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Transformative Pathways: Rakes on Spiritual Growth, Sobriety, and Empowerment
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Losing a loved one can completely change our trajectory, and for Mareika, known lovingly as Rakes, it ignited a path toward spiritual growth and transformation. This episode takes you on her journey from skepticism to becoming a transformational mindset coach and tarot reader. We uncover how her personal experiences led her to create Empower Rise; a business aimed at spirituality, transformational life coaching, tarot readings/courses and helping others reassess their relationships with alcohol through programs like the Alcohol Reset Program. Through the supportive community at Eternal Living, founded by Julie, Rakes found a tribe of like-minded individuals who foster personal growth and spiritual connections.
Tarot cards, often wrapped in mystery, serve as a powerful tool for intuition and guidance, and Rakes shares how she harnesses their energy in her practice. Listen as she explains the importance of trusting one's intuition and developing a personal reading style, moving beyond guidebooks. We offer insights into the practical aspects of tarot, such as cleansing and programming the cards, and share tips for booking readings, including 12-month written forecasts. As we explore the symbolism of the Knight of Wands, you'll find inspiration in the energy and motivation it represents toward achieving your goals.
Celebrating personal achievements and embracing authenticity are central themes in our conversation. We delve into the profound clarity and self-discovery that comes from a journey of sobriety, encouraging listeners to reassess their own relationships with alcohol. The Alcohol Reset Program is designed to support this journey with personalized coaching, group sessions, and tools to build emotional resilience. In closing, we reflect on the role fear plays in growth, inviting listeners to see it as an ally. Join us in celebrating accomplishments and stepping into new opportunities with courage and authenticity.
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Speaker 1:Hello beautiful humans.
Speaker 2:And today, of course, we've just had this spiritual goddess with us. We're welcomed by Mareika hi welcome me.
Speaker 1:It's our last collaboration for the year as well, so this feels like extra, extra special as well thank you, I'm so honored yeah absolutely extra special yeah, definitely so can we call you rakes as well?
Speaker 2:I forgot to ask that, please do yeah. So, Rakes, tell us about you, give us a little bit of an introduction. Who are you?
Speaker 3:Okay, so I'm Rakes, I have a few strings to my bow, so my business is Empower Rise boat. So my business is Empower Rise and I do transformational mindset coaching for people who basically just want to level up their lives and live their best life and live as their authentic self. I also do tarot readings. I also run tarot workshops so how to read tarot cards, run tarot workshops so how to read tarot cards. And I also am about to start a group program called the alcohol reset program for anyone wanting to reassess their relationship with alcohol going into the new year in 2025.
Speaker 1:Hello queen, let's go.
Speaker 2:This is gonna be an exciting one I know I'm like where do we start?
Speaker 1:I was just thinking that literally what you got, what got you into like the, the spiritual world. Have you always been in that, or what? What transitioned you into that no, I haven't.
Speaker 3:I would almost say I was probably a bit of a skeptic um a number of years ago, so I have done a full about face. There was a number of things that happened over the years that probably started to open me up into this space and, as it is for a lot of people, I think one of the key moments was I lost my mum about I think it was 13 or 14 years ago now to a brain tumour, and I think when you lose someone that significant in your life, it's so reassuring to move into that spiritual place and to feel like you still have that connection with them. So I think that experience opened me up to a whole new way of thinking. And then Julie, who you had on here a few months back.
Speaker 3:So Julie from Eternal Living, she is my best friend. We've been friends for a really long time and her mum, gail, taught me how to read tarot cards and once I started doing that, oh my gosh, it was literally like a light bulb went on and I was just. I wanted to know everything about this space. To be honest with you, Absolutely.
Speaker 1:I got full-body goosebumps Yay.
Speaker 3:I love that feeling.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh, that's so beautiful. I didn't know that Julie's mum was into it as well. That's so cute.
Speaker 3:Yeah, she's amazing and she kept it very much on the down low for a while because, you know she was in a small country town and it wasn't, you know, really the done thing to be in the spiritual space. So, um, you know, it was something that sort of she just did for us and a bit of a hobby and things like that. But oh, we love running these workshops together that we run, so we run them together and I think people laugh at us because, you know, we just have the funniest relationship, like I've pretty much adopted her as my mum as well and, um, you know, she just swears at me and we love each other and you know, we just have a great time.
Speaker 1:That's so beautiful bless.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and how incredible is that space at eternal living. It's just like one giant family it's a full community.
Speaker 3:It is a community and you know it's so many people. I mean, I've had a lot of coaching clients that have come from that space or that have done Julie's courses and and a theme that tends to run is people say oh, you know, I just always got told I was weird or I just kind of didn't fit in. So it's like we, there's these people that just find their tribe and where they fit in life and it's so beautiful.
