilt. It's just rocking up as your authentic self in the bedroom because when you rock up as your authentic self in the bedroom and you empower yourself at that level, it can't not show up in the rest of your life. When you show up in the bedroom authentically empowered, when you have a voice, when you can really be true to you, it changes you on a cellular level. And just as sexual confidence is about owning your presence intimately, there's a transition into the social confidence. And the social confidence is what helps you in your public speaking and your networking. It's part of who you are and it all comes from owning your own space. The energy that brings you into a room when you're speaking in front of an audience or when you're making new connections or when you're doing that elevator pitch is about being yourself, being empowered sexually, and that empowerment naturally comes through when you're in a public place. It's your public persona. I just think it's just so exciting just to think about if we can really embrace the bedroom, how that can impact how we're heard, how we're seen, how we carry ourselves in business. And I can hear you asking, OK, so how do we do it, Lorraine? Give us the magic. Tell us how we do it. OK, how do we do it? So I guess the first thing I would say is when you're sexually confident and you're more comfortable in your own body, that 100% translates into how you carry yourself physically in a social situation. When you come to own your own skin, you've got that bit where you walk a bit taller and you've got a bit of a size and the shoulders go back and the head goes up and you just feel confident in walking into a room. You make better eye contact, you project yourself with more charisma and sass and people are just naturally drawn to you. You just attract people with ease because you've just got this understanding of who you are. And the key place to find that is 100% in the bedroom. To be so comfortable in your own skin that when you walk into a room you just feel just awesome. You've got this whole aura about you because you're just comfortable in who you are. You believe in who you are. And then there's the aspect of public speaking is one of the most vulnerable spaces to be and networking can feel quite vulnerable as well because you're kind of showing up as you. So whether you're in intimacy or you're public speaking, vulnerability is part of what it's all about. And when you come to embrace vulnerability in your intimate relationships, again, that interlinks with your public speaking and being out there rocking your business. When you can be vulnerable in the bedroom, it becomes so much easier to take risks in public. It becomes easier to share your personal stories, to be authentic, to communicate who you are as a person, to do that one minute elevator pitch, to stand on stage and be really authentic and vulnerable. But vulnerability takes practice. So the more comfortable you are in being vulnerable in the bedroom and literally having those parts exposed of yourself in the bedroom and getting used to being exposed in one way in the bedroom and then with your clothes on, on stage. The two types of vulnerability of being vulnerable as a person emotionally, physically, spiritually, to then go and be able to be vulnerable socially. It's about surrendering the part of you that you're happy for others to see, that people can connect with, that people resonate with and move towards. And this is the bit, this is the bit that really resonates for me because it wasn't until I was able to be vulnerable in myself and vulnerable enough to then share that with other people. And I guess that comes on to probably the next point that I was going to share, which is about the expression. You know, I needed to learn how to connect these two together because expressing my desires and passions and wants and needs and all the yumminess I wanted in my personal life, I could do that. But then it was being vulnerable enough to share my story and be visible and connect on stage. I was comfortable in my own body, but I was locked in my story. And now I can express my vulnerability more in the bedroom. I can also express my vulnerability on stage because now I can be really open and honest about my desires, my wants and my needs. I have that confidence that now translates onto stage. And because I'm honest and expressing my desires and wants in the bedroom, I have the ability now to communicate clearly and assertively when I'm standing on the stage. I've practiced the words of who I am and how I show up in the bedroom. So they're part of who I am. I don't necessarily have to second guess what I'm going to say at an event because it's me. It's who I am because I've become comfortable with my own voice in intimate settings. I am now comfortable with my voice in public settings. I hope that makes some sort of sense. It's about building this confidence in our vulnerable spaces so that we can really get to know who we are and manifest that confidence to transfer into other areas of our life. And the truth is sexual energy is a powerful, powerful force. It's so powerful. And when you're in touch with this energy, when you understand it, it can amplify your presence. It can empower your voice. It can support you to show up differently wherever you are, business meetings, networking, stage, life. Just showing up for your kids in a better way, all of this. People pick up on energy. And it's energy that makes you memorable and magnetic. Energy is magnetic. It's a vibration. You are a vibration vibrating in the world, other places available. We're all vibrators, yay. But it's our energy that makes us memorable and magnetic. We just need to make sure we don't run our batteries. This is the key. We've got to keep it going and we've got to evolve and build this up. Let me share with you a couple of tips on how I make sure that I can really tap into this energy from a really loving place, but how I use this in my public speaking and networking. So before any event, before I step onto any stage, before I do any speaking outside of the bedroom, and to be honest, sometimes I do this in the bedroom, but it's about taking the moment to ground yourself in your body. No matter where