Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
A Toxic relationship and Fake love looks real—until it destroys you.
Welcome to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, the podcast that exposes the hidden dynamics of toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse, and emotional manipulation. Hosted by Nova Gibson, leading trauma-informed counsellor and Director of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling, this podcast is your guide to breaking free from the confusion, fear, and self-doubt that come with being entangled with a narcissist.
In every episode, Nova draws from years of experience working with survivors to explore the complex, often covert tactics used in emotionally abusive relationships—from gaslighting, triangulation, and the silent treatment to smear campaigns and intermittent reinforcement.
Whether you're struggling with a narcissistic partner, parent, boss, or friend, Fake Love and Flying Monkeys gives you the tools and knowledge to understand the abuse, trust your instincts, and reclaim your power—even if the narcissist has never been formally diagnosed.
This is more than a podcast—it’s a lifeline.
You’ll get:
Clear explanations of narcissistic behaviour patterns
Practical strategies for setting boundaries and detaching
Real talk about the emotional rollercoaster of trauma bonding
Validation, clarity, and a path toward healing from narcissistic abuse
If you've ever felt trapped in a relationship that chips away at your self-worth, this podcast will help you name it, face it, and finally break free.
You’re not alone, and you’re not crazy. You’re in the fog of narcissistic abuse—and Nova is here to help guide you out.
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for more support and resources.
It’s time to expose the fake love, silence the flying monkeys, and rewrite your story.
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
7 Brutal Ways Narcissists Discard You to Cause Pain
Narcissists don’t just leave you—they discard you with intent. And it’s never kind, never clean. In this powerful episode, I revea 7 of the most horrific ways narcissists discard their victims—each one designed to shock, shame, and cause maximum pain.
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From cold ghosting and public humiliation, to triangulating with the new supply and recruiting flying monkeys to finish the job—this isn’t love. It’s emotional destruction disguised as a breakup.
If you’ve been discarded and feel like you’re losing your mind, this episode will show you:
⚠️ You’re not crazy.
⚠️ You’re not alone.
⚠️ You were targeted by someone who needed control, not connection.
🎧 Learn the 7 discard tactics narcissists use to make it “memorable”
💔 Understand why they do it—and why it was never your fault
🧠 Get your power back by seeing the discard for what it really was
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7 Devastating Ways Narcissists Discard You (and Why It Hurts So Much)
If you've ever experienced a narcissistic discard, first, let me say this: I am truly sorry. Unless you've lived through it, no one can quite grasp how gut-wrenching, psychologically damaging, and soul-destroying it is. It's not your standard breakup. It's psychological warfare—deliberate, calculated, and designed to leave you shattered.
The narcissist's discard isn't random, and it's not because they've "fallen out of love." It's a twisted final act, where they get to hurt you one last time and leave a lasting scar. Below are the seven most horrific discard tactics narcissists use—and why they cut so deep.
1. The Sudden and Cold-As-Ice Discard
One minute you’re waking up next to them, and the next, you're blocked on everything. Gone. Like you never existed.
No warning. No goodbye. Just radio silence.
This abruptness is intentional. It gives the narcissist full control over the narrative. You're left questioning everything: "Did I do something wrong? Were they ever real? Are they okay?"
They feed on your confusion and desperation. The pain is amplified by the lack of closure. But that, of course, is by design.
2. Public Humiliation
Some narcissists don’t vanish quietly. They want an audience. They want a scene.
They start fights in public, post cryptic (or not-so-cryptic) digs on social media, and even leak private details. Mutual friends are fed lies. Suddenly, you’re not only heartbroken, you’re humiliated.
The goal? Shame. Embarrassment. To make you feel like the bad guy while they paint themselves as the victim.
3. Triangulation with the New Supply
This one is the ultimate betrayal. The narcissist suddenly posts loving pictures with someone new. You're still crying in the shower, and they've already moved on... publicly.
And here's the kicker: that "new" person was often pre-groomed while you were still together.
It’s not about love. It’s about control, comparison, and cruelty. They want you to see it, react, and spiral.
But please hear this: the new supply isn’t special—they’re just new. They haven’t been abused yet.
4. Blame Shifting and Gaslighting
In this discard tactic, you’re not just dumped—you’re blamed.
"You're too sensitive." "You pushed me away." "I tried, but you're impossible to love."
The narcissist flips the script so hard you start doubting yourself. You end up apologizing, trying to fix things, all while they’ve already mentally checked out.
This leaves deep psychological wounds because your sense of reality gets distorted.
5. The Special Day Discard
Yes, they will end the relationship on your birthday. Or the anniversary of your parent’s death. Or right before a job interview.
They do it deliberately. Because they want that special day etched in your mind forever—tainted, painful, unforgettable.
You’ll associate joy with heartbreak for years. It’s cruelty wrapped in timing.
They may even say something like, "What? I didn’t realize the date." Or worse, they make your birthday about how hard it is to love you.
6. The Discard by Flying Monkeys
Sometimes, they don’t discard you directly. They recruit others to do it for them.
Suddenly, mutual friends are sending judgmental messages. People you thought were neutral are ghosting or attacking you. The narcissist has been spreading lies and rallying troops.
This tactic is designed to isolate you. You lose the relationship AND your support system.
It’s cowardly, but it works. They get to be the victim while others do their dirty work.
7. The Hot-and-Cold Discard
This is the most confusing discard of all. One minute they leave. Then they’re back. Then they ghost. Then they love-bomb. Then they disappear again.
You're left thinking: Maybe it’s me? Maybe they still love me?
But this isn’t about love. It’s about control.
They want to dangle hope like a carrot on a string. As long as you’re chasing it, they believe they still own you. It’s exhausting. It’s deliberate. And it works—until you stop chasing.
The Truth About the Narcissistic Discard
The narcissist doesn’t just end relationships. They annihilate them. They burn the bridge, the boat, and the whole emotional village.
But here's what they don't expect:
They don’t expect you to rise.
They don’t expect you to wake up. To get help. To get stronger. They don’t expect you to stop giving them space in your mind.
But when you do? They lose.
Because you were never discarded for being "not enough."
You were discarded because you started waking up to who they really are. And that is the most terrifying thing to someone who survives on illusion.
You are not broken. You are waking up. And your healing is their worst nightmare.
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