Speaker 2:Absolutely yeah, the wild ones yeah, and so many incredible courses come out of that. Like I'm doing a mother wound one on this Friday, I'm so excited with laws and I just can't wait. I've been really looking forward to it and I heard the last one. I saw Julie posted and she was like spying on people through the camera. Yes, that moment capturing yeah, just yeah capturing the most raw and beautiful moments and I was just like, yeah, that course is definitely for me. So to.
Speaker 3:You know, have a place where you can feel safe to feel your feelings and bring them to the surface. And you know so many people just mask that, don't they? And just push them down and repress them and that leads to lots of problems.
Speaker 1:So, you know, to have a safe space where you can bring that to the surface and feel supported was that the video where they were on the step and there was a woman that was crying and they all just hugged her?
Speaker 2:yes, oh my god so beautiful oh, so, beautiful yeah, and it creates those little pockets of communities as well. So, off of the girls that you do the course, like the girls I did the Reiki course with, like now you know, we've got this little group chat and we're just chatting about all of the things and it's just such a beautiful way. Like I don't think Julie really realizes the magnitude of the connections that are being made through that space, I hope she does, If you're listening magnitude of the connections that are being made through that space.
Speaker 3:I hope she does, if you're listening Julie shout out.
Speaker 1:I hope she listens. She better listen.
Speaker 3:We're the same with the Tarot workshops. We always create a chat, you know, and mainly it starts off with kind of you know me putting all the information about the workshop and all the bits and pieces they need to know. But then we use it as a space for everyone to practice. So people drop cards in there and everyone will give their interpretations and Gail, and I just kind of watch what's happening and occasionally we'll chime in, but really we just let them go for it and you know, it's just amazing because they create these beautiful friendships and they share a lot of vulnerabilities. And yeah, again, it's a little mini community that gets created when you run stuff like that, absolutely.
Speaker 1:I think I remember Julie saying on her podcast that she was like in the circus or something like dancing. Was that? Yes, yeah, yeah, the community was her thing.
Speaker 3:Like building communities is her thing yeah, well, that's how Julie and I met. We did like musical theatre together when we were younger, but, um, and now our, our kids do dancing together. We just had the concert on the weekend and, um, you know, our little dance together now and oh, it's just beautiful absolutely so.
Speaker 1:Was that? Did you both grow up in Geelong?
Speaker 3:uh, julie went to school in Timboon, I think, sort of downtown.
Speaker 1:Oh Timboon.
Speaker 3:Ice Cream. Yeah, so yeah, and I've been in Geelong since I was 12.
Speaker 1:Oh, wow, Okay Beautiful. I grew up in Geelong. I don't live there anymore. I'm in Airlie Beach now, but yeah, I miss that sometimes Nice.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it is a beautiful place.
Speaker 1:It really is.
Speaker 2:That's where I've met most of my people, like most of my tribe, and it's like everything happens for a reason. The reason I came to Geelong wasn't a very good reason, but it's like if I didn't come here then all these synchronicities, it wouldn't have played out the way that my life has played out now, for sure.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's right, and it's, it's. You know. Well, this is something we teach in the workshop. But, um, one of the tarot cards that you could get is the tower card, and that very much means like all your foundations just just falling down so that you can create a fresh start. And at the time, the tower moment feels like, you know, I can't get through this, this is overwhelming, this is so big. But you'll always look back on your tower moment and go, oh, I needed that to happen to be where.
Speaker 3:I am now. So you know we all have multiple tower moments in our lives that we can look back on and go. I would not be where I am or the person I am without you know these big things happening in my life.
Speaker 1:Like they all mean something, don't they Absolutely. That's where the biggest transformations happen.
Speaker 3:Yeah, absolutely. Yep, sometimes everything has to just fall to pieces so that you can work out where you want to be next.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I feel like next year is going to be next level. Like I feel like this year was phenomenal. It had a lot of towers, a lot of ebbs and flows. I feel like this year was phenomenal. It had a lot of towers, a lot of ebbs and flows. But I feel like, coming to the back end of this year, like I started doing my life script last night for next year and I was just like it was almost like I was in a trance, like when I was writing it. I was just like it was like almost like an outer body experience, like I was just in this trance of just transformation and seeing everything that I've been working for for the last four years is finally coming to fruition and it's going to like I just can feel the magic of what next year is going to be and I'm overwhelmed with excitement.
Speaker 3:I just got goosebumps. That feels thing to do, to just kind of tap in and let it flow and see what comes out.
Speaker 2:Like that's yeah, so good. So tell us a little bit about the tarot cards. I'm so intrigued about the tarot cards. Let's, let's start there.
Speaker 3:Okay. So, seeing as our conversation has gone there, so I have my cards today, so I thought I would pull a card for each of you, if that's okay. Cards today, so I thought I would pull a card for each of you, if that's okay. Um, so, a little bit of background. So tarot is is a tool, you know. So we're all channeling. You know we can all tap into that psychic version of ourselves. We can all listen to our intuition, um, but majority of people don't, or they don't trust it. Um, so the tarot is a tool, um, and actually Loz, who you're doing the workshop with, on Friday she was in one of our workshops and in one of the group chats she said how do the cards know? How do they know? And I I agree, like it's, it blows my mind, because this stuff comes out and you go and then you look back on the cards that you've pulled or the readings that you've had and you go how, how do they work? Um, there's sort of a mystery and I love that, um. So, yeah, it's very much.
