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Sexplained: What It Really Means to Be Super Sensitive During Sex

• Jordan Walker

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Ever felt like your body was rushing to the finish line while everyone else was still warming up? You're not alone. Welcome to the premiere episode of Sexplained, where we're tackling a question that many think but few dare to ask: "Why do I cum so quickly and why am I so sensitive after orgasming?"

Sex educator Jordan Walker dives into the science of sexual sensitivity with honesty, expertise, and zero judgment. Drawing from years of experience and current sexology studies, Jordan unpacks why some bodies (particularly those with vulvas) respond quickly and intensely to stimulation. Rather than framing this as a problem to be fixed, we explore how heightened sensitivity can be understood as a natural variation—one that simply requires different approaches to maximise pleasure for everyone involved.

The episode offers practical strategies for those who experience quick orgasms: techniques for slowing arousal, methods for managing post-orgasm sensitivity, communication approaches for partners, and ways to redefine sexual satisfaction beyond traditional scripts. Jordan tackles the physiology behind the "too much" feeling after climax and provides actionable advice for extending pleasure without pushing personal boundaries. Most importantly, listeners will find validation that their bodies aren't broken—they're just uniquely responsive.

Whether you're someone who climaxes quickly, a partner of someone who does, or just curious about the wide spectrum of sexual response, this episode challenges limiting beliefs about what "good sex" looks like. By expanding our definition of sexual satisfaction and learning to work with—not against—our bodies' natural responses, we open ourselves to more authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences. Tune in every Friday for new episodes that blend science, humour, and practical wisdom to level up your understanding of sex, relationships, and pleasure.


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So you've been scrolling through your podcast feed, opened up this thing called Sexplained from Supersex. What the hell is that? Well, it's exactly what it sounds like. This is a podcast episode series where we take real questions about sex, relationships, bodies and pleasure and explain them with the right mix of science and humor. No shame, no judgment, just solid info and a good laugh along the way.

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I'm Jordan Walker. I've been a sex educator for over five years and I'm currently elbow deep in a master's of sexology. I've worked with teens, adults, people with disability, folks from all sexualities and gender identities and the one thing I know for sure everyone's got questions and most people have never had a safe, honest place to ask them. That's where Sixplane comes in. I answer your questions anonymously, honestly and with zero BS so we can break down the stigma, clear up confusion and help you level up your sex life, your relationships and your confidence. You level up your sex life, your relationships and your confidence. So, whether you're curious, confused or just sick of bad sex ed, you're in the right place. Welcome to ZXplained.

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Let's get into it. Alright, let's talk about something that doesn't get talked about enough, especially not without shame or awkwardness. Imagine this you're a female. You're 19,. You're having sex. You're finding that you climax super quickly, like a few seconds into penetration or rubbing, and then you're done. Your body shuts it down, and your partner. Sometimes they haven't even gotten close to finishing or even starting, and then suddenly you're lying there thinking was that it? Am I broken? Why can't I enjoy sex like other people seem to? Let me just say this right off the bat you are not broken, you are not alone and no, you're not too sensitive. You're just sensitive, and that's actually a really normal thing, especially for people with vulvas. So let's unpack this together, because the truth is your body's doing what it's meant to do. It's just that no one's ever really taught us how to work with that.

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First, let's ditch the idea that there's something wrong with your level of sensitivity. There's no universal setting when it comes to how people respond to sexual touch. Some people's bodies respond quickly and intensely, others need a long build-up. You are on a super responsive end of the spectrum and that's not a flaw. In fact, studies have shown that there's a huge range of sensitivity among people with vulvas. Some folks barely feel anything until they're super warmed up, and others, like you, can go from zero to orgasm in a few seconds flat. So yeah, it might feel too fast compared to what you think sex is supposed to look like, but the truth is your body's just giving you a fast-track ticket to pleasure. The trick is learning how to navigate that so it works for you.

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Let's talk about that post-orgasm sensitivity to the feeling that any more touch is just way too much. Feeling that any more touch is just way too much. You're not imagining that After orgasm your clitoris and surrounding tissue can be really sensitive, sometimes even painful to touch. That's because during orgasm there's a huge rush of blood and nerve activity to your genitals and your body needs time to calm down after it. It's kind of like tickling. At first it might be funny or nice, but keep going and it turns from ooh to oh, my god, stop. It's the same principle really.

