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Happiness Is a Choice
Charles and Tesa explore the concept that happiness is a personal choice rather than something your spouse or partner can provide for you. We delve into how finding joy in small moments can transform your relationship more than grand gestures or expensive experiences.
• Small moments matter more than elaborate dates or vacations
• Learning to play and laugh together instead of being petty during disagreements
• Don't wait for special occasions to connect meaningfully with your partner
• Laughter is a choice you must make every day, especially during difficult times
• You are responsible for your own happiness and emotional wellbeing
• Finding joy in ordinary activities like walks, shopping, or just being together
• The biblical principle that "the joy of the Lord is our strength" applies to marriage
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you're responsible for your own happiness. So it's not about you know being married. It's not about you making me happy. I have to choose to be happy.
Speaker 2:Welcome to Doing it With the Dales, the podcast where we navigate life, marriage and ministry. I'm Charles.
Speaker 1:And I'm Tisa. Join us as we share insights, wisdom and practical advice to strengthen your marriage, empower your life and enrich your ministry.
Speaker 2:Let's dive in together and discover the joys of doing it with the Daniels. Yo, welcome to Doing it With the Daniels, where we help couples get it on in life marriage and ministry man we having fun today. Rocking out yeah we having fun, having fun, you feeling good.
Speaker 2:I'm feeling good today well, look, we're back at it again. We rocking and rolling, having a great time with the podcast. You've been enjoying doing this and sharing our life and our story and the wisdom that god has given us through the course of our journey with other people I would say yes, because of all the feedback that we get that people are enjoying it and they listen and they, they um every Thursday.
Speaker 1:You know they can't wait to get on and see what we have to say and and it's been helping them and so I think that's why I enjoy it, because I I realize it's helping others absolutely.
Speaker 2:I enjoy just being with you oh, that's so sweet. I enjoy being with our team. Yeah, you know, they behind the scenes? Can anybody see them? Hey, they there, they helping us make it work.
Speaker 1:And.
Speaker 2:I just appreciate them. You know, it takes big people with big hearts and love for you, to sacrifice their time.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:And give their service, their gifts, their talents to help you accomplish things that you want to accomplish, and so I really appreciate them, and so, although people may never see them on camera, we got to have them on camera.
Speaker 1:We gotta have them on one day, so they can do like some bloopers or you know they can kind of talk about. You know what it's like being in here with us yeah, we had to show them behind the scenes of hair and makeup and all of that stuff getting done one day yeah, editing and all of that.
Speaker 2:They just don't realize. There's a lot that goes into this, where it's all put together, put out, but there's so much that's added to it that makes it work yeah and uh, and that's not our doing.
Speaker 1:You know, it's these wonderful people that we have yeah, so we appreciate them yeah absolutely so here we go, here we go what we dive into what are we talking about today? We're talking about. Happiness is a choice happiness is a choice.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I thought we got married, that you were supposed to make me happy you know, that's what I, that's what I thought about with this topic, like I mean, it's so many people who feel like, hey, you are married now make me happy.
Speaker 1:Yeah to get married, thinking that marriage is gonna fix everything, everything, and it's going to be so wonderful which it is, you know but they don't think about the other times the trying times and you know the things that you have to go through in a marriage yeah.
Speaker 2:So I mean I can put all of this weight on you. That says, when life gets hard and I'm sad, it's your job to cheer me up, it's your job to make me feel better, it's your job to make me feel good, it's your job to make me like myself. You know, but but the reality is that that's not fair no to put that weight on you, and that's not even your job, I think, as couples.
Speaker 2:Well, let's, let's pull back on couples, because although we're a couple, we are also individuals yes and there are times when I can be happy and you're not, or you're happy and I'm not, and I think that's where we all have to find our own happiness in life and navigate through that. So so the joy of this is that we learn to navigate through life and do it together and enjoy it.
Speaker 1:Right, yeah. So I agree, marriage isn't just about pushing through hard times, it's just, it's a. It's about you know the, the small things the good times, and I think for me, I had to find my own happiness and not just look to you to make me happy, yeah, so yeah, I think we both did.
Speaker 2:Um, I don't know, I don't know to what extent you kind of navigated that part of our marriage, our relationship, our life together. Because, like you said earlier, I think we come into marriage with this grandiose idea that I'm married now and it's going to be wonderful, it's going to be great, I'm going to be happy with this person every day. But you forget that sometimes you're not happy with that person, sometimes you're not happy with life, sometimes you're not happy with your own life and the way your life is going.
