Doing It With The Daniels Podcast
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The $4,000 Wedding That Built a 20-Year Marriage
Marriage is a journey best taken with divine guidance, something we discovered firsthand over our two decades together. Celebrating our 20th anniversary this year prompted us to open up our wedding album and share the authentic, sometimes hilarious truth about our special day.
When we decided to get married, we didn't just follow our feelings. We individually sought God through prayer, receiving separate confirmations that we were meant for each other. This spiritual foundation became crucial as we navigated life together – a practice we strongly recommend for anyone considering marriage. God's tangible presence during our ceremony remains our most cherished wedding day memory, that divine stamp of approval setting the tone for our years together.
Our wedding journey had its amusing moments, particularly when we moved our date up from July to April, prompting immediate pregnancy assumptions from friends and family! With just 14 months from meeting to marriage, we understood their concerns, but we moved forward with confidence in God's direction. The entire celebration cost roughly $4,000, proving you don't need extravagant spending for meaningful beginnings. The night ended not with romantic fireworks but with us crashed out in our hotel room, still in wedding clothes, Burger King wrappers nearby – a perfectly imperfect start that makes us laugh to this day.
Perhaps our most unconventional choice was foregoing a honeymoon to purchase our first home. Closing just two weeks before the wedding, this decision gave us a place to build our family and proved to be an investment we've never regretted. Twenty years later, we can honestly say marriage has been a wonderful rollercoaster – challenging at times but ultimately fulfilling and joyful.
Whether you're newlyweds, celebrating decades together, or still searching for your person, we hope our story encourages you to seek divine guidance, embrace practicality alongside romance, and find humor in the unexpected moments. Ready to strengthen your relationship? Subscribe to hear more authentic conversations about doing life, marriage, and ministry together.
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Really seek God in your relationships and don't just marry somebody or jump into a relationship because you like that person a lot. You can like a lot of people, but it doesn't mean that's the one God has for you. Welcome to Doing it With the Daniels, the podcast where we navigate life, marriage and ministry.
Speaker 2:I'm Charles and I'm Tisa. Join us as we share insights, wisdom and practical advice to strengthen your marriage, empower your life and enrich your ministry.
Speaker 1:Let's dive in together and discover the joys of doing it with the Daniel. Hey, welcome to doing it with the Daniels, where we help couples get it on in life, marriage and ministry. We are so glad to have you join us today.
Speaker 2:Today is exciting. We're having a fun time today.
Speaker 1:Today is exciting. Today is going to be different, very different. Right, are you ready for something different? I?
Speaker 2:am ready.
Speaker 1:Today's episode is kind of an impromptu. We just kind of jumping in, doing our thing, kind of show today, right, so so so, as you know and we've been talking about it for the last few weeks that we are celebrating 20 years of marriage, 20 years of this year yes, 20 years of marriage this year.
Speaker 1:So this is kind of our anniversary edition right. Well, we're not really going to talk about well I mean, we always, I think, drop some good nuggets to help people, but really we're just going to share kind of our marriage journey with people, our wedding, really More of our wedding, because I think in season one we talked about how we met and our journey, but we did go into the wedding day and what that looked like for us, and so today we get to kind of go into our wedding day and talk about that. So what's your fondest memory of the wedding day? The fondest memory of the wedding day, the fondest yeah, I know I'm just throwing it at you, so just just just off top of your head, what's your fondest memory?
Speaker 2:I don't know what's so much going on that day. Um, I think my fondest memory would be um us at the altar and the uh, the pastor, praying for us. I think that was my fondest memory.
Speaker 1:Why was that your fondest memory?
Speaker 2:Because the presence of God came in and it was tangible. It was amazing doing that moment. It was like God sealing it, putting a stamp of approval on it and saying, yeah, I ordain this.
Speaker 1:So I really enjoyed that moment yeah, I, I agree, that was probably, I know, for me, even back then that was kind of my prayer. I said, god, I just want you to approve this wedding, just you show up and just let us know that you're with us as we go forward. And he did that for us. He, he showed up and I don't know what, what happened or why it happened that way, but you're absolutely right, as he was praying for us, the presence of god just filled the room, filled the church, yeah and uh. And then it was like okay, yeah, okay, god is with us we good to go now.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I was excited and I was very pleased with that. I was very thankful to God for that.
