How to talk so kids will listen

Do you ever feel like your child isn’t listening to you, no matter how many times you ask? In this episode, Camilla  shares transformative strategies to help you talk so your kids want to listen. From managing expectations to adjusting your tone and engaging cooperation, you’ll discover tools that are effective and easy to implement. 

1. Why Kids Don’t Listen Immediately
   • Understanding their agenda vs. yours and why they’re not being deliberately disrespectful.
   • How managing your expectations can foster empathy and patience.
2. How You Say It Matters
   • The power of tone, phrasing, and concise instructions to grab your child’s attention.
   • Tips for keeping your message warm, clear, and engaging.
3. Engaging Cooperation
   • Fun and practical ways to make tasks manageable and enjoyable, like turning clean-up into a game.
   • Using limited choices to give your child a sense of control.
4. Validating Their Feelings
   • The importance of acknowledging emotions without dismissing them.
   • How validation helps build connection and paves the way for cooperation.

Question of the Week:
This week’s question comes from Naomi:
"Why does my child completely tune me out when I ask her to get her shoes on? What should I do?"
Camilla offers actionable steps to connect before directing, use empathy, and break tasks into manageable steps—all while maintaining calm and connection.

Resources Mentioned:

• Free Guide: “How to Get Kids to Listen Using the GREAT Method”
  Download here
• Book a Discovery Call with Camilla: Click here

Takeaways to Remember:

• Listening takes practice and understanding—manage your expectations.
• Your tone and phrasing are powerful tools for connection.
• Break down tasks and add fun to engage your child’s cooperation.
• Validating feelings is key to reducing resistance and encouraging compliance.

Next Episode:
Tune in next week as Camilla coaches Hannah, a mum of two young children, on managing parenting challenges.

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00:00 Introduction: The Struggle of Getting Kids to Listen

00:33 Personal Story: A Parenting Coach's Challenge

01:42 Principles of Effective Communication

03:11 Strategy 1: Understanding Kids' Agendas

04:47 Strategy 2: The Importance of Tone

08:42 Strategy 3: Engaging Cooperation

11:20 Strategy 4: Validating Emotions

13:41 Question of the week: How can I get my child to get her shoes on!

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