I am, my first relationship is always with me. So I take a moment to ground myself in my body by taking a few deep breaths. It might be a quick stretch, rolling my shoulders back, literally spreading my body out so it's nice and stretched and tall, and it may even be a meditation, like whatever feels good for whatever I'm doing, and it varies depending on the event. But what that gives me an opportunity to do is to connect to me, to come home to my physical body by standing tall, breathing deep. I get that energy flowing in my body. It brings me back to my physical and instantly, instantly boosts my confidence because my physical body is what's carrying me. It doesn't define who I am, but it carries me onto that stage. It carries me into that room. It's there and it's present when I'm in intimacy, pleasure. And I want to be connected to my physical body so that I can show up confidently. And so many of us feel connected to our voice, but it doesn't then portray in our body, which then sends a mixed message. Our body is what people see before they hear us. And it's really important to own that and to stand tall and to be present and to really be connected to who we are in a physical sense. And then when I'm really connected to my body, whether that's, as I say, the stretching, the breathing, the grounding myself into the floor, meditating, whatever it might be, I then think about my voice. Now, I know in the bedroom that I am pretty good at communicating my needs and my desires and intimate moments. But I still develop that talk constantly by evolving conversations because sex intimacy and pleasure is an ever evolving thing. So I'm always communicating. I practice being assertive and clear in my speech in the bedroom. I talk openly. I make sure that I am clear in my needs and my wants and my desires and my boundaries and where I'm at. And I believe because I'm really good at doing that, when it comes to being in a public space, I can speak with conviction and passion because that's how I show up in the bedroom. So whether I'm presenting a business idea, whether I'm introducing myself, whether I'm on Zoom, wherever I am, on a stage, it doesn't matter where it is, I speak from a place that's connected to my heart, to being assertive and from a place of passion. And there are times that I slow down my speech and lower my tone slightly and use my voice to project a presence because that's what public speaking and communicating with other people is about. And I do that in the bedroom as much as I do it on stage. It's about using the voice and being consciously aware of how we communicate, the tone, the pace, the pitch, the words we use and what better place to practice than in the bedroom. Like the bedroom, a stage is also a place for vulnerability. I know that I can be my most vulnerable in the bedroom. I know my journey has been about vulnerability and sex, intimacy and pleasure. And the confidence I have in the bedroom has taken time. But now I have that confidence, I can use that vulnerability as a strength. It empowers me, my vulnerability empowers me. So the other thing to think about around this is about how we can be more vulnerable in the words we use. And I'm talking about things like storytelling, sharing bits of ourselves, being open about our journey, because these personal aspects are what make us more relatable. These aspects have been, I was going to say exposed, but that's probably not the right term, but that these aspects have been more vulnerable and emotionally exposed. Let's go with that one. It's what builds trust. Sharing those little bits of ourselves in professional settings is what deepens connection. It's what makes relationships. So it's about not being afraid to share your challenges, to share your personal insights about where you're at in your business life, about speaking to an audience about what's real and raw for you, because it just makes you so much more authentic and so much more memorable by being open and honest. And like in the bedroom, sometimes it won't resonate with everyone. Sometimes not everyone will understand where you're coming from, not everyone will relate to your story, not everyone will connect with your vulnerability. But maybe they're not the people to be hearing it. The same as in the bedroom. Sometimes the person we're sharing stuff with doesn't always understand where we're at, but it's still just as important to share what we have to say, because it's our truth and it's what we're sharing and our vulnerability. It's about how we made that conscious communication with other people in every single area of our life. Communication is like literally everything. Without communication, no relationship exists. But that vulnerability in it just makes it sexy and appealing and connecting for other people. And I think that's super exciting to be able to say, like, you know, these three things, standing tall, being really grounded, using your voice, being vulnerable in the communication and in our conversations, like they're game changers for businesses. So it's harvesting that energy in the bedroom and transferring it. The other thing, and this might sound a little bit unconventional, and this might sound a little bit slightly... What's the word I'm looking for? Let's just go with unconventional. The truth is by tapping into sexual energy, you can instantly boost your confidence. So we need to tap into sex. So the other thing that you can do before you go off and do a big event, networking, speaking, or just as a routine to get you in your mojo, to get some serotonin and dopamine going, to get your confidence rocking, is actually practice. Before you get out the door, some self-pleasure, some movement, some dancing, or wearing something that makes you feel sexy. Get your body in a really good space. Now for some of you, that might be tapping into self-pleasure in the morning. It might be having great sex in the morning. It might be running around the house naked, dancing to your favorite tunes. It might be just putting on your favorite shoes or your favorite suit, or whatever it might be. But it's about feeling good in your body, feeling good in your energy, feeling sexy, feeling confident, feeling that aspect of serotonin and