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Embracing Audacity: Efia Sulter on Mindset, Manifestation, and Personal Empowerment
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Embracing Audacity: Efia Sulter on Mindset, Manifestation and Personal Empowerment.
Efia Sulter, a mindset and manifestation coach, joins us for an inspiring conversation about personal transformation and empowerment. Efia shares her bold journey from Scotland to Australia, turning a one-year plan into an eight-year adventure of self-discovery. Her story of pivoting from a master's degree in digital marketing to becoming a beacon of empowerment for women will resonate with anyone seeking their true calling. We reflect on our own surprising relocations to the land down under, where life unfolded in unexpected but rewarding ways.
Our discussion with Efia takes a fascinating turn as we explore the integration of breathwork and hypnotherapy in mindset coaching. The pandemic may have halted travel, but it fueled Efia's passion for supporting others through subconscious work. Together, we unravel common misconceptions about manifestation and highlight the empowering effects of combining hypnotherapy with breathwork. Efia's approach is all about making personal growth accessible and stripping away the jargon to help everyone tap into their inner potential.
Wrapping up, we dive into the essence of living in alignment with personal values and the joys of embracing playfulness. Efia and our conversation underscore the power of audacity and reclaiming personal agency. We share practical tips on aligning your professional and personal life with your intrinsic values, punctuated by personal anecdotes of transformation. With book recommendations and heartfelt reflections, we end the episode by encouraging our listeners to pursue their dreams with audacity and joy, fostering a community of empowerment and support
Book recommendations -
The happiest man on earth - Eddie Jaku
We should all be millionaires - Rachel Rodgers
Efia - Live a life in alignment with your values
Efia - Your deepest level of change is your identity, behaviour, actions then environment
Jules - If we can bring more love and light into our journey it will amplify those parts of us
IG - alignwithefia
Podcast - The Manifest Edit
Website - www.efiasulter.com
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Speaker 1:Hello beautiful humans.
Speaker 2:Today we are welcomed by. I can't even get it right, it's been a hot minute. Today, we are welcomed by Effia Salter. Hi, effia.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so hi, I'm Effia. I'm a mindset and manifestation coach and also host of the Manifest Edit podcast, and really my mission with my work is to empower women to stop self-abandoning themselves, reignite their spark and connect with that innate magic that is within all of us.
Speaker 2:This is gonna be a cool episode yeah, we're reading over your jot form again last night and, uh, it just rained through. Always the season that we're going through or something that we need to hear, daylene and I it just like comes forward with our guests, so we're excited amen, oh, I'm excited and you're tuning in from Melbourne today yeah, so I'm based in Melbourne.
Speaker 3:I've been living here for the past eight years now, but I'm actually from Scotland ah, I can hear the accent now.
Speaker 2:That was the first time I picked it up. I'm from Canada, um, and I was in Melbourne as well. I had moved, uh gosh, nearly 10 years now. Eight, nine and a half years ago. Yeah, yeah, it'll be 10 years in March. Wow, crazy, crazy, it flies, doesn't it?
Speaker 4:yeah, it goes very quickly what made you move to Australia?
Speaker 3:um, so I had been studying for, you know, I'd gone for school and then I'd gone to do my first degree and then, immediately after finishing my first degree, within the next six months, I went back to study my master's. And it's funny because when I finished my first degree, I'm like I would never, ever study again. And then, six months later, here I was doing it, but it actually came about from a place of not a super empowered place, but more from a perspective of I didn't really know what to do next and I knew I was good at studying. So I'm like, oh, like, why didn't I just do this? And I think that's something like a lot of people can relate to of like, oh well, I guess I should just do this, or this is what I'm supposed to do, or this is what I'm good at. So I guess I should follow this path.
Speaker 3:And actually it was a very challenging year for me and it immediately became apparent that maybe I shouldn't have gone back to school to study that degree. And it was a very stressful time for me and I knew that after finishing my master's I didn't want to go straight into a career. I wanted to take some time out to focus on myself and to kind of play a little bit as well. So I ended up deciding with a friend who was kind of feeling similar, that we were going to move to Australia for a year together, something I was so excited about and also knew very little about. I'm just like, yes, let's move to Australia. And three weeks before I was due to leave, actually, my friend ended up saying I'm not coming, so you should just go by yourself. And I ended up going by myself and one year turned into eight years.
Speaker 4:Oh, my god, that is so cool. Redirection as well. Like, yeah, your path probably would have been different if she came over with you. So how cool is that? But it's like the. It's so typical. I live in like a holiday destination, like in Airlie Beach, and everyone that moves here is like, oh, it was like the typical. Um, it was the typical like thing. They'll come here for a holiday or they're backpacking and then they stayed here. It's so funny, I love that.
Speaker 3:Airlie Beach is beautiful. I remember being there and like my backpacking in Australia times oh yeah, we're so similar.
Speaker 2:I did the same um finished my master's and then was like, yeah, I'm gonna go to Australia for six months to a year, um, and just travel and, you know, do a bit of CRT work. And yeah, here I am. Same similar um also went back to an early beach when I first got here. But wasn't it so funny, did people?
