"Love in Your 30's is Easy" (w/Brendan Fitzgibbons & Peter Crone...Sort of)

Happy Thanksgiving!! In this epic solo episode, Brendan gets real about love and bees, as he breaks down a MIND-BLOWING clip from Peter Crone about finding love in your 30's. Turns out it can be easy. 

Brendan dives right into:

• The FIVE THINGS that are universally good for your life. 
• His insane manifestation story involving bees, because why not?! 
• Peter Crone's masterclass on letting go of old stories to receive love. 
• Why love ISN'T in chasing or waiting. 
• And the REAL WAY you'd talk to your partner if they really were your best friend. 

RESOURCES
Brendan Fitzgibbons
Peter Crone: Finding Love In Your 30's
The Best Gratitude Apps
NOT THE BEES!! 

Transcript

You know, one of the things that everybody says when they marry someone or they find their special somebody is, I love them. They're my best friend. But I like to argue that that's not true. Because if they really were your best friend, you would do what you normally do around your best friends and talk about how hot all their best friends are to their face.

Honey, I love you, you are my best friend, and you are almost as hot as your best friend. And if she was really my best friend, and I really acted like I normally do around my best [00:01:00] friends, there would be one day where I would get up, leave the apartment, say I was gonna go run out and get some food, come back a year later, and it would just be cool.

I mean, sometimes I don't talk to some of my best friends for like, three years. And then it's like, when was the last time I saw you? Wait, are we married? And if we were really best friends, when we go out to eat, I'd be like, We are splittin this shit.

It's beautiful, man. No, I don't really know that I would say, I think really what people are saying is like, You're my best friend. In the most intimate possible way with the boundaries still of some level of respect. What's so cool about friends, right? Like what's so cool about friends is that there's no expectation.

You just love them. You love them for their hilarious mania, their insane quirky behaviors, but when they're your significant other, all of a sudden there's a new set of standards expectations, right? Like I always think about if. My friend is driving and she's going super slow or super [00:02:00] fast. I'd be like, there she is, Natasha being Natasha.

But if it was like my girlfriend, I would be like, she's not going to be a good mom. It's psychotic behavior, but I love it. It's okay that your friends are hot welcome everybody to a brand new episode of spiritual asshole I am so excited for you to be here.

Thank you as always happy Thanksgiving. This is gonna be a really special episode Happy Thanksgiving. You know, I was thinking what I wanted to talk to you guys about. I will say this and doing this podcast for over four years, I started on this venture in this deep dive and I said, there's pretty much three universal truths that I can take and say with absolute confidence will make you have a better life.

Maybe four that is meditation, gratitude, loving as much as possible, working out. It's probably a fourth. A fifth! Whole milk cappuccinos. A fifth I would add. A new one, which [00:03:00] has been my most exciting one I would add, is stepping out into the unknown. But gratitude, man. It just, it keeps coming back. And I, it's still something I feel like I have not quite totally figured out.

As simple as it sounds. Because I think I have an over complicated mind sometimes. Complicating shit. But, everybody still says it. Dispenza still talks about it. Like, everybody. Everybody's still talking about gratitude. So it's Thanksgiving. Let's be thankful for something. Let's be thankful for this moment.

And if you don't have that and you're like, fuck this moment. And you're at Thanksgiving with a bunch of people from your family that, you know, you have profound life differences with whether they're Mormon, Catholic. Billy Joel fans, at the very least, you have your breath. That's still something, guys. It's actually still kind of a lot. Sometimes I have to tell myself that and it's awesome. But, uh, I'm doing really good. Thank you for asking and please can keep hitting me up on Instagram at the underscore Brenna Fitzgibbons Follow me on [00:04:00] YouTube and also our patreon.

It's patreon forward slash Spiritual asshole tell your friends about this podcast. Let's get the world enlightened. Let's get the entire world Swearing and believing in a higher power together. We can do this take my hand Metaphorically, let's go I wanna tell you guys a couple stories, and then we're gonna do something really special on this episode that I think is gonna be beneficial to all of us.

