You Can't Lose Weight Unless You Eat McDonald's (w/Jennifer Neville)

Ok maybe McDonald's won't help you lose weight, but MAYBE dropping the shame around it will. Find out all about this magic as Brendan talks with the fantastic Jennifer Neville, hypnotherapist, author, and popular YouTuber.

Hear all about:

• Brendan's magical 4am Joe Dispenza meditation story.
• Jennifer's #1 mindset takeaway from being a professional golfer. 
• The surprising technique that Jennifer used to lose weight. 
• The obvious and clear BEST ZODIAK sign. 
• Sure, there are Glow Ups, but what about a really nice Glow Down? 

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Jennifer Neville
Jennifer Neville's YouTube
Peter Crone Being the Best
A Clear Glow Down

Transcript

Okay, so I've been watching a lot of videos of people talking about how Joe Dispenza's meditations have changed their lives. And I watched this one woman talk and she was like, Oh my god, I did Joe Dispenza's Abundance Meditation. And everything changed. My whole life got incredible. This is what I would do. 

Every morning at 4 a. m. I would get up and do Joe Dispenza's Abundant Meditation, the middle of the night. Because Joe Dispenza says that at that time is when your brain is in peak form, peak malleability. It's mystical time for your brain, mystical time for energy, 4 a. m. And I'm watching this and I'm like, fuck, do I have to get up at 4 a. 

m. [00:01:00] and do this? And I was like, ugh, I probably should. Swear to God the following story is true. That night I go to sleep. Okay, after I watch this, probably watch this during the day. I wake up in the middle of night, and I hear three bangs. No, probably five bangs outside. So it was just like boom, boom, boom. 

That's what I hear. And I wake up, and I hear them, and I go, I bet you it's four o'clock in the morning. And I want to say, I never get up in the middle of night like this. Unless to pee, or when I used to like, I would never get up like this, okay? So I stand up and I'm like, I bet you it's 4 o'clock in the morning. 

I walk over the clock, 3. 55 AM. And I'm like, holy shit. I just woke up at 4 AM. So this is what I did. I saw the clock in my kitchen. I walked back into my bed, crawled into bed, and immediately went to sleep. Fuck that, I'm not doing Joe Dispenza's meditation at 4 o'clock in the morning, I'm not an idiot! 

Totally true story. Welcome everybody to a brand new episode of Spiritual Asshole. I am your host, Brennan Fitzgibbons. With me as always, [00:02:00] the man, the myth, the legend, Willoughby T. Fitzgibbons. Today, I finally captured this on video. This is how cute this dog is. Whenever I get stressed out or sigh at all, like if I do this, Willoughby gets up from wherever he is, and he comes over and sits on me. 

Or he tries to climb on me, and calm me down, and doesn't leave until he thinks that I'm calm. So today, I filmed it and I will be posting. It's the cutest fucking thing ever. Get it, dog. For the 90th time, I'm so glad you're here. Please continue to follow me on Instagram at the underscore Brennan Fitzgibbons on Instagram. 

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It means a lot. It is patreon forward slash spiritual asshole I have some exciting news. I started writing a book y'all I started writing a book and it's been a complete fucking blast and i've put it off for so long And I'm not going to tell you what the name of the book yet until like I have it solidified. 

But this is again, like another good example of what happens [00:03:00] when you drag your feet., I've just been dragging my feet on this for probably three months. I was like, I should do this, but I don't know. It's just a lot of work. And one of the things that's like a big barrier to like doing the thing that you want to do. 

is thinking about how much work it's going to be. I've said this multiple times on my podcast and I'll say it again. I think one of the most helpful tips I receive from any of the habit people that's been on this podcast is undoubtedly take the first step. Like Will Smith has that great story in his book before he punched Chris Rock in the face where his dad made him and his brother every day lay one brick. 

To build this wall. I forgot where it was. It was to keep all of the whites out. I'm just kidding. But he keep all the suburban whites away and their their coffee beans. and then Will Smith was like, In two years, his dad, the wall was done and his dad was like, don't ever let anybody tell you you can't do something. 

And like, this is the work, this is the effort of compound work. So I've just been compounding [00:04:00] instead of thinking like, I literally Googled how many words are in a book. It's like 70, 000 is the average. So I was like, fuck. But if I don't think of it like that, if I don't think about how much work it is and I just enjoy the process, which ties into today's episode. 

Extremely well, talking to the amazing Jennifer Neville. She is a mindset coach. She is a hypnotherapist. She's an author. She's fantastic She's also a Virgo. Everyone I know who are Virgos are pretty cool. I'm sorry. I just have to say I don't want to be Biased. I don't want to be Zodiac ist. That should be a term, but Sorry, Virgos are pretty sick, yo. 

It's just true. If you don't believe me, ask Beyoncé. So if you are struggling to do anything right now, or you've been putting off the thing you want to do, dip your toe into it, and we talk about this so much in this episode, like, once you're in the creative space, and you get out of the space of your mind that's like, It's too hard, you can't do this, which, by the way, all it's doing is trying to keep you in the known. 

Let's go back to the terminology we've been using on this podcast for the last six weeks. Thanks The known is [00:05:00] the space in your life that you have cultivated up until this point, which is your habits, your routines, your thoughts, your behaviors, your mind's keeping you into the known. Okay. Because it's worried and it knows what your mind knows so far. 