Speaker 3:say to you before you moved about the four seasons in one day thing. No, because you know what? It wasn't actually my decision to move to Melbourne. I had. We'd always kind of talked about starting in Sydney and going up the East Coast. And then at one point my friend was like well, if we are starting in Sydney, we're never going to go back to come back to Melbourne. So why don't we just like add Melbourne at the beginning of the trip and then we'll go from there? And then I started in Melbourne and then I just never left. So I didn't realize. I got here. One of the first things I did was buy a jacket. I was not prepared at all because I'd come from Thailand as well. I'd come from Chiang.
Speaker 2:Mai, where it was like 30 degrees humid. And then I arrived in Melbourne, and this isn't the Australia that I was dreaming about.
Speaker 3:What is this? I was like what is this?
Speaker 2:weather, but yeah, crazy wild such similar journeys insane yeah, and so what's your master's in? Um digital marketing oh cool that's cool oh yeah, I love that, so are you doing something with that now?
Speaker 3:I feel like it comes in useful to my business. But I learned and is one of the reasons why I felt like the degree had kind of I don't want to say a mistake but I felt like if I I could have chosen differently. But because I'd finished my undergrad was in media, so it was along a similar vein. And then when, while I was studying digital marketing, I thought I'm not actually sure if I want to work in digital marketing, because to me I'm very much a creative person and I love, like, the creative side, the writing side, and when you're actually working in digital marketing, obviously it's very much focused on the analytic side and the technological side, which wasn't what had drew me in. So, yeah, I obviously used some aspects of that in in marketing my business, but, uh, in terms of following a digital marketing role, it really just wasn't in my path how long did you do studying for for that?
Speaker 4:It's so intriguing.
Speaker 3:So the master's was one year and then my undergrad was four years. Oh wow, Jesus. Lots to learn.
Speaker 2:How are you able to utilize that with like, instagram and stuff like that? Like, does it help you with your business?
Speaker 3:a lot In some ways, yes, but I think the kind of pitfalls of a digital marketing degree is that it's moving so quickly. So everything that I learned back then in like 2016 is definitely, like pretty much redundant by now. So maybe in the terms of like structuring some like reports or how to use specific processes but TikTok wasn't out then. Instagram isn't being used the way that it is being used now, and those are all things I feel like you don't really learn from a technological standpoint. You learn from engaging with those platforms.
Speaker 2:So so yeah, yes and no interesting and um, do you want to tell us a bit about your business? I'm so intrigued about that. How did you get?
Speaker 3:into it. Initially I had, as I'd been studying digital marketing, I decided well, you know, I've done this degree. Now I should start a business in digital marketing. Because I was living in Australia at this point and in my mind, where I was at this point was 2016. I still thought I was going to be going back to Scotland in a year. So I'm like, okay, well, I've come over here and I've experienced this amazing way of living. I don't then want to go back to Scotland and feel like I'm pigeonholed into one thing. So I'd love to start my own business. Then I'm able to travel and I'm able to to like kind of connect with people in the way that I want to connect with people.
Speaker 3:And again, it was one of those paths I'd gone down because I felt like I should not because I was actually passionate about it. And yeah, I got to this point in my digital marketing business and I was working with a coach at the time and it was just this moment of realization where I think she said just like something simple of like, do you really want to be doing this? And I was like no and um, just having someone else ask me and having the space where it was actually safe to say like, no, this isn't what I want to be doing, and so she had said, well, why don't you just give things a pause for a month and then if you want to go back, that's totally fine, and if you don't want to go back, then you have your answer. And then so I took that pause for the month and it was immediately apparent that, yeah, this was not something that I wanted to go back to. So after that, I was actually focusing on travel blogging, specifically solo travel blogging, and I had even got to the point where I'd written an e-book on solo travel, released that e-book in March 2020. And then everything changed and no one was traveling anywhere for a considerable amount of time.
Speaker 3:And during this time, I was actually supporting women through a Facebook group that I had, and it was kind of about the the mindset behind blogging and influencing, because what I had found was, as a micro influencer or even a nano influencer, people were really underplaying what they had to bring to the table.
Speaker 3:So I was working with, like the New Zealand tourist board or the Berlin tourist board people like you have like a thousand followers. How are you getting these incredible opportunities? And it was really a mindset that I had to well, that's not the only thing that I bring to the table or that I can offer, so I was helping people with that and also the the confidence to to show up, put yourself out there, and then so, as the kind of travel portion of my business tied down, I was still doing these calls to support people through COVID and that kind of very naturally evolved into into mindset coaching and so have you done any um, like courses or anything, or you've just sort of let it go naturally and used your own life experience so for the first year or so I would say that I didn't do any courses and then, as I was using tools to help myself, I wanted to then have those skills to support my clients with.