I'm going to break down a 14 minute clip from Peter Crone about love. It's called, Loving in Your 30s. And we're gonna break it down together. I'm gonna be like, you know like when you're watching a football game, like the play by play to Illustrator where he takes out the He's got the little marker. I'm going to be marking up this clip and we're gonna go through it together.

And I'm only doing this because I've sent this clip to three people and everybody had such a profound reaction to it that I'm like, I'm going to share this with the podcast. And I think it's going to be like a really good way for it to give you guys examples. And I'll be using in this clip, like [00:05:00] the language that I use to describe what he's saying.

Cause sometimes it's, it's high level, but I'll like come at it and try and translate it to you. For you and also give you my take on what he's saying and also keep in mind We're gonna have Peter Cronin on this podcast at some point But for now, we're gonna listen to his fucking YouTube before we do that.

I want to tell you guys an amazing manifestation story I have two and I want to tell you guys that that this is how the universe works Okay, clear as day to me. Like this is one of the ones where it's like Okay, there's no arguing this. The hilarity, like, in the perfection of this. Alright, so like two weeks ago, I had really bad allergies.

I don't know what was going on. I think the seasons were changing. I was sneezing all day. I was like a walking Clarendon commercial, and I couldn't stop sneezing. Probably sneezed like 40 times, and it was kind of hilarious. I probably would book a sweet commercial in that, in that point as like the cucked husband who's like, honey, I can't see.

That was me. So I hit up my cousin, Andrea, the great Andrea Hankles, and she is, you know, a holistic practitioner. And [00:06:00] she's like, you need to get local honey. I was like, Oh, cool. I like honey. Sure. I don't know why it has to be local. And she just said it's Ayurvedic. And I was like, okay, cool. I have no resistance towards honey guys.

Sounds good to me. You know, also I think about honey, little to nothing. Honey is not something that I'm walking around thinking about. Not a beekeeper. And never plan on being. I have nothing against bees. I have really no opinion. I like honey. I don't really mind bees. I don't like when they're on me.

This is probably how most of us feel. Okay, I think nothing of this. Nothing. Four days later, after I take a shit ton of Claritin and everything's fine, I am at a coffee shop in Burbank with Willoughby. I'm about to start writing. I see this guy perched up against a van, and I hear this woman talk to him, who I don't think she knew him, and she was just like, Are there bees in there?

And he's like, yeah, they're covered in honey. And I was like, kind of curious. I was like, huh? I look over and then he goes, Hey man, can I pet your dog? I was like, absolutely. [00:07:00] He's like, I'm like, this is Willoughby. He's like, I love him. And I'm gonna go, I go, wait, are you like a beekeeper? What's going on? So I look over his van said like something, bee company.

And he goes, yeah, dude, my job is to install beehives on top of roofs all over LA. Which sounds like, pretty much the most L. A. thing ever. Some rich person's like, We need bees! It's gonna help my skin, okay? I have a call back tomorrow. So, this dude's like, Yeah, I, uh, yeah, I do this job. I'm like, that's awesome, man.

Like, and I really meant it. Like, what a cool job. I go crazy that you say that my cousin two days ago was like, you got to try local honey. I was like, do you know where I can get some local honey? I'm like, this is, I got to ask the bee guy. And he goes, Oh, you want to try some right now?

Homeboy goes into the van, pulls out a fucking honeycomb slate, like a full slate of honeycomb from the bees that just happened. And he's like, here you go. And I put my finger in it and it was like waxy. He goes you got to push down on the wax and then the honey comes like oozes out. [00:08:00] So I pushed on it. I tried it.

It was delicious. I'm dipping my finger in actual local honey. I think nothing of this. And then I walk away from the whole thing and I go, Oh my God. That's insane. I said I should get local honey and the universe is like, here's the B man. And guys, I'm telling you, this is not a one off thing. This is how everything would flow in our lives. If we didn't have excessive resistance, that's how easy it can be. If we just cleared our minds a little bit more, they're like, Oh, you want something?

Here's the source. Anyways, another really cool story. Um, I've been having some amazing auditions that I'm really excited about. I left, and I had this amazing conversation with Andrea Owen, shout out to Andrea Owen, me and her are like, having accountability groups every week, where we kind of coach each other, it's great.