Speaker 1:It's a lot that can go into just life, just living life, and so kind of, like you said what we were talking about, our title of the day um, your happiness has to be a choice yes it has to be a decision that you make where you're choosing happiness every day yeah, I think, um, you're responsible for your own happiness, so it's not about, you know, being married, it's not about you making me happy.
Speaker 2:I have to choose to be happy, and so, with that said, I think it's small moments matter yeah, yeah, I think that's the first thing people have to grasp that small things are big deals in a relationship and and when you grasp the small things, you you don't look for all of these big and great and wonderful things that we can kind of idolize before getting married yeah, I used to think that, um, being happy meant having these vacations and going out to dinner and planning all these you know big events and you know I.
Speaker 1:You know how I used to look.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was money, and you know back then we didn't have any money so we couldn't do a lot, and so I would go to work and everybody was talking about what vacations they were going to and everybody's going to the beach and they were doing all these things and and it seemed like it was so much fun and we couldn't do that, and so I would get I don't know if I would get depressed, but it was just a sad thing. Like you know, I want to take my family on a vacation. I want to take, and so I would feel some kind of way because we couldn't do those things and I forgot to appreciate the small moments that we had together.
Speaker 2:I remember that and you would try to act like you were okay. You would say, stuff, I'm okay, like I want to go to the beach, I want to go to Florida, I want to go here, I want to travel. I'm like man, look, we got child in daycare.
Speaker 1:Not daycare. What was it? Was it daycare? Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:I mean care, yeah, yeah, I mean you paying hundred dollar, hundred, so dollars a week, even before trey like we first got married you know all of that, and so big expenses coming out, uh, just to take care of our family and in that time, you know, not making a whole lot of money. It it wasn't something that we could do or we had to. Really, I think what we learned to do is we learned to plan and budget in vacations or doing things which we didn't do before. Right, you know, before we just kind of well, we get around to, we get around to it. But you have to be intentional about those big elaborate things that you want to do. Those luxury vacations though, that travel you plan for that it's not really spontaneous depending on you know how much money you have Exactly. But I think the point you were making is focus on the small things and learn to find happiness in the small matters, not just the big things.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the small things, like when we're together and you know we're just having fun and you crack a joke and you know we're laughing and you know, know, or maybe even being silly or something like that. Those are the small moments that you know I felt like meant more than doing all these big things. That I thought.
Speaker 2:I thought because you know everybody at work come home talk about yeah, we did this, we did that, and I would minimize the little small moments that we had together and I didn't think that they mattered because it wasn't big we weren't traveling, we weren't doing this, we weren't experiencing different places and all of that, and so I I minimized those moments you know what I've learned, and I think we both may have learned this, but I I have to speak for me, because I've learned that those things are great. The big stuff, you know, the, the travel, all that's wonderful. But when you come to a place where you love somebody and it's like you become you I'm talking as my wife you become the major contributor or factor to my happiness. So I could go on a wonderful vacation. But it's not the same without you, right? And when I begin to see that I realize I got you every day.
Speaker 2:I got you at home. So I'm going to enjoy what really brings me the joy that I have. It wasn't the flights, it wasn't the hotels or the luxury living arrangement, it wasn't being on the beach, it wasn't what some things we wrote the jet skis you know, it wasn't you know, it wasn't that stuff that that I'm like oh, this was amazing. As a matter of fact, I was ready to get off the jet ski all the water getting you like this is cool, but yeah, I don't want to fall in the ocean.
Speaker 2:Get me off here yeah, so it was fun in the time, but the the part that I remember is you hold being on there with me, holding on to me. Yeah, it was fun in the time, but the part that I remember is you being?
Speaker 2:on there with me holding on to me. It was us and I learned how to value us. So then, once you do that, you take the vacations and the travel and the big stuff, luxury dinners and all. You take all that out. You know, we love Ruth Chris, we enjoy some Ruth Chris, but I don't have to eat Ruth Chris to have a good time. You know we can eat Five Guys, mm-hmm, you know.
Speaker 1:You like, five Guys we can eat a burger and enjoy ourselves.
Speaker 2:We can go to Applebee's and get a. What is it? A two for 20, something I don't know, but it's just being with you.