Speaker 2:It's a tool, um that can guide you, and the more readings that you do, the more you will come up with new ways to read the cards yeah yeah, usually the person interesting yeah usually you know, you're just like, of course, like yeah yeah, I used to be the girl who would like have my cards, and then I'd be like looking in the book and I'm like, okay, what does this say, tell me. But now I'm just pulling them out and I'm like, oh yeah, that means this, this, this and this. And if I'm not sure, then I'll get the pendulum out and I'm like, okay, am I right? Do I trust my intuition on this one?
Speaker 3:and it's always like yes and I'm like, okay, sorry everyone comes up with their own style, and I always think that like don't follow a cookie cutter kind of approach, like find your own way to read the cards, and it clicks when you start to get a base knowledge of the cards and then you're able to combine that with your intuition. Yeah, so lots of people. There was a point when Gail taught me and she was like, okay, put the book away now, like you're relying too heavily on it. You get a bit like, oh, you know, it's like your security blanket, so when you can pop that away and just start to channel a little bit based on your knowledge of the cards, I mean that's when it clicked for me yeah so, yeah, I think that's really important when you start to actually use your intuition in combination with that knowledge but Gail has, oh sorry.
Speaker 1:You're right. Is it true that you should sleep on like the tarot cards under your pillow for a while to set them, like your energy, with them?
Speaker 3:I have never heard of that before, but there are a lot of things that people say like only pass with your left hand or only shuffle in a circle and put them out in the full moon, and again, everyone has their own way. It's like all the spiritual tools you start to find your own routine with them.
Speaker 2:that works for you.
Speaker 3:So I feel like there's a lot of things out there around what you should do. I don't like the word should.
Speaker 2:I'm into just like flowing with whatever you want, yeah, absolutely for sure, yeah, yeah, I always say to the girls when we're working with cards in my healing circles you know, just just trust yourself. You know it's just about trusting yourself and I can give you all of these ways that I do things, but ultimately it's about you coming to terms with what feels good to you, what feels right to you. Um, but yeah, I would say the one non-negotiable would be to make sure you cleanse them right and then to program them to you.
Speaker 3:Those are the two I would say like shoulds yeah, I always like smudge mine with some sage or something in between readings and just make sure that you know the last person's energy into this reading things like that.
Speaker 2:How can? You book in a reading with you.
Speaker 3:So best ways to dm me on instagram. People can find me on facebook as well, but most of my bookings come through instagram. I am working on a website this year or next year so that will get easier, but at the moment, just DM me and absolutely, so I can do. If people aren't local to Geelong, I can do a Zoom or an online. I am doing 12-month readings at the moment. People like to get a bit of a picture of what you know the next 12 months looks like. So they're written, so there's. I always go too far and just include pages of information in those, but yeah, they're written so that you can go back and look at them over the year, and I had a really good response to those at the start of this year, so I'm doing those, or I can do, yeah, face-to-face in an eternal living as well. Yeah, it's really cool.
Speaker 3:I did have the Knight of Wands fall out when I was just shuffling then and I think that's for you, jules, because I was picking up on you talking about kind of your focus for the next 12 months, because the Knight of Wands is very much about really going for your goals. I feel like you're like super motivated, super laser focused, and you want to do it quickly. Now you're like I'm ready to move, I'm ready to go. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah exactly, spot on, yeah yeah, you're gonna really kick goals this year.
Speaker 3:It's gonna be me.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I can feel it like I just it makes me giddy, it makes my inner child just like yeah, my whole, everything my higher self, my inner child, like it's just all been in alignment for a while now and it's just like let's go yes, and I just felt like I also need to say like, every time you kick one of those goals or achieve it, make sure you really take time out to celebrate it and feel it, instead of just going on what's next, what's next?
Speaker 3:okay, did I get that right, you?
Speaker 2:did spot on. Yeah, I've been doing it a lot more lately, where I'm having little moments of celebration because I see a few different healers and things and, um, even my psychologists are like Jules, like make sure you stop and celebrate what you've done, how you've got here, that you're not who you were six weeks ago.
Speaker 3:Six months ago, a year ago yeah yeah, exactly, and just, you know, taking time to be with that energy so that you can, because you will connect that then to your focus, moving forward and and into your next lot of goals. You know if you can remember that beautiful feeling of sitting in the achievement and just loving yourself for for being able to do that for yourself.
Speaker 2:Thank you. I just got something came into my head and it was like you need to do 11 minutes of celebration every day.
Speaker 3:I love that.
