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Next Third Best Third
Today is the first day of the rest of your life! Our mission is to ignite hope, vision and passion so your life will impact the world around you. Conquer Life's Stages with Passion, Love, and Adventure.
Forge your path through life's Thirds with strength at "Next Third Best Third." Join a brotherhood of men refusing to settle. Discover confidence, authentic connections, and unbreakable camaraderie tailored for your prime. Redefine success, embracing change with true masculinity. Navigate the later stages of life as a conquest. Your prime awaits, conquer it with us.
David Fenwick, founder of Next Third Best Third, is an author, life coach, and inspirational speaker. He has a journey that includes pastoring, church planting and entrepreneurship. David's mission is to inspire others to dream, discover their true identity, live with intention, and impact their spheres of influence.
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Next Third Best Third
089: How to Choose a Mentor Without Getting Burned (Red Flags, Boundaries, Discernment)
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I’ve learned the hard way that not every “mentor” is safe. In this episode of Next Third Best Third, we talk about how men can pursue real mentorship and brotherhood without getting wounded, used, or misdirected. If you’ve ever been burned by a leader, coach, pastor, or father figure—this conversation is about walking into relationships with intentionality and both eyes wide open.
We break down the difference between boundaries and walls, why mentorship should start organically (and why you should be cautious when someone announces “I want to be your mentor”), and the red flags that show up when relationships aren’t reciprocal. We also talk about the danger of making men into idols, why “success” isn’t the same as fruit, and how to examine character, long-term relationships, and accountability before you give someone influence in your life.
Most importantly, I share a framework that’s helped me: every man needs three men—someone ahead of you, men beside you, and someone you’re building up. We unpack how to use your “iron sharpening iron” guys to sanity-check decisions, how to have brave communication up front, and what to do if you’re already in a relationship and realizing the warning signs. If you need coaching or want to connect, email: nextthirdbest@gmail.com
Chapters:
00:00 - Why Men Need Mentorship (But Need Wisdom Too)
01:26 - Mentorship Should Be Organic (Not Announced)
04:40 - The “3 Men” Framework: Mentor, Brothers, and Someone You Build Up
06:18 - Discernment After Church Hurt and Public Scandals
09:02 - Boundaries vs Walls + Setting Expectations Early
10:10 - The Reciprocity Test: A Major Red Flag
14:00 - “I Have Everything… But There’s Got to Be More” (The Deeper Need)
16:04 - Bring Your Brothers In: Don’t Choose Coaches Alone
23:46 - Examine Fruit: Character Over Success + Wrap-Up
Welcome to Next Third Best Third! Join us for the inaugural episode of the Next Third Best Third podcast! Host David Fenwick, founder, author, and life coach, introduces the mission to inspire men over 40 to thrive in the next stage of life. Discover how to conquer life's challenges across physical, mental, relational, spiritual, and emotional dimensions. In this episode, David shares insights on:
- Physical Health: Strategies for maintaining fitness and vitality as you age.
- Mental Resilience: Techniques to stay mentally sharp and manage stress.
- Relational Growth: Building and nurturing meaningful relationships.
- Spiritual Fulfillment: Finding purpose and deeper spiritual connections.
- Emotional Well-being: Managing emotions and fostering a positive outlook.
Don't miss out on this journey towards making the next third of your life the best third!
Website: (https://www.nextthirdbestthird.com/)