Speaker 2:So I've done my life and success coaching, neurolinguistic programming and also hypnotherapy as well you do love to study, girl, I know I do I love that I've just had my first hypnotherapy session a few weeks ago actually, and it was yeah, it was mind-blowing what our subconscious mind, you know, kind of holds back from us in order to protect us, and how that can impact who we are in the here and now.
Speaker 3:Wild. I think it's something else that I find really interesting about hypnotherapy and also subconscious work in general, because when I think people talk about shadow work and moving through the limiting beliefs, people often focus on the negative aspects of where you can or you shouldn't or won't. But shadow work is also like aspects of your light, aspects of your gifts, that you're not willing to face. So through things like hypnotherapy and subconscious work, it can release blocks around those so that you're able to to see, see these elements of yourself, which I think is really powerful yeah, for me, it was definitely my power, my worth and, um, yeah, just trusting myself and trusting my intuition.
Speaker 2:So the second I get that niggling feeling trust. It know it. Like you know, it's never let me down in the past, but through not trusting it, I'm then losing trust with myself. So those were some really powerful key things that came forward during the session, um, and that I've been, yeah, looking into post-session as well. Yeah, we do, we focus so often on those negative patterns and those negative shadows, but it's like if we can bring more love and light into our journey, it's going to amplify those things within us. Yeah, wild, I love it, so fulfilling. And so what's next for you now? Just to continue down that path? Do you have another course that you, you know you're signing up to?
Speaker 3:well, I am actually kind of um toying with um a breathwork course. Breathwork is something that I've been practicing a lot. I feel it also goes hand in hand with hypnotherapy and I would like to combine, like some of my hypnotherapy teachings with breathwork so I help people go even deeper. And I do also want to do more in-person work and I feel like breathwork sessions are great. Like people can immediately feel like the physiological changes of breathwork. With hypnotherapy it's one of my favorite tools. But I think a lot of the lessons come about not even like that first day that you do it. You know it feels relaxing and you feel different, but you haven't properly integrated those lessons yet and it's something that comes over time, whereas with breath work I feel like in the moment that's an instantaneous change that can take as little as 30 seconds and I feel it's something that people still don't really understand. Like I took my boyfriend to the, the wellness studio where I study breath workout, and he was like we're just gonna breathe. He didn't really like he didn't really understand.
Speaker 3:So I think it's one of those things and and part of the reason why I'm so passionate about the work I do is because I do think that there are a lot of misconceptions around even the word manifestation. I think people have a lot of resistance to to using that term of oh we'll manifest, but make sure you're taking action, when actually action is a huge part of the manifestation piece. So I always enjoy learning about these tools and then kind of talking about them in a way that is more relatable and digestible to people who who haven't been in the work. It's like when you study a course and you come out and you have all of this like fancy lingo but the average person who hasn't taken that course isn't going to resonate with that language.
Speaker 3:So, although that lesson may be really powerful to them, you have to interpret it in a way that that person's going to understand.
Speaker 4:Amen yeah, it's like you have to like simplify it in order to teach people. Yeah, and it's a process learning all that stuff too, like and understanding the lingo and stuff, especially subconscious mind. There's so many layers to all that stuff. Um, when you were saying that, I actually have a friend, um, that has started like a method called hypnobreath, so he incorporates hypno and breathwork. Um, I'll send you his profile. He I'm pretty sure he runs a course for it as well. Um, so that might be your next course. But yeah, he integrates the hypno and the breath work together. So really cool.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's what my GP did. I did it with my GP and he's been doing it, he said, for 20 years now.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And he incorporated breath work into it as well, and it was really like I was on another dimension of my, like I was just I was gone. Yeah, that's wild, isn't? It was just I was gone, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:And it's amazing how powerful we are within ourselves um like the tools that we have or that we can learn to support ourselves. And that's the thing is developing your own toolkit, because you know, breath work might work incredible for me, but it might not resonate with someone else, and that's the same. A lot of people will feel like meditation. They're like, oh, I just can't do it, and we've mentioned in a previous podcast. Then try walking meditation, you know if you still need to move your body at the same time there are lots of different ways that you can just build your own toolkit and what works well for you, amen.
Speaker 3:Yes, I think that's super important is that we are not cutting ourselves off from this experience, and you made a really valid point there that not one style is going to work with everyone. Like I am obsessed with meditation, like I adore it. And um, have you heard of the app insight timer?
Speaker 3:yeah, so one feature that I love about insight timer is it will tell you how many consecutive days that you've done so I've been. I think I'm up to nearly my 2000th consecutive day now. Um, because I just yeah, I mean, once you're getting up building up those days like you don't, you don't want to stop, but now it's gone beyond that to well, this is something that just massively impacts my day, but I know that not everyone is going to have the same relationship as I have with it. It might look like a walking meditation, it might look like moments of presence in the shower, so I feel it can be very limiting when people are just like well, I just can't do it. Or journaling, for example I connect with it most when writing, and that's what I'd recommend for people, but that can also be.
Speaker 3:maybe you write an email to yourself or you record a voice note and you go for a walk there are so many different ways, and part of that is allowing yourself to play and see what works for you and remaining open to experiences, because not everything is going to be for everyone, but you also get to choose how something works for you exactly, exactly, amen.