Speaker 2:Okay, I might not want to do it If you say so.
Speaker 1:Yeah it's good.
Speaker 3:I love that and I love that it's 11 minutes, like, not 10.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah 11 is your number. 11 is your number, it's your number.
Speaker 3:Yes, amazing, I love that. Beautiful, beautiful, oh, all right, and day lean is how I say. It isn't it Day lean? Yes, yes, beautiful. Just checking, I had that right. I had the hierophant for you. Um often comes up when we're looking at our values system yeah um, so that's really big for you at the moment. So you're really making out like what do I believe in?
Speaker 3:yeah what do I think about things and how can I make sure I separate that from some old um beliefs and patterns, sort of tribal cycles and things that you've been brought up with. You're starting to really forge your own value system. Yeah, that's that's how, that's what's going to drive you forward yeah, work out what to focus on and what you want out of life yeah, living a value-based life.
Speaker 1:I guess yeah, absolutely, because I've kind of had a disconnect from that at the moment, from my future, like what I'm wanting, and I'm kind of self-sabotaged in a sense.
Speaker 3:So yeah, yeah, that's so amazing, yeah, very aware of it, but yeah yeah, it makes total sense. Yeah, well, and if you've been sitting in that space, you know the energy of the cards always comes out with what people are thinking at the time. Absolutely, you know it's. It's again checking in that these are your beliefs and not someone else's.
Speaker 1:Oh, absolutely, yeah, absolutely yeah.
Speaker 3:You'll get some really good.
Speaker 1:Attacked by the cards no, no, no, not always. Just yeah, I'm very, but thank you, so beautiful, awesome.
Speaker 2:Yay, I love that I could do cards for days.
Speaker 3:Oh, me too, Me too, I love it, absolutely love it yeah.
Speaker 2:And so I'm not sure if you mentioned this already, but how long have you been reading?
Speaker 3:I think about 15 years, 15, 16 years.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so I've been doing it for a long time.
Speaker 3:I mean over that time. Obviously there was periods of time where I kind of popped the cards away and you know, wasn't as into them During COVID, I feel like I really, you know, I got back into them and I started just kind of revisiting the cards and getting them out again. And every time I would get them out again, all my spiritual stuff would happen, like all those coincidences and those synchronicities, and all time I would get them out again, all my spiritual stuff would happen, like all those coincidences and those synchronicities and all that stuff would happen, and I'd start to get little downloads and things like that and then you'd pop them away and it's like you were just shutting off that part of yourself, yeah. But now they're out all the time, like I'm doing it around the clock.
Speaker 2:Love. So I'm just going to have goosebumps this whole episode, I reckon.
Speaker 3:I love that. I love the goosebump feeling.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, we get it all the time on the podcast oh, you've got such a funny to go back and like edit it all out and put it into like a real. Oh my god, I got goosebumps imagine oh imagine and absolutely. I wanted to also touch into the no alcohol for the three years. I want to hear about that journey.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so I look I had a pretty awful relationship with alcohol for a long time, like I used it to numb my feelings, used it to mask a bit of social anxiety. You know, whenever I went through kind of a big thing in my life, I would turn to alcohol. And I think there's this you know there's a big spectrum between an alcoholic and someone who doesn't drink and it's all this grey in the middle and lots of people fall into that grey area drinking and for me, me again sometimes when you choose to give up alcohol.
Speaker 3:So I've been sober for three years now and you know, some people will be like but you weren't that bad, um, but you don't have to be that bad to still feel like it's a problem for you, absolutely so, yeah, it's um, it's something I'm very passionate about because I know I have upleveled my life in such amazing ways since I gave it up. I'm not saying everything's roses, like. I still have self-doubt and periods with no motivation, and you know I'm not the golden child, but, um, I just feel like it's allowed me to tap in to this whole other version of myself that I absolutely didn't have access to a lot of alcohol. So, yeah, I I just sort of want to help other people achieve this level of clarity and presence that I I get with that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely, it reminds me. I went on a nine month no alcohol era and it was, yeah, it's just, and then I've fallen back into drinking alcohol and it just literally takes your creativity away and driving force and, like you know, the hangovers and then getting back into normal and it's just like a like constant cycle, for sure it is, yeah, and, and just the anxiety and the mental health.
Speaker 3:You know, I just felt like it played on my mental health so bad yeah absolutely yeah, and I just, you know, to be the best version of myself, to be the best mum to my kids, to be, you know, a great friend and partner and all that other stuff. I just felt like alcohol didn't belong in that version of my life. Yeah, absolutely so. Yeah, it's just um, it's something I'm passionate about. So so I am running a group program, as I mentioned, starting the first weekend in Jan, after New Year's. So it'll be a combination of a couple of one-on-one coaching sessions and some group coaching on Zoom and a whole lot of extra resources and things like that, and it'll go for six weeks. So people that join don't have to give up alcohol for six weeks. But it will delve into, you know, why are you drinking, what are the triggers, what are some other ideas for things you could do when you're feeling like you have a craving.