And it's just amazing, guys, get an accountability group, get a coach, get somebody, you can do it for free, don't put restrictions on [00:09:00] yourself, like, the simplicity of how awesome it is and how easy it is, it's comical. But it's so important. Like Andrea and I had a meeting recently where literally I was telling her everything I had going on.

And I'm like, I'm gonna start editing my TV show. She's like, can I offer something to you? I'm like, yeah. She's like, how about you lean into the excitement of this TV show? How amazing it is that you're making this, how exciting this is. And like that sentence, as simple as it sounded, like blew my fucking mind.

I was like, Oh, I should be excited about my TV show. That's how like, So warped up in our own shit, we can get sometimes I'm like, yeah, you're right. And it just took like a coach comes on. This is what a coach does. This just came to me. A coach basically comes over to you, talks to you and basically turns on the lights in your house that have been turned off for a while.

That's what a coach does. And that's what Andrea Owen did. She just be turning on the lights. Yo, thank you. Sometimes they're lanterns. Sometimes they're candles and sometimes it's a fire, but [00:10:00] here's the story. I left an audition. It was great. Walk out of the audition, guys. This is a totally true story. The first Feeling good.

The first person I see is a lovely woman in her 20s wearing a t shirt that says, All of your manifestations are on the way. How cool is that? That's all I saw. And I was like, Okay. Okay. Okay. Alright. I love you guys. We're gonna get into this. Let's have some fun doing this. I'm gonna pause occasionally, talk about it, and at the end, it's pretty much sexual tension so high you think they might have sex in the middle of this clip.

I might cut that part, but if you guys wanna get down, I get it. It's pretty steamy. Alright, so, this is Peter Krohn. As I mentioned, so he holds these events where he basically, like, has a group of people and they talk to him. He's sitting on a chair. He's Peter Krohn's amazing. I don't fully know his backstory, but I've been following him for like two or three years.

I haven't been in touch with his people. He's currently wearing a white shirt, it's buttoned almost all the way down in pink pants. This is my future, guys. [00:11:00] I will be this guy. I will have a gong next to me. I will be sitting on a chair, I will be telling jokes, and I will just be lightly petting Willoughby, who will also be in a chair, and I'll just be covered in beads.

This is where I'm ascending to. Anyways, so he goes around the room, and what he does is, he usually like, Someone's like, I have a problem, a quote problem, and he just dissects it. So here we go. And for context, the woman who's about to speak is a very attractive, blonde, I guess 39 year old. I want to work on love.

Okay, who here loves love? Yeah, alright, we can carry on. I really want to be in a relationship and have a family and I'm gonna be 39 and I'm like, okay, like okay I am a child of divorce just evidence for your story Okay, one of my absolute favorite things about listening to Peter Krohn and I won't be stopping this this much But this is a key fucking part So one of the things that I love, why I love him so much is he gets people to see how much they are using their limiting [00:12:00] beliefs to justify their current shitty circumstance, okay?

And how they're using their stories to re to perpetuate the shitty story. So this woman's like setting up, I'm 39, I'm this, I'm this, I'm this, and so he says, Great, more evidence for the story, which the story's gonna be coming, I wanna find love, and then she kinda has a belief, love is hard, right? And this is again, such a trap that I really wanna talk about with you guys, that we can fall into in being super self aware, being super into spirituality, super in touch with our feelings and what's going on is that when we use our brain when we go to therapy sometimes it has the actual opposite good effect because now we have knowledge and evidence and facts as to why our situation sucks or why something's happening But all that is is just going to reinforce the story and the last thing i'll say is even though this is about love This applies to every subject in your life.

This same thinking applies to everything [00:13:00] I did, like, meet someone when I was 20 that was very much like a soulmate. Madly in love. Okay. Literally worshipped the ground this man walked on. Yes. We got married. I was so happy. And then I found out he was, like, living a double life. It was a very wild scenario.

Okay. And then two weeks later, my brother was murdered. Missing and murdered as you can imagine totally decimated me. Yeah, it's been 11 years. I've done a ton of healing around it Yeah, okay. I want it all back. I want to like meet someone and build a life and do the thing But yeah, okay. So again, let's listen to what let's just go back quickly to what she said I had all this stuff happen to me.