It knows to be safe. Okay. So the known is whatever you've operated up until this point, that's the known. So that's your life. And it's great if they're great things, not the best if it's like you want to change your life, you got to step into the unknown. You have to, there's no choice. There's, Literally no choice. 

Your life will not change if you don't make different decisions. Period. It doesn't magically happen. Different decisions, thoughts, actions, beliefs. So it could be thoughts. Doesn't have to necessarily just be decisions. And I had this thought, I interviewed, I had a great interview, which will be next week, with the founder of the Quantum Clinic. 

And I said to her, it seems to me like the fundamental internal battle of a human being is, your mind wants to keep you safe, but you have a soul that wants you to expand forever. Your soul [00:06:00] wants you to do everything. Your soul is like, hey, if you want to go to Tahiti right now, you fucking should. But your mind's like, I shouldn't leave my apartment. 

It's hot. I can't write this book, that's work. these are all, like, you can call it procrastination, but I think it's much simpler than that. It is known, and unknown. But just know, especially if it's something creative. Once you dip into that creative space, everything's gonna be awesome. Alright, we're gonna keep this quick. 

I just wanna play one Peter Krohn clip for y'all, because it's absolutely fucking life changing, and here it is. I'll break it down, cause there's so much good in it. say, you can't help but laugh when you realize the only thing that's been upsetting you is your own imagination. . We're not Victims of circumstance, we're victims of perspective, and perspective is based in the language of the identity that I think I am. 

So really, all I am is I'm a slave to my own vibration. And when you see that, it's like, holy shit, like, I don't need to change anything out there. Yeah, [00:07:00] sure, you'd like to have a few more zeros in your bank account, perhaps a little less body fat, maybe a better looking partner, a bigger home, whatever it is that you think you want, but they're all precursors to the experience of a vibration that you think is on the other side of attaining them, which is actually who you already are. 

So you can short circuit the whole thing and realize, oh, I'm the very thing I'm looking for, but it's on the other side of the limiting language that I'm oblivious to that I identify with as who I am Holy cow! If you're not following Peter Krohn, I recently told Kristen Helmsteader this, like, I think Joe Dispenza's work is some of the best work going. 

I think Peter Krohn has the best words going. We are not victims of circumstances. We are victims of of our own perspective. First of all, if you can master that premise, you will be happy forever. It is, I hope, the primary takeaway, one of them, you get from this podcast is how much it's always how you see things personally. 

 And the most important relationship and journey you're ever going to have is a journey back into yourself to be able [00:08:00] to see things in a new way. I'm not saying always like your perspective, or like the shit that happens to you, but it's so profoundly true. And I hope that by listening to this podcast and hearing the stories of all these inspirational people who've overcome so much shit, their primary takeaway has usually always is like, well, I'm glad that this X horrible thing happened to me because it caused me to do this. 

 Whereas millions of people, thousands of people would be like, yeah, , this guy was an asshole. He broke up with me five years ago. I still hate him. And it's like, the exact same thing can happen to two people. And just to see the different perspectives on it, is everything. It's everything. 

Alright, so, that's one takeaway. Okay, perspective is based in the language of the identity that I think I am. This is a little bit complicated, but let's say it again. Perspective is based in the language of the identity that I think I am. Okay, so, The next step on this journey of [00:09:00] life, I think, is to go even farther past your own perspective, okay? 

So the breakup happens, you're upset, instead of pivoting and saying, I hate this guy, you're going to say, I'm going to go on a life journey, and I'm going to double down, win this breakup, and be the best goddamn version of myself, and realize how fucking powerful I am. Great, okay? That's a great step. An even further step is to say, like, I'm so fundamentally okay and great as I am that even if I don't do the quote glow up, even if I don't take all these actions and quote win the breakup and like forgive him and have a new perspective, it doesn't matter because even these things like or good person, bad person, glow up, glow down. 

They're still based on your own perspective of what is a glow up to some people. A glow up is somebody who got to do six pushups today. And this went to a self Tanner. Look at Trump, he's more,, glow up, it's more of a nuclear up, is [00:10:00] that a term? 

Radi yeah, he's more of a radiating up. So he's radiation. But, even that term, cause we would all go, well glow ups are good. But even what Peter Krohn is saying, even past that idea, is there such fundamental truth that you're even more than that. Wow. When you see that, you say, I don't need to change anything out there. 

Holy fuck. One of the great things that Jennifer says when we talk about it is, the key to manifesting things you want is to realize you actually don't really want anything. Now, we talk about why that's actually tough, because of course, desires. But when you say, and you go within, I'm already completely okay as it is. 

One of the key things I've heard in Manifesting is people just completely accepting their now reality. And this part is so key because this is like the premise of all of Esther Hicks teachings, and it's all the premise of so much good shit, which is getting all these things you want. A new partner, millions of dollars, a new house, a new job, great health. 

Maybe health is actually kind of a tough one. But you want those things because you [00:11:00] believe on the other side of them is peace, joy, happiness, and fulfillment. And what Peter Krohn is saying is you could feel those things right now. And I, as the leaves are blowing in the background, I have fought this idea for so long, and I think I've been so happy these last six five to six weeks. 

