Bonus Episode: Rewriting The Rules of Sex & Love with Clinical Sexologist Dr. Adrienne Loth and CEO of Silver Bell Global, Natasha Silverbell

Happy Valentine’s Day! Wherever you find yourself - whether you’re in love, healing from love, or deepening your relationship with yourself - I wanted to share something special with you… 

I recently hosted a panel discussion at The Twenty Two in London exploring the psychology behind love, sex, and pain - how they shape our relationships, impact our emotional well-being, and intertwine in ways we don’t always expect. 

I was joined by two incredible women Dr. Adrienne Loth and Natasha Silverbell: 

Dr. Adrienne Loth is a clinical sexologist, licensed marriage and family therapist, and executive coach, known for her action-oriented, cross-cultural approach to therapy, specializing in relationships, sexual health, trauma, and stress management.

Natasha Silver Bell is the founder and CEO of Silver Bell Global, a premier recovery consulting firm helping individuals and families navigate addiction recovery with a holistic, deeply personalized approach.

Key Takeaways

• Sex, intimacy, and pleasure are fluid and ever-changing—embrace the journey.
  Your desires and challenges shift throughout life—this isn’t failure, it’s growth. Dissatisfaction isn’t the end; it’s an invitation for self-discovery.
• Vulnerability and communication are the foundation of connection.
  Healing, intimacy, and growth all start with honest conversations—with yourself and others. Speaking your truth dissolves shame and fosters deeper relationships.
• Safety is the foundation for healing and intimacy.
  Rebuilding trust after trauma, betrayal, or shame begins with creating environments—both within yourself and in relationships—where you feel seen, supported, and empowered.
• Sexual empowerment is about agency, not performance.
  True empowerment comes from knowing your body, understanding your desires, and respecting your boundaries—not meeting external expectations.
• Healing starts with a compassionate relationship with yourself.
  Reclaiming pleasure and intimacy is about curiosity, joy, and self-acceptance—not just overcoming the past.

Episode Breakdown
00:00 – Why we need to talk about love, sex, and pain
04:30 – The shame and stigma that stop people from opening up
11:15 – Love vs. attachment: How to know if you’re in a healthy relationship
18:40 – Natasha shares how she reclaimed her voice in relationships
25:20 – Healing past trauma, chronic pain, and self-perception
32:10 – Is there such a thing as a “normal” sex life? Navigating desire differences
38:45 – Why people have sex to avoid conflict and how to break the cycle
45:20 – The role of self-exploration and personal responsibility in sexual satisfaction
51:00 – Cultivating sensuality beyond sex: The psychology of arousal
56:15 – Rekindling intimacy in long-term relationships
1:02:30 – Kinks, boundaries, and communicating desires
1:16:00 – Adapting to physical limitations in sex
1:22:30 – Final thoughts: The biggest lessons on love, sex, and self-worth

Sex & Love Intimate Conversation Resources

• Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel 
• The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm 
• The State of Affairs by Esther Perel 
• The Course of Love by Alain de Botton 
• The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy & Validation 
• Feeding the Hungry Heart by Gineen Rothe 
• Facing the Intimacy Factor by Pia Melody 

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Executive Producer: Jean Campbell

Producer: Hailey Rovner Malach

Composer: Eduoardo Vella  

Specials thanks to Evangeline Donald.