Speaker 1:So yeah, now and I will say this we didn't just wait for that approval, we even leading up to it. We may have already talked about in a previous episode, so you gotta have to go back and watch early episodes, but we talked about how we prayed, yes, about even being married. We didn't just jump into this, although some people think we just kind of jumped in.
Speaker 1:It was like oh let's get married for fun. But really we started out I don't even know we were dating, because when I asked you, my girlfriend, you told me no. So I think we were just like friends Liking each other. Yeah, we were liking each other and spending time together.
Speaker 2:A lot of time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, all of that and I don't know. I think I think we decided like, hey, let's look what are we doing here, and we started. We said let's pray about it to see what this is. Should we be together, should we be married or should we stop playing and wasting each other's time? Exactly, and as we begin to pray, god spoke to us and told us yeah, this was it. I think you said he spoke to you first.
Speaker 2:Yeah, he spoke to us separately, I would say that you know he spoke to me. I felt like he spoke to me first.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but you didn't say anything to me.
Speaker 2:No, didn't say anything to you Then you and then it was confirmed by our pastor yeah you know, at church so and it was crazy the way it was done. He was about to dismiss and he stopped and he called us to the front. So it was it was. It was god was in it the whole time.
Speaker 1:I was in the whole way and so it was a blessing. That's why we encourage couples to put god first, like really seek god in your relationships and don't just marry somebody or jump into a relationship because you like that person a lot. You can like a lot of people, but it doesn't mean that's the one God has for you and if you're going to get married, you want to marry the person who God has ordained for your life and God is saying yes, I approve you. To go forward, I still believe kind of old school you can marry who you want to marry. Like like you got freedom of choice. But I still believe kind of the biblical model of where, uh, god brought eve to adam, you know. In other words, god selected his wife and said this is who I have for you. And I believe, in a certain sense, you know, with regard to our culture and current culture, I believe god still has the ability to put us in connection with yeah the one he has ordained for our life's purpose exactly.
Speaker 1:So I think that's a really big deal for me some people take it lightly that's a big deal. I think it's important, and so we encourage any couples that we offer guidance to make sure god is in this exactly at the end of the day, not just y'all like each other. Real good, all right, so anyway. So let's talk about this wedding thing.
Speaker 1:So we decided initially that we were going to get married in I think it was July, right summertime summertime we wanted to be nice weather, so we thought, and all that good stuff, and uh, what ended up happening?
Speaker 2:uh, we moved the date up to april we did, we did.
Speaker 1:Why did we move the date up? Do you remember?
Speaker 2:I think we was just like why are we waiting till july? Yeah we're waiting like we're waiting for yeah, because there was really no reason.
Speaker 1:It was just us picking a date yeah, we just picked a day in july and we was like, okay, this is a good day, we'll jump in, go this, go from here. And um, I mean we had set that day and we started planning for that day, we had booked the church for that day and then all of a sudden uh well, it wasn't all of a sudden one day we were at church and I don't know if I told you I may have told you this. We were at church and I was sitting in the office with our pastor at the time and he said to me you know what's your date? And I told him the date. He's like why so long? Because it was kind of out. He was like why so long? I was like just give us time to plan whatnot.
Speaker 1:He was like I think you need to move that date up. And uh, and I was like really, he was like yeah, yeah, I feel like the lord want y'all to move that up a little bit closer to help y'all. I said okay and I was all for it, because an earlier date means I can touch you sooner. So I was like I believe that's God, pastor. I believe I believe that's God. So, yeah, let's, let's move that date up. And so, kathy, I came to you and was like what you think about moving the date up, and you was like I guess, if you want to, the only thing I was concerned about was probably finances.
Speaker 1:Finances and getting everything organized. But the first thing we did was check the venue, yeah, and it was open and it was open, they let us move the date up at the church. And then we kind of informed everybody else and everybody adjusted and I think people were like why?
Speaker 2:They was like why she pregnant? You know that's the first thing they go to. What's wrong she pregnant. Like why y'all moving this date up? And I think everybody was like cool until we moved the date up. Because they were expecting us to make it to July, what you know. So I was like, yeah, this is interesting, and you know, because we got married quick.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying, so it was in within 14 months 14 months of us meeting.