I really haven't had a bad day in a long like, over a month. And I'm not saying this to brag, I'm saying this to all of you because I want you to know it's possible. And I'm not saying I'm immune to bad feelings or, quote, bad things, but when I've finally got it, like, oh shit, I've got it. I don't have to wait to get my dream job to say my life is pretty fucking awesome. 

I don't have to wait to have 2 million dollars to do so many of the things that I want to do anyways. Instead of keeping yourself in a perpetual cycle of wanting and searching and reaching, the reaching is really where it's at with social media, comparison, reaching, reaching, reaching, a country that so many people are millionaires and they look like they're thriving, a country that everyone has [00:12:00] so many amazing material things and we're very lucky so then when you see that you're like why don't I have that shit? 

Instead of sitting in that vibration of like, well, I'm not gonna be okay unless I'm like Elon Musk Which is fucking crazy. I'm not gonna be okay unless I name my children just letters Yeah, I'm not gonna be okay unless I can name my kids HTML code, okay? so he said these things are all precursors to the experience of a vibration that you think is on the other side of attaining them, which is actually Already who you are. 

Holy shit. I mean, that's just literally everything. You contain the universe. This is what my book is going to be about. Well, a lot of other things, but you contain the universe. Everything that you want is within you already. So if you're constantly thinking it's outside of you, you're not able to cultivate the feelings and the manifestations of all the things that already exist within you that are incredible. 

And then thereby those things would probably draw [00:13:00] to you more. Something I'm still working on y'all. I ain't perfect at this, but when you get to that place, the need to feel like you're not okay right now is such a profound, pervasive feeling in most of our culture that I'm so excited for us to reframe our brains and our minds and know that actually you're very okay. 

 All right. I'm so excited about this guest. She's absolutely incredible. We had a super fun time. She's in Florida. She's a former professional golfer, by the way. Pretty cool. Make a lot of noise for Jennifer Neville. Alright everybody, welcome to a brand new episode of Spiritual Asshole. I'm so excited to be joined by Jennifer Neville. She's an author, mindset coach, hypnotherapist, popular YouTuber. Jennifer, how are you? I am doing great. Happy to be here. So glad you're here. So you're also a former professional golfer. 

When you played golf, did you ever look over and see a guy named Chad wearing a visor and khakis and think to yourself, God, I wish this sport was more white. Um, probably a lot of times I, [00:14:00] I always joke about the fact that I was constantly surrounded by Rich old white men and there were a lot of things that I'm like, oh wait, this wasn't a normal experience for everybody else. 

You guys weren't told to wear certain types of clothes when you were 13 years old. Oh my god. Yeah, we got to change that dress code. We need to talk about it. This needs to be a national conversation. These 13 year old girls are showing too much, too much leg. Oh, my God, that's insane. So what do you think the best mindset lesson you learned from sports is that you use today? 

Because I think athletes have the most peak minds, you know, I mean, I think I learned a lot about discipline. like how discipline, you know, it's not necessarily about practice making perfect, it's more about practice breeding confidence. So I learned that really early on. And I think that that's helped me apply. 

To different facets of my life like [00:15:00] having that recipe of success, but also Especially in golf being that it's such a subconscious or it's such a mind mental sport I learned a lot about the subconscious early on and how to kind of build a relationship with my subconscious So that I can like operate better under pressure Great. 

So yeah, what is your relationship like with your subconscious now? because that's a big part of what you do. I love talking about this. What have you done to improve it? Well, currently I'm a hypnotherapist, so I've done a lot of hypnotherapy. I've been utilizing hypnotherapy since I was in college, but I used to go to sports psychologists growing up and just understanding why I have the reactions that I have or learning how to, I don't like using the word control my emotions, but understanding my emotions. 

I think where [00:16:00] I wish I could turn back time and maybe go play golf again. Everybody around me always said, you have to learn how to control your emotions. And I think that was the problem was that I was trying to control them versus like, Understanding what was actually happening. So what is that difference? 

What does understanding look like versus control controlling them? I think it's like, bring yourself of your own personal judgment. Cause what I learned on the golf course was well in hindsight, because I never quite mastered this while I was playing golf, I would let my emotions sort of control me. And then I would be so upset at myself. 

And. I would just beat myself up because I'd be angry at the fact that I felt angry. You know, you hit a bad shot and then that's like the Unique part of golf is like you're playing tennis You don't [00:17:00] have time to really sit and marinate in the fact that I just hit a horrible shot now I have to walk and wait and now I have all this time to think about this mistake. 

I just made and then It's would kind of devolve into this situation where I'd be succumbed to my emotions, and then I'd hear those voices, like my coaches saying, like, you can't control your emotions, you need to learn how to do this, and I'd beat myself up, and then it wasn't until after I quit playing golf that I realized, oh, the times that I just let myself be angry were the times that I'd make, like, five back to back birdies. 

Instead of judging myself and just allowing myself to be and I think that's, that's, , I maybe forgot the original question, but it doesn't matter. We're on, we're on a journey right now. It's fine. No, I like it a lot. So yeah, you did [00:18:00] three hypnotherapy sessions that changed your life. I've done a bunch of hypnotherapy. 