Speaker 2:I feel like I could cry. I feel like you're talking. She's talking directly to you right now, babe. I'm like so emotional over it.
Speaker 1:Oh, my God, it's funny that you said six weeks, because that's what actually started off. My no alcohol era last year was just six weeks, but it was just turning the focus like to something new. So mine was exercise, um, and it was just like moving my body every day and that's kind of what I'm in now. Um, drank on the weekend, but like that's fine, but it's just like having those healthy habits and kind of not trying to change the old habit, just creating a new one. Does that make sense?
Speaker 2:Yeah, absolutely yeah.
Speaker 1:Creating new lifestyle changes and it will kind of take your focus away from the alcohol.
Speaker 3:Yeah, absolutely, and there might be people who find that moderating and creating some new habits works really well for them. Yeah, absolutely, I mean for me once I and I was the same. I did six weeks and that was my goal. And then I felt really good and I thought I'll just keep going. And then I think once I'd done sort of around three months, I thought I'm going to go for 12 months. So nine months is amazing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah. It was so good. Your body changes everything. Like it's just crazy, like everything just looks good.
Speaker 3:Well, we get. You know, we get this dopamine hit from alcohol. Once you get into these habits where you drink a lot, it's really hard to find that level of dopamine outside of alcohol.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:All the other things in your life that you know give you that beautiful feeling, like you know, the love and the presence and all these other amazing things in your life sort of dull down and you get the dopamine hit from them. It's like your brain chemistry, chemistry changes and you've got to rely on alcohol as your only way to get dopamine. Yeah, absolutely so.
Speaker 1:Actually there's some real science behind that, some of that stuff um which I just find fascinating, absolutely yeah, I remember the books I read now, but when I was going through it there was so many uh, like it was more focused with women drinking alcohol and how it's quite a masculine thing to drink alcohol. And yeah, it's a whole. Like what do you say?
Speaker 2:it's a whole rabbit hole the rabbit hole yeah yeah, absolutely yeah, you probably listed a few oh sorry, riggs um, you probably listed a few in the no alcohol era episode. So suss those show notes, because maybe you dropped them in there, probably.
Speaker 1:So that would be yeah all I talked about was no alcohol when I was going through it, because I'm like I wonder how to feel this good.
Speaker 3:I know I was the same. I fully have to focus on it and and again, once I went down the rabbit hole and kind of learned more about it, you know it was good because it really instilled in me, you know, the motivation to keep going yeah, and even the chemicals that are in alcohol.
Speaker 1:What is it um?
Speaker 3:ethanol ethanol.
Speaker 1:Ethanol is in petrol, like the same. That you didn't know that, yeah, yeah, I see I didn't know that before I did research I was like wow well, it's wild in my program. You're welcome I'll have to have a sauce. Perfect, divine timing exactly yeah, and you've got it at a good spot too, because everyone's going to be having like resolutions for the next year and a lot of people will be like hung over and being like I don't want to drink alcohol ever again.
Speaker 3:Well, it sort of felt like, you know, starting it right before christmas was probably setting myself up to fail. Yeah, absolutely, the fact that everyone will go, I'll start next year. But I agree. And look, there's often a lot of things on InJan and Feb as well, but you know, a lot of people do hit it quite hard in December. There's so much on. Oh, absolutely, you know, to be able to go right fresh year, fresh start, you know, just instilling those healthy habits.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely so. People just DM you if they want to. Yeah, do it.
Speaker 3:Yeah, again working on a landing page and all that sort of stuff, but at the moment again, it's the best way to do it. I've got the forms ready to go that I've sent out to a couple of people. So, yeah, jump on the phone with anyone and chat about you know how it would work for them and whether it's a good fit for them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, beautiful Good on you.
Speaker 2:Thanks, yeah, well done. I feel like I interrupted you earlier with my tears when you were explaining what it all entailed, so feel free to go back to that. I came on in two.
Speaker 3:Well, I loved the tears, so don't worry about that. I love those big feelings coming up. So, yes, so everyone that is in the course will get three one-on-one sessions. So we'll do one before we start the course hopefully if I can fit them all in before then just to work out where people are at and where they'd like to be. So we'll just work out what everyone's goals are, you know, and get a real taste for what they want to get out of the program, so that I can really so I've got the plan of what I want to deliver.
Speaker 3:But I also want to be quite flexible, you know, with whoever comes in and make sure it's serving them. And then right in the middle we'll sort of check in and do a session and see how everyone's tracking. So we'll do a one-on-one and check what other supports people might need and you know how I can best serve them. And then at the end I want to catch up with everyone and see kind of where they want to go from there and whether you know whether we create a, maybe a level two or something like that, or whether people want to, you know, maybe delve into some one-on-one coaching and, you know, really take the opportunity to up-level their lives, or they might want to go back to the old stuff, and that's fine too. So just check in where people are at.