Speaker 2:You know we got married and I don't think our parents, our families were.
Speaker 1:They weren't ready.
Speaker 2:They wasn't ready because they didn't know me. Yeah, and you know your family didn't know me. My family knew you because we were here and they were around you a lot, so they were okay.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But your folks was like Wait a minute.
Speaker 1:What's the rush? Hold up, I don't know her.
Speaker 2:I don't know if I like her yet. You know all of that. So it was. It was an interesting time I'm laughing about.
Speaker 1:Is she pregnant, like no, she's not pregnant. We just want to move the date up. You know, hey, for me I'm like works, for me, I'm all for it, move it up, and uh. So we did that and we ended up moving it to april april 16th, and we ended up moving it to April April 16th. Right, did I get it right? Yes, april 16th is our anniversary day, and yeah.
Speaker 2:We were trying to maneuver around because I think your dad's birthday is in April and you got. Easter. And I think you know, it's just kind of how that day felt, but then it was like tax day. And so we were like, oh, what are we going to do, how are we going to do this? And we just picked that one.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was just a lot going on, but it worked out. It worked out. It ended up being a beautiful day. It was a beautiful day. The weather was nice. I mean, everything was really nice, even people traveling from different places. It turned out really good on that day. It on that day. So let's let's talk through it. So let's talk about this calls, because everybody looks at their wedding and they consider calls what? What would you say? What was our calls like? Did we spend a lot of money because we had a nice wedding?
Speaker 1:I mean, the church setting was nice already. Yeah, um, just everything was really nice. How much money did we spend? Yeah, not a lot not a not a lot compared to what people are spending now yes, yes and um.
Speaker 2:I don't regret that no, not at all.
Speaker 1:Not at all. I think we've often said, if we could do it over, we would actually yeah, we'd actually do it a little different. Like you know what it was cool we spent about? We spent about four thousand dollars, I think it was about four thousand dollars, yeah, for our entire wedding everything just paid like no loans, no borrowing.
Speaker 1:You know nothing yeah, I think the only thing we had left to pay after the wedding was the photographer right, and I think my mother ended up paying that for us and covering that. But that was pretty much it. That was it. Yeah, that was pretty much it, and I mean I'm happy with it. I think the biggest cost was what most people end up paying for. Well, now it's different. The biggest cost for us was food.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Catered food, being able to feed everybody, all of our guests. That was the significant cost. The church, which was a blessing, was free. We weren't charged for the church, even the fellowship hall. We weren't charged to use the fellowship hall. We had to pay, like we said, for food. We had to pay for our wedding planner, we had to pay for flowers. Photographer, photographer, the videographer was free.
Speaker 2:I think we had maybe, like, did we have some columns maybe?
Speaker 1:probably rented some columns, yeah, or some kind of little decorations, but it wasn't a lot of decoration because the church didn't need a lot of stuff to look nice. But we had a little bit here and there, but for the most part it was food. It was, it was food, yep, and uh, you know, we had to get out that tuxedo for me and, tyler, your dress.
Speaker 2:And it wasn't expensive.
Speaker 1:We didn't buy expensive stuff, we didn't rent expensive things, it just wasn't. You can make it look nice without being overly expensive, like now some people spending $50,000, $60,000, $70,000, $80,000 on a wedding and coming out of that wedding date in debt yeah, and I'm glad we didn't do that. I don't recommend doing that now, I mean unless that's just what you want to do and you don't mind bills. You know we don't like bills, we don't like debt, so that's just not our thing. But it was really nice on that day, um, doing that, being able to pay and be done with it and not have the stress of all that. Um, I will tell people now what, what, what advice would you give for? I say that, what advice would you give people now regarding how much they spend on a wedding?
Speaker 2:Well, you know people, I feel like people are going to do what they want to do. And sometimes people have this dream of what they dream that their wedding is going to be like, and so I I try not to give people advice. I pretty much tell them to do whatever they want to do, because I don't want people to have regrets, right, you know, and sometimes if they listen to this person or that person, they'll be like well, I wish I would have did this, because this is what I really wanted to do.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know. So I just try to tell people, you know, I tell them my story but then I tell them hey, this is your day, so, whatever you want to do, what, what do your? What do you think, your day, you know what is. What does that look like?