What happened in those sessions? How does your life change? So I've done so much more than three, like, like I said, I was doing them in college, but golf specific. Cool. And I, I found this one hypnotherapist once I quit golf and I was super lost. I had no idea what I was going through. Doing I was trying to do real estate and I was just like Am I ever going to feel passionately about something? 

I used to wake up and be passionate to go to the golf course and I was deconstructing like who am I? and She I had hard time accepting my emotions because of the fact that I was told my whole life like you're too emotional you have to get your motions under control so it had like the adverse effect and I struggled to be vulnerable even like with myself and then so she the hypnotherapist [00:19:00] sort of clocked that right away and I knew my first session, I was like skeptical. 

I'm like, oh, she's not going to be able to put me into hypnosis. I'm not even in hypnosis. But I knew the minute that I was crying openly in this stranger's chair, I was like, Oh my gosh, I, I'm must be hypnotized because there's no way. the key is everyone, you've heard it here and make sure you cry. 

You know, you're doing something good. Yes. Yes. And now as a hypnotherapist, if somebody cries in my chair, I'm like, yes, you got it. It's like hitting that birdie. Just a little putt. Bam. so You talk a lot about, you know, limiting beliefs and pulling out the roots, which I'm all about. I had a great coach tell me that, like, you can work on all the, like, the little beliefs, but if you find like the mothership belief, it's like blowing up the ship that has all the other ships. 

 What is the best way that you think we can do that? Or is, is one option just punching our parents? Cause that's where it [00:20:00] comes from. Basically, all of that, it always comes from your parents, or it comes from childhood. It's crazy. And I, I think that in my experience, kind of what I was saying with the feelings, is what I've learned doing hypnotherapy, and then, Having clients it's been The feelings are the guide like you start by focusing on. 

Okay. What is this current issue? Like somebody comes to me. They have a fear of public speaking All right What does public speaking make you feel? And then you can get clear on what the limiting beliefs are and then from there When you go into hypnosis or take them into hypnosis, you're kind of utilizing and intensifying that feeling Hmm And those beliefs, in order to regress them back to \ maybe it was they got yelled at at the kitchen table, and now they have this subconscious fear of speaking in public. 

Right, it always [00:21:00] comes back to, yeah, it's crazy. Yeah. So one thing that I do wonder about limiting beliefs a lot is like, sometimes I feel like finding a limiting belief is like finding a stray cat. You're like, Okay, but what the hell do I do with this cat? So what do you do with your cats? 

When you find them? Your stray cats? Well, I'll normally so kind of what I just said is like, I don't have to go into hypnosis to find where they come from. And that's one of the beauties about working one on one with people. It's like Sometimes I don't even need to take them into hypnosis if the emotion's really present. 

But I'll find the emotions, the limiting beliefs, and then I'll take it to the root. Like, where does this come from? And it might be like, okay, it describes the relationship I felt with my parent or my dad or my mom growing up and then it's Revising that I think it's really important to process that and be like, okay. 

Wait, actually Now that [00:22:00] i'm older and I have more perspective That's not true that story Doesn't have to be true anymore or talking to that younger version of myself who's like because of the fact that this happened it made me think like I wasn't worthy of love. And then that's not, that's the part that's not true. 

Then from there, your subconscious can naturally start to, know, expose these, these things that we tell them are where. Where this comes from and you can consciously make the effort to change that, that belief. 

So yeah, you think that it kind of just goes on autopilot then but like in the good way? Because that's my major concern about the subconscious sometimes. I'm like, well if it's on autopilot and it's going the wrong direction, I don't want a train that's going to crash into the wall, you know? Yeah, yeah. I think it's more of, like, once you expose the, plot, or, I don't know how you can say that [00:23:00] metaphorically, but once you expose the narrative, Yeah. 

then it becomes harder to ignore, and say I have a behavior or pattern that now I know is connected to this thing, Yeah. this core root memory, and then when it pops up, I can say, Okay, we don't believe that anymore. No, that's not true. And then you, you know, You kind of have to retrain your brain to like move in the opposite direction. 

Got it. One of the things that you said that's awesome is you're like it doesn't have to take long. I think for a long time I was under the assumption that this is like a long ass process. But do you think that that's something you can do quickly? I think here's what I tell people as soon as you expose it It's it's it goes back to that saying like change your thoughts change your life as soon as I expose the thought and I start Like renavigating that thought every time it pops up. 

It doesn't mean it's gonna happen all the time I'm, just like okay. Well i'm sitting [00:24:00] in front of the tv eating bonbons sick, you know like not because of because of XYZ and I know that and maybe I'm still gonna eat those in those moments, but I can start like renavigating my brainwaves to think No, we don't do this anymore. 

We don't, it's okay for us to feel whatever it is that we're trying to numb or things like that. And then when you start implementing new thoughts, that's when in a week time, everything's temporary, so a week time, two weeks time, you're going to start seeing different things in your environment. Because you're changing your reality and that's where you can get a little bit woo woo and manifestation talk, but you're selecting new experiences based off of your new thoughts. 

