Lessons From Dad (MINISODE)

What did your father teach you that still guides your life today?  This minisode explores the profound impact fathers have on our development and identity formation.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Reflecting on Sean McManus Interview
• 0:59 Capturing Men to Capture Families
• 2:21 Learning from Father Figures
• 3:28 Weekly Challenge: Father's Lessons
• 4:50 Wives and Respect: Balancing Leadership
• 6:07 Final Thoughts and Goodbye

Transcript

Speaker 0: 0:00

Hey friends, welcome back to another mini-sode. What did you think of this week's episode with Sean McManus? This was one of my favorite episodes to record. I was doing a tribute to masculinity for the summer. So who better to have on than a man who devotes his whole life to helping men not just physically get better, but to get better overall, mentally and spiritually, working on their health? I thought that he was a perfect guest and I hope that you enjoyed the episode. If you haven't listened yet, go back and listen, because it's a great opportunity for you to see where you, as a believer, can help other men grow as believers. We discussed heavily how the church is not doing its full job to help men and we kept bringing it up that if you capture the man, you capture the family. This is absolutely true.

Speaker 0: 0:57

Take a look in your own life where your father impacted you in either a good or a negative way. It's possible that they did both. Your parents made mistakes we all have but I guarantee there was a time where you learned a valuable lesson from your father, whether it was something bad they did or something good. Maybe you learned that I will never do this to my children because this is how my father was. Maybe you saw a good example in your father on how to save money and you picked that up and you walked with it. I mean, my dad didn't teach me how to drive, but I drive like my dad. I don't know how it happened, but it's funny. I think about it. I got a lead foot. My dad has a lead foot.

Speaker 0: 1:42

We learn from our fathers. They are still instrumental in our lives. If you don't have a good father when you're a young woman, then you wonder do I deserve love? And with men we discussed this in my episode with Kent Darcy when we were talking about your parents' divorce Men want to know am I man enough to handle my own life? Am I man enough to get married someday? Those are the questions that we ask ourselves as men and women, and our fathers are instrumental in helping us to get to that point where we can be healthy. And if you don't have a good father, I am sorry, but you can find a good mentor, someone who can pick up that slack. But even if you can't, you have a heavenly Father who will never fail you and you can always go to Him and ask Him for that help and that guidance that you need.

Speaker 0: 2:57

So here is my challenge for you this week. What lesson did you learn from your father that you have been holding on to for your whole life, whether it's a good one, whether it's a bad one? If it is a good one, how are you carrying that on as a tradition for your children? Are you implementing that, what you learned from your father? Are you implementing that into your children's life so that one day they can say I learned this from my father, who learned this from my grandfather? Is it a tradition that you are carrying on? And, in that same vein, if it is something bad, ask that same question Is this something that I learned from my father? Is this something that I need to continue? How do I stop this from going to the next generation? Ask Jesus for help. Ask him to help you, because he is the healer, he is the perfecter of our faith. He will help you through whatever you need, and if you need prayer, I am here for you. Go to honestchristianconversationscom and in the navigation you're going to see where it says contact. You can send me your prayer request there. But we have all learned something from our fathers and if it's not something good, then you need to repent for what you've been doing with that. You can't blame your parents if you're an adult, for, oh well, they taught me this. True, but at some point you have to have the self-control to say I'm not going to do this anymore so you can break those chains, you can stop this cycle from continuing on to your children and you can start doing things differently and better.

Speaker 0: 4:34

For wives we're going to switch gears a little bit. Wives, how can you respect your husband today? How can you allow them to be the man today? Sean talked about it how he loves making his wife happy, but he's not going to die on that hill. Basically, is what he was getting at, and we're supposed to be bowing down to God first and foremost full stop, that's it. We are supposed to love him above everything and everyone else. So, wives, how can you allow your husband to be the leader of your family today? Figure out what that is that God wants you to do, and then pull back and allow your husband to do that.

Speaker 0: 5:19

If he's not a godly man, you're going to need to pray that God would help you to have the strength to do what it is. That God would help you to have the strength to do what it is that God is calling you to do. If your husband wants to do something and it is not overly unspiritual to do it then you still need to respect him enough to allow him to do that and to follow his lead. If it's something that's going to harm your family, then you need to pray that God would help you figure out what to do about this, because, at the end of the day, for you too, you are supposed to follow God above everything and everyone else. So that is this week's challenge. That is this week's mini-sode. I hope you have a wonderful day. Don't forget to love on the man in your life and tell them how much you appreciate them. God bless, bye.