Speaker 1:for you.
Speaker 2:You know what do you envision, what do you envision your day to look like, and you know what do you want, and so I feel like you know those two spouses need to talk about what they want during that time. So I don't like to tell people don't do this and don't do that, and you know so. It's just hard. You know you want people to do what they want to do.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I can agree with that. I think that's wisdom in that. I think for me I'd be just throwing out advice.
Speaker 2:I'd be like leave these folks alone. Let them do what they want to do. But I understand, at the same time you're trying to give them wisdom on. You know this is one day.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:This is one day. This is your day. You can still make it look nice and it can be nice, but you don't have to spend so much money.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like you, you said unless that's what you want to do, unless that's what they want. You know, some people got it like that. They got it, go for it. Yeah, and it's their dream day. Yeah, so, like you said, it's your dream day. Make your dream a reality. I think for us, looking back now, in hindsight we often say it's 2020. I think, looking back, for us, we just would have done some things different. Um, I think we often talk about I don't know how serious we are, but we often say we could have done a destination wedding. Yeah, say hey, whoever can get there, get there. We're going here, we're gonna get married and we come back. That's a wrap yeah, you know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I and I always go back in my mind about um having the wedding, you know, out of town. Yeah, you know. Sometimes I wonder you know out of town. Yeah, you know, sometimes I wonder you know what would it have been? Like if we would have did it here instead of there, yeah, but. I think I was trying to give you, you know, something going back to where you were from, instead of you know everything being here.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know, at the end of the day, we don't know what we were doing.
Speaker 2:We were just, we were young and we were just getting it done and the cheapest way possible.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we just kind of just, we just did, did it. You know, it wasn't a whole lot of oh, it's got to be this, got to be that. It's just we just made it happen, you know, and so for us it works. Yeah, that may not work for everybody. Some people are very meticulous and I want it this way and I want it here and I want this. We just weren't like that. No, so, and I'm happy with it, I'm I'm pleased with our wedding day.
Speaker 2:I was cool with, so you can look back at our pictures and be okay with that and not feel no kind of way.
Speaker 1:No, not at all I don't feel any kind of way about our wedding day. All I wanted for me, I just wanted you. I wanted god to be with us and I just wanted to marry you. Everything else was not important to me. It just didn't matter. Because here we are, 20 years later, and it's still just me and you.
Speaker 1:Yeah that's right and all of what happened and all the people, it's still just me and you. It's been me and you. Yeah. So for me going into it, that's all it was. It was just you. Seeing you come down that aisle, having you stand next to me shaking yeah, you were shaking having us look in each other's eyes and commit to to be together yeah, forever, for the rest of our lives. That was that's the only thing I wanted.
Speaker 2:I just wanted you. That's so sweet.
Speaker 1:And I still got you. But since you mentioned looking back at the pictures and all of that, I got a surprise for you.
Speaker 2:Come on, dug it out.
Speaker 1:Got the wedding book, the wedding book From 20 years ago. So look, let me see, see, let me show the people y'all may not be able to see this anyway, this is our wedding book. You're so crazy, blow the dust off of it. So look, let me see here. Oh, let me see. Oh yeah, I gotta read this. So this is what. This is what we wrote about each other. Oh, this is good.
Speaker 2:That's all I guess didn't we write that about each other?
Speaker 1:that was a scripture no, it's not a script. We wrote this about each other. This, this was your sentiment I think we got that off the internet I don't know where we got it from, I don't know, but anyway it was for us, she said. And answer prayer he is to me. My greatest blessing shall always be, and so this day will pledge our love in front of friends and God above. Oh, that was good right there. That was good, did we?
Speaker 2:get off.
Speaker 1:Was Google around. Okay, when do you think we got married?
Speaker 2:20 years ago, I hope.
Speaker 1:Google was around, I don't know, I can't remember, maybe. So Okay, so here we go. We got pictures. So, listen, we know, as we're going through this, we're just going to kind of walk through this a little bit. Y'all can't see this, but we'll try to put some pictures up so y'all can see what we're talking about here. But we're looking at the sign in front of the church. We got married at True Light Church of April 16th and I love this saying Look I know it has nothing to do with our wedding.
