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 The holidays can be a difficult time for many people in recovery. In this solo episode, Sean speaks openly about the emotional weight, sadness, and mental health challenges that can surface during the holiday season—especially for those recovering from sexual compulsive behaviors. Drawing from my own experience, I explore why relapse risk and depression often increase this time of year, how family dynamics and unmet expectations can re-activate old wounds, and what it looks like to stay grounded in recovery when routines are disrupted. I also walk through key questions from a holiday relapse-prevention framework, sharing practical, honest reflections in hopes of creating space for others to reflect, prepare, and feel less alone during a season that can be quietly painful for many. 

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Over a simple cup of coffee, Sean sits down with Dayne, Greg, and John for an honest, unfiltered conversation about courage, sacrifice, and the stories men tell themselves. Most men will say—without hesitation—that they would die for their family or take a bullet for the people they love. But when the question shifts to something quieter and far less dramatic—giving up porn or compulsive sexual behavior—that confidence often fades.

Why is it easier to imagine a heroic moment than to commit to daily self-denial? Where does the hesitation come from—and what does it reveal about our beliefs, fear, and sense of identity as men? This episode challenges listeners to examine what real strength looks like, and whether true sacrifice happens in a single moment… or in the choices we make every day.

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In this episode, Dayne and Sean sit down with Josh, whose journey through questions of identity, childhood trauma, and emotional struggle reflects the deep complexity many of us carry. Josh shares how he navigated pain, confusion, and shame while growing into a devoted husband and father, and what resilience has looked like at every stage of his healing. This conversation is an honest look at the weight we sometimes carry—and a reminder that transformation is possible, even in the most complicated stories. 

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In this episode, Sean and Dayne open with a few new recovery resources for listeners, then dive into one of the most gut-punching questions we’ve ever asked ourselves: Would we be okay with our daughters dating a porn addict? What starts as a hypothetical quickly becomes a raw conversation about fear, responsibility, empathy, and the standards we hold for ourselves as men in recovery. This episode isn’t about judgment—it’s about reflection, honesty, and confronting the parts of our story we still need to grow through.

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 In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne sit down with Connor to talk openly about pain—how it shapes addiction, how addiction fuels pain, and the vicious cycle between the two. Together, they explore why so many men struggle to acknowledge emotional pain, how cultural expectations play a role, and why unspoken wounds often lead to deeper struggles with addiction. Through raw personal stories and honest conversation, they offer new perspectives on facing and managing pain in recovery. 

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In this Beyond Sexual Brokenness episode, we sit down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith to talk about healing relationships at home after addiction and betrayal. Drawing from their own recovery and years of research and clinical work, they walk us through The Intimacy Pyramid—honesty, safety, trust, vulnerability, intimacy—and share simple, practical steps couples can start today.  Explore more of their work at raabsmithteam.com and in their book Building True Intimacy. 

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 In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne sit down with Gaines for an honest update on his recovery journey. Together they explore one of the most overlooked drivers of porn and masturbation addiction—the objectification of women. This isn’t just a conversation about why objectifying women is wrong; it’s a candid debate about why changing how we view women is essential if we want true recovery and to become the men we’re called to be. 

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In this foundational episode of our Fundamental Series, we explore what it really means to live in the Recovery Zone—a space defined not just by abstinence, but by the integration of three essential pillars: boundaries, self-care, and sobriety. These aren’t standalone ideas—they’re interconnected forces that support and reinforce one another. When one is missing, the whole system can collapse.

Sean and Dayne break down each of these pillars, reflecting on their personal journeys and sharing insights from the broader recovery community. What does an effective boundary list actually look like? Why is self-care often the hardest to build, especially after years of self-neglect? And how can all of this help make abstinence something sustainable, not just survivable? Whether you're early in recovery or reevaluating your routine, this episode offers practical tools, honest reflection, and a framework for building a life that heals—not just one that avoids relapse.

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In this episode, Sean and Dayne sit down with their friend Tyler, a fellow brother in recovery, to unpack a familiar but powerful story—one that began in early adolescence with porn and masturbation, and followed him into adulthood, deeply affecting his relationships. Tyler opens up about a season of long-term sobriety, the devastating fall that followed, and the pain and disorientation that relapse brought. Together, we reflect on the deeper questions of what it means to be a good man, how addiction distorts that pursuit, and the specific battles Tyler continues to face in his journey toward lasting freedom. This honest conversation reminds us that the road to recovery is rarely linear—but it’s always worth it. 

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 In this episode, Sean and Dayne unpack a hard but honest question: Are we actually progressing in recovery—or have we just upgraded our relapse cycle? We take a raw look at the pattern we often see in recovery communities: relapse, confession, repeat. The timeline may stretch, the guilt may lessen, and we may get better at sharing—but is that real healing? Or have we simply learned to manage our shame instead of breaking free from it? This episode invites deep self-examination about how we use community—are we leaning in for transformation, or just to feel better for a moment? 