Speaker 2:And yeah, insight timer is great. I can't believe that. 2,000 days, 2,000 sessions, wow, if that's not a habit that's already, yeah, ingrained.
Speaker 4:I don't know, that's amazing.
Speaker 1:How many minutes, do you?
Speaker 4:do? Do you sit like a like yeah, how many minutes do you do a day? Does it change?
Speaker 3:yes, it definitely changes. So minimum 10 minutes, but if I have more time. So, for example, I went to Bali in March, maybe this year, and I had surprisingly pretty bad jet lag where I was waking up at four in the morning. So I'm like well, if. I'm waking up at four in the morning, then I'm going to utilize this time. I was doing like super deep, one hour long meditations amazing lousy do you get like?
Speaker 4:downloads, like when you're meditating, like yeah, like, yeah, wisdom and all the rest of it. Oh, that's so cool.
Speaker 3:I think it's interesting the way that your intuition speaks to you as well, because I remember one time during COVID and I had a meditation and I think just like the word was boundaries which I felt like didn't make any sense in my life. At the time I was like, oh, I think I've got pretty solid boundaries, and then I received this work opportunity with someone that I had really admired at the time, and then they were like oh yeah, I'm not not going to pay you, but there might be like an opportunity to get paid in the future. And because I had just lost my job due to COVID, I'm like, oh well, this could be like a good opportunity to get paid in the future, but it just like wasn't sitting right with my soul like I have like a you know, obviously I've studied for five years.
Speaker 3:I'm not going to be doing marketing for someone for free and you're like you know, just so I can see your work. I'm like my work is all of the internet. You don't really need this. So I turned it down, which didn't automatically seem like the logical thing to do, but I was like this this is the boundaries that my intuition was telling me about. And then, a couple weeks later, I had another incredible opportunity come up and they were just like yeah, how much do you want to be paid?
Speaker 4:amazing, oh my god and if you took that other one, then you probably wouldn't. You wouldn't have had time for the other opportunity. That's amazing.
Speaker 2:Special note to you Day.
Speaker 4:I know I was like yeah, situation yeah.
Speaker 2:Our time is so precious and valuable and when you spend so much time, you know building your own knowledge bank. Yes, it's great to maybe you know building your own knowledge bank. Yes, it's great to maybe you know give back here and there, but on a consistent basis. Yeah, that can be exhausting and we deserve more. So, yes, boundaries are important.
Speaker 4:They definitely are.
Speaker 2:Boundaries are sexy, yes boundaries are sexy, yes, so tell us more about how someone could work with you.
Speaker 3:So depending on what that person is focusing on at the time. At the moment, I'm supporting people a lot through one-on-one coaching and a real area that I found supports my clients to get the most out of life is around identity, work and values. So a question that's really been on my heart and that has been coming up a lot in the work that I do right now is am I living in alignment, like, is my life aligned? And people hear that question and they're like well, I don't know how you figure this out. Know how you figure this out? And to me, simply, the process of alignment is asking am I living a life and am I being a person who is showing up in a way that is an integrity with my values?
Speaker 3:And typically the responses that I get to these questions are one, I don't even know what my values are like. How do I even figure out what my values are? Or two, I know what my values are and this is the first time that I'm realizing that the reason why I'm feeling so unfulfilled and disconnected is because my life is so vastly different from those values like, how do I even begin this process of realigning with those? And it makes so much difference being grounded in who you are from a values perspective, as opposed to just simply goal setting. Because this is like the wider anchor that these goals are are leaning into.
Speaker 3:And there was a trend recently, actually on tiktok, and it was I don't know if you guys have heard of this of type in. I think it was like type in your goals to chat gpt and tell it to like write like a day in my life, like my dream life, and people were like loving this. This is amazing. It's telling me exactly what to do and I'm like well, it's not telling you exactly what to do, because this is just simply based on your goals. It's not based on why these goals are important to you.
Speaker 3:It's not based on your values, on who you are as a person, on your past experiences. There's so much depth and um I can't remember the word um nuance. There's so much nuance missing from that question. So for me, one of the most important things is embodiment, and the way that we get to embodiment is by understanding our values and then becoming someone who who lives in a way that's aligned with that. So that's really the major way that I'm supporting my clients at the moment is through that period of what the values actually are. Am I aligned with those? How do I reconnect my life?
Speaker 3:And, as you mentioned before, boundaries, because a lot of the time when you're giving your energy away to all these places, people, things aren't serving you.
Speaker 3:You don't then have that energy, time, even resources to invest in the things that do.
Speaker 3:And that can show up in small ways, like, oh you know, when I'm fighting with my partner, I don't have time for the connection that I'm deeply desiring.