Speaker 2:They didn't have our names up there. Congratulations, Charles and Tisa.
Speaker 1:But what they had? This look, they had church the next day, so they were operating as a church. On the sign it said gossip runs down more people than cars. So when people pulled up to our wedding, that's what they saw Gossip runs down more people than cars. So when people pulled up to our wedding, that's what they saw Gossip runs down more people than cars.
Speaker 2:Meaning shut your mouth.
Speaker 1:That's right. Quit talking about people. Look, that was fitting If you got a problem with this wedding. Look, be quiet. So they got pictures of the church here, which is really good. Then they got your boy. They got your boy standing there. They got your boy looking all good with the tux on, smiling.
Speaker 2:That's a nice picture of you.
Speaker 1:You like that.
Speaker 2:Look at all that hair. I wish y'all could see that Look. Oh, my goodness. You still look cute man.
Speaker 1:Thank you, thank you, thank you, come on. Oh, you still look cute, man. Thank you, thank you thank you, come on.
Speaker 2:Oh, look at this little guy right here the little guy.
Speaker 1:That's the little guy at a wedding party, tyler dunn 20 years ago, so he had to be. If he's 25 now, he was five when we got married he was five turns yeah yeah, like I said, we'll show y'all some pictures so y'all can see.
Speaker 1:This is just us reminiscing over our wedding day 20 years ago, as we celebrate our anniversary this year. Yeah, my sister, come on Kim and charity. Oh, that's so cute. Oh, come on, pops Me and my dad, my dad, 20. My dad, he's 80 this year. He's turning 80 this year, so that means he was like 60. Getting ready to turn 60. Look how young he looking.
Speaker 2:Very young, he still look good, he still look good.
Speaker 1:Got a little extra weight on him, buddy, just a tad, but still look good. He still look good. Got a little extra weight on him buddy, just a tad.
Speaker 2:Just a tad, yeah, but he look all right.
Speaker 1:Oh, there go the bride right there. How you going to skip? You trying to skip the picture of the bride.
Speaker 2:Ooh, trying to skip. Ooh, you know some of these pictures. I was like I got tired of smiling. Ooh, lord, yeah you smiling.
Speaker 1:Oh lord, you still get tired of smiling now, after so many pictures. You'd be like you look beautiful though, babe oh thank you? Oh, I keep trying to turn my page okay, I got you going I got every picture right here you. Oh, look at the back. Come on, got the back out on the dress, you being fast that day.
Speaker 2:I was not. That's a very classy dress.
Speaker 1:You know the old thing. I'm going to show all this skin.
Speaker 2:What kind of dress you want me to have.
Speaker 1:You cover from here you reparatin.
Speaker 2:I thought I did pick one that was very covered.
Speaker 1:No, it's beautiful. I like the dress. I like you in the dress. Thank you, it's very nice what else we got. Who else in here?
Speaker 2:My grandparents. Come on, grandparents. Granddaddy will be 90 this year on his birthday.
Speaker 1:Wow, so he was 70. Well, get ready to be 70. When we got married and my mama and Mr George Come on, they look good. Come on, that's my sweet mother-in-law. Come on, there you go, pastor Harris. Really appreciate him Took time to counsel us. He did that's another thing we encourage people to do.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Listen before you get married go to counseling Get the tool.
Speaker 1:Counseling is not to say you don't know how to have a great marriage Although we could say that, because none of us, I don't believe, know how to go into a marriage, and just you just do it right. So go get the tools and the strategies that are tested and proven to help you succeed in your marriage. Don't just jump in and think you're going to do what your parents did and it's going to work for you. It may not work that way or you may do what others did. Some of us didn't have healthy examples in marriage right some of you never saw your parents married.
Speaker 1:So go, go talk to somebody that can give you guidance. I'm talking about a true counseling or a spiritual advising type program for marriage that will, that will equip you to have a successful marriage. And that's what pastor harris did for us. He took the time to minister to us, to teach us. He and his wife, mother harris, they sat with us and they talked to us about marriage. They gave us a whole outline, yeah, of marriage and and and. When we started guiding and offering guidance and counsel to couples, that that outline that they gave us was was one of the first things we drew from. Yeah, to begin helping others, and we just expanded on it from there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was good, it was really good.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh, yeah for that, yeah, it's nothing like having godly wisdom. Marriage is an institution that was established by god, so if god created, you're going to need God to do it the way God wants it done and to be successful at it. I just believe that. I have a conviction about that. I push people to do that. Come on, look at you and your daddy. He took great pride in walking you down that aisle.
