You don't look to go into the Pain Cave. And you don't thrive in the Pain Cave. If you think you do then you have never been in it, you've only waited in line or stood in the antechamber.
Too many people pound their chests and use the Pain Cave chatter to make themselves and others think better of themselves; to get special attention and applause.
if you've ever actually been in the Pain Cave, you know so much different about it.