Both-And Perspective by Project Mel
This show invites anyone wanting a big life and big impact to embrace both-and thinking. Mel Selcho, business catalyst and coach, shares stories and strategies that will spark delight, stretch your thinking, and challenge you to action that makes work and life better.
Both-And Perspective by Project Mel
16. Permission to Mess Up, Even, and Especially When It's My Fault
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Mel Selcho
Mel shares her Lenten journey by examining the emotional comfort she finds in getting things right and also the cost. See why it feels so good to be right, and discover actionable steps to ditch the drive to be perfect, overcome the vulnerability hangover, and stop seeking validation through explanation.
Key Takeaways
- Perfectionism isn't about achieving perfection but about avoiding painful feelings of blame, shame, and judgment
- Vulnerability requires courage to show up when we could have done it better
- Letting others be wrong about us is a powerful practice in releasing the need for external validation
- Mel's Lenten practice includes doing uncomfortable things daily, not explaining herself, embracing vulnerability, and not managing others' experiences
Quotable Moments
- "Blessed are we the ones trying, the ones failing." Kate Bowler
- "Every decision has things that are right about it and things that are wrong about it."
- "What if it was okay even if it was our fault?"
- "Business and entrepreneur are both spelled with a "U" on purpose. I want businesses to be the U-est you they can possibly be."
Resources Mentioned
- Books: "Women Living Deliciously" by Florence Given
- People: Brené Brown, Kate Bowler, Brooke Castillo
Episode Challenge
Where are you diluting yourself to make yourself more palatable? Be the "U-est You" possible, remembering that you're not for everyone in work and in play.