Men, Stop Trying to Fix Everything—Here’s What to Do Instead

Ego is a hell of a thing, especially for men. 

We’re told from a young age that our job is to provide, grind, and hustle for success. But what happens when you’ve checked all those boxes—and it’s still not enough? In this episode of Let’s Get Real, Michael and Spanish tackle the struggle of recalibrating what it means to be a man, especially when it comes to relationships, marriage, and the ego traps that can sneak up on us.

Ever found yourself in an argument thinking, Don’t you see what I’ve done for us?! Yeah, we’ve been there too. But here’s the thing: sometimes, fixing isn’t the answer—listening is. This episode dives into why men are wired to solve problems, why that doesn’t always work in relationships, and how learning to shut up (even when it’s HARD) can be a game-changer. Plus, Michael shares a wild story about how his wife decided to have their first baby at home—without a doctor. Spoiler: He did not see that coming.

If you’ve ever felt lost between what society expects of you and what actually makes for a fulfilling life, this conversation is for you. 

Hit play, subscribe, and let’s figure this out together. And if you want to call in and join the conversation next time, don’t be shy—we’re here for it.

Key Takeaways:

✅  Men are taught from childhood that their value is tied to providing—but what happens when that’s not enough?

✅  Success can become part of our identity, making it tough to shift gears when our relationships need more than just financial support.

✅  The art of shutting up: why fixing isn’t always the solution, and how listening can transform a relationship.

✅  Ego can either build you up or tear you down—learning to see things from another perspective can be the key to real connection.

✅  A hilarious (and slightly terrifying) story about Michael’s wife deciding to have their first baby at home—with zero medical professionals.


0:00 – The expectations men grow up with about success and providing
0:28 – When success becomes your identity (and how that can backfire)
0:52 – Michael’s personal story about recalibrating his marriage
1:21 – Why men are natural fixers—and why that doesn’t always help
2:39 – Learning to listen and creating space for your partner
3:48 – Dealing with major differences in relationships
4:26 – The home birth story: Michael’s unexpected parenting adventure


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