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In moments of stress, temptation, or emotional overwhelm, grounding your body is one of the simplest ways to return to clarity and calm. This short, guided 4-7-8 breathing exercise is designed to help you pause, reset, and reconnect — wherever you are in your recovery journey. Just five minutes. No pressure. Just presence. Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 7, exhale for 8… and give your nervous system the peace it’s craving.

Use this anytime you feel unsteady, triggered, or just need a reset. Your body is not your enemy — it can be your anchor.

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In this episode, we unpack the difference between sex and true intimacy — a line that's been increasingly blurred, especially in the age of pornography and compulsive masturbation. These habits create a counterfeit version of intimacy: one that offers physical release without emotional connection, control without vulnerability. We ask the tough questions: Is sex the same as intimacy? Is being overly nice at home — always agreeable, always “on” — truly intimate, or just a performance to avoid discomfort?

We explore the role of heart, intent, and integrity in cultivating real connection. Because real intimacy doesn’t come from avoiding conflict or chasing pleasure — it comes from being known, seen, and loved without the mask. And that starts with showing up authentically, not just physically.

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 In this episode, John and I explore the idea of rescuing beauty inspired by John Eldredge’s Wild at Heart—but we take it further. We talk about how beauty isn’t just found in a woman or romance but in the simple moments of life we often overlook. As we walk the road of recovery from sexual addiction, and our dopamine levels begin to reset, we start to see the world with fresh eyes: the quiet of an early morning, the color of a summer sky, the feeling of contentment without chasing constant stimulation. Join us as we reflect on how learning to pause, to notice, and to appreciate the ordinary can heal our hearts and rewire our desires for something truer and deeper. 

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In this follow-up conversation with two college students courageously battling porn and sexual addiction, we explore the real-life impact of their struggle on friendships, dating, and daily routines. They open up about how setting boundaries—like stepping away from social media, limiting video games, and accepting parental controls—has reshaped their social life and identity in college. With raw honesty, they reflect on their last relapse and share how self-compassion helps them build a healthier roadmap forward. Join us as they reveal the practical strategies and mindset shifts sustaining their recovery, even when it means sacrificing some of the typical “fun” of their age group to protect what matters most. 

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In this episode, we explore Wild at Heart by John Eldredge and its powerful vision of masculinity—that every man longs for a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue. These themes resonate deeply with the recovery journey, where men are called to reclaim their strength, confront their past, and fight for lasting transformation. We’re also joined by Greg, who shares his inspiring story of over 1,000 days of sobriety and a growing list of hard-fought victories. His testimony brings these themes to life and reminds us what’s possible when a man chooses to live with courage, purpose, and heart. 

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In this two-part conversation, Sean sits down with Joe and JT — two young men in recovery — to unpack the unique challenges of addiction in the college years. From the pressures of campus life to the complexities of dating, they explore what it means to pursue sexual integrity in a culture pushing the opposite.

But this isn’t just a conversation for college students — it’s a wake-up call for fathers, mentors, and any man wondering how to start the conversation that changes everything. Joe and JT share how their first talks with their parents about addiction unfolded — the good, the awkward, and the redemptive.

These episodes will challenge you to take ownership, rethink your role in others’ healing, and ask yourself: What kind of man am I becoming — and who am I helping become free alongside me?

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 In this episode, Sean is joined by John to dive into one of the most essential—and difficult—aspects of recovery: learning to give and receive the truth. We explore what real accountability looks like, how to build relationships where truth can be spoken with love and received with humility, and why truth is not just a correction, but a catalyst for change. Drawing from our own experiences in the recovery community, we share stories of the hard truths that challenged us—and the ones we weren’t ready for. This is an invitation to every man listening: surround yourself with people who love you enough to tell you the truth, and become the kind of man who welcomes it. 

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Our unwanted behaviors don’t come from nowhere. In this episode, Sean and Dayne unpack how childhood wounds, emotional neglect, abuse, and unmet needs lay the groundwork for compulsive sexual behavior and addiction. We explore how triggers are often echoes of unhealed pain—and why healing doesn’t mean living in the past, but learning not to be controlled by it. This is a raw and honest look at the stories that shaped us—and how grace, truth, and brotherhood can help us rewrite them.

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In this episode, Sean and Dayne go deeper into a hard but necessary truth: there’s no such thing as “safe” porn—because porn isn’t just videos or websites. For those in recovery, porn includes anything that fuels sexual fantasy, lust, or escapism. Whether it's a “quick scroll,” a steamy scene, or a moment of mental indulgence, it all weakens the integrity we're fighting to rebuild. We speak directly to those who already know porn is not okay but keep relapsing by holding onto loopholes and blurred lines. If you’ve ever justified “just this once” or “it’s not really porn,” this conversation is for you. No shame—just honesty, clarity, and a path forward. 