It's been 11 years. So here she's laying out the case right now And by the way, I am not knocking this girl. This is so helpful to me, cause like, it's seeing how much I do this, too, with certain things. So I had this love, it was that time ago, It was 19 years ago, and then it's been 11 years, and then my brother died.

So [00:14:00] here is her case for why her life is not where she wants it to be, or her love life. This is a very educated person, clearly she's done a lot of self work, she's figured it out, here is the case, how can I fix this? So, first of all, you want to realize, folks, that when you say things that are a lie, anything that comes after that is not going to exist.

It can't. Right, so you can't go back to what you had. Now, I get what's implied with it, but energetically, because you're trying to fulfill on something that's impossible, you keep sustaining, which is the part you get to be right about, not having a relationship. She can't go back to being 20, right? And again, how often is our mind living in the past being like, Was she the one that got away?

I really blew it. Maybe I shouldn't have done this. How often do we do this with our exes? Maybe it was my fault we broke up. I just want to say that that is your insane mind trying to keep you safe in an insane way. But here we go. So what is it that you think you want by going back there? I [00:15:00] guess the feeling.

It's a feeling, isn't it? Yeah. Really at the end of the day you're after a feeling you're not even after the dude that you worshipped, right? Exactly double life. Although he didn't he really didn't sound that great Nah sounds like you were more more than anything. You were naive Yes, I certainly remember when I fell in love at 20.

I was really not that smart. Yes. I don't want to go back to that Right. Yeah. Okay, but can you see in the way that you juliana tells the story if I want to go back there? Can you see that's something literally impossible to fulfill on I love that he said that and also to piggyback on that, there's no power in going back.

You have no power. You can't do it. But now you can change it. Yes. Yeah. It's hard to let go. I mean, I'm just like, how's the feeling for that? Yeah, but, but, I mean, this is kind of beautiful, right? You can see how subtle but powerful the resistance is. Yeah, totally. When you're looking backwards, can you see just energetically, like the [00:16:00] analogy I like to use, because it's very visual and it makes sense, is it's like you're driving a car, but the way that you're trying to get somewhere is you're looking in the rearview mirror.

And you wonder why you keep running into shit. Right? So you're, through no fault of your own, you're looking backwards, you have all of this romanticized idea of this like, you know, this, this incredible man who really wasn't that incredible, but nonetheless gave you an experience that you've become attached to and you've associated in time and space.

And it's 20 years ago. And now you're trying to fulfill on that here, which has got nothing to do with 20 years ago. Yeah. Yeah. Right? That's how it occurs, right? I'm 39, the baby, the da da da, the ticking. I'm from a divorced family, da da da, right? All of the evidence as to why it's not working. Like, you're basically fucked, right?

Or not, as the case may be. That's terrible. Just want to pause here and say Peter Crone definitely fucks. Sorry. So what you're looking for is presence. The only place any of you have any power is where you are. [00:17:00] And most of you aren't where you are. And then you wonder why you're not powerful. Goddamn dog, most of you aren't where you are.

What does that mean? Most of us are not in this moment. We are either living in, to use dispensa, familiar past or predictable future. Which means we can't create the new life that we want. Because we're living in those suspended states that keep you stuck. That keep you locked into your current reality.

Literally, the only place we have to get to is where we are, but because our mind is so preoccupied with psychological time, with the hurt, as I said, from a history that we haven't yet accepted, and the fear for a future that we anticipate is gonna happen, which is all completely made up, why the hell would we be relaxed and present?

I'm too busy trying to fucking survive. Human beings are literally wired just to make it. Not with that button down, Peter Kroon. Just to try and survive in your case. It's not pain, but it is heartache. It's love It's the fear of not [00:18:00] having a family These are pretty hefty things for a woman particularly and with the significance of your age, which adds more pressure Which creates more urgency.

I just want to pause here because I think this part's super important. And I've had, fortunate to have a lot of amazing women in my life and really having a front row seat to seeing them have to deal with these pressures. And I think it's profoundly sucks. And I could see how it can be a downward spiral of Well, I'm getting older.

I have to do this now. And then the pressure that you put on yourselves makes it feel like even more of an urgency that then is like a squeezing. And we all know that like manifesting and bringing things in your life doesn't come necessarily from pressure. So I think that I really feel for women and that's.