Speaker 2:He did, he did, he's so sweet.
Speaker 1:Come on, there we go at the altar. Babe, you was up there just shaking, I was shaking. Oh, if y'all could have seen my wife on that day, she would just.
Speaker 2:I was nervous.
Speaker 1:I'm like, babe, why are you shaking? I'm just nervous. What were you nervous about? Were you afraid that you was making the wrong decision?
Speaker 2:I mean, you never know.
Speaker 2:It's a, it's a risk, so you don't know, and I think that this, this is the decision that you need to take very serious, like this ain't for play, like this ain't for fun, this ain't like, oh, I'm getting married, like this is a serious thing, because you're making a covenant or oath before God, like I just was, like you know, and I wanted it to be one time, and it's a risk, like I don't know if you're gonna flip out on me. I, you know, you just don't know, I don't know if you're gonna flip out on me. Okay, well, that's why I'm not up there, like, yeah, I'm up there, like I don't know. So I just, I really took it serious and you know, I was just nervous, yeah.
Speaker 1:I think, and I think that's it's. We say nerves, but it was a healthy nervousness because it was around just making sure you know you're connecting your life to the right person.
Speaker 2:And not only that, it's not all about you, but am I ready? Yeah, you know, because it's's a big, it's a big thing, it's not you know nothing that you just enter in. I think people just like the I'm getting married and they're so excited in the wedding and it's just all about the wedding and all of that. And you know people be wedding, wedding, wedding, wedding wedding, just everything about that and not about what you're about to enter into. So so I was just like no.
Speaker 1:So this is where we jump in, and we came down to light the unity candle. That's when the two flames become one flame.
Speaker 2:Oh, we're getting ready to do that, and the individual, flame ceases to burn forever. So we're getting ready to do that now. He must be talking.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you got that, look on your face like, am I sure, do I really want to do this?
Speaker 2:there, it is right lightning, right yeah that's where we lit it one.
Speaker 1:The two flames became one. That's a beautiful shot right burning come on, look at that.
Speaker 2:See, that looks really nice yeah, just yeah, it wasn't nothing you can see everything.
Speaker 1:It's really nice. And then, oh, there it is, there's the finale. Come on, it's done now we need to, we need to remake that we need to remake that yeah, just the kiss part. We ain't got dressed up okay just the kiss.
Speaker 2:Look at tyler oh, that's tyler at like what are they?
Speaker 1:doing and then we kind of walk out. It was good and we went to. We took some more pictures afterwards and I think you know I really love the way people do it. Now I don't think people do like the keep the bride concealed they have what they call the first look.
Speaker 1:Yeah, first look where it's just them two together yeah, and then they can kind of do pictures if they want to, to kind of kill all these pictures after because we took a lot of pictures afterwards and it took a lot of time, yeah, and I guess our food was cold. I guess we're waiting for a while, you know? Hey, it was our day, we did what we had to do, but that's just the way it was done back yeah, it's a better way to do it.
Speaker 1:I think people do it better now, so that's good. So at the end we kind of went downstairs of the church, we had a nice fellowship hall set up, we ate. We had a nice wedding cake. Your cake you had like three tiers and you know they say traditionally you take that top tier and you keep it. We kept our top tier and we froze it for a year. I don't know how many couples really do that, but we did it. Yeah. But when we took it out that a year later we had no desire to eat it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we were like we straight, we thought it out.
Speaker 1:It's like I'm not eating this, you know, but uh, but we did keep it and it was kind of a reminder that first year we made it a year of marriage and it was good, it was exciting, whoo. Just to sit back and reflect.
Speaker 2:It's been a year.
Speaker 1:You know, even now, 20 years later, to sit back and reflect on that day.
Speaker 2:It's just like man we really did that.
Speaker 1:you know, we talked about earlier the cost of it and and all that you do, but the day was like that yes, it goes by so fast it was here and gone like gone and it's like wow it goes by so fast, and I think that's why you're so adamant on telling people don't spend a lot of money man, eighty thousand dollars for that, that's.