I love that, a new identity. So whenever you don't want to eat something that you know is not good for you, do you ever pour water on it and hope that that just stops you? No, I've never tried that. [00:25:00] You should, it doesn't work. What about the people who are like, throw it in the trash and then they're like, go back in and they're like, well, let me just dip back into the trash. 

I have known to be one of those people from time to time. It's gotten much better. I pick a really bad trash so that never happens. I'm speaking for a friend. So do you think though, one of the things that I always ask my guests about when it comes to limiting beliefs that sometimes they can actually looking for limiting beliefs can sometimes stop you because you're always looking for something that's wrong. 

What do you think about that? I do think that there's and this might be something that I personally work on in my own personal journey, just to not getting addicted to the healing process and reminding myself that it's okay to be flawed and it's okay to, you know, not know everything right now. 

[00:26:00] And that's what I, sometimes I'll, like I just said, it's like developing the awareness, it doesn't mean I have to make the change right now. I've already started the process and I think that's an important message for everybody is like, How our subconscious works is as soon your your subconscious will do everything for you So if I start feeding it Affirmation, so I know what my limiting beliefs were were in regards to this situation. 

That's really triggering me And if I start just implementing these affirmations, maybe I listen to an affirmation tape. My subconscious is going to naturally seek out new experiences to validate that belief and I might find myself naturally just moving in a different direction, but it might not happen overnight. 

But as long as I keep making the conscious effort to at least feed myself with new thoughts and new behaviors that are like being more accepting with [00:27:00] myself, then my subconscious will figure it out, you know, that's great. So yeah, you kind of talked a little bit about changing identities a little bit ago, which I think is so cool. 

And one of the things that a lot of coaches talk about is a thing called a glow up. Is it fair to say there's something called a glow down, which just you eating at a Carl's Jr. You know, I'm not gonna, I'm not going to subscribe to that just because, and this is, this goes to what I just said, like, say this week I've had way more fast food than I'd like to admit to myself, but then that's where I tell myself, like, Don't stress or panic about it. 

It's one week out of a ton. You know how to get back on it, you will get back on it. Just let yourself go through whatever you need to go through right now and we trust ourselves enough to figure it out, you know? Yeah, so how have you used this information to change your own life? Do you feel like you've shifted into new identities? 

I [00:28:00] do, and I think that It happens very slowly and naturally and I, gone through like major weight loss, you know, after my, after I left playing golf, I gained a ton of weight and then losing that weight, I had to confront like a lot of these mindset things and also not, you know, Getting away from like that strict diet culture where I did used to beat myself up and be like, oh my god I had mcdonald's today tomorrow I can't eat for the whole day or I need to eat no carbs for the next two weeks And now i'm just like, you know what? 

Maybe I'll have McDonald's again tomorrow. And I just don't put this pressure on myself of I need like that. I'm doing something wrong because I feel like not only am I eating the McDonald's, but then I'm consuming all this guilt and shame on top of it. So it's like deconstructing, I think a lot of the shame. 

In our realities, but [00:29:00] what I found so interesting was once I lost the weight It took me still a while for it to become Like this is our new identity and I don't know if anybody else listening has gone through weight loss experience, but Oh yeah, no, I've talked to people personally about this very thing happening to them. 

Yeah, and it's kind of like, I realized I used to always use that terminology of like, I'm, I'm fat, I'm fat. And then I was like, wait, no, That's not who I am. I just have fat and fat can be easily put on. It can be lost. It's just, but it's not who I am. That's not my identity. And I really, it took me a while to like now, a year after I'm like, Oh my God, I'm a different person than I was in that when I was in that space. 

Like I just. don't even think those same thoughts anymore. How were you able to [00:30:00] maintain the momentum of that? You just started feeling good every day? You started like compounding it? I started prioritizing feeling good. I didn't prioritize because the diving never made me feel good. So I just started prioritizing loving myself and feeling good and accepting myself. 

And it was this moment that I had. Where I used to always be like that meme that says I wish I was as fat as the first time I thought I was fat I didn't know about that meme. That's hilarious. Yeah, and then so and it's like Sounds so harsh too, right? But I used to always Laugh at that and then I kind of had this moment of realization. 

I was like when I hit my ultimate heaviest weight where I was like This could be the skinniest i'll ever be Like a year from now I could be wishing I was in this place right now So I need to just start learning how to appreciate myself right now Instead of trying to [00:31:00] be Oh, i'll be happy when i'm 10 pounds thinner. 

I'll do this when i'm 10 pounds lighter And then from there, I, I think like, again, that goes back to the limiting belief, once I just switched that, and I was like, no, I need to train myself to accept myself as I am right now, find the beauty in myself right now, and do all the things that I want to do. 

Regardless, that's when it just naturally started happening. The solution started arriving, the, it became easy, you know, it became easy to want to do nice things for myself. It sounds like what you're describing is just releasing a fuck ton of resistance. That's what that's, that's what it really seems like to me. 

Yeah. You're just like, eh, whatever. Instead of like, Resisting constantly where we're at, which is such a hard thing to not do when you become intoxicated by your reality. Yeah, that's so true. So I feel like the idea of [00:32:00] self concepts, we're talking about this glow ups, quantum jumping. These are all very popular things on Tik Tok now, which is great. 