Sucks, because we don't have to I don't have to deal with that. I have other things like that, but it's nothing like that. But I will say that I still hold to [00:19:00] Yes, there is obviously limitations as far as kids to some degree, but the less that we lean into, the stories that we tell ourselves about time, about age, about what's possible, the better it's just going to be for all of us.

That's, that's the best I can say. I know that that's easy for me to say, but like, love doesn't know time period. When you're urgent, are you more present or less present? Less. Do you see? So you get to fill on it all the time. So if you fell in love with a guy who just made the guy from 20 years ago look like a complete loser.

in, you know, two months from now, in a way that you didn't even comprehend what love was, that this man embodied a space that really was authentic safety, reverence for the feminine, committed to being a father, who had the utmost respect for you. He adored you, he inspired you. And that's the future [00:20:00] that you're stepping into.

How would you feel right now?

Like awe, maybe? Yeah. It's kind of like a bit like you're blushing a bit, right? It's kind of a little unbelievable and almost I'm going to assert maybe something you don't quite even deserve. I want to pause here because this has been a big pivot for me. I used to think like, Oh, things in my life aren't coming.

Cause I have this deep belief that I think I don't deserve it. And maybe. That was there, but I'm not telling that story anymore. Here's what I think is going on with most people, because I can speak to this from absolute first hand knowledge. It's not necessarily that you don't think you deserve it, you've just trained yourself for so long to think that it's not possible, or trained yourself so long to think, I'm in this story, This story has to be how the rest of my fucking life goes.

This story is reinforced by the books I read. This story is reinforced by the therapists I see. By the people I talk to. By all the people in my life who are telling me I'm 39, I'm a woman, I need to be married and have [00:21:00] kids, what the hell, time is real, the world's ending. And then you literally are training your body to think that that is what's normal, that is what's safe, okay?

So Peter Krohn is getting her to see possibility. And when you're young, and when you're 20, you are naive, with that naivete is endless. Possibility. Endless belief in possibility. Guess what, guys? That possibility is still there. It's not different because you're 39. It's not different because you're 80.

It's not different because you're 190. It's just your mind. It's still there. It's never has ever left. That guy that Peter Krohn described is absolutely waiting for her. Yeah. I think there's like an element of like, who me? Are you still talking to me? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But that tells us a lot about the way you view yourself.

[00:22:00] Doesn't it? Yeah, clearly. I'm like, Oh, that hurts to say, but yes, yes. Well, I'm not here to pander, but I'm here to help you see what's in the way, which is the hurt, right? As I said, hurt and scared commensurate. So the way that Juliana views herself, I'm going to assert, isn't that great? Welcome to humanity.

Right. But I'm in the business of helping you see how extraordinary you are. You just have a shitty view of yourself as a, you know, way to help everybody get something from this. What's the lie about the love you're looking for? Where's love for you? I guess it seemed to be outside of me. Yeah. I mean, most people here would probably think love is outside of them.

Mm hmm. So then, if love is outside of you, what are some of the things Juliana does? Like wait, wait for love? Yeah, sometimes you wait for it, but then sometimes, what do you do? Chase it? Chase it, yeah. But it all occurs that you're looking for something [00:23:00] outside of you. And you've got the evidence, oh, Head Over Heels, this guy that you've worshipped the ground he walked on.

And I'm going to assert that in ways that you're not necessarily consciously aware, you're still energetically tied to him. Yeah, I mean I would agree because I still think about him, so I feel like that's a tie. Yes, but you're not thinking about him. Your thoughts are confirming the illusion of what you think he represents.

Your thoughts are confirming the illusion of what you think he represents. Your thoughts are confirming the illusion you think he represents. Okay, so it's like my thoughts are telling me That this love exists, but it was 20 years ago, and I want to go back, right? And, by the way, he was amazing, he was all of these things, but all of that was an actual illusion.

And chances are if she was with him now, she'd want to get the fuck out immediately. But your mind will be so sneaky and lie to you to think the past is better. Because why? Because your mind thinks it's [00:24:00] safer. Do you get that? Because what it actually is doing is it's showing that you're manufacturing the experience, you're using him as the excuse.