Speaker 1:So it's about spending that time together and actually connecting. So it doesn't matter what you do. You know, you just make sure you connect when you're doing what you do. Make sure you're talking to one another listening laughing, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:You're doing all of that and I feel like I enjoy those moments more than I enjoy all these big dates or vacations and things Like. I enjoy the vacations, don't get me wrong. You know, experiencing new places, going out of town, all of that is great, but you got to learn how to not minimize the small things and just maximize the. You think those things matter more and it doesn't.
Speaker 2:Yeah even going for a walk, yeah, when we go for a walk and just talk while we're walking. I mean, you like to walk a lot longer than I do.
Speaker 1:I'm like let's get it in, get it done you like to walk a little faster than I do? Yeah, I do.
Speaker 2:I like to get it over with come on, let's hit this mile, mile and a half. Let's get it over with you be walking like crazy person I'll be like slow down what you doing. No, I'm power walking. You casual walking, I'm power walking I'll be telling your legs longer than mine but it's that time just walking us, laughing, talking, talking about the kids, just talking about ministry, talking about life, it's just, it's. That's that small stuff, it's like really big, it doesn't cost us anything, right, it doesn't cost us money.
Speaker 1:It's time that we're investing in one another I love it because it's like you being you and me, being me and you accepting all my quirkiness and my silliness. And you know, and I don't feel like I have to try to be something that I'm not it's just us being together in those moments, just having fun with each other.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, that's a big deal, so. So I think that's good. Here's another thing I think you also have to choose. Play over pettiness, right, it's easy to be petty, you know it's, it's easy, it's easy.
Speaker 1:So who is the petty? Who petty? I think you. You're more petty I don't know.
Speaker 2:You think so, I don't know I don't know, we may be tip attack maybe, maybe, maybe me yeah, maybe me a little bit more. Yeah, maybe it's better if I don't get my way maybe definitely. If you don't get your way, maybe I can be a little more petty than you, so yeah, but you have to learn.
Speaker 2:Let's stay focused, I'll try, but definitely choosing playfulness, because pettiness can get real serious and that's why a lot of couples they're too serious, serious all the time. Everything's serious, everything is, you know, needs the utmost attention and care and you never relax. You're always uptight and tense.
Speaker 1:And no is gonna survive like that. Yeah, that used to be me.
Speaker 2:I mean, I think that was both of us. Yeah, I think you were more uptight, I think I was just serious. Yeah, I think I was uptight I don't know why, I don't know. I think I used to be like just calm down, calm down, it's all right I was uptight about everything yeah I was like, oh, just any any little thing like a trigger.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I'm better now yeah, definitely, and so we, we had to navigate through that. But that's how we grow and we have to learn and start laughing. And I will say this about us early in our marriage, I don't think we laughed enough. I don't think we played enough. I think I'm very playful. You don't call it playfulness, you call it picking. You say you say I pick on you, I pick on the kids, but I'm playing with y'all you know, okay, I don't think we like it all the time.
Speaker 1:No, y'all don't like it all the time but but I feel like if we didn't have it, we would miss it absolutely, and that's why I keep providing it for you, so you don't have to miss it right.
Speaker 2:Right, but let's just say, in a relationship, how do you approach being playful over being petty? So take a small matter that could turn into an argument. Like you may ask me to help you with cleaning something.
Speaker 1:Hey, help me clean up the house.
Speaker 2:And I mean I want to do it. I mean I feel like cleaning up, I'm like it don't look that dirty to me you know how we as men are like yeah, it don't look.
Speaker 1:That's what you mean dirty like you know, clean up.
Speaker 2:What you mean, the, the throw blanket is not folded, the pillows are out of place on the couch. Is that that's what you mean? Like that's simple stuff, but, and you know, for me it's something like that. I would just like all right and maybe grab a pillow and throw it at you. You know, and while you're trying to fold a blanket, or I may knock the blanket down and mess up your fold and it becomes a playful thing where you could easily get mad and be like stop.
Speaker 2:I'm trying to do what I'm trying to do, but you know, it can be something we can laugh about. I throw a pillow, you throw a pillow, you throw a pillow back, yeah, and before you know, we throwing pillows at each other and laughing and dodging pillows and all that kind of stuff. But but then we had to clean up. Yeah, yeah, for real, clean this up, but we laugh about it. We've had, we've enjoyed that time. It turned into something playful right you know what I mean.
Speaker 2:It turned something playful, something for us to laugh about, where it used to be. It would be something that you would get mad and then you hit me with you. You don't do anything around here well, I think it would.