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In this raw and honest episode, Sean is joined by guest co-host John to dive deep into the war raging inside the addicted brain — a war fueled by hijacked dopamine pathways. Drawing from Dopamine Nation and their own brutal recovery journeys, they expose how the endless chase for easy pleasure leaves men empty, numb, and enslaved.

This is a wake-up call for anyone stuck in the cycle: your brain isn't broken — it's been hijacked. It's time to fight for something real again.

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 In this raw and emotionally charged episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne dive deep into the dark spiral of the novelty effect of porn—how the pursuit of something “new” quickly becomes a trap. With brutal honesty, Sean shares how his addiction pushed him further into genres he never imagined, chasing a dopamine high that was never enough. What started as “curiosity” became compulsion, even distorting his sense of sexual identity and desire. Together, Sean and Dayne confront how this craving for novelty chipped away at their integrity, identity, and relationships. Sean powerfully declares that porn doesn’t deserve to be called “novel” at all—it’s deceptive, corrosive, and enslaving. This episode is a gut-check for anyone wondering where the road of unchecked consumption can really lead. 

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In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne dive deep into a tough but crucial question: Does an addict have integrity? Joined by their accountability brother Gaines, they wrestle with the true meaning of integrity—how it shaped their lives, how addiction distorted it, and the painful reality of recognizing where they fell short.

They explore the emotional weight of not living up to their own expectations, the strain on their relationships, and the disconnect between their actions and their values—especially as husbands, fathers, and men of faith. But beyond the pain, they also discuss the hope of rebuilding integrity in recovery, striving to become the men they were meant to be.

Raw, real, and unfiltered—this is a conversation every addict in recovery needs to hear. Tune in now.

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In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, co-hosts Sean and Dayne, along with their accountability brother John, dive deep into the raw and complex narrative of Beautiful Boy — the gripping story of addiction and family struggle captured in the acclaimed book and film.

Together, they explore the parallels between Nick’s journey and their own experiences with addiction recovery, asking challenging questions about family dynamics, personal responsibility, and the often-overlooked impact of addiction on loved ones. How do past experiences of parents, like Nick’s father experimenting with drugs, influence the course of addiction for future generations? Does a lack of stability in the home play a deeper role than we often consider? And do we show more grace toward those struggling with chemical dependencies than those facing sexual addiction?

By examining key characters and pivotal moments, Sean, Dayne, and John consider how their own growth in recovery would shape their perception of Beautiful Boy today. They reflect on the themes of connection, the desire to belong, and the pain of feeling “homeless” — a cycle familiar to those trapped in addiction.

Tune in for an honest and vulnerable conversation that goes beyond the surface, offering insights not only for those in recovery but also for the families and friends who walk alongside them.

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In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, cohosts Dayne and Sean dive into the complex question: Is addiction a simple choice? The two engage in a heartfelt debate, unpacking how this question has shaped their own recovery journeys.

Dayne wrestles with the tension between not wanting to victimize his struggles while also acknowledging how powerless he has felt at times. He shares how this year marks the first in 30 years that addiction hasn't owned him — raising the question: was there a choice involved in breaking free, or was something deeper at play?

Sean opens up about the painful paradox of recovery — how greater clarity brings greater pain, and how that pain forces him to confront the nature of his own choices. Together, they reflect on the early moments of their addiction — was watching porn or masturbating for the first time truly a choice? And if it was, does that even matter now?

Through raw vulnerability and honest disagreement, Dayne and Sean explore the relationship between choice, accountability, and the disease model of addiction. Whether you're in recovery yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode invites you to wrestle with the nuanced reality of addiction — where willpower, pain, and grace all collide.

Listen in as they ask the hard questions without easy answers — because sometimes the most healing conversations are the ones we can't tie up in a neat bow.

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In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne go head-to-head in a deep and honest debate: Should sobriety define who you are? Or is it just a part of your journey—not your identity?

Some say sobriety is the foundation of healing, the proof of real change. Others argue that making it your identity can be a dangerous trap—what happens when you relapse? Does that mean you've lost yourself? If you’re not "sober enough," does that mean you’re not recovering?

Sean and Dayne take different stances, pushing each other—and you—to critically examine your relationship with sobriety. They reflect on how their perspectives have shifted after a year of committed recovery. Sean shares why he fought against letting relapse define him, while Dayne questions whether avoiding that definition makes it harder to stay accountable.

• Can sobriety be a core part of who you are without it becoming a burden?
• If we don’t let sobriety define us, are we leaving the door open to return to old patterns?
• Is sobriety the key to reclaiming our true selves, rather than something that restricts us?
• How do we hold onto the passion for recovery when setbacks happen?
• Are you more than your sobriety, or is that a risky mindset?

Join the debate and reflect on what sobriety means for you. Does it define you? Should it?

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