Somebody just get something from that? So what's the good news about that? I'm doing it. You're doing it. Yeah. But as long as you think it's because of some thing, some person you're thinking about, you don't take ownership. But if you are under the impression that the reason you feel what you feel, which is this energy, what you call love, that you're chasing is because of someone who's not even in your life.

It's literally a figment of your own imagination. Then you have to not understand that you are the author of your own experience, which is the precursor to also manufacturing manifesting the buzzword, the life to represent that. So by this, he means again, like her stories, all these stories are. An illusion that only she has created and then she's using the outside [00:25:00] evidence to say like, well, this is just true I can't go back.

I'm this age Like I want love but i'm a child of divorce. I'm all these things and again not ripping on her. We all do this So again, if I cut to the fact that I said this, you know, I painted this sort of Prince Charming perfect, you know, he reveres you, he respects you, he inspires you, he's beautiful, he takes care of himself, he has all the attributes that you would attribute to the ideal man for you.

And he's, he's literally, he's in a timeline called your future heading towards you. Two months from now. Sounds great. Well, I don't know if it is. Like, that's what I'm like really inquiring with you. Like, is it really great? Are you nervous? You said you'd be in awe. You might be like, shit, I've got some work to do.

I've got to clean out my closet. Like if he sees my garage, it's going to be really embarrassing. Okay. So this is where Dispenza and Neville Goddard and all the work we talk about in this podcast really comes in handy. Like, what are they all trying to get you to do by living in the end or feeling your future?

[00:26:00] These people, these teachers are trying to get us. To feel like it's a real possibility that these things will happen, and show your body. Like you could even hear in her voice like, oh my god, two months, like that idea is even mind blowing to her. But think about this, if she thinks two months is too soon, then when's it gonna happen?

Because if every day you wake up and you think, I'm gonna meet somebody in six months, It's always going to be six months away, or someday, or the future, I'm going to be rich someday. Well, when is the someday? Because he dropped two months on her and she was like shocked, but two months could be, it could be tomorrow.

Right? There might be some shit in your life that you'd want to tidy up. Yeah. Fair. But because love is something that you wait for, why would you do that now? And to go back to what he said, now is all we have. So like getting ready, living in the end, now. Yeah. Did you see? See we're all waiting for an excuse to get on with our [00:27:00] life Instead of getting on with our life and allowing life to present what is appropriate for the new Frequency that we embody by virtue of being responsible and authors over the life.

We're creating This one shook me to my core. Oh my god, guys. If you constantly give off the frequency of waiting, the waiting will only continue. But if you give off a frequency and embody a future and teach your body a future that you want and desire, it will come so fast.

And it's human, we're all idiots. But not realizing how powerful we are. As I said at the beginning, you're creating whether you realize it or not. It's just what most people are creating is an avoidant energy. It's in a reaction to a future that you are desperately trying to avoid. So important, man. So basically it's like based off of my familiar past.

I have to predict my future based on that past, even if my past is the very thing I don't want to have happen again. But I have to use it as my only marker [00:28:00] and my only guide because it's the only thing I've experienced and I can't be hurt again. I can't go down the shit road again. So I have to constantly be predicting and maneuvering and manipulating my life based off of a familiar past.

Or. Or, you could drop all of it and start over in this moment. And I promise you, you're doing everything you can to inspire and attract love. Which confirms the fact that it's not there, you're not, it's not on the way, and you don't have it. And you're a beautiful, smart woman. Like, I'm not saying this to make you feel inadequate, but just to notice the insanity of how the brain works.

Or doesn't work. But what I want you to realize is that you again using the image of looking through the rearview mirror to try and find Fulfilling or inspiring future which I get is what you're really dedicated to Doesn't work. Yeah, and To come back to what is the lie? And when did I said what did I ask about?

Where [00:29:00] is the love? Where are you looking for it? Outside of you. Yeah So why is that a lie? Because Yeah, everything i'm experiencing is inside of me. Correct. So who were you with that man? Who was who were you? That's what you want. You don't want him You want the you that you were with him, right? Just yeah that I was just so open What else?