But how do you actually see it? Like how would you describe stepping into a new version of you to someone who has like no idea that this is even possible? , I think that, how do I describe, I think what you're saying is so true and something that I would preach a lot of, like, the first step. To, it's realizing what is it that I want to feel. 

Again, going back to the feelings, I'm big on feelings and emotions. What is it that I want to feel? So if I want to be in my ideal body, what do I want, what do I think my ideal body is going to make me feel? I'm going to feel happy, I'm going to feel relieved, I'm going to feel content. There's nothing stopping me from feeling those things right now. 

So why would I not feel those things right now and that's sort of when we get deeper into it It's [00:33:00] like if I just focus on giving myself that right now Then things are naturally going to fall into place reality is going to conform to me My reality will conform to those new thoughts and new beliefs That's great. 

I love that. So you also said confidence is quiet, but insecurity is loud, but have you seen professional rappers? They're pretty confident and pretty fucking loud. Yeah. Confidence is quiet and insecurity is loud. I, yeah. How, I don't know how I would retort that. Are they really confident? Oh, cause you think if they're being overly that way, they're just like, it's ego. 

It's making up stuff. Yeah, like I think those are ego things because like, you know Especially in the rapper community one. They're always having like beefs with one another and then it's it's like the rapping about these surface level things that Again, we're looking at [00:34:00] that and I was having a conversation with somebody about this the other day It's like i'll go travel a lot and i'll do some of these things that I see on instagram and then there's kind of this like Emptiness that almost comes along with that because it's like, okay. 

Well I did this now Now what and then that's what i'm like, that's what you're not seeing That's what you're not seeing when you're consuming Social media or listening to these rap songs talking about them driving these like ferraris or lambos Making their millions of dollars. It's that they still struggle with the same like void Lack of fulfillment things that we probably do. 

You think Snoop Dogg's like, but who am I really? Maybe not Snoop Dogg. Snoop Dogg seems pretty chill to me. Yeah, I kind of have a theory that your ego will get you a lot of success if you have a huge ego in this world, but you still have to come to terms with exactly what you're saying. So right now I'm [00:35:00] looking to get more ego. 

Yeah. Because I feel like I have the happiness and content part now. I like I could maybe have some of this rapper success. That'd be really nice. Yeah. Yeah, but then that's also the trap, right? Because it's like then ask yourself. What do you want? What is the thing that the success is going to make you feel? 

Yeah, and you kind of had you had that post recently too where you said like the trick into getting what you want is to realize that like You actually don't really want anything right now. And that feels like the sweet spot, but I mean, you're a human being. You have to, you have to, you have to, I want money and the trips and the things, but then I just realized, you know, somebody, I saw a quote the other day that I'm like, man, that's so good. 

It's so I'm sure everybody's heard it, but it's like money can buy happiness. Cause that's why people always say like money can't buy happiness. I'm like, okay. Money can buy the things that make you happy, but it can't buy fulfillment. I was [00:36:00] like, okay, that makes sense. That is a, I completely agree with that. 

You could be, although being on a jet ski anywhere is just great. Yeah. Again, they can buy me the things that are going to make me happy. Okay. So, but how do you navigate that? Because I do sometimes I'm concerned because I'm like, not concerned, but it's interesting that I feel like I'm now able to be super content without all of the things that I necessarily want. 

But then are you ever concerned that's going to stop your desire? Because I feel like I don't want to be a Buddhist. Like I don't actually think it's good if we don't have desire. I think that's actually the whole reason why we exist is desire is propelling us forward to live out our own life's mission. 

So it's like, yes, I don't like the no desire shit. I don't get down with that. I don't either, actually. I agree with you there, because I'm all about, like, we came down here to have this human experience, and I want to make, like, the most badass human experience I can make, like, in my time here. So I want to feel all the things, I want to do all the things, but [00:37:00] I think that it's I have to put myself in check sometimes because I have that too where I'm like I need to be making like there's creators out here or people that are making x amount of dollars and I want to do all these things and then when I really boil it down I'm like No, I just want to be able to travel and have time and freedom and create. 

I think like I, when I, and I'm sure you feel this too, like when you're creating something that you're passionate about, there's this, That's when I feel fulfillment. So when I'm doing something or I create something that I'm like, man I'm, really proud of that and if only two people Interact with this I will still feel So good about myself then that's like I try to tell myself i'm like if you just and it's so hard because we live in this You know matrix, that's constantly telling us what we [00:38:00] if I focus on that feeling for myself, I would probably naturally manifest everything that I want. Because I'm just, I'm just creating this good feeling and then that's what translates, you know? You'll never hear this, your answer in a rap song. That's all I had to say. Okay, but somebody like Frank Ocean, I think talks about that a lot. 

Ooh, I like Frank Ocean, okay. Yeah. You had a video once about speeding up your manifestation. What is something that speeds up manifestations besides cocaine? Um, I think the detachment from it. And I think it's less about speeding it up. I think it's more because I don't think time really exists. It doesn't. 