Speaker 1:It would lead into an argument because I had something that I had to do. So in my mind I'm thinking, okay, I gotta do this because I gotta be here and I gotta have this, or somebody was coming over or something like that, and in that moment you playing and I'm like this ain't time to play, this time to work. So I'll probably get frustrated because I'm like, okay, I felt like that could have been the petty side.
Speaker 1:Because, sometimes I feel like you may know what I got going on, or you just trying to. Now you want to play. I'm like mm-mm, and so those little moments can turn into an argument.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and that's just what we have to be careful about you know and communicate through those, but still laugh. And I think that's the thing with couples. A lot of couples don't? They don't laugh enough no, they don't, they don't play. You know, they don't enjoy each other enough. Thinking about when couples first get married or first, I'm sorry, first start dating yeah you're playing all the time. You're laughing all the time. That's one of the strategies of a man getting a woman's attention keep her laughing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, exactly, but sometimes you feel like, oh, I got her, so now I got to do all this stuff that I did in the in the beginning, that's true but what I learned when you're laughing, marriage is better.
Speaker 2:Yeah, life is better if you, if you laugh and hopefully you liking me, mm-hmm, you know, it's almost like flirting to an extent. Yeah, it is, and you know I tell people all the time you don't stop flirting because you got married. Yes, lord, like, keep flirting, like I'm going to keep flirting with you, you know, hey, I want you to look at me and smile. I want you to laugh at me. I want that, when I leave out of your presence, I want you thinking about me.
Speaker 1:I want you thinking about something I said I did and bust out laughing. I want to be on your mind, which is all the time, because you're always doing something.
Speaker 2:I want to be on your mind. That's a real man. Understand that you got to keep yourself on her mind.
Speaker 1:Keep up good thoughts not bad thoughts, not good stuff. That's good. I love that. Yeah so the good stuff. That's good. I love that, yeah. So the third thing is don't wait for a special occasion I think we did that early on.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we look for we. We thought birthdays, anniversaries, valentine's day mother's day, father's day, christmas, that's it right, and it's an unfair advantage for women too. Why birthday? Valentine's day, mother's day, you got father's day. That's one for men, we got three for women so men don't get none of that just because day christmas, it's all about women well, they got some okay men and y'all got like five just and I probably probably more out there Women them five right there. You need to show up for her. We got two.
Speaker 1:And guess what?
Speaker 2:Birthday Christmas.
Speaker 1:That's it. We deserve them. Five and more.
Speaker 2:Oh, we don't deserve. There's men out here working hard, we deserve. We need to add in some random, just because days to even this out.
Speaker 1:Y'all get just because days we need some we cooking dinner that ain't you eating too, what you mean you gotta eat that's not for us but but y'all get just because days we thinking about you, we out shopping and we buy you something.
Speaker 2:You get just because days but what if that's not what a man want? A man don't get excited because you come home with a bag from Macy's.
Speaker 1:That's y'all, but it was something for you, so I thought about you.
Speaker 2:You got me a shirt, thank you. What do you want? Men want what they want, what they want.
Speaker 1:Many things. Well, you got to communicate that. Tell me what you want.
Speaker 2:Sometimes men want a day just about them. Okay, it's.
Speaker 1:Father's.
Speaker 2:Day Y'all get pamper days. That's six.
Speaker 1:You just constantly thinking of stuff.
Speaker 2:I'm saying this day, y'all, I want to go to the spa we need that.
Speaker 1:We need that and some more. Me and these relaxing days we leave y'all alone so y'all can watch y'all sports. That's a day. Play your game, that's a day Come on.
Speaker 2:We need to go fishing, we need to go to the gun range. I'm saying, but we need to go without Tompkins strengths, we don't need y'all when you at when you gonna be back.
Speaker 1:I don't say nothing.
Speaker 2:I'm just saying, I ain't saying you. I'm just saying I'm thinking about other men. I'm advocating for other men that need more days throughout their year.
Speaker 1:Ladies, don't say nothing. Let them go, let them have their day.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they need their day, they need their time.
Speaker 1:They bro. What is it the bro time?
Speaker 2:Yeah, you need your bro time. We just need a day.
Speaker 1:That's about us More days about us. Y'all right there with us. I just care all day and then buy him what he want.
Speaker 2:Like don't just buy him a shirt, like buy him what he want, like what he been saying he want.
Speaker 1:If you gonna try to bring, if you gonna bring him a gift.