I mean, I didn't really know No, the kind I didn't really know pain yet, you know Yeah, that's the naivety and the innocence but there was a joy. There was a freedom. There was an inspiration. There was a Whatever you call it, the openness, right? Yeah. You had a sense of possibility for the future, of what was going to happen, the family, the marriage, the trips, the Right?

All of that. But you generated that. Guys, this is hitting home for me so hard. Just re listening to it, and I hope you can resonate it too. And again, it's not just about love, this works for any area of your life. And [00:30:00] just the idea that you're like a brand new hockey rink that's never been touched with the freshest ice ever with no tracks and just nothing but possibility and then the tracks come in and then society and then all this other stuff.

Yeah. You just associated it with him. And the lie is because he's not in your life that you've lost that. Yeah. But that's a lie. Yeah. You know, one of the greatest things I learned from a relationship coach many years ago was, she said, you know, we don't fall in love with the other person. We fall in the love with the version of us that we get to be through and with the other person.

Goddamn. And just think that some people are at home just watching Two and a Half Men. Okay, this is where, uh, this is the one question I have for Peter Krone, in this entire clip, that I would ask him. Number one question. Okay, I agree with you. I agree that Well, first of all, I do think I also did love these women as well.

It wasn't just for how they made [00:31:00] me feel, but that was absolutely a major part of it. Like, that whole song, I like me better when I'm with you. I mean, there really is that feeling. And when you really are with someone who elevates you, it's because of the feelings that you're having. But my question to Peter Krohn is like, why is it so easy to do that on somebody else?

And can be so difficult for life, right? Why can't we fall in love with life? And I think my only answer I have right now is like, when you fall in love with somebody, you're taking the focus off of you, which is already good. Everything you do with that person. is unknown. It's beautiful. It's exciting, it's fresh, it's a new day every day.

Like, Tatiana Flo said on this podcast that the great thing about monogamy is that we all contain the universe, and by being with someone, you get to explore the universe with, like, their universe with them. So that idea is infinitely exciting, and it's like crack for your brain, cause it's new, it's unknown, it's also, yo, they're beautiful, they probably smell good.

She probably wears bracelets, and she does that thing at the beach when she takes the [00:32:00] shirt off over her bikini, she crosses her arms over her head, and you're just like, someone knock me out right now, I will kill for you. Isn't that cool? Like, cause we, love becomes so personified, right? It's over there with them, so then that's when the control and the manipulation and the devastation happens if they leave.

It's like, well, the love is over there. No, no, no, no, no, no. They're the catalyst to reveal The love that is your nature. I talked to Sean Clayton once about a woman who I care deeply about. And he said, she's a door. And I think that's exactly what Peter Krohn is saying is that these amazing people are doors back to your true essential self.

And they show you that really, there is just love. So the one thing that confuses me is it was all in me, but you don't replicate that level of like deep love with, really? Well, you said you you're talking to me. Okay, so it's one way to stay safe, isn't it? You you're able to replicate like very very deep love.

Yes Why would I do [00:33:00] this? Peter Crone's fucking this is a good question. By the way, I I like this question and I would like to know what this exactly means Because, it's a very fair question. Why would I do this right now? Damn, okay, well I want to go where you're going, so. Well you're here, so let's do it right now.

Isn't that what you're looking for? Clearly, I didn't even, you just expanded me, I didn't know that was possible, honestly. Here's where the possible public orgy breaks out. That's love, isn't it? That's why we're here. Mm hmm. Mm hmm. that's like really the most beautiful thing I've ever heard, honestly.

Well, thank you. We might have just cracked you open to your real nature, yeah. Just sit with that. That's you. I'm horny. Don't collapse it with me. Okay, so what he means is don't collapse it with me. Don't say it's me that did this. You did it. And again, I just have to say like it's really easy to do with somebody else And I [00:34:00] really recommend it But I see what he's saying and I think the more we can live in that state The better everything will be in our lives if we can just be loved more.

It's best for everybody So that's really I guess the goal nothing to chase there. Is there? No Welcome to you. Now what becomes possible for juliana if you live from that place? God, it's just, yeah, life is, like, basically one million times more beautiful just loving with an open heart every single person.