I've done mushrooms. So I think when I make those videos, obviously you put You know, I'm I put captions on them so that people will listen to what I have to say But I think where people miss the boat is that It's just [00:39:00] gonna feel like less time, you know, you're not gonna notice the time if you do These things like focusing on yourself and just cultivating Like my thing is I just wake up every day And I think what do I want to create today? 

and rick rubin Yeah, I don't I don't know if you've read. Um a create the creative act a way of being i've watched I mean, I've watched so many of his instagram videos. I'm really familiar with his life. I haven't read his book Yeah, he he it's great. And he says he's like You know, a lot of people wouldn't pick up that book because they don't consider themselves artists, but we're all the artists of our own realities. 

And that's kind of how I Choose to look at life every day. I'm like, what can I cultivate or create for myself today? What kind of experience do I want to have? And the more I focus on just creating the experience of now, the more things arrive, like much faster, because I'm creating like [00:40:00] the environment for it. 

Are you familiar with Joe Dispenza? Yes. Do you like watch his stuff? I've read all his books. I, I, yeah. Then you know. Okay. So I'll put it in dispensate terms, what you're saying, because this has been so helpful to me. He's so obsessed with like us not being stuck in the past, you know? Yeah. And so he's like, so many of you are repeating your lives because you're just thinking about the familiar past. 

And when you create. You are in what he would call the unknown. Now you're in the now. And that's why I do think creating is so important because you can't be in the past. You're literally making something new. Yeah. And that switched to me like, Oh my God, that's so profound. Whereas like, if we sit back on our phones, we're just reacting to the 3d and letting life pour over us. 

But it's like you can time travel by creating. Yes, and I've always said, I'm like, if you create from a place of what you know, you're only ever going [00:41:00] to create the same. But if you create from that place of imagination that a lot of these guys talk about, like Rick Rubin, Joe Dispenza, , Steven Pressfield, they're all talking about this void. 

And if you can learn how to dip into that void and create from that space, which I think is like imagination, you have infinite, like, realms of possibilities versus just creating from the 3D, something that's so limited. Yeah, , what does it look like when you create something that you know, you just like repeat content, like if you made another video about manifestation speeding up? 

Or. Yeah, not necessarily from that perspective. I mean like creating your day to day life. It's like if I were to You know in order for me to manifest a million dollars I have to think like a millionaire or millionaire and a lot of people are like, but I don't know how a millionaire thinks It's like well [00:42:00] go out and read or put yourself in environments Like now in the digital age, you can just pull up your phone and be like, how do millionaires think, you know? 

Oh my god, yeah Like there's just so much information out there that it's outside of your own perspective. Right. Okay. I like that a lot. So you also do a lot of breath work, which is really cool. What's the difference between breath work and having a hardcore panic attack? It's not very different. You're like, you're hyperventilating. 

You're teetering on the edge. Yeah. Breath work that I practice is a hyperventilation. Oh my God. Really? Essentially. Okay, so can you just talk about what it is, what that process is? So this one's rooted in holotropic breathing and it's like rebirthing or it's considered rebirthing and it's like a very active breath so it really is you're hyperventilating yourself into an altered state which is why you should never do it by yourself but it's definitely like Gets emotions moving [00:43:00] around and that's like energy and like emotions or energy and motion I hated breath work and I still do But it's so effective. 

It's so effective and it's so powerful and it helps you kind of get to spaces that you wouldn't get to because it puts you in your body and A lot of people I think we're used to processing and analyzing our feelings to avoid actually feeling them and sometimes breathwork can put you into that space that like forces you to feel those feelings. 

Yeah, so that's how did you learn how to do this? So I've just started doing the dispense of breathing, which is changing my life, but that's kind of, I've always been really apprehensive of breathing stuff because I had asthma as a kid. And one time I did a Kundalini yoga and I almost passed out. Oh yeah. 

Yeah. The, uh, the instructor had to come over and like make sure I was okay. How'd you learn how to do this? So I went to a [00:44:00] school, a training. It was like 500 hours. Oh my God. Yeah. 500 hours. We had practicals. It's, I, I want to say I've looked into all the different hypnotherapy options like RTT, but this one was the most extensive. 

It was taught by like, he's like a monk, a Bodhi. He spent years in Nepal, studied under Gil Boyan. He's like a Bodhi soft. So, there were a lot of, like, the Buddhist teachings mixed in with his trainings, which I found interesting, and, and I like that more because a lot of people, you know, a lot of, like, teachers out there now are very mainstream and guru take on that guru role and I like that he had that kind of Buddhist monk thing to him that he'd say don't call me a guru That's great. 

Okay. So how long is it usually when you do these type of ventilation sessions? [00:45:00] It depends because since we're using it as an induction into hypnosis If I were to do 45 minutes would be where I cap, but normally like by the third cycle we do 10 minute cycles You And by like the third 10 minute cycle, normally the person will have the emotional break. 

And then that's where you're like, what's coming up? Is there a memory? Talk to me. And then you go into like the subconscious reprogramming part of it. So this is what you do in your sessions. Yeah, oh, that's awesome. That's really unique like because the hypnotherapy I've done. I'm just like laying there. 

Yeah, this is a unique Hypnotherapy, I normally do the where I will Induce them but even then it's like. I think the difference between hypnotherapist and hip hypnotist are like the hypnotists are more of like a guided meditation. Yeah. Whereas what I do is like active. You're communicating back and [00:46:00] forth with yourself. 