Speaker 2:No, I'm not talking about me. I'm a little different. I go buy what I want. I've always been like that. I don't really care for people to buy items for me like that. You know, I think she was hot at me. No, she didn't say anything. She was hot, but my sister told me about it. She never said anything.
Speaker 2:My mother bought me some jeans for Christmas one year and I didn't like the jeans. I'm sorry, mama, why you didn't like them. I didn't like the jeans. They weren't some jeans that I wanted to wear at the time. They weren't the kind of jeans I wanted to wear. They weren't the kind of jeans I wanted to wear. You want some Levi's? You know, they were the kind of jeans if you wore them to school, you you get shit. Yeah, you might get shit. So I was like I'm not wearing those right, so I left them in the box. She gave them to me for Christmas. I left them in the Christmas box and I slid them under my bed. It wasn't till years later when I left home I was in college, away. I think I was away in college, that my grandmother went to live with my mother and they started cleaning out the room so my grandmother could move into what was my bedroom in the home. And when they were moving the bed they found those jeans Tags and all Tags and all my mama.
Speaker 2:She called my sister. She didn't tell me. She called my sister. She didn't tell me. She called my sister. My sister called me and told me. She said mama found them jeans that she bought you years ago under your bed, brand new, still in the box. I said, yeah, I wasn't going to wear them jeans. She was like that's terrible, that's terrible.
Speaker 1:You could have told her, so she could have got her money back.
Speaker 2:No that's terrible, but you could have told her so she would. She could have got her money back. She no, she was gonna be like. You know, I went through to get them sacrifices I make for you, you know, my mom so I just left it alone. Anyway, you got me all the way off track, talking about g's and all of that, but but the reality is that don't wait for a special occasion.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, y'all.
Speaker 2:Hey, we got y'all yeah, ladies, get in they time.
Speaker 1:We need a special day y'all got a lot of special days okay, all right, um, I'm not gonna debate this with you. We'll talk about this off camera, okay y'all got just as many as we got that's not true yeah, you just said, y'all got your bro time the fishing y'all can watch y'all sports.
Speaker 2:We have to make those days up. Y'all got national holidays we can make y'all some get them on the counter, okay, okay, we're gonna see, but but anyway, seriously, seriously, you don't wait for special times like anniversaries, birthdays, all this stuff is good, yeah, but you need date nights yeah you need regular times when you all just get together and connect and I say date night it can be. Date day it can be date whenever it can be brunch.
Speaker 1:It can be whatever you want. Yeah, whatever you want it to be.
Speaker 2:Just connect, make time for y'all and laugh. Don't make it serious. This is not a time to talk about bills. Talk about the kids and what's going on with them and all you got to do and work. Leave that stuff at home and just have fun. Just have fun, right. Go do something that you enjoy. You know, sometimes it's crazy how I've grown to enjoy if we're out somewhere, if we go to a mall, especially, we're out of town, not so much at home when we're out of town if we go to a mall or something, but we can do it at home. I've learned to just sit and let you roam throughout the mall.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you didn't. That wasn't always the case.
Speaker 2:No, that wasn't. But I enjoy it now because, although we're not together, while you're moving, I'm just sitting there waiting on you come back around, tell me what you saw, what you like, what you're thinking about. I don't know. I've developed a liking for like. Okay, I look forward to when she come back and tell me what she saw what she liked, what she didn't like, what she won't, what she thinking about getting.
Speaker 2:It's just, it's our time yeah you know, and although I don't want to search every rack, because you're gonna look at every item on every rack, you're gonna look at the sale rack, you're gonna look at the regular price, right, I'm like you want.
Speaker 1:You ain't got time for all that. No, no, it's too much.
Speaker 2:it's too much, it's too overwhelming. And so, because you know, as men, the way we shop, we already know what we're going to get most of us Like we're not men are big, why you don't see me? And just strolling around the mall, searching all the every rack? Some men do Some like to shop. Some do like to shop, but it's rare. Most of the time men know what they're going to get.
Speaker 2:They go get it and then they check out. That's cute, is that what we do? And y'all put it back. No, I don't like that. Oh, I mean, look, y'all got this in my size oh she gonna check. Hold that, hold that she gonna check that for me. Then, before she get back, I really don't want that put that back oh, we buy it and bring it back. It's just crazy, it's just a lot that goes into a woman's shopping, so for me and it's different, but you learn to love it.