Yeah. Every moment, I mean, it's, yeah, very different. I think one of the traps with these clips, too, that I've fallen into a lot is, like, seeing this and being like, and now she's got it all figured out, or and now this is over. It's like, but It's gotta be a daily practice. It's gotta be retraining your mind and brain.

I would love to check in with her, like, now and see how she's feeling after they're done hooking up. It's really touching you, huh? Don't hold it back. That's where a man will meet you. [00:35:00] That's where the right man will meet you. Yeah, and it's like it won't matter, like, it's a blessing, but it's, I'm getting it everywhere, so. 

You're getting it everywhere because you're the source of it.

So we now get to bathe in the essence of what you just discovered for yourself, which we're the lucky recipients. And any man would be blessed to be in that space with you. And dare I say you might crack him open to find it in himself. Cause otherwise he's going to be telling a story 20 years from now where he met this amazing woman and he's trying to get back there.

Cool, huh? Yeah, so a whole new life, really. Well, that's the intention. It's a whole new life because literally you just discovered what was on the other side of the lie. [00:36:00] As I said, you can't build anything on top of a lie. But in the absence of the lie, you reveal the truth, which is the essence of who you are, which is love itself. 

You were trying to be loved, and now you just discovered that you get to be love. Yeah. Entirely different existence. That makes this a much better planet to be on. That's my commitment. 

Cool, right? Yeah.

You can catch them on the hit showtime series red shoe diaries Man, that was wild. What a ride. He's awesome. I hope that you guys got something from that I just think like just as a quick recap so we can all be on the same page Whatever you think your problems are now or whatever you think is Not working out for you know that You It's always, always coming from you. 

And so when you could do that and you could step back and you could take responsibility for that and not judge yourself with that, which is a tricky dance, you can start to [00:37:00] unwind. The bullshit that's been holding you back. Pull it back, pull it back. And what I recommend so much is to start training yourself into the possibility start training yourself into love, into a space where there are no stories.

Into a place where there is no negative perspective, no matter what happened to you in the past. And I have literally been like every day when I start past thinking, I tried to blank slate myself. Like Peter Krohn talks a lot about like, What if you had the men in black magic wand? So I've been like magic wanding my brain a lot.

And I know that's also the name of vibrator. So I've not been doing that to my brain, but I've been like blank slating it blank slate and saying like, I want possibility. I want to live in now. I'm thankful for everything that happened. I'm thankful for all of the amazing women I've had updated in my life and who've been in my life because it's always been.

A step in the right direction, for the most part. And I've learned so much, and [00:38:00] I've grown. But if we use exes, and if we use relationship history, like, I can play all these cards right now, guys. I'm 41. I'm older than this girl, you know? And I can play all these cards. You can play all these games, and I can say all these things.

And my question to you is like, who's really benefiting from that? Who's really benefiting from you shit talking? Because the only person who's affirming your own story is you. And if the outside world is doing it, it's only because you're saying it over and over again. But the outside world is really not thinking about you that much.

So you have a choice now. Do you want infinite possibility or do you want to go back to the place of like, well, this happened and that happened. And my boss, like, this is so applicable to jobs. This is so, my boss never shows me respect ever since I've, I always work too hard.

I'm underpaid. No matter what I do. So now that's a 20 year story and now every moment of your life is conforming to that belief when you could just unwind, untangle. And I really recommend doing the Sedona method that we talked about last week, which is [00:39:00] again, really quickly welcoming the feeling, asking a question, could you let this go? 

Would you then asking the question, would you let this go? When and I've been doing it a lot over and over again even with things that keep coming up I keep doing it again and again and again and again because I want a blank slate y'all I want to start over and start new every minute of every day. I want to see the world like a kid does I want to see the world like my dog does I want to see like the world like how I saw it on mushrooms Because if all of those perspectives are possible And I know we're not dogs, then why can't we do it more?

You know, why can't we see things with a pure heart and a clear eyes? You know? So I hope you learned a lot from this. I love you, you're the best. I believe all your dreams can come true. I believe there's so much love here for you. I believe this is gonna be an incredible Thanksgiving. Be grateful, be there, be here, and just know you're not your past.

You are right now. You are infinite. Let's go! [00:40:00]