Speaker 3:Or it can show up in big ways, like you know, I'm feeling really unhappy at my job and it's taking so much of my time being in this state of happiness that it's even leeching into your personal life right, because when you're unhappy at work it's not just oh, I go into the office and I'm unhappy during some of the time that I'm at work. It leeches into everything else that you do. And I know for a lot of people it's not realistic to just say, oh well, just quit your job, problem solved. You know it might, but there are simple ways that you can change things. Maybe it looks like having a conversation with your boss to take on different responsibilities or building a plan for how you might be able to quit that job, but it all comes down to knowing yourself down to that intrinsic level gosh amen, sister, I feel like you're talking about soul like she's in a trance or something.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's so. And everything's interlinked, like that shadow work, the, you know the manifestation, the mindset, the values, like everything intertwines with one another and it's so right, like recently I was having the same something going on, um, you know, in my work life, and you like feel it in your body, like even when you're, you know, getting up in the morning, and you like feel it in your body, like even when you're, you know, getting up in the morning, and you know, um, and I did, I took action and came up with a plan and now I am, I'm more fulfilled, so excited to go back, so excited to go there and engage, um, whereas before, like it was just I could feel it everywhere, like I would just feel sick, knowing, oh, tomorrow, you know it's work day, but, yeah, taking action, and you know kind of being like I'm not going to stand for this, like I know what those values are and I know what I bring to the table and I know how much passion and love I have for my job and it's just being sort of diverted by one thing at the moment. So, fixed that and I'm really excited going to work and going into next year. So, yay, yeah, thank you. So where what's happening at the moment?
Speaker 2:You're living in Melbourne and you're working. You're doing these one-to-one sessions. Are you still doing hypnotherapy as well?
Speaker 3:Yeah, so hypnotherapy is something that I incorporate into my one-on-one programs. So, okay, great thing about hypnotherapy is you can learn about someone's story and then you can write a hypnosis to speak directly to those subconscious beliefs and fears. And the thing that I like to do with my hypnotherapy is help someone move through the neurological levels of change. So this is basically a model for change by Robert Diltz and essentially, when we are feeling discomfort or disconnected in our life, our immediate response well, not immediate response maybe after enough discomfort that something has to change.
Speaker 3:Usually the first thing that people would look to address is their environment. That's one of the most simplest things to change. However, that's not going to create like the deepest level of change. For example, for me, when I was feeling really unhappy and I knew that after my master's I wanted to take a break before going into my career, I was like, oh, move to Australia. But I also knew, if I didn't do work on myself, so I was getting to a place where I was feeling more regulated, less anxious. Before I went to Australia, I was going to feel like exactly the same when I was there and so people can make this.
Speaker 3:Oh, I'm just going to run away from my problems. But you know, wherever you go, there you are, and that's a really important distinction to make. So essentially, the neurological levels of change. It actually says that the deepest level of change is your identity and then your behavior, and then your actions and then your environment. So if you're creating a change at the identity level, then automatically that's going to trickle down onto all of those other things because your standards are changing in the process. You're not going to be in environments that trigger you or that cause you to be discomfort, because it just doesn't fit with the idea that you have about yourself. And so that's why I focus a lot on the identity work and the values, because these are the deepest levels of change and and they can change everything else in the process. So with hypnotherapy I create hypnotherapy, so it speaks to all of those different levels that allow someone to to create that really deep levels of lasting change.
Speaker 2:Beautiful and how do you do you make a lot of connections to, like intergenerational drama, like, do you find a lot of people coming into those sessions are holding on to things you know belief systems from their parents or you know from their ancestors and things like that? Do you come across that quite a lot?
Speaker 3:Yes, definitely, and I actually recently recorded a podcast episode on your wealth identity and regulating your nervous system to call in more financial abundance, and I shared my story, and so I was actually orphaned when I was 14 years old and obviously that changed my life forever and it also impacted my money story and the way that I viewed money, because, for me, money meant security.
Speaker 3:Money meant that I viewed money because, for me, money meant security. Money meant that I wasn't going to be homeless. Money meant like the worst is probably going to happen, but you're going to have some level of preparation for it. And I was talking about this on the Instagram and how I kind of overcame that trauma and then my sister was like it's so interesting that this was your belief, because my sister's approach to money is like woo, spend it all, because she's like you don't know if tomorrow's promise, you don't know if tomorrow's coming, and so that's two people that grew up in the same household had the same trauma and their responses to that trauma are completely different, and that happens for for many people 20, a big hug, first of all, for what you would have navigated at that age and you know that part of you.
Speaker 2:But, yeah, it's crazy to see the difference. And that's the same similar with my brothers and sisters. It's, we have very different outlooks and very different beliefs based on you know what stage of being with my mom we were at or what stage my mom was at during that time of her life. So, yeah, it's everything just intertwines, doesn't it? And I think the most important thing is just coming back to you know, feeling yourself and your inner love and healing from like a cellular level, really a subconscious level, and just going from there like building that sort of roadmap, because when we talk about all of these things, as you said earlier, it can be quite overwhelming for someone who's not started or someone who has no idea what any of this lingo or this information is. So, yeah, just I guess creating that little roadmap for yourself from the ground up, with your beliefs and your values, makes so much sense. You're so knowledgeable.