Speaker 3:And then group coaching every Sunday morning we're going to do 9am Zooms because I just feel like it's a nice reward if you, you know, you can get through a sober Saturday night. That can help you to have that thing to look forward to on a Sunday morning, and I can do replays for anyone that can't make the dates or the times. Yeah, and then I'll have some little resources. So, you know, I really want to record a couple of meditations. I'll have like a little workbook to go through with some exercises and, yeah, I feel like it'll really set people up well.
Speaker 1:Oh, I love when someone's talking about their zone of genius. They just like light up different.
Speaker 2:She's just yeah you don't even need to think about what you're talking about.
Speaker 1:You're just yeah, it's beautiful it does.
Speaker 3:It feels like it's really flows for me, like as I've been building it, I'm like, oh, I just I really feel so aligned doing this work and it's literally such like it's something that is so needed, because it's so often that that's the cycle.
Speaker 2:You know, you've got the trauma or you've got something happening where you've got belief systems, you've got shadow work that you need to work on, and I was the exact same. You know, I was turning to alcohol and I was just binge drinking all the time and you know I didn't want to face my feelings, I didn't want to face me, I didn't want to face what had happened to me as a child, what had happened to me as an adult. I just wanted to run from those things and it did create, like this, an escape from it. You know, it numbed things for the moment, until the next day when you have the hangover, but until the next day when you have the hangover, but then it was just, yeah, just a cycle.
Speaker 2:So I feel like now I can have a whatever a healthy relationship is with alcohol and be able to, you know, enjoy one glass of wine at dinner and that's it. Okay, great, I had a glass of wine. I'm going home to bed, you know. So it's not about using it to numb Now, it's just like, oh, I can actually enjoy a glass of wine and continue about my thing, my life, my everything that's going on for me. So, yeah, it's just about developing that healthy relationship, but I feel like it's something that everyone struggles with some at some point or another, unless you've just never drank in your life.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah no, I agree, and it is. It is so effective at numbing the emotions, so of course people are drawn to it because, yeah, so that will be part of the program too. Is is supporting people to sit with the big emotions and giving them some tools around how to navigate that, because I think that's usually probably the motivation for most people is to just kind of dull those emotions down and the, the accountability as well, like having other people doing as well, is like rental, because every like when I went no alcohol era I just it was on tap.
Speaker 1:It was like you go to the airport, you get a wine, and I remember I'd go to footy on a Saturday with my son and I'd get a wine. Like everywhere, I just had a wine and everyone around you is pretty much drinking. So, yeah, it's just socially acceptable.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's right, crazy it is so socially acceptable yeah.
Speaker 2:Especially during silly season. It's like almost just expected. You know, you go, christmas carols you go you know, to Santa parade and like people are drinking Halloween go, you know, to santa parade and like people, are drinking halloween. I'm just like what is happening.
Speaker 1:I didn't notice in the kid how many people actually drink at those like settings, and like I didn't actually really drink alcohol properly, like it wasn't a consistent thing in my life until I was like 25, so I kind of never noticed until I started drinking alcohol. I'm like what fuck? Like everyone drinks everywhere, but yeah, it's all into the trap. It's crazy, but it's normal.
Speaker 2:It's not like, yeah, if you're listening, like don't feel like it's, you know it's that you should feel bad about yourself, like give yourself grace and you know you matter and your goals and your dreams and your healing matter.
Speaker 3:So, yeah, let Rakes hold the space for you yeah, yes, I would love to do that for anyone so cute.
Speaker 2:There's just so much love um yeah yeah, I do.
Speaker 3:I love working with people and you know the one-on-one coaching too, like it's. So I you know when people I offer in between support as well, in between our sessions, and I often have my clients reaching out and going oh my God, like this situation came up and I dealt with it completely differently and I wasn't triggered and I achieved this and I achieved that and, oh, nothing lights me up more, like it's just the best feeling.
Speaker 1:Absolutely so good.
Speaker 2:Oh, oh, nothing lights me up more like it's just the best feeling, absolutely, oh so good. We're both just grinning. I feel like after every Monday we're probably our jaws are sore because we just sit there the whole time, even when we're talking, we're smiling double collabs just tapping into someone's energy, isn't it like when you feel like they're?
Speaker 3:you know they're aligned and they're passionate and all that sort of stuff like I agree, I love. You know meeting people like you guys who just love what they do and, you know, love life yeah, we love celebrating other women during really good world, so yeah, celebrating all of you that are listening right now.
Speaker 1:I was about to say, um, we're getting better at the face cues now 12 months, yeah. Um, I was gonna say, do you have any book recommendations for, like tarot cards or anything really personal development mindset look, there's so many for tarot and and, yeah, there's lots of different ones out there.