Speaker 2:That's the quickest way to spend it's more so, I think, the reception it's like a party you know, and so that's where the bulk of the money comes in family really came out and supported yeah, we had a lot of support from my family.
Speaker 1:That was really good. Oh, don't leave out nana. She was mad she wouldn't smile at first because we uh we waited to the end to do pictures with her.
Speaker 2:Take a picture with her.
Speaker 1:And she was like y'all take a picture with everybody else and then save me for last. I don't want no picture. But she finally smiled and got with the program. But it was so good to have her there. Yeah, she's deceased now and miss her. Just her love. The love that she showed was, you know, incomparable. But it was good to be able to have this memory that my grandmother was present when we made this major decision in our life.
Speaker 2:You know that meant a lot. She got to see you get married.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm. All right, this is wedding party Wedding wedding party and then you get down to the reception. There's a wedding cake, your cake, my little bride cake and the groom cake.
Speaker 2:That was so nice it was good, so we had a.
Speaker 1:We had a great time, had a few fireworks. Yeah, my grandmother, she was in a wheelchair. They almost they let. She almost went rolling down the hill.
Speaker 2:The church sits on a hill. The church sits on a big hill and, um, and it was my, my cousin, who actually ran. I think she took her shoes off or something no, that was your aunt.
Speaker 1:So my uncle was trying to carry her down to get to the fellowship hall and lost his grip and she was moving kind of quickly in the wheelchair and your aunt ran and was able to catch her and stop. Stop it from being catastrophic yes, thank god for that.
Speaker 2:Oh, I thank god for that. Yeah, oh, that's pretty picture. Come on, I love when you say a few fireworks a few fireworks.
Speaker 1:Hey was what it was. It was, but it was good. Everything was wonderful. Yeah, and, like I said, this is great. Even just going back and reflecting, it's almost like you relive it over Now, towards the end of our wedding day. You remember it was crazy. Everybody left, except us. Yes, everybody left, our limo. What happened to the limo? The?
Speaker 2:limo was late or something. It was an accident or something.
Speaker 1:Something happened.
Speaker 2:Something about traffic or an accident. The limo was late getting to us.
Speaker 1:So everybody was gone.
Speaker 2:Everybody was gone. We didn't get a. You know how you do the fireworks or the send off and you're running down the aisle and everybody's like screaming.
Speaker 1:We did none. None of that. It was like we just walked to the limo, just me and you, yeah, like everybody was gone. We walked to the limo, limo took us to the hotel and we got to the hotel and we crashed out.
Speaker 1:Crash in our clothes we were so tired I know everybody and see this is maybe I shouldn't tell people this, maybe it ruins the day for them. But not just us, but a lot of couples have had this experience. We, we got back to the hotel and we were hungry. I remember my friend daniel he was like we called him. I was like, man, we hungry, we don't have any transportation because the limo took us there. And he was like what y'all need? It was like we don't know, it was late. He was like, well, nothing's really open but burger king. And so we ate burger king in the hotel, laid in the hotel bed with our clothes on and went to sleep, went to sleep, passed out and after we were talking all that trash about, ooh, the wedding night is going to be on. You know how people think ooh, can't wait for the wedding night, our wedding night. We went to sleep.
Speaker 2:Sleep, we was tired, it was just. I mean, that day just really wears you it wore us out.
Speaker 1:We didn't mean to go to sleep, no, I think we laid down and we were just talking and next thing we were asleep and we woke up in the middle of the night. Remember, we woke each other up in the middle of the night. We took off our clothes, put on our pajamas and went back to sleep like so over all of this. So everybody's like man, the wed night gonna be.
Speaker 1:The wed night was a night of rest rest and relaxation and recuperation we was like, hey, we got the rest of our lives for all the, all the other stuff. We tired but but it was just good. It was good, I mean, just that relief of we did it. We got it done. We did it. We are together. You stuck with me forever, and here it is, 20 years later 20 years later, you're still stuck with me.
Speaker 2:Hey, I'm glad I wouldn't change it. I'm glad to be stuck with you. Yeah, me too.