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So when you say you've had to ask your partner to stop because it's overwhelming, even if they haven't finished, that's not you being selfish or dramatic. That's your body saying cool, we're done here and that's totally valid. Now I get that this might feel awkward when it comes to partners like you finished, they haven't, and now things feel tense or weird. But here's the thing Sex is a team activity. If you're on the same page, then you can find other ways to keep the vibe going without pushing past your comfort. That could mean taking a break, switching things up, using toys or finding other ways to help them finish that don't involve touching your now very sensitive genitals, and if your partner ever makes you feel bad about needing to stop, that's not on you, that's on them. A great way to handle it is to just be honest up front, something like hey, just so you know, I'm super sensitive and after I come I usually need a break, but I still want to keep connecting. I just might need to switch things up a bit. You'd be surprised how far a little heads up and little reassurance could go. So underneath your question, I hear something bigger. It's not just why do I finish fast, it's also why don't I feel satisfied, and that's fair.

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We've been sold this idea that good sex is long and slow, penetrative and ends with two people orgasming at the same time, probably with candles and soft music in the background. In real life, that's not how most people experience sex. In fact, a ton of research shows that the most satisfying sex happens when people expand what they think sex is. That might mean more focus on foreplay, using toys, giving each other oral cuddling, dirty talk or even just laughing together naked in bed. So, instead of seeing orgasm at the end point or the goal, what if you started thinking of it as just one more fun part of a much bigger picture? Okay, but how do you make sex feel better for you?

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Let's get practical. First, up, slow it down. If you're finishing too quickly for your own liking, try slowing things down. Focus on teasing, kissing, touching, build arousal gradually. You can even try edging, which means getting close and then backing off to stretch out the experience and get more comfortable riding that wave instead of crashing it instantly.

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2. Use indirect touch. Direct clitoral stimulation might be too much, especially after orgasm. Direct clitoral stimulation might be too much, especially after orgasm. Try exploring different types of touch, like through underwear, with a vibrator on a low setting, or stimulating the outer labia and thighs instead. There's no rule that says you have to go straight to the clit every single time. Third, switch it up post-orgasm. Once you're done, you're done and that's okay. But sex doesn't have to stop. Try cuddling, kissing, mutual masturbation or using toys on your partner while you rest. You can still be present and connected, even if your genitals are off limits for a while. Four explore solo.

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Sometimes it helps to learn what your body likes. On your own, masturbation can be really useful way to figure out where your pleasure peaks, how long you need to recover and what kinds of touch feels good. The more you know your body, the easier it is to guide someone else. Now, just in case, if you're ever experiencing pain, burning or extreme discomfort that doesn't fade after orgasm, or if the sensitivity is getting in the way of your life in a big way, it's worth chatting to a doctor or a pelvic floor physio. There are a few conditions, like vulvodynia or pelvic floor tension, that can cause extreme sensitivity, and it's always good to rule those out. But if it's just that you finish fast and feel done for a while after, that's likely just how your body works and you need to figure out ways to get around that, okay.

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So the final word you are not broken. You're not doing sex wrong. Your body just responds quickly and powerfully, and now it's about learning how to work with that, not against it. The good news You're already ahead of the game. You're listening to your body, you're asking good questions and you're willing to explore. That's the real secret to a satisfying sex life Not lasting 30 minutes or having endless orgasms or meeting some mythical normal standard. You just need to figure it out on your rhythm, and when you do, you're going to have some damn good sex on your terms. So be kind to yourself. You're doing great.

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And that's a wrap on the very first episode of Sexplained. New episodes are going to be dropping every Friday, so make sure you're following or subscribed wherever you listen. You don't want to miss what's coming next. Now, if you've got a question you want answered on the show, check out the contact details in the show notes. All questions are welcome and, yep, you can stay totally anonymous. And if you're an adult looking to level up your sex life, head over to jordanwalkerrsecom to work with me one-on-one or do some of the cool workshops we've got going. But if you have a teen or a young adult who needs some proper sex and relationships education the kind they're definitely not getting in school then head to youwon'tlearnthisatschoolcom. Thanks for listening. I'm Jordan Walker. This is Sexplained and I'll catch you next Friday.

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