Speaker 3:Um, this is what I was going to say before when I was talking about the workshops Gail actually wrote a book that we give out to everyone. You know that they can't buy, yeah, with all her interpretations of the cards. Oh, that's cool, which, funnily enough, are mostly my interpretations of the cards, because I learned from her. So, um, everyone gets a booklet with with the interpretations, and so we are running another beginners workshop on the 16th of february, which is a sunday in eternal living. So if there's anyone that wants to join again, they can dm me.
Speaker 3:Yay, yes, come along. Yay, it's such a great day. We just laugh. Honestly, you will have sore cheeks because we just laugh the whole day, um, and learn, but yeah, so so, look, I personally I might be a bit biased, but I think Gail's uh booklet that she actually developed is the best one you can get for tarot, but there are lots of amazing sites, lots of podcasts. In terms of alcohol, I usually recommend to people wanting to quit this Naked Mind by Annie Grace I don't know if you've read that one and Quit Like a Woman.
Speaker 1:Yes, that one was it. That was the one. Holly Whittaker that blew my mind because it was to do with the woman, not just in general.
Speaker 3:It's so different yeah, yeah, I enjoyed both books and they both gave me something different.
Speaker 1:but I was a bit like you like, I went a little obsessed so I've probably read quite a few. I'm probably on mute people's stories still from that era, but I don't care, because so many other people went no alcohol era too, and they're still on it and you know what, when you feel like I shouldn't do this, maybe I should dull it down, I sort of go.
Speaker 3:Well, the amount of people that are doing that, there's an equal amount of people that message me and say, oh, thank you so much because I do the same. I do little videos and stories about alcohol and, you know, sometimes I do think, oh, you know, is this getting a bit annoying or does it feel like you know I'm lecturing people or something? But, um, you know, then I also get these people that go. Thank you so much for you know giving me'm lecturing people or something, but you know, then I also get these people that go. Thank you so much for you know giving me that insight, for helping me feel less alone, for telling me about all your red flags and all the things you were doing, because I can relate, you know. So, to me it's worth it, you know, to annoy a couple of people if I can help others. So you know. But yeah, they're my top two books. I think I read the how I Quit Like a Woman once, but I definitely read this Naked Mind probably twice or three times.
Speaker 1:Oh cool.
Speaker 2:You love books and audiobooks yes, the way I think of it as well is the ones that are hating are the ones that need to do a little bit of work on something around that area. Right when we're getting pushback or we're feeling like somebody just isn't loving the content that we're putting out, it could be an internal thing that just needs a little bit of love that's right absolutely yeah, I did another time. When they're ready yeah, exactly, exactly perfect timing, as we say yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 1:But I like mentally know what people, what content people are putting out. I don't know if it's just the way that my brain works, but even when I've been out, like recently, people like oh, I didn't know that you like drink alcohol. I thought you don't still don't drink alcohol and I'm like oh, my god, like people do things that you do put out, even if they don't like comment or message and stuff, so yeah, yeah, absolutely so cute.
Speaker 2:The other thing I wanted to say when you were chatting and you were talking about just like the laughter that that room brings upstairs, did you hear us that one day laughing? My inner child could you hear us? I set everybody off, we were chanting and I just my inner child could not stop. She was just like roaring. But then everyone else started roaring and then we were just laughing and, poor Jess, we just couldn't chant. I.
Speaker 3:I remember hearing it and I remember thinking I actually kind of want to go and join in, like that just sounds. So it sounded amazing. Yeah, I love when I can hear stuff upstairs or even in the other rooms and it's got that whole vibe where everyone's just kind of coming together and doing their thing and, yeah, it's such a beautiful place to be.
Speaker 2:We'll have to get Daylene down and into that space when she visits next.
Speaker 1:Absolutely, yeah, definitely. I don't even know. I don't know how long it's been open, but it definitely wasn't there when I was back home.
Speaker 3:March. So Julie did the opening. Just I think it was like the Labor Day public holiday from memory. So yeah, march, march this year oh it's only you, yeah, it's only you.
Speaker 2:How many people already? Oh yeah, I think when she came on it had only been on open for a few months, from memory.
Speaker 1:I thought it was like well established, because of how many people like I, I'm always watching her stuff and I'm like holy crap there's a lot of people.
Speaker 3:Well, she had been running her courses for a number of years, you know so there's all those people that had come through all her courses and her Monday night meditations and things like that. So she kind of already had this tribe. You know that followed her anyway. So she had that, yeah, um, you know that followed her anyway.
Speaker 2:So she had that, yeah, that connection, all those connections already, and then it was just literally moving it so that, you know, her poor family could get their lounge room back at night it's just word of mouth as well like if you go to one of those courses and I've heard about the, like the intuitive development ones um, it's on my list of things to do to go. It'll be the perfect time, for sure, when I absolutely do get to do it. But if you go to one of those courses, like then you just go and you tell somebody, oh my God, I feel so amazing, like after Reiki. I was on the voice notes with Aileen and I was like next level, you know, and it was at eternal living.