Speaker 2:I learn to enjoy just seeing you roam and do your thing. It becomes especially I'm saying that to say something that doesn't seem like a special time yeah can become a special time yeah it's all in how you value your time with that person.
Speaker 2:You know just like I used to enjoy when I would cut the grass and you would just stand out there and just kind of watch me cut the grass. I don't know what it was, it was just like, yeah, she likes seeing me cut the grass. You know, there was something that was enjoyable about it.
Speaker 1:I was like why you take so long? Because I wanted to look good.
Speaker 2:I wanted to look. You can't go fast and have it look good. You didn't want your yard looking crazy did you?
Speaker 1:No, I did not.
Speaker 2:Because every time it looked crazy and you'd be cut, you'd be like you didn't go cut that grass. So we had to make it look nice.
Speaker 1:Yes. So the next thing is laughter is a choice.
Speaker 2:Laughter is a choice.
Speaker 1:You got to. Laughter is a choice.
Speaker 1:Laughter is a choice, you gotta choose to laugh, you gotta make the decision yes every day, every day, laugh, enjoy life yeah, don't be so serious all the time I think I was very uptight and serious, although I was a, I think I was I'm fun you know, but I can't be fun yeah, but I think when it came to you, um, when we first got married, I was very uptight. I think, because I was trying to present myself as my best self and. I was just having, wanting everything to be well, your fun was selective.
Speaker 2:I think your fun and enjoying yourself was about, like, I think, around family time, when you get around your family. A birthday, oh, let's have fun. But when it came to everyday life, there wasn't the intentionality on fun and laughing and enjoying yourself. And I think that's what we had to grow into.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I really had to grow into that.
Speaker 2:Because you get in the mode of working every day, taking care of children. I mean, life cannot be so fun, yeah, if you only focus on life.
Speaker 1:If I focus on wanting life to be so perfect, you know, then I wasn't like embracing and enjoying life because I was wanting it to be a certain kind of way, yeah and, and I think once I I've dealt with that that's not perfect, I'm not perfect then I was able to relax yeah, and be like hey, this is, this is me, I am who I am and I'm just enjoying my life enjoying my life and enjoy my marriage and enjoy my kids and enjoy, you know, just life.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I chose, and now I have fun. I really think I have fun now I think we all learn that.
Speaker 2:We learn to enjoy life. We learn to have fun in spite of the difficult times and it's. It's laughing and enjoying yourself or finding the ability to laugh in the hard seasons that make life easier to manage. Yeah, because life is hard, everybody's living life for real, especially in today's economy and the climate, the political climate. There's a lot going on in our world today, yeah, and it's a lot to be sad, depressed about or whatever.
Speaker 1:But you gotta choose to enjoy yourself. Yeah, when we're struggling, it's tempting to just shut down, and we don't want to do that yeah, you don't want to shut down just because you're struggling. You got to know life's going to throw you every all kind of things and you just kind of got to be able to roll with the punches but still enjoy your life.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and that's what the Bible talks about how the joy of the Lord is our strength. You got to maintain joy to stay strong and endure some of the hard challenges of life. You got to learn how to. The Bible says rejoice in the Lord, always and again I hard challenges of life. You gotta learn how to. The bible says rejoice in the lord, always and again I say rejoice.
Speaker 2:that means in good times, in bad times find joy yeah, find a place of joy in your life, joy in the lord, joy with your spouse, joy with your children, your family. You gotta, you gotta be intentional about finding that. I believe it's like this you have to wake up and say I'm gonna have a great day today yeah, it doesn't matter what you have to do or what comes at you.
Speaker 2:Right, life is going to be life. But you make up your mind. I'm still going to have a good day, I'm still going to enjoy myself, and here's the key when both couples do that, it makes marriage better. Yeah, it mad about everything. Who wants to live like that? Nobody. I know I don't Me either, so I'm glad we found joy.
Speaker 1:Yes, we did All right.
Speaker 2:So listen, thank y'all for joining us. You got anything else, babe? I see, come on, that's so good. Anything else that we can share with you guys? We hope that that was beneficial to you and helpful as you navigate your life, your marriage and everything else that encompasses that. So find a place to laugh. Find your place of enjoyment. Don't be so serious. Be intentional. You don't need anything big and elaborate. Learn how to enjoy the small matters of life that God has given you, with the one he's given you to enjoy. Life goes fast, life moves quick, so don't lose moments to misery when you can live in a place of joy and peace.
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