dopamine and endorphins. And you know what? It might even be just having a kiss and cuddle with your partner that just makes you feel alive before you go out the door. Having that few moments with yourself or with another person and feeling alive and sexy and connected to life. But it's about feeling good in your body that gives you that edge when you walk out of your front door and into a room that's about your business. So think about what can you do in your day, before it even starts, to really tap into that inner power, that sexual energy, that sexual energy that is part of you. Where can you bring that out? How can you tap into that? And it might be as simple as wearing an outfit. It might be a beautiful kiss. It might be something else. But it's about finding that inner confidence that can start your day in a really empowered space because how you feel about yourself is how you show up in business. Let me say that again. How you feel about yourself, who you are, is how you show up in business. And let me just add a caveat here because as much as all of this is about you rocking your magic and being out there and having a really confident voice, a confident presence, a confidence in who you are, please also remember that listening to others and engaging with others when they're speaking, when they're rocking their magic also makes you a magnet because people that truly listen and truly give people time also have a magnetic quality. It's not just about when you open your mouth. It's also about using your ears because presence is key and that is absolutely fundamental in the bedroom. Being present, listening, focusing, being aware is also part of self-awareness, is part of presence and is as vital as speaking, tapping in to other people. So practicing your listening skills in the bedroom is also absolutely fundamental in being able to move yourself forward and give yourself the skill set to really blow out of the water when it comes to networking and speaking. I just think this is so super exciting. I mean, to be honest, it's what the whole podcast is about. It's like how can sexual energy move you forward but just this one focus on public speaking and networking. I just think these are so fundamental to our business and yet we don't realize actually how much we can draw on our sexual energy, our sexual experiences, our sex intimacy and pleasure to help us in our business. This should 100% be like scheduled into the day, scheduled into the diary, put into the business plan, wherever you want to put it, it's got to be there. It's just got to be there. So let's have a quick recap. So approaching networking with more confidence will make you more approachable and more authentic. You're going to radiate that confidence. You're going to be more comfortable in your own skin and you are going to rock it as a professional who means business, who knows their stuff and who is showing up in real yummy confidence. You're going to be more charismatic. You're going to radiate with the audience more. You're going to meet them on an emotional level. People are going to want you and move towards you. You're going to be more engaging, more persuasive and definitely, as I've said, more memorable. That magnetic yumminess that you're going to portray in everything you do. And I've seen this with the clients I've worked with so many times that people who are in tune with their sexual energy just stand out as like leaders in their field with more compassion and more conviction. They're passionate about who they are. They're passionate about what they do and they're not afraid to take risks. They're not afraid to be vulnerable and they're inspiring in their vision for others. The truth is when you're sexually confident, you bring that confidence with you. You can't not if it's part of who you are. It's just super exciting. Giving ourselves permission to dance with this energy as a tool for business growth. I just think we're just missing a trick and this is the time to make these changes. We spend so much time in our business that sometimes we forget about our sex intimacy and pleasure. Sometimes it gets neglected. Sometimes it gets left behind. Sometimes it's just something we don't focus on and somewhere along the line it gets lost. And if we connect with it, reconnect with it, be present with it, heal it, change it, adapt it and use these skills in our bedroom to build our business. Start with your bedroom because it will naturally feed into your business. If you're having a challenging relationship, start having conversations. Start being vulnerable. Start using all of the skills that we've talked about to help you build that side of your life so it naturally feeds into your business because it will. You can go on as many public speaking courses as you want. You can go on as many different training courses as you want. They will be teaching you skills in confidence then about how to speak because it comes from you. So this is a shortcut to get sassy in the bedroom and see how it unfolds because it literally is a game changer. And if you are struggling within the bedroom, if that's your area of challenge and you can see how by improving your bedroom, you can empower your business and it's an area where you're stuck, then that is exactly why I'm here. So please reach out. We can have a conversation. Let's get you unstuck. Let's get you empowered in your business so that you can go out there and do all of the things that you're here to do. Start thinking about how you can boost your sexual confidence and let it flow into your professional life. Please remember the confidence you gain in your intimate relationships does not stay in the bedroom. It shows up in every part of your life. How you speak, how you network and how you lead in business. I'm super excited to have shared this with you and I hope there's a few nuggets in there that will help you to build your business to have the most awesome orgasmic life and be empowered in your business success. Keep shining. Keep empowering yourself. Reach out if you need to and let's continue to make business and bedroom orgasmic. So thank you for joining me on Business Sexcess empowering business professionals and entrepreneurs to lead an orgasmic life.