Speaker 1:It was good though it was, it was good anything else, you just go, you just going down memory lane again, just flipping through we already looked at it anyway thank y'all for joining us. We hope you've enjoyed just hearing us share our journey over the last 20 years and what our wedding day was like 20 years ago. So this year we're celebrating 20 years of marriage and we're just grateful and thankful to God that he's allowed us to come to this place. We we can both say we've had a good marriage.
Speaker 2:Yes, you agree with that, I agree with that we've had a good marriage over 20.
Speaker 1:It has not been 20 hard years. It hasn't been 20 miserable years. It's been 20 loving years, though it's had its challenges. I don't want to ever create the idea that that, yeah, that is perfect. It hasn't been perfect, it hasn't been without challenges, but God has been with us and it has been a good I would say really a great and a wonderful experience that I would not trade right, I wouldn't change, appreciate, um, doing life with you yeah, I think we've been, it's been, it's been good.
Speaker 2:Like you said, fun, exciting. You know a lot of ups and a lot of downs and you know, I think we always say it's like a roller coaster it is, it is, man, it is, and you just got to strap me in and and hang on for the ride the velocico, almost like the Velocicoaster, that's what I say.
Speaker 1:Well, I was sick after that. After my first round on that, I thought I was going to go through. And there's some times in marriage you feel like.
Speaker 2:You know, I just think about that how you know you go through that tunnel and it speeds up really fast, and then you know it kind of Wait a minute.
Speaker 1:You talking about the velocicos or?
Speaker 2:the hulk, the velocicos, it's got a tunnel. Yeah, you go through that little thing and it goes fast.
Speaker 1:I almost closed my eyes because I was sick. I don't know it was fun though I just think about the hulk when you come out where it goes up slow. That's how marriage starts. So I tell, oh, this is nice, and then you better hold on for the ride.
Speaker 2:We love universe studios, as you guys can see.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah anyway, we just being silly now. Anyway, I love you. I'm so glad you stuck with me all these years and I'm excited about the next 20 years. We still young. I still got a lot, a lot of energy, a lot of life left in me, so I hope you do too. I do.
Speaker 2:So we make the these next 20 better than the first yeah, we didn't tell them about the, the what we went after the wedding oh, lord Jesus, okay, tell them where we went.
Speaker 1:No, we'll tell them later no, don't tell them where we went. No, no, we in here. Come on, we're gonna wrap up. Tell them about. Tell them about the honeymoon, the destination honeymoon the destination honeymoon was. Casa de Daniels. So instead of instead of going on a honeymoon, we actually bought a home. So about what was it about? Two weeks, two weeks before our wedding day, we closed on a home, and so when we left the hotel after our wedding, we didn't get on a plane and go out of town islands.
Speaker 2:This is all that, yeah we.
Speaker 1:We opted. We was like honeymoon house. We chose a house. We're like we get more out of a house and we'll do a honeymoon later. We bought a house and when we came home, we came home to our house, our very first home that we purchased, and it was a blessing. I mean, I wouldn't change that, to be honest with you. No, I'm grateful if I had to go on a honeymoon and come back to an apartment. Uh, no, I wouldn't be happy with that. But I'm pleased with the investment that we made. I'm pleased with the payoff when we sold it and I was really glad that we did it. After we did, I was like, yeah, this is the right move right here.
Speaker 1:So so it was a blessing. So we bought a home. So you got to always think about what your next move is, what you want to, what you want to do in your life, and and thank God for our pastor who was preaching home ownership to us and teaching god wants you to own land, to own property, and so that's that's really what led us, because we were looking for an apartment, but we just felt um a tugging or nudging from the holy spirit that we needed to go look for a house to have a home, yeah, and so we just started looking, not you know what we were doing we had no clue.
Speaker 2:No, idea and we just kind of god just took us step by step yep, he put us with the right agent.
Speaker 1:He opened the door for us gave us favor they was all kind of favor and next thing we know we were home on crazy yeah, so we went into the marriage with a home and where we could build our family, and it's like I said, god has been with us all the way. I'm grateful for it. All right, look, I think that's it. Let's wrap this up. We love y'all. Thank y'all again. We can't wait to see you next time for doing it with the Daniels. Take care, god bless. Hey, thank you for joining us for doing it with the Daniels.
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