Speaker 2:And then just that person tells another person in next minute. You know they're at eternal living in two weeks yeah, that's right.
Speaker 3:It's beautiful and there's so many beautiful practitioners. You know that have either started after doing julie's course or you know we're already doing it and have just leveled up their skills and we all just like. There's so many of us that just do little service swaps and like none of us get paid anymore.
Speaker 2:We just swap services all the time that's so cute so fun, so cute and so is everything that you're doing under the umbrella of empowered rise empowered rise.
Speaker 3:Say yeah, now arise, yep, oh empower rise.
Speaker 2:So it's all under that umbrella.
Speaker 3:It is yep someone, yeah, wants to do any of those things mentioned, and they can just follow me on instagram and shoot me a message and I'll um start chatting. I love connecting with new people beautiful.
Speaker 2:We'll pop it in the show notes. I cannot believe that we've already been chatting for nearly an hour. That felt like five minutes. I had no idea time flies when you're having fun was there any topics that you didn't get a chance to touch on, that you were really hoping and that were on your heart today?
Speaker 3:Oh no, I think those were the main ones. Yeah, the tarot coaching and the alcohol reset program. So, yeah, really excited to connect with everyone.
Speaker 2:It just all happened, naturally.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it did, didn't it? Yeah, always.
Speaker 2:Always so. I suppose we can do our questions now, that we'll end with our two questions that we always ask. So the first question is if you could say anything to younger Rakes, what would you say?
Speaker 3:I would love to say just turn up as you and don't worry so much what other people think. Stop trying to fit in. Just turn up as you and you will attract so much what other people think. Stop trying to fit in. Just turn up as you and you will attract the right people in your vibe attraction?
Speaker 1:yeah, yeah. And the second question is if there's someone listening right now that's putting off chasing their dreams, what advice would you give them?
Speaker 3:oh well, the only thing holding you back is fear, and you're never going to feel completely comfortable with doing something out of your comfort zone. So don't feel like fear is a reason not to do it. That's not your body telling you not to do something. That is your body saying you're about to level up. You know you're about to grow in an epic way. So listen to the fear as something to drive you rather than something to stop you.
Speaker 2:Fears and goosebumps are the same yeah goosebumps too.
Speaker 1:We say in like our intro or outro put fear in the passenger seat.
Speaker 3:Absolutely yes. Yeah, it needs to be.
Speaker 2:Put fear in the bin and jump in the driver's seat and come pay it the way back home to her or something, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I actually love to like make friends with the fear, like I love to go. Oh yeah, there you are. You're letting me know that I'm about to up level. You're letting me know that I'm about to grow like that's how I say fear yeah, absolutely yeah.
Speaker 2:How stunning. What a beautiful way to think about fear, just twisting the perspective and the narrative around it yeah, it's always here anyway yeah, it's gonna be all the time.
Speaker 3:You're not gonna, yeah, you're not gonna outrun it, unfortunately, thank you. Thank you so much. I feel like this was for me, like I got to do things all the time.
Speaker 2:We have to do the same thing at the same time. It's so funny so weird.
Speaker 1:Our body just went at the same time. Like we've just done this 2024, like I don't even know how how many collaborations we've had, but I think it's over 20 or 30 oh, it's about 40 yeah, congratulations for a very young podcast.
Speaker 2:We are fucking so proud yeah, and booked till april next year already.
Speaker 3:Like it's just crazy wow, and I can see how you guys are about this too, like that comes out in your energy and your faces yeah, oh, thank you.
Speaker 2:And we picked like, when you said you're through, we had already decided to close for 2024. We were like okay. And then I was like, oh, this is Julie's bestie. Like let's sneak her in. She's amazing. Let's do this one last one for this year. I just feel like it's gonna be meant to be. And look it was okay, stop saying thank you, because imagine if we had waited till next year, then your program would have started already. We wouldn't have been able to share all this information, so it was like literally meant to be.
Speaker 3:I love that. How cool is that vibe at the end of the year when you're like, right, we're closing that off and starting to think about the new year like I love that yeah, yeah, exactly, and just to be able to take a minute to celebrate and have a hot moment as well, from everything like just have a bit of a oh wow, like what what's this year been?
Speaker 2:and yeah, I do, I need to go, I know well. Thank you so much, riggs, for coming on and for sharing your wisdom and for trusting us, and we cannot wait to release this episode, um in the next week, so stay tuned.
Speaker 3:Yay, thank you. Hopefully I get to connect with some new people.
Speaker 1:That would be awesome absolutely yeah, I just want to talk anymore.
Speaker 2:Yeah, just sit here in silence thank you thank you for being a lot of love, have a beautiful day all of our listeners and jump on rakes's instagram in the show notes and definitely get around her somewhere if that makes sense get around her somewhere, get into one of her courses, or you know one of her um tarot classes. I can guarantee you won't be disappointed. Her, her energy is beautiful.
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