You are like processing emotions and memories out loud. I like that. And that's, that's how it is with this breath work. And the breathwork, I will really reserve for people who are too logical minded, or if somebody has done breathwork before and they'll ask me for it, because it can get really intense, you know? 

Yeah, I mean, if you're borderline blacking out, have you ever passed out? No, it's not like intense in that way, but it's intense in the way that it builds up so, so much emotion, or it'll trigger maybe some deeper trauma. That I like to have like at least three sessions with a person under my belt or know them before it's like, let's just jump right in. 

That's great. So you're also big in zodiac signs. What's the best zodiac sign besides Virgo? Well, are you a Virgo as well? Yes. That's why I said it. That's why I said it. Yeah. Virgo. I would [00:47:00] say I, I mean, I like Capricorns. I have a Capricorn moon and I am partial to Capricorns. They're like the, the daddies of the Zodiac, the boss, the bosses. 

My friend, uh, who's super into Zodiac, she's always like, Capricorn women, man. Capricorn women, they're the shit. How do you use this to help you, though? How do you use Zodiac stuff to help you? I, I mean, I still love using the Zodiac. I mean, it's not like, I actually, I think being a Virgo, you can probably take and enjoy. 

I'm gonna have this I study everything. So I'm not the cosmopolitan version of the zodiac signs. Like I like to study the data and the trends. And so I'll focus on like transits and planetary alignments where these planets were the degrees that they're at like the more Analytical data driven side of astrology that a lot of people [00:48:00] don't know about. 

Yeah. I mean, no, that was a thing Yeah, yeah, so you like diving into that? All right, that's awesome. Well, this has been great I like to close by playing a game It's called spiritual or asshole where I say some things and you tell me if it's spiritual or asshole. Are you down? Yes You Okay, spiritual or asshole, not dating someone because of their zodiac sign. 

Asshole. Fair enough, okay. Spiritual or asshole, yelling four during golf, not because you're worried about hitting someone with your golf ball, but because you're ordering four fireball shots from the drink cart. Asshole or you're fun. Alright. Uh, this is a good one. Spiritual or asshole Eating a hamburger and saying  

nothing exists outside of you. Therefore I am a hamburger. Um, we'll go spiritual there. That one makes me think. , spiritual or asshole. You explaining the concept of an ice bath to a person from Alaska and they look at you and say, yeah, that's my life. You dumb motherfucker. Um, yeah, asshole. [00:49:00] Okay, spoiler. 

This is a fun one spiritual arousal giving spoiler alerts on dates ahead of time. Like hey spoiler alert. I'm emotionally unavailable spiritual great spiritual arousal changing the golf dress code from khakis and polos to onesies and wrestling singlets 

spiritual. Can you imagine Tiger Woods in a onesie? That would be sick. I think we need to get, like, the fits going. It needs to get a little bit more risque out there. Yeah, let's have some fun, guys. All right. Spiritual or asshole? Referring to heavy metal music as a very angry soundbath. Spiritual. 

Spiritual. Curveball! All right. Spiritual or asshole? Doing a vision board, but the only thing on that vision board is a bucket of pulled pork sandwiches.  

Spiritual. There's nothing asshole about that. Well, maybe for some cultures. Yes. Asshole. Okay, so we'll do both. Alright, last question. Uh, last question I'd like to ask everybody. If you could tell people one thing to tell themselves [00:50:00] all day long, what would it be? I am great and amazing. Wow. That was quick. 

Okay. That was so fast. I had to jump. All right. Well, that was so good. You want to tell me where they can find you? You also have a retreat coming up. Exciting. Yes. Joshua Tree. We will be doing cold plunges. People from Alaska are more than welcome, or any cold places, but you can find me on Instagram. at Jennifer and Neville. 

I talk a lot about self concept and manifestation on my TikTok at the Country Club Witch. And That's a great name. And I'm gonna be starting up my YouTube channel again, Jennifer Neville, talking more about some of these things. All right, well, this was so much fun. Thank you so much. Thank you. I mean, let's be honest. I do feel like the golf dress code for the last 50 years can really only be [00:51:00] classified as guy who I want to punch, right? 

I mean just sometimes just seeing a golfer. You're like so much a punch that guy can we do anything else who gives a shit wear some jeans? Let's mix it up, baby Keep it going for Jennifer Neville. Definitely check out her stuff. She has a great YouTube as well Follow her on instagram at Jennifer and Neville On Instagram, also you can get all the resources and everything on my show, write up notes in the description. 

Check out our website too for the podcast, spiritualasshole. com. I think it's really cool, like I just think the biggest takeaway for me with this is, really how we ended. Like, I think it's so important that everybody judge everyone else on their zodiac sign. Cancers? Go fuck yourself. No, I'm kidding. 

I think it's really important. To remember how important and vital it is to stay creative, to stay creating something new, to bringing something forward. And if you think about consciousness, it's number one job is to express itself through you. It wants you to expand, and the only way to expand is by creating. 

So, let's do it. Let's create. I believe all your dreams can come true. I believe there's so much left here for [00:52:00] you. I believe this is the week that you create the thing that you always wanted to, that you take the first step, that you take a little bit of the plunge. And we're all gonna be better for it. 

You are the best. Have a great week.