Speaker 3:Thank you. Thank you, I was gonna say, I think, something that intimidates people and I did a program last year, actually that was called the becoming her collective, and it was all about becoming like the, the highest version of you and stepping into the true version of yourself, and I think that a piece of misconnection, disconnection that people have is they think, well, my higher self is like so far away from who I am already, or that aligned version of myself is like so far away from who I am already, or that aligned version of myself is like really far away from who I am right now, and that causes people to feel like a lot of shame. But ultimately, your, your highest self and that truest version of yourself, is not someone like out there. It's who you already were before you know the world told you who to be, or you picked up these things from your family and your friends that have taken you away from that truth. So it's not really about becoming someone new. It's about removing everything that prevents you from seeing who you truly are and and from stepping into that fully. And that's a really beautiful journey. Although it can sound like it's big, it's it's, it's a part of you and it's what your soul is feeling called to.
Speaker 3:Otherwise, you're listening to this and you know, having that little oh right, this sounds interesting, oh, but there's so much like that's the subconscious voice that's coming in to try and keep you exactly where you are, and it's not even from a place of self-sabotage.
Speaker 3:It's because your subconscious mind is doing what your subconscious mind does, which is to protect you and to keep you safe. And the best way it knows how to do that is by just playing out those same patterns over and over and over and over again, rather than disrupting that system. And you know, think about it like an operating system. It's just easy to run that same operating system, then have to write brand new code, but once that code's in, running that system can be just as easy. So give yourself grace, but also don't let yourself off the hook because you think it's going to be too hard or it's going to be too much. Nobody is asking you to completely change your life as a knight. What are you asking for from yourself and what, in a way that works for you, are you going to be able to do it?
Speaker 2:Exactly, and I feel like everything kind of happens in perfect divine timing. Like, if you delve into, you know, that sort of world, the spirituality world, the building upon yourself, the finding out who you are, that inner love, self-discovery, self-development era, like everything sort of happened in perfect divine timing and it's just like it's almost as if it's already mapped out for me the path that I need to take to, you know, heal generational trauma, to figure out who I am, to love myself, to get my power back, and it's just, yeah, it's. It's been a big journey, but it's been the most incredible journey as well, and the things that I've learned along the way, especially in the past four years. I'm, you know, I'm not the woman I was yesterday. I'm not the woman I was a week ago. It's just like forever evolving and changing, and I love it. Like it's fun.
Speaker 2:Yes, there are hard moments, but it is. It's fun. Having those moments of like, oh, light bulb, self-discovery, wow, oh, that really fuels my soul. I've loved the journey. There've been hard moments, though, but we have those toolkits that help us, that support me, and I know I can lean on that to fill my cup. So, yeah, cool amen.
Speaker 2:It's that journey, not destination yeah, for sure, true, well, for when I hear people say, oh, I'm, you know, I'm healed, I'm like oh, what does that mean? You know, what does that mean to you?
Speaker 3:so, yeah, anything that you haven't got an opportunity to share, that you were hoping to share with all of our listeners at EWP there's nothing specific that's coming to mind at the moment, but I really do think that, like I said before, that this work doesn't need to be something that is is hard or something that feels intimidating.
Speaker 3:It's really just a journey to to come home to yourself, and there's something very empowering about that and also one of the things that I really like to impress upon people is that if you want to create this extraordinary life, if you want to feel super fulfilled in your life and aligned with what you're doing, then you need to see yourself as an extraordinary person. And you are already that person. Right, you are just removing the layers and you're just reminding yourself of who you already are. So find ways regularly to to remind yourself of how incredible you are. Maybe that's looking in the mirror and instead of, oh, my skin's so bad today, it's like, oh, look how bright my eyes are shining today.
Speaker 3:Or you go out and you, you know someone's like, oh, you know here, why don't you have this large copy instead of the medium copy? And you're like, wow, the universe really just loves me that much. And you just find these little points of connection, little nudges of the universe, and instead of like focusing on, oh, I said that really awkward thing, or oh, I reacted in the way that I shouldn't have, you're making just as much time, if not more, hopefully significantly more to connect with these points of the way that the universe is there to support you and to guide you and to cheer you on and that you're there for yourself as well wise words, my drop so good, love it.
Speaker 4:Do you read? Do you read books and do you have any book recommendations? Oh, my goodness, I could talk about this all day.
Speaker 3:I love books and actually during COVID I read like 52 books, so I have so many suggestions, so it's like one a week. Yeah, it was, it was. It was a big journey and also something for me is like I don't want to just like read the book to say that I'd done it, because this is something that I noticed as well with um insight time I was getting to a point where I was like, oh, done my meditation, but I wasn't actually connecting with that meditation. So it's important for me, like when I'm doing things, to be intentional about the way that I'm doing work. If I've noticed I've fallen off, to like bring that intention back to it.
Speaker 3:So when I was reading those books, I also had a book journal and every book that I was going through I was writing, like, what are my key takeaways from this book? Just so that, like, I'm ingraining those memories. So, what's coming to mind at the moment? I'll just give you a couple of recommendations, otherwise we'd be here for another hour discussing, like, all my favorite books. I recently read a book and actually I can't remember who it's by, but if you type the title it'll come up. It's called the Happiest man on Earth and it was about um, this guy's journey through the holocaust and living in Germany and just like the things that he went through and just being able to always trust that life is going to support him and work out for him when.
Speaker 3:I mean I don't want to give spoilers where the things that happened, but just so many terrible things happened to him on that journey and he's now he's like 100 and he's like living in Sydney and he gives talks at the Jewish Museum about his experience and how important it is to love one another, help one another and stay connected with each other, because that's what helps get him through.
Speaker 3:That was such a powerful read for me. Um, and then another book that I really love, which has come up recently because I have been talking about money a little bit on the podcast has been we Should All Be Millionaires by Rachel Rogers, and that book was just so life-changing for me because I've read a lot of books about money. I've read a lot of books about finance. Typically they are all written by men, but the way that Rachel Rogers talks about it from like, a women's perspective and you know there are studies of like, oh, women are not as good with money, but actually women haven't been able to handle their own money for as long as men have and having the power, and the audacity to say like this is what I want to do.
Speaker 3:The reason why it feels uncomfortable is because for your whole life you've been told this, so it's about rewriting your money story and money trauma, but also about looking forward to the future and having that audacity to ask for what you actually want. So those are two books that I really love and that stand out to me and yeah, I could I could give so many more, but those are the two that are like coming up for me right now.
Speaker 2:I'm adding them to my list of audiobooks have you ever thought about writing your own book? I don't know why. I just got like a little inkling and I was like, oh, she should write a book yeah, I have.
Speaker 3:I have thought about it, but there's no like one concrete thing that it would be yet, and I want it to be like really intentional. So, yeah, maybe this could be something in the car to me in the future.
Speaker 2:If it is, I'll let you guys know, let us know yeah for sure, and um I I'm gonna start following your podcast. I had no idea that you had a podcast, so um I, yeah, could listen to you all day, so I'm gonna go and have a listen. We'll pop it in our show notes as well for our listeners. Um, what is the motto behind it, or what is it your podcast about?
Speaker 3:um. So it's really about spirituality and mindset work, but from a really grounded perspective, and also bringing it back to so I have a method for aligned manifestation, and it's about tying these principles in and how you can embody them into your everyday life. I felt a lot of what I was seeing at the time when I started the podcast around 2020 was, oh, jumping from like manifestation method to manifestation method, when really, I think it's not about having a specific method, but it's more about how do I approach my life in a way that's really aligned for me, and I think everyone has their kind of unique blueprint to doing that. So that was one of the things I really wanted to impress upon everyone from the podcast, and also that embodiment piece connecting with values and the just importance of identity, work and how you really can. You know you're not just oh, that's just the way I am, like, that's just such a cop-out, oh, you know, that's just the way that things have always been, or it's too late to change. I'm too old to change.
Speaker 3:Like you can change at any point in time, and there's so much power in that, not only for you, but for all the people in your life as well, and so yeah, it's really about, like I mentioned at the beginning, like really helping women connect with that innate magic that has been within them and having the confidence and audacity to, to ask for things, to put themselves out there, to, to yet loving themselves even more yeah. I can't wait.
Speaker 2:I can't wait to listen. I will be listening on my journeys. I'm in the car a little bit today, so I'll be popping it on. I'll let you know what I think I'm excited, um. So we always end with two questions, and the first question is if you could say anything to the younger version of you, what would you say to her?
Speaker 3:I would definitely say to to play a bit more, as I mentioned, because I was orphaned at 14 and my mom was actually ill for quite a long time. I grew up very quickly and was serious very quickly and focused on studies and focus on all of these things and not so much on having that connection to my inner child, to even my child, because it's not just inner child. At that point I was actually a child and so getting older, that was something that I had to learn how to reconnect with and to be playful and the energy of fun and enjoyment and, as you talked about, with this work as well, you mentioned that it can be fun and I think connecting to that that playful element is is really important. Like I have one of my friends and we love manifesting things together and calling things into our life together and we actually won a holiday and we applied for this competition and we both put in an entry and then we would message each other like, oh, when we go on the holiday, this is what we're going to do, and talking about it as if it's happening.
Speaker 3:And she's one of my friends. Like I could say anything to her Like, oh, I'm going to fly to the moon tomorrow and she'd be like, yes, on board, like I'm so there for it, like we just support each other's delusions to that. But it works and I think you really need to have people like that in your corner, and people that you can have those playful talks with and who see the light in you and bring out the best in you is just so energizing, and I think it's important to have that beyond your romantic relationships as well. I think it's important to have that beyond your romantic relationships as well. I think it's really important to have that in a platonic sense. So connecting more with that playful element and knowing that that's the work too, amen.
Speaker 4:Amen, yes. The second question is if there's someone listening right now that's putting off chasing their dreams, what advice would you give them? There's someone listening right now that's putting off chasing their dreams what advice would you give them?
Speaker 3:um, I think the advice that I would give them is like, why wait? Like life is so short and precious and you really don't know what's going to happen from one day to the next. I think, yeah, in this past couple of months, we've seen like loads of really young celebrities and people die, and it's like you. You know tomorrow really isn't promised, and to spend just like one day, living as who you truly are is, is such a blessing, and to be able to connect with the people and to be able to. You know, if you're listening to this podcast and you have the ability to do so, you're probably living a life that's ahead of so many other people on the earth, and, as you have been gifted this opportunity to be able to live your life in the way that you want to and to have those opportunities ahead of you, it'd be a real shame not to take those opportunities and you really just life can change in an instant when you you give yourself the permission to actually go after it.
Speaker 3:So I really think it starts with allowing yourself to have joy, allowing yourself to have happiness, allowing yourself to explore something that's outside the realms of your current reality, even if no one else around you is doing it, even if your family is like well, that sounds like so dumb, that sounds so stupid. If it means something to you and you feel something like that is the most important thing. And, yeah, maybe people will come on board when they see how passionate they are. You are about something. But if they don't like, are these really the people that you want to be like surrounding yourself by the most time? Like, probably not. So yeah, I would say to to go for it, because you deserve it and there's nothing that you need to do to deserve it.
Speaker 3:you're inherently, inherently worthy of that, and if you feel right now that you're resisting, how can you connect with that inherent worthiness?
Speaker 2:Exactly Another mic drop.
Speaker 3:I'm just going to drop the mic on the floor.
Speaker 2:I want to quickly come back to play. So what do you do to fulfill that inner child playfulness? What is, what are some of your top tips for, for play, for feeling that little, that little inner child that we all have?
Speaker 3:Finding ways to connect with your body. We spend so much time like up here. I'm gesturing to my head as you're listening.
Speaker 2:Up here in our heads.
Speaker 3:We spend so much time up here and the strategy and the logic and taking a moment to disconnect from that. So that's one of the reasons why I love breathwork is because it's getting you out of your head and into your body. Or maybe it's just like shaking your body or making like exhale sounds or dancing, just really doing something to like disrupt. Right, we're on autopilot for a lot, of, a lot of our day. How can you do something that just like reconnects you with I'm a human in a body. And how cool is this? Like sometimes I'm just outside and I'm walking around. I'm like I just like accepted that there's clouds in the sky. We're just going about our days. It's normal. How?
Speaker 2:can you just like?
Speaker 3:go on board with this, like if you actually think about like how many things have to fall in place for us to be like living and existing as we do this, it's pretty crazy if you think about it. So just connecting with that magic about whoa, like life is actually pretty cool, and also traveling is a big one for me. I love to travel.
Speaker 3:I just got back from five weeks in Europe a couple of months ago and at the end of my trip I spent a week in Paris and there was one day actually, where I was just feeling really off, not really feeling myself, and I lay in bed until like 1pm and I'm like how am I in Paris, lying in bed till 1pm? And something was in me. It was just like you know, girl, you just need to like have some fun today. And I decided not to take the tube or the subway, the underground, and get a line bike and just cycle around and I was like I am the main character right now. Everybody loves me, like smiling at me, the French people are being so friendly and I had the best food and I was just like whoa, like this is really living right now.
Speaker 3:This is incredible oh my god, yes, so good we learned to ride a bike.
Speaker 2:But then I was looking at someone the other day and I was like I need to get a bike and ride with my son, um, just yeah, um, one of my favorite things is dancing, like I just absolutely like moving my hips, or in the car, like I'm that woman that's sitting, you know, at the lights, just like me. And my son he like moves his whole car moves when he's dancing back there. Um, but yeah, just dancing and singing like it just can instantly change any sort of emotion or feeling and just feel it like. Feel it for your whole body and soul. So that's one of my big things. And travel used to be as well. I'm going to start traveling again, um, but now I've got a little man in tow, so it'll look different, but it will be fun. So, yeah, well, what a beautiful way to start the week and a beautiful Monday morning. We are so honored to have had you share wisdom and knowledge with us and with everyone of our listeners today. Um, so cannot wait to drop this episode thank you.
Speaker 3:Thank you so much for having me. It's been a pleasure. And um, also to anyone listening. If you have found value in this podcast episode and you want to embark on this work more, I do have a free master class called the audacity, which is about having the audacity to get what you want out of life, to stop abandoning yourself in favor of other people.
Speaker 2:Um, and you can check that out by heading to fbsautocom forward slash freebie I feel like that's a sign, because that word has come up so much lately, but more in a negative way. I'm like, oh, the audacity of some people um out there forgetting their manners at this you know this stage and I feel like you just using it in a different light has like really spoken to me today, um. So, yeah, I'm gonna check out the master class because I feel like that was a sign from the universe being like you need to, you need to listen to this thing called the audacity awesome. Well, thank you so much and, yeah, we really appreciate you taking the time to come on